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What is oral sex?

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e. sucking or licking) to the genitalia. Fellatio (also known as a ‘blow job’) is the term used to describe oral sex given to someone with a penis. Cunnilingus is the term which describes oral sex given to someone with a vagina.

Is oral sex common practice?

Many studies have shown that oral sex is practiced by men and women of all ages, both gay and straight. It is a very common practice and may be performed on its own, or before or after sexual intercourse.

Is oral sex safe?

A number of studies have demonstrated that oral sex is not necessarily safe sex. Both giving and receiving oral sex can lead to the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (also known as STIs or STDs).

Which STDs are transmitted via oral sex?

The most common STD transmitted via oral sex is herpes. There are two main types of herpes simplex virus (HSV): HSV type 1 and HSV type 2. HSV type 1 usually causes cold sores around the mouth, while HSV type 2 generally causes genital herpes sores. However, oral sex can sometimes cause HSV type 1 around the mouth to be transmitted to the genital area causing genital sores in the other person. This process can also work in reverse, with HSV-2 transmitted from the genitals to the mouth of the other person during oral sex, though this is rare.

The human papillomavirus that causes genital warts can very occasionally be transmitted through oral sex, causing warts to appear around or inside the mouth in anyone who has given oral sex to an infected person.

Gonorrhea has been shown to infect the throat of some people who have given oral sex to an infected person. This infection can then be passed on from the throat to the genitals of any future partners. The body will almost always naturally clear the throat of the bacteria that cause gonorrhea within three months, although infections in the genital tract will usually require antibiotics to cure. Chlamydia can also infect the throat in a similar way, although this is less common. Both infections may result in a sore throat, although many people will remain asymptomatic and unaware they are infected.

Syphilis may be passed on during oral sex if a person’s mouth comes into contact with an open sore or a skin rash caused by the infection.

Gastrointestonal infections and parasites may be passed on during oral contact with the anus.

The Hepatitis A virus is also contained in human faeces, and may be passed on during anal-oral sex.

Hepatitis B is contained in sexual fluids and blood and may be transmitted during oral sex in a similar way to HIV (see below).

Hepatitis C is generally only contained in blood, and will only be transmitted if there is blood present during oral sex.

Can HIV be transmitted during oral sex?

HIV can pose a small risk for both the active (person giving the oral stimulation) and receptive (person receiving oral stimulation) partner.

Transmission from an HIV positive receptive partner to an HIV negative active partner may occur when the active partner gets sexual fluid (semen or vaginal fluid) or blood (from menstruation) or a wound somewhere in the genital or anal region) into a cut, sore, ulcer or area of inflammation somewhere in their mouth or throat. The linings of the mouth and throat are very resistant to viral infections such as HIV, so infection is unlikely if they are healthy.

Transmission from an HIV positive active partner to an HIV negative receptive partner is generally believed to be less common. This is because HIV is normally only present in saliva in very low levels that are not sufficient to cause infection. The only risk in this scenario would be from bleeding wounds or gums in the HIV positive person’s mouth or on their lips, which may transfer blood onto the mucous membranes of the other person’s genitals or anus, or into any cuts or sores they may have. Hepatitis C can also be transmitted this way.

How do I protect myself and my partner during oral sex?

The already low risk of becoming infected with HIV from oral sex can be reduced still further by using condoms. Flavoured condoms are available for those who don’t like the taste of latex or spermicide. For cunnilingus or analingus, plastic food wrap, a condom cut open, or a dental dam (a thin square of latex) can serve as a physical barrier to prevent transmission of HIV and many other STDs.

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Sex Ed 102 Q&A: Can you get pregnant from oral sex?

Contraception, Health & Wellness, Q & A, Safer Sex

I’m not sure exactly where this one started, but one of the questions I’m asked far to often is, can you get pregnant from oral sex?

The short answer, no.

Brief Anatomy Lesson

In order for a pregnancy to occur, sperm must make its way into the vagina, travel through the cervix into the uterus, and make contact with an egg in the Fallopian tubes. Because the digestive system (starting at your mouth and ending with your anus) and the reproductive system don’t meet in the body, there is no way for sperm to swim through one system to the other and make contact with an egg.

Having said that, although getting pregnant isn’t possible with oral sex, contracting a sexually transmitted disease like gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, warts, herpes, or HIV is. To keep yourself safe from an unplanned pregnancy or STD, I suggest using a condom no matter what type of play you’re getting into, including oral, vaginal, or anal. If you choose to go the route of cunnilingus, I’d suggest using a dental dam to protect against STD’s.

