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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Kegel Exercises for Vaginal Wellness

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While there are many intimate accessories designed to make stimulating the g-spot exceptionally easy, I’m a firm believer that having a fit, healthy and strong vagina is still one of the most important factors when it comes to overall sexual enjoyment.

Just like any other muscle in the body, the PC muscles (or pubococcygeus muscles) need regular exercise to maintain their tone, functionality and overall health.

Not only does having strong PC muscles enhance g-spot stimulation, but it can also give you a more desirable grip during intercourse, help to control your bladder, make child birth easier, while also preventing incontinence as you age.

As for the sexual benefits, they’ve been known to help women learn to reach a g-spot orgasm, make their orgasms much more powerful, improve sexual arousal and possibly help make female ejaculation a bit more of a possibility.

*For those of you wondering, the PC Muscles are several layers of hammock-like muscles (found in both men and women) that are attached to the front, back and sides of the pelvic bones and stretch from the pubic bone to the tail bone. Along with other tissues, these muscles work to support the pelvic organs, including the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum.

Kegel Exercises for G-Spot Health

Since it may take patience, dedication and time to not only identify your pc muscles, but also learn how to contract and relax them, I thought I’d share some pointers to make practicing slightly easier:

Finding the right muscles: To find your pc muscles I suggest inserting a finger into your vagina and trying to squeeze the surrounding muscles (you should feel your vagina tighten and the pelvic floor move upward). Once you’ve done this successfully, you can relax your muscles and feel the pelvic floor return to the starting position. if that doesn’t work for you trying to stop the flow of urine when you urinate might be a better option. If you succeed, you’ve got the basics.

Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder – which may increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.

How To Strengthen Your Kegels w/ A Product

Thanks to the creation of different Kegel exercisers like Ben Wa Balls, Vaginal Barbells, Bio-Feedback devices and Duo Balls, strengthening the area has become much easier, and although the shape and size of such products may differ, using them is generally the same idea:

1.) Relax your body and insert the product. If you find you’re having difficulty try adding a little bit of lubrication to help it/them glide in. You can insert them standing, with one leg up or while laying down. Do what’s comfortable for you.

2.) Squeeze your PC muscles together to hold the product in place. If you notice that it feel like they’re slipping or pushing down a little (while inside your vagina) don’t worry it’s normal.

3.) Hold the product inside for about 10 minutes a day to strengthen your PC muscles. Once you’ve built the muscle up you can increase the length of time they are inserted.

4.) When you’ve had enough and want it removed you’ve got quite a few options to your disposal including jumping up and down, coughing, bearing down as if you’re having a bowel movement, inserting lubricant to help them slide out or simply inserting one finger and gently trying to roll them out (I’ve done all of the above so I know they work, especially with Ben Wa Balls). Just keep in mind that they won’t get lost inside you, or your vagina.

Great Products for Kegel Exercise

Ben Wa Balls:

If there is one product that seems to have stood the test of time is these lovely little marble shaped metallic 2oz weighted balls. Smooth to the touch and easy to insert, Ben Wa Balls are crafted out of solid non porous and non tarnishing metal, making them body safe, compatible with any lube and very discreet. If silver isn’t your thing they also come in a variety of colors, sizes and weights, as well as body safe ABS plastic, rather than metal. My suggestion if you go for metal, get some stainless steel kegel balls; they’re far more durable.

To use them simply insert one at a time and use your PC muscle to hold them in place (don’t worry, they won’t get lost in side you – promise!). While you can wear them during your day to day activities I suggest you be a little careful, at least in the beginning. I know a few people who have had them fall out and roll down a pant leg while in public. (Definitely funny in retrospect or to read in an email, but not so fun in the moment – for the record, it doesn’t happen that often).

*If you’re new to Kegel exercises I suggest you try using something a bit larger to first, as it’ll likely be much easier to hold onto. Once you feel comfortable and ready to move to something a little harder to master give the Ben Wa Balls a try.

