Sex Ed 102 Q&A: Should I Shave My Pubic Hair?
Question:
I just started getting hot and heavy with a partner after being single for 3 years and keep finding magazine articles on pubic hair and shaving, which is really intimidating. I’ve never done it so I’m not sure what’s “right” or “wrong”, hell, I haven’t even figured out if I’d like the way I look totally bare down there! I’m totally lost! Should I shave my pubic hair?
Do you have any suggestions or advice that could help?
Answer
Before I get into it I just want to stress that shaving your pubic hair is not required or necessary for an intimate, fun, and respectful sexual experience. It’s a choice that only you can make and shouldn’t feel pressured to do, whether by society or a partner.
When it comes to maintaining pubic hair, everyone is different. Like clothing or hairstyle, it’s a matter of individual preference. Some people don’t do anything with their pubic hair, leaving it to grow naturally. Some only remove hair when they’ll be wearing a bathing suit or engaging in intimate activities, and some remove hair regularly as part of their routine. As I said, it’s a decision that’s totally up to you.
One thing I do want for you to keep in mind is that there are no real health benefits associated with removing pubic hair, it’s purely aesthetic.
If you do decide to bare it all these are some tips and tricks I think you might find helpful.
What Is Pubic Hair and Why Do We Have It?
Pubic hair, like other body hair, grows naturally as a part of puberty. It serves as a barrier that helps to reduce friction during activities, traps bacteria, and helps to wick away sweat to keep the area clean and comfortable. Some believe it also plays a role in pheromone release, enhancing natural scent as part of human attraction. While pubic hair isn’t necessary for health, some people appreciate it for its protective function and its role in maintaining a balanced environment.
Ultimately, whether you choose to keep it or remove it is entirely up to you and what feels most comfortable.
First a few Warnings…
- Never use the old-fashioned straight edge razor. It is unsuitable for pubic hair removal and can be dangerous.
- Never use a razor on dry bare skin, it can cause razor burn and be especially painful.
- Don’t share your razors, this can spread skin infections.
- Never use a hair removal cream like Nair, it can get into the vagina and cause serious pain not to mention cause possible infections.
Tips and Tricks for a Smooth, Comfortable Shave
When it comes to shaving pubic hair, a few extra steps can make all the difference in achieving a smooth, irritation-free experience.
First and foremost, invest in a high-quality razor designed for sensitive areas – ideally, one with multiple blades, a pivoting head, and a lubricating strip. Cheap, disposable razors can lead to nicks, razor burn, and redness, especially in such a delicate area, so it’s worth spending a little more to keep your skin safe.
Before you begin shaving, consider trimming longer hairs down to about a quarter of an inch with small scissors or an electric hair trimmer. This will prevent the razor from becoming clogged and ensure that it glides more easily over the skin.
To help soften the coarse pubic hair further, soak in a warm bath or stay in the shower for a few extra minutes before shaving. The heat and moisture will open up the hair follicles and make the hair more pliable, reducing the chances of pulling or tugging during shaving.
When you’re ready to shave, apply a generous amount of shaving foam or gel specifically designed for sensitive skin. Avoid using ordinary soap, as it can dry out the skin and doesn’t provide the same level of moisture retention. A good alternative to shaving gel is a quality hair conditioner, which will also help soften the hair and allow the razor to glide smoothly. Let the shaving product sit on the area for a few minutes before you start to give it time to soften the hair further.
To minimize irritation, make sure your razor blade is sharp and fresh, and only make each pass when there’s enough shaving foam on the skin to prevent friction. Rinse the razor frequently to remove hair and product build-up, which can dull the blade and increase the risk of razor burn. Shave in the direction of hair growth for a gentler experience, and avoid pressing too hard – let the razor do the work.
After you’ve finished shaving, rinse thoroughly and pat the area dry with a soft towel. To soothe the skin and reduce irritation, apply an unscented oil like Vitamin E or jojoba oil, or an alcohol-free moisturizer to hydrate and calm the skin.
