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Sex ed 102 Beginners Guide: Condoms

As you all know I’m a big supporter of safe sex, the kind that leaves you free of worries about an unwanted pregnancy or possible transmission of an STI.  As such, I hope this beginners guide on condoms will give you further insight to the options available when it comes to safer sex practices and help you find a method of protection that’s right for you.

condomsWhat are Condoms?

Condoms are one of the most popular and widely used forms of contraception and protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). These thin sheaths, typically made of latex, polyurethane, polyisoprene, or other materials, act as a barrier during sexual activity, preventing bodily fluids from being exchanged between partners.

Condoms are designed for external or internal use and can be used during vaginal, anal, and oral sex, offering both contraceptive and protective benefits. They’re a practical choice for anyone looking to engage in safe sex, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

The effectiveness of condoms lies in their ability to provide a physical barrier that blocks sperm from entering the uterus and prevents the transmission of STIs, including HIV. Condoms are easy to use, affordable, and readily available, making them a go-to choice for millions of people worldwide.

However, like any method of protection, condoms have their limitations. They can break or slip off if not used correctly, and some people may experience irritation or allergic reactions to certain materials. Proper usage and storage are essential to ensure their reliability, and combining condoms with other forms of contraception, like birth control pills, can offer additional peace of mind.

Despite their drawbacks, condoms remain a popular choice because of their accessibility and versatility. Unlike other contraceptive methods, condoms do not require a prescription or long-term commitment, making them an appealing option for casual or first-time sexual encounters. Additionally, condoms empower individuals to take responsibility for their sexual health while allowing for spontaneity and convenience.

With so many types available – from ultra-thin to ribbed to desensitizing – condoms cater to a variety of needs, ensuring there’s a product suitable for every preference and situation.

For those curious about the different sizes, I created a condom sizing guide that would likely be helpful.


Types of Condoms

Latex Condoms

Latex condoms are the most commonly used type of condom and have been a reliable option for decades. Made from natural rubber latex, they are highly effective at preventing pregnancy and the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when used correctly.

They’re available in a wide variety of options, including ultra-thin versions for increased sensitivity, ribbed or textured options for enhanced stimulation, and pre-lubricated varieties for added convenience. Their elasticity and durability make them a dependable choice for most users.

However, latex condoms are not suitable for everyone. People with latex allergies may experience irritation, redness, or discomfort when using them. Additionally, latex is sensitive to oil-based lubricants, which can weaken the material and increase the risk of breakage.

Proper storage away from heat, light, and sharp objects is essential to maintain their integrity. Despite these limitations, latex condoms remain a go-to choice for their affordability, effectiveness, and wide availability.

Pros:

  • Affordable and widely available.
  • Highly elastic and durable, providing a snug fit.
  • Effective against both STIs and pregnancy.
  • Available in various textures, thicknesses, and lubricated options.

Cons:

  • Not suitable for individuals with latex allergies.
  • Can degrade if exposed to heat or oils (e.g., oil-based lubricants).

Polyurethane Condoms

Polyurethane condoms like Trojan Supra Bareskin Condoms (pictured left), are a great alternative for individuals who are allergic to latex. Made from a type of plastic, these condoms are thinner than their latex counterparts, offering a more natural sensation during intercourse. Polyurethane is also less elastic than latex, which can result in a looser fit for some users.

However, many appreciate the material’s ability to transfer body heat better than latex, enhancing intimacy. These condoms are compatible with both water-based and oil-based lubricants, providing more versatility than latex options.

While they’re an excellent choice for those with sensitivities, polyurethane condoms do come with some drawbacks. Their reduced elasticity means they may be more prone to slipping or breaking compared to latex. Additionally, they tend to be more expensive and less widely available. Proper usage and fit are essential to avoid mishaps, but for those who prioritize a thin, natural-feeling condom, polyurethane is a worthy contender.

Pros:

  • Hypoallergenic and suitable for people with latex sensitivities.
  • Thinner material enhances sensitivity.
  • Compatible with oil-based lubricants.

Cons:

  • Less stretchy than latex, making them more prone to slipping or breaking.
  • Typically more expensive than latex options.

Polyisoprene Condoms

Polyisoprene condoms like LifeStyles (SKYN) (pictured right) are another latex-free option that provides a comfortable and stretchy fit. Made from a synthetic material similar to latex but without the allergens, these condoms offer a natural feel while being safe for those with latex allergies.

They’re soft and durable, making them a popular choice for people who want the benefits of latex without the risk of allergic reactions. Polyisoprene condoms are effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs, and they work well with water-based lubricants.

That said, polyisoprene condoms are not without limitations. They are typically more expensive than latex condoms and are not compatible with oil-based lubricants, as oils can degrade the material.

They may also not be as widely available as latex options. Despite these minor drawbacks, polyisoprene condoms are a fantastic choice for anyone looking for a hypoallergenic, high-quality condom that mimics the feel and performance of latex.