Specs: Circumference 2 1/4″, Diameter 3/4″, Weight 2oz (.13lbs)

Final Verdict: 4.5 out of 5 stars

Silicone Kegel Balls:

From the moment I saw the Lelo Luna Beads I loved them!

Not only do they come respectfully and professionally packaged but they’re velvety smooth to the touch, firm and nicely weighted – not too heavy, nor too light. They’re also waterproof, made of high quality silicone so they’re non porous, hypo allergenic, hygienic, phthalate and latex free.

Rather than using a traditional string, the outer bulbous shells are connected via a thin piece of silicone that allows them to be very flexible and conform to your bodies shape and movements. As I said they are firm and have no squish or give to them, fortunately this isn’t necessarily a downfall as it makes inserting them very, very easy (though I still suggest using a good water based lubricant to help out).

Part of what makes these silicone K-Balls so amazing is the weighted ball contained inside each of the rounded shells; as you move they roll, bounce and ‘shake’ around, creating a whirling sensation inside you. It’s interesting to say the least.

Since they come with a silicone cord that measures 3.5″ in length, removing them is a breeze. Just give a little pull and they should easily slide out. As for cleaning you can boil them, use an anti bacterial toy cleaner or wash them with soap and water.

Specs: Length: 7.5″, Insertable Length – 4″ , Width: 1.4″ , Girth – 4.5” around (at largest part).

Final Verdict: 4.5 out of 5 stars

BodyWand Squeeze 5PC Teardrop Kegel Set

If you’re someone who likes the ‘full’ sensation larger products usually have to offer, I can’t help but suggest going up a slight bit from the K-Balls and trying the BodyWand Squeeze 56g Kegel Ball Duo instead.

Like the K-Balls they’re made of high quality silicone, waterproof, contain weighted insertable portions, have a long silicone cord for removal, are easy to use, easy to care for, and are very well made.

Of course there are a few differences that set them apart. First of all, they’re more like a tear drop than a ball, with an ergonomically shaped slight protrusion that makes them a bit more enjoyable for g-spot stimulation than the K-Balls.

On that note, the Teardrops are identical in shape and size (5.5″/14cm long and 1.4″/3.6 wide), but the weights vary according to colour. The baby blue version is the lightest, the deep purple is the heaviest, and other are in between. The blue is a great place to start, it’ll provide the least resistance and require the least amount of ‘flex’ to keep it in place. Move on when you’re ready.

Lastly, because of the design, there is nothing that needs to be done with them before use. No fumbling with outer shells or different balls. Just simply insert and you’re good to go.

Like the others, this set is body-safe, easy to clean, and safe to use with any water-based lube you love.

Specs: Blue – 37g/1.3oz, Pink – 49g/1.7oz, Lilac – 57g/2oz, Magenta – 76g/2.7cm, Deep Purple – 115g/4oz

Final Verdict: 4 out of 5 stars

Overall Final Verdict

If learning to strengthen your PC muscles, whether for sexual purposes or health related reasons, is something that you’re interested in, I highly believe that each of the products listed above will work wonders when it comes to getting into the habit of daily kegel exercising.

Not only are each of the above products body safe, easy to use, affordable, discreet and well made, but they’re also designed with female pleasure in mind…I’m not sure many typical exercise products can say that!

If you’d like to purchase products designed specifically for kegel exercising, be sure to check out any of my favourite online sex toy stores be it Pinkcherry, SheVibe, or Babeland. Don’t forget to shop around to make sure you’re getting the best prices available.

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G-Spot Guide: Helpful Tips, Tricks, and Suggestions

G-Spot, Good Guides

When it comes to topics I’m asked about on a daily basis, the g-spot is definitely one of them. Although the questions tend to come in many forms, the most common seem to be from those needing help to find their g-spot, or asking for suggestions on great products to stimulate the area.

With that in mind, I thought I’d create this G-Spot Guide: Helpful Tips, Tricks, and Suggestions to help get those questions answered while also focusing on some of my favorite products, hopefully making the entire process easier.