Don’t Forget Exfoliation!
Exfoliating regularly is key to keeping the skin smooth and preventing pesky ingrown hairs. Aim to exfoliate the pubic area gently 1–2 times a week with a soft washcloth or a gentle exfoliating scrub designed for sensitive skin. Exfoliating removes dead skin cells that can clog pores, allowing hair to grow out more freely. If you’re new to exfoliation in this area, start with a very mild product and light pressure to avoid any irritation.
These extra steps not only enhance comfort and smoothness but can also help keep your skin looking and feeling its best over time.
Other Options for Pubic Hair Removal
If shaving isn’t your style, there are plenty of other methods to explore, each with its own benefits, challenges, and level of commitment. Here are some popular alternatives, along with a few insights into what you can expect from each one:
Waxing:
Waxing is a go-to choice for many because it removes hair from the root, which leaves the area smooth and hair-free for longer than shaving. While waxing can be painful at first, especially in sensitive areas, many people find that the discomfort lessens over time as they get used to it. Waxing results typically last anywhere from one to six weeks, depending on how quickly your hair grows. You can go to a professional for a salon-quality wax, or if you’re feeling bold, at-home waxing kits are widely available online. Just be sure to read instructions carefully and prepare your skin beforehand to minimize pain and irritation.
Electrolysis:
This is a method for those considering a more permanent solution. Electrolysis uses a fine needle to deliver an electric current into each hair follicle, which destroys it at the root. Usually performed by a professional, electrolysis can take multiple sessions – often six or more – to achieve full hair removal in an area. It can be costly and time-consuming, but it’s also highly effective. For those who want an at-home option, there are personal electrolysis devices, although these may be less powerful and slower than professional treatments.
Epilators:
An epilator (pictured right), is a handheld device that works like a supercharged tweezer, pulling multiple hairs out by the root in one go. It’s definitely a method that takes a bit of bravery, as it can be quite painful, especially in sensitive areas. However, for those who can handle it, epilation can keep you hair-free for weeks at a time. If you’re considering trying an epilator, make sure to look for a model that’s designed for sensitive areas, and keep in mind that results and pain levels vary from person to person.
* I actually tried using an epilator once, and I’ll never do it again. Granted that was years ago and technology has definitely advanced, but still. That one time was enough.
Laser Hair Removal:
This method uses concentrated light to target and destroy hair follicles. Laser hair removal is typically faster and less painful than electrolysis, though several sessions are required to achieve long-lasting results. While the effects aren’t always permanent, many people find that hair grows back finer and more slowly over time. Laser treatments are generally offered at clinics, though at home laser hair removal devices (pictured left), are also available. As with any permanent hair removal method, it’s a good idea to research carefully and consult with a professional if you’re unsure.
Stencils and Styling:
Not everyone wants to remove all their pubic hair, and that’s where styling options like trimming or stencils come in. With stencils specifically designed for pubic hair, you can shape and style the area in a way that feels both fun and comfortable. This option gives you control over how much hair to keep while adding a touch of creativity. For trimming, you can use scissors or an electric trimmer designed for sensitive areas, which provides a clean, maintained look without the potential irritation of complete removal.
No matter what method you choose, remember to research properly, start slow and see how your skin reacts, adjust your methods as needed, and care for your skin before, during, and after each session.
Final Thoughts
Choosing to remove or maintain pubic hair is a matter of personal preference, and there’s no right or wrong choice. Your comfort, health, and personal expression come first. By understanding the pros and cons of each option and following some simple do’s and don’ts, you can find an approach that feels best for you. Whether you decide to go natural, trim, or remove it all, what matters most is feeling empowered and comfortable in your own body.
So that’s pretty much it. Hopefully between the video and written content you’ll be shaving your hair like a pro… or maybe you’re totally comfortable with it as is, and if that’s the case more power to you!
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