Pros:

  • Hypoallergenic and latex-free.
  • Soft, stretchy, and durable, mimicking the feel of latex.
  • Effective for STI and pregnancy prevention.

Cons:

  • More expensive than latex condoms.
  • Not compatible with oil-based lubricants.

Lambskin Condoms

Lambskin condoms, like Trojan Naturalamb (pictured left), made from the intestinal lining of sheep, are a natural and biodegradable option for those seeking a more traditional or eco-friendly alternative. They’re incredibly thin and transmit body heat effectively, providing a sensation that many describe as more intimate and natural compared to synthetic materials. These condoms are an excellent choice for couples focused solely on pregnancy prevention, as their porous material effectively blocks sperm.

However, lambskin condoms do not protect against STIs, as the pores in the material can allow viruses and bacteria to pass through. Additionally, they are often more expensive than other options and may not align with the values of vegetarians, vegans, or those avoiding animal products.

Despite these limitations, lambskin condoms remain a premium choice for individuals prioritizing comfort and a natural feel during intercourse.

Pros:

  • Extremely thin and comfortable.
  • Excellent for pregnancy prevention.
  • Biodegradable and eco-friendly.

Cons:

  • Do not protect against STIs, as the material is porous.
  • Often more expensive than other options.
  • Not suitable for vegetarians, vegans, or those avoiding animal products.

Non-Latex Synthetic Condoms

Non-latex synthetic condoms, such as those made from materials like AT-10 resin, offer an innovative alternative for people with severe latex allergies or sensitivities to other materials. These condoms are ultra-thin, allowing for heightened sensitivity and a closer, more natural experience. They are also strong and hypoallergenic, making them suitable for a wide range of users. Non-latex synthetic condoms like Unique Latex Free Condoms (pictured right) are typically compatible with a variety of lubricants, providing added versatility.

While these condoms offer significant benefits, they can be harder to find and are generally more expensive than standard latex or polyisoprene options. Some users may find the fit or texture less comfortable compared to other types. Despite these potential drawbacks, non-latex synthetic condoms are a great choice for those seeking a premium, allergy-friendly condom option.

Pros:

  • Latex-free and hypoallergenic.
  • Often ultra-thin and designed for enhanced sensation.
  • Suitable for people with multiple sensitivities.

Cons:

  • Limited availability compared to other types.
  • Can be more expensive.

Internal (Female) Condoms

Internal condoms, or female condoms, are a lesser-known but highly effective alternative to traditional external condoms. These nitrile-based condoms are worn inside the vagina or anus and provide protection against STIs and pregnancy. They offer the receptive partner greater control over contraception and protection, making them an empowering choice for many. Internal condoms are pre-lubricated, and their design allows for a more natural sensation during intercourse.

On the downside, internal condoms can be more expensive and less widely available than external condoms. They may take some practice to use correctly, and their larger size can be intimidating to beginners. Despite these challenges, internal condoms are a versatile and inclusive option that provides excellent protection and allows for a different type of intimate experience.

Pros:

  • Latex-free and suitable for those with allergies.
  • Provides more control for the receptive partner.
  • Effective against both STIs and pregnancy.

Cons:

  • Less widely available and more expensive than external condoms.
  • May take practice to use correctly.

 


Graphene Condoms

Graphene condoms represent a cutting-edge advancement in condom technology, offering an ultra-thin yet durable option for those seeking the closest sensation to skin-on-skin contact. Graphene, a material derived from carbon atoms arranged in a single layer, is known for its incredible strength, flexibility, and thermal conductivity. This allows for condoms that are thinner than traditional latex while still maintaining excellent durability and safety.

Brands like ONE Flex Graphene Condoms (pictured right), have embraced this technology, creating graphene condoms that deliver enhanced sensitivity without compromising on protection.

Graphene condoms are designed to provide a more natural feel, making them an excellent choice for individuals who dislike the thickness or lack of warmth in traditional condoms. Thanks to graphene’s ability to conduct heat effectively, these condoms warm up quickly to body temperature, enhancing intimacy. Additionally, their strength means they can be made thinner without increasing the risk of breakage, offering peace of mind along with heightened pleasure.

Pros:

  • Ultra-thin and durable, providing a natural feel.
  • Conduct heat well, adding to a more intimate experience.
  • Hypoallergenic, making them a suitable choice for those with latex sensitivities.

Cons:

  • Currently more expensive than other condom types due to the advanced material.
  • Availability is limited compared to more traditional options like latex or polyurethane.

Flavoured Condoms

Flavoured condoms are designed to make oral sex more enjoyable by masking the taste of latex with a variety of fun and fruity flavors. Popular brands like Durex Tropical and ONE Flavor Waves offer a range of options, from classic strawberry and banana to more adventurous combinations like mint chocolate or passion fruit. These condoms are typically made from latex and are often pre-lubricated with a flavoured coating that’s safe for oral use.

Flavoured condoms aren’t just about adding a tasty twist to oral play, they also provide protection against STIs during oral sex, making them a