For the record, I’m not here to debate its existence. I’ve heard from more than enough people that there is an area, located within the same space, that gives them immense pleasure and arouses them like nothing else. That’s all I need to be convinced there’s a more than likely chance it’s real.

*Big, big, big thank you to the folks at PinkCherry.ca for supplying the vast majority of products I’ll be doing mini reviews for. If it wasn’t for them, this wouldn’t have been possible!

The G-Spot

For those of you that aren’t in the know, the g-spot (also known as the urethral sponge or “Grafenberg” spot, named after the fella that found it way back in the 40’s) is located somewhere between 1-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall, between the vaginal opening and urethra.

Just remember, your g-spot is not in your vagina, but instead can be felt through the vaginal wall.

It’s bean-like in shape and made up of sensitive erectile tissue that engorges with blood when aroused, compressing the urethra (what you pee out of) to help prevent peeing during intercourse. On that note, if you’ve ever had something inserted (fingers, sex toy or been mid-intercourse) and felt like you had to pee — that’s most likely due to your g-spot.

I say it’s located “somewhere between’ because every body is different and where it’s specifically located for one person, may not be the same for another.

Regardless of body shape and size, most will find it’s located within a similar location – fingers length inside the vagina, slightly up ward and toward the lower part of the abdomen. Once the fingers are inserted, feeling around for an area that is spongy, rippled, ridged, bumpy, or generally feels different then the rest would be an ideal way of finding it. If you’re trying to find your g-spot, whether alone or with a partner, be sure to use firm pressure (but not so firm it hurts) as that tends to be the most agreed upon method of stimulation.

Keep in mind that during different phases of the sexual response cycle the shape and size of the g-spot may change and therefore make it easier or harder to find.

G-Spot Guide: Helpful Tips, Tricks, and Suggestions

When it comes to stimulating the g-spot there is a general consensus that a “come hither” movement with the fingers or applying some pressure will work best. If that doesn’t do it, you can also try lightly tapping the area, gently moving the fingers in a circular motion, opening and closing the fingers (like the “peace” sign) or sliding them back and forth in a “windshield” motion.

Whether you’re tapping, rubbing or applying pressure I highly suggest you keep the following things in mind:

Try to remember this is supposed to be a pleasure filled exploration of your body, not something that causes you stress, frustration, or leaves you felling embarrassed or annoyed. If you find that after multiple tries you can’t seem to find it, take the time to relax and pleasure yourself. As I previously said, the area will likely engorge with blood as you become aroused; the bigger it is, the easier it may be for you to find.

Since you’ll be inserting fingers into either your own body or that of someone else, make sure your nails are trimmed and free of any chips or sharp edges. I don’t know too many people that have said being scratched or scraped internally was pleasurable.

While this may seem to be something that’s common sense I can’t stress the importance of having clean hands and/or making sure whatever you’re inserting is clean. G-spot play should be fun, not something that leaves you with a possible infection.

If you’re not fully aroused and find that inserting a finger or sex toy hurts due to improper lubrication, remember that you can always use a good water based lube to make insertion easier.

Just because someone else likes the way something feels, doesn’t mean that you will, can, and/or should. Take the time to learn about your body, likes and dislikes, and find a way to make them work for you.

Most importantly, if you’re exploring with a partner and find a sensation or movement that works – tell them! I know talking during sexual pleasure can be embarrassing, but if you don’t tell them, they won’t know.

Considering over 70% of those with a vagina need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm, targeting the g-spot might not work for everyone. In addition to the g-spot you might have to stimulate the clitoris to achieve an orgasm. (For the record there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just the way your body works)

Last but not least, empty your bladder, then make sure to drink LOTS of water.

Unfortunately stimulating it can be much easier said than done, especially if you’re masturbating and therefor not built with arms or fingers long enough to get the reach you need. That’s where intimate accessories specifically created for g-spot stimulation can be of great help.