If the taste of latex isn’t your thing, there are flavored condoms and dental dams made specifically for oral sex.

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Underage Sex/When is the right time to give up your Virginity

Health & Wellness

Sex Ed 102: Underage Sex

I originally made this video to answer questions I was receiving from underage viewers in regard to losing their virginity. The video is (and was) not created to make up your mind for you, but instead to offer all the things a person should think about before becoming sexually active.

Sex is not a game, nor is it something to be taken lightely.

Being sexually active comes with a lot of responsibility and careful consideration; are you ready to deal with a pregnancy should it happen? are you ready to deal with an STD should it happen? do you know what to do, or have a plan ready should the condom break? are you comfortable talking with your doctor about your activity should you have to speak with her/him?

These are all questions (among many others) that need to be thought about before engaging in sexual intercourse.

*On a side note, one of the most common responses I am given to this video is “most adults can’t even answer the questions in the video, how can you expect us to?”

The truth is I find it rather sad that most adults can’t answer these questions and think that you, as a person who can make their own choices, need to be able to be more educated then the next. Don’t let someone elses ignorance or apathy be a reason for your own. You’re better then that, aren’t you?

I hope that this video will help those that are questioning their actions make choices that are in their own best interest as wel as that of their partner.

Heart,

Kara_Sutra

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Sex In The Shower: Tips & Suggestions

How To's, Tips, Tricks and Suggestions

Shower sex is something most people have thought about at one point or another, but in the real world, having an amazing time is sometimes easier said than done;. from potentially dangerous slippery surfaces to maneuvering bodies in a small space, the inability to stay lubricated to accidentally getting soap in your partners eyes, there’s a lot of possibly frustrating things to contend with. Hopefully by following the tips outlined below the results can be pretty amazing.

Sex In The Shower: Helpful Tips & Suggestions

If you find your natural lubrication doesn’t last very long in the shower, try adding silicone lubricant (it’s waterproof and wont break down), which will allow for a much less painful experience.

On that note, NEVER use soap, shampoo, lotion, shower gel, or any other product as a lubricant. These products are not meant for internal use; not only can they be harsh and drying, they can also cause infections by throwing off the bodies natural pH.

Using lubricant in the shower can often cause the floor to become slippery, as such it’s advisable that you use a bath mat or non-slip rubber mat to keep from sliding in the shower.

Get creative and use the water to stimulate your partner; you can even engage in temperature play by adjusting from cool to warm. Just be careful of water temperature by testing on your wrist first to avoid accidentally burning your partner.

If you have a shower head with variable settings try some sensory play by rotating the settings as the water sprays on your partners body.

If clitoral stimulation is something you and/or your partner need, try introducing a waterproof external vibe like the We-Vibe Touch, We-Vibe Tango, Leaf Vibrator by Life, or the JimmyJane Coral Love Pod.

Finding the right position can be fairly awkward; rather than struggling to make it work, go straight for doggy-style; simply place one foot up on the edge as you bend forward and support yourself on the wall. If you want a bit more support, have your partner hold your hips. This also allows them to pull you towards them for deeper penetration while also keeping you from slipping all over the place.

Take the hassle out of everything by investing in some gear specifically designed for shower sex; support products like the single locking suction foot rest, single locking shower handle, and dual locking shower handle are inexpensive and definitely worth owning.

If you want to add a bit of ambiance, turn off the lights and use candles to offer a more romantic setting. Or if you feel really creative, try switching out your regular light bulb for a black light or light bulbs that change color. Just make sure to do this well before you get started so you don’t risk getting shocked.

Unless you’re trying to conceive and/or know that your partner is STI free, always use protection. On that note, keep in mind that the lubricant on the condom will likely wash off so you’ll need to apply more lube otherwise there’s a risk it might tear.

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Painful Sex: Causes & How To Fix It

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Over the last year I’ve received an alarming number of messages from my female viewers regarding “pain during sex”. For some it’s an annoyance, for others it’s made it impossible for them to have an orgasm during intercourse, let alone enjoy the experience. As such, I thought I’d address the situation covering the various reasons it could be occurring.

The most common causes for pain during sex are: lack of lubrication (creating friction), a largely endowed partner (read: a big dick), an insufficient amount of foreplay and time spent on getting aroused, not being relaxed enough (which may cause tension and tightening).

Emotional

For some the issue isn’t as easily defined as it may be due to a negative previous experience which causes them to tense up as/before the penis is inserted. Sometimes called or identified as “Vaginismus”