Great Products for G-Spot Stimulation

With the growing change in perception regarding sex and sexuality, more and more manufactures are creating products specifically designed for different functions; from dildos to vibrators, affordable sexual enhancement products to luxury items, there are many that will work wonders when it comes to targeting the g-spot, and in the process, bring about a further understanding of ones body, not to mention some fantastic orgasms!

On that note, rather than listing all of the products here, I’m going to split the mini reviews into different categories that can be found by clicking on the links below.

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Sex Ed 102: Great Products for Oral Play

Couples Toys & Games, Good Guides, Product Reviews

To view the video log into YouTubeOver the last couple of years I have been continually asked about products used to enhance the experience of oral sex. As such, I decided to create a video and post specifically covering products that would be good for use, what’s not so great, including key pointers and tips to keep in mind.

What Are Oral Play Products

Oral play can be an exciting and intimate part of sexual experiences, and there are numerous products available that can enhance both pleasure and safety for all involved. Whether you’re looking to spice things up with added flavors, sensations, or want to ensure protection during oral activities, understanding the available options can help you choose the right products for your needs. Here’s an informative guide to some of the best products designed for oral play.

Available Options

Flavoured Lubes: Flavored lubricants are a popular addition to oral play, adding a delicious twist to the experience. These lubricants come in a wide variety of flavors, ranging from fruity options like cherry or watermelon to dessert-like flavors such as vanilla or chocolate. Flavoured lubes not only taste great but also help reduce friction and discomfort, enhancing the overall sensation for both partners. It’s important to select high-quality, body-safe flavored lubricants that are specifically designed for oral use to ensure a safe and pleasurable experience.

Flavoured Condoms: Flavored condoms are an excellent way to make oral sex more enjoyable while prioritizing protection. These condoms are coated with flavors like strawberry, chocolate, mint, and more, making the experience both safer and potentially more pleasant. Using a flavoured condom helps reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when performing oral sex on a partner with a penis. The flavor masks the taste of latex, and the condoms themselves offer the same protective benefits as regular condoms, ensuring safety without compromising pleasure.

Dental Dams: Dental dams are thin sheets of latex or polyurethane that act as a protective barrier during oral-vaginal or oral-anal play. They help reduce the risk of transmitting STIs, making oral sex safer while maintaining the sensation of skin-to-skin contact. Dental dams are available in flavoured varieties, making them more appealing for oral play. When using a dental dam, apply a water-based lubricant on both sides to improve sensation and ensure it stays in place.

Oral Sex Gels, Sprays, & Candies: Oral sex gels, sprays, and candies are designed to heighten sensations during oral play by adding unique effects such as cooling, warming, or tingling sensations. These products can be applied directly to erogenous zones or used in the mouth to create a stimulating experience for both partners. Available in a variety of flavors, they add an exciting dimension to oral activities while enhancing pleasure. Always opt for body-safe formulas that are made for oral use to avoid irritation or discomfort.

Vibrating Toys for Oral Play: For those looking to explore beyond traditional methods, vibrating toys like tongue vibrators (pictured right) can enhance oral play by providing extra stimulation. These toys are designed to fit on or around the tongue, adding vibrations that intensify the sensations for both the giver and receiver. They’re perfect for exploring different erogenous zones or adding variety to your oral repertoire. Many are waterproof, making them easy to use and clean after intimate sessions.

Tips & Suggestions For A Great Experience

When using products designed for oral play, it’s essential to prioritize safety and comfort to ensure an enjoyable experience for both partners. First and foremost, always select body-safe products specifically made for oral use. Flavoured lubricants, condoms, and gels should be free of harmful chemicals or ingredients that could cause irritation or allergic reactions. Look for products that are labelled as non-toxic, paraben-free, and glycerine-free, particularly for those with sensitive skin or prone to yeast infections.

While we’re on the topic of glycerine; when exposed to air, glycerine-based lubricants tend to oxidize and break down quickly, which can lead to a sticky or thick and tacky texture that requires frequent reapplication in order to remain slippery. This stickiness can reduce comfort and enjoyment during intimate activities, as it interrupts the flow. Moreover, it may even cause irritation for some users. Frequent reapplication also means you go through the product quickly and have to buy more. While this benefits manufacturers financially, it doesn’t translate into a positive experience for you or I.

Another important consideration is communication with your partner. Before introducing new products, discuss comfort levels and any potential sensitivities or allergies. For example, certain flavors or ingredients may not be suitable for everyone, so it’s crucial to check the product label and conduct a patch test if needed. It’s also a good idea to experiment with smaller amounts of flavoured lubricants or oral gels initially, allowing both partners to assess their comfort before fully engaging in play. Open communication also helps in aligning expectations, ensuring that both partners feel safe and excited to explore.

Lastly, proper usage and hygiene are critical when using oral play products. Always follow the manufacturer’s instructions for application and cleaning, particularly with toys or reusable items like dental dams and vibrating stimulators. Ensure that toys and barriers are cleaned thoroughly after each use to prevent bacterial growth or infection. Also, avoid using oil-based lubricants with latex products like flavoured condoms or dental dams, as oils can break down the material and compromise their effectiveness. By keeping these tips and cautions in mind, you can enjoy oral play with greater confidence and peace of mind, maximizing pleasure while minimizing risks.

Final Thoughts

In the end, sexual wellness is about finding what works best for you and your partner, while prioritizing safety, comfort, and pleasure. It’s important to approach oral play with curiosity, respect, and open communication, ensuring both you and your partner feel comfortable and excited to try new things. By staying open-minded and informed, you can create experiences that are not only fun but also grounded in care and mutual understanding. Ultimately, it’s about finding what works best for your unique dynamic and embracing the joy that comes with shared exploration.

Looking to get your hands on some fun new oral play products to try? Feel free to shop around, and make sure you’re getting the best prices. Each the following links take you directly to pages for oral play options on websites I trust I shop with myself; Pinkcherry, SheVibe, Babeland, Condomania, and SexToy(dot)Com.

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Anal Sex Tips, Techniques, & Suggestions

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The discomfort you may encounter during first time anal sex could be minimum or very intense depending on how relaxed you are. It’s for this reason that I created these anal sex tips, all designed to help make things a bit more comfortable and fun.

Anal Sex Tips For Beginners

Take Your Time & Relax

I personally suggest taking some time to warm up before engaging in full anal penetration; do some relaxing breathing exercises, meditate if need be, and get comfortable with your partner.

Once you’re relaxed and feel ready, get out the lube and apply a large amount to your butt hole. Once lubed up take a finger or a lube shooter and use it to insert some internally. This will allow for easier penetration and once inserted, much less friction. When I say a lot I mean A LOT! Don’t be stingy, unlike the vagina, the anus does not self lubricate, so the more you apply the better.

Remember, the more relaxed you are more relaxed your muscles will be, which will allow for the proper insertion of a toy, finger or penis with less discomfort.

After you’ve added the lube, add a finger and just a finger; the anus has a very tight opening and trying to insert a penis can be a shock to the system. Going too fast too soon can cause you to tense up, leading to a painful experience rather then a enjoyable one. If you’re not careful and don’t listen to your body there can be tearing of the sphincter and/or rectum. By using a finger you prep the body, stretch the muscles, and allow the yourself (or the receiver) to get used to the feeling.

Once the finger is inserted, have your partner leave it there for about a minute or so. Don’t tell them to thrust or move it around… just insert it and leave it. This will allow you and your body to get used to the feeling and relax the muscles.

Go Slow & Start Small

When you feel ready slowly remove the finger and move onto a toy or your partner. I personally suggest using a toy that’s between the size of your finger and your partners penis, this will give you the opportunity to work up to something larger with minimal discomfort.

Any of the Tantus Silk products (small, medium, or large) are amazing options as there’s limited texturing, a round base to keep them from going too far in, and a flexible body to make them totally comfortable.

When it comes to penetration, start thrusting gently, if it makes it easier for you do it doggy style. Have your partner on their knees staying as still as they can. Then take control and back up onto it. This may make it easier for you to take it as you’re the one determining how far it gets inserted and at what speed. The human body is an amazing thing and it’s quite astounding how much it will endure when you put your mind to it.

Finally, be gentle and go slow. I know that we all see the people of porn taking it like champs, but they are trained professionals. It’s what they do for a living and in most cases, have been doing for quite some time. You unfortunately are not a porn star and anyone who believes you can take a pounding the first time is grandly mistaken.

**One more thing, NEVER go from anus to vagina, or anus to mouth, doing this can lead to vaginal infections like bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, E coli, or intestinal parasites.

Toys & Products Worth The Investment

Quality silicone toys like the ones Tantus makes are definitely worth the money. They’re phthalate free, latex free, wont absorb any bacteria, can be cleaned in a large number of ways, are hypo allergenic, hygienic, and perfectly safe for anal use. Even better, the flared bases on all Tantus toys make them perfect for anal play.

A very good quality silicone lubricant. Silicone is very slippery, compatible with latex, and requires very little reapplying; something I’d highly suggest for anal sex. Just keep in mind that if you’re going to be using a silicone lube use it only for actual intercourse, not for use with a silicone toy as it might ruin it. If you are opting to use a toy, I’d suggest a good water based lube instead.

Condoms, I always stress safe sex even with anal play, you may not be able to get pregnant from anal but you can get an STD. Not to mention that if you have your fill (no pun intended) with anal sex and want to have vaginal it’s easier to just take the condom off, put on a new one, and get back to business. Otherwise they’ll have to stop, bathe their penis, put on a condom, and start over again. If you’re wondering about the bathing part, those with a penis can also get urinary tract infections.

It’s my goal to make sex a safe, fun and enjoyable experience for everyone. Hopefully these anal sex tips have allowed you to become more comfortable and knowledgeable, while also easing some of the things you may encounter as a beginner.

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Sex Ed 102: Everything You Need To Know About Diaphragms

Contraception, Good Guides, Safer Sex, STD Information & Prevention

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What is a diaphragm?

The diaphragm is a dome shaped cup with a flexible rim. It’s made of silicone or latex and is designed to stop sperm from entering the uterus and fallopian tubes in order to prevent an unintended pregnancy. To be more specific, it’s a reversible barrier method of birth control.

I personally suggest silicone because it lasts longer, is easy to care for, and won’t absorb odors, bodily fluids, or bacteria. The other reason I suggest silicone is that it is latex free, so for those of you that have latex allergies, or for those of you not sure if you have a latex allergy, it’s a good option.

Where can I get a diaphragm ?

Unfortunately you’re not able to buy them at a store or online like condoms. Instead, you need to get fitted for one by your health care provider to make sure that it’s the right size for your body and won’t allow any room for sperm to pass.

During your fitting your health care provider should show you how to use it properly and allow you to practice in the office, checking once inserted, to make sure you did it correctly.

If they don’t offer, please know there is nothing to be embarrassed about and you have every right to ask. The effectiveness of any birth control method always stands in using it perfectly. That said, it’s always better to be safe then sorry.

When it comes to using your diaphragm there are a few things that I suggest:

Always make sure your hands are clean before handling it, you don’t want to transfer any bacteria which could cause an infection.

Hold your diaphragm up to a light or place a small amount of water in it to check for cracks or holes before use, if you do find any don’t use it.

If you’re using a silicone diaphragm do not use a silicone lubricant and make sure your hands are free of any silicone as it may break down the product.

If you’re using a latex diaphragm do not use an oil based product and make sure your hands are free of anything that may cause the latex to break down. Remember, latex diaphragms are the same as latex condoms (only thicker) so treat them with the same respect.

Diaphragms do not offer protection against STD’s so you will need to either add another method of protection (like condoms) or choose something that fits your specific needs.

How do I insert the diaphragm?

Inserting your diaphragm and using it perfectly is something that will take some practice. More likely then not, using your diaphragm will be uncomfortable, awkward, and annoying when you first start. I highly suggest taking some time inserting it and removing it before you use it during intercourse. Now I know it sounds a little overwhelming but trust me, once you get the hang of it, it’s a piece of cake.

Step 1.) After you’ve washed your hands, hold the diaphragm dome side down. Squeeze a teaspoon of spermicide cream into the center of the diaphragm and spread a bit of the cream around the rim with your finger. If you have long nails be gentle as you don’t want to accidentally pierce it.

Step 2.) Squeeze the diaphragm so that it’s boat-shaped. Then, while using your free hand to separate your inner labia, insert the folded device into your vagina. To do this use whatever position you use when inserting a tampon; standing with one foot propped up, squatting, or while lying on your back in bed are all fine, just do whatever is most comfortable to you. Keep in mind that the position of the cervix and the walls of the vagina will differ depending on your position.

Step 3.) Push the diaphragm as far as it goes and use your index finger to tuck it behind your cervix. Run the index or middle finger over the diaphragm’s dome to verify that it is covering the cervix; if the device is in the correct position, the cervix should be easily felt through the rubber. Some say it feels like the end of a nose, and that’s what it’s felt like for me, so I’m going with it. It shouldn’t be too hard to tell since it is normal to detect folds in the diaphragm when it is in place.

One thing that I do want to note is that for the Diaphragm to be its most effective it must remain in place for 6 hours after intercourse, but no longer 24 hours, as there is an increased risk of toxic shock syndrome if you do.

How do I remove the diaphragm?

To remove it insert the index finger inside the vagina and place it behind the front rim of the diaphragm then pull the diaphragm downward and out of the vagina. Fortunately getting it out is a lot easier then inserting it.

How do I clean my diaphragm?

As for cleaning it, just wash the diaphragm with non-perfumed soap and warm water, rinse it well and dry it carefully; I suggest letting it air dry. Then return it to its original container and store it in a dry, cool place.

How effective is the diaphragm?

In regard to its effectiveness when used typically 20 out of 100 women will get pregnant. However when use perfectly only 6 out of 100 women will get pregnant. That in mind, as I said before it’s always better to get guidance from your health care provider since practice makes perfect!

Pro’s of using a diaphragm

It can be discretely carried in your pocket or purse.
It can be used during breastfeeding without risk of affecting your baby.
It usually can’t be felt by you or your partner.
It has no effect on a persons natural hormones unlike other methods.
It is immediately effective and reversible.
There is no interruption of sex play and can be inserted up to 6 hours ahead of time.

Cons of using a diaphragm

While I do think that the diaphragm is a great method of protection, the only downfall is that it in order for it to be effective it must be used in conjunction with spermicide. If you are curious as to why I feel this way I suggest you watch my video on spermicide and check out my post on spermicides.

That said if you plan on having sex again within a three hour span of time you need to add more spermicide. If you do choose to use this method of protection I suggest keeping a tube ready just to be safe.

While it’s still up for debate some people suggest that it cannot be used during your period
may be difficult for some women to insert (again that just takes practice)
may be pushed out of place due to heavy thrusting, and certain sexual positions
must be in place every time a woman has vaginal intercourse and used in conjunction with spermicide
may need to be refitted due to giving birth or weight change.

Common Side Effects

Fortunately most women can use the diaphragm without any issues arising. Serious problems are very rare and not that common. But some women may experience these side effects;

Frequent urinary tract infections. To avoid infection, urinate before inserting the diaphragm and after intercourse which will help to flush out any bacteria from the urethra. If you get frequent bladder infections, ask your health care provider to check to see if your diaphragm fits correctly.

Vaginal irritation; this can be a sign of an allergy to latex or spermicide. If you have a mild reaction stop using the diaphragm until you speak with your health care provider. It’s always better to be safe then sorry.

As with other methods of protection I have covered I want to stress that for some of you this may work and for some of you it may not. However, since choosing a method of protection that is right for you is a very important step in being sexually active and responsible, I do feel it necessary to cover all of the options so you can see what’s available, how to use it, and make sure your using it correctly, which will of course increase the chances of effectiveness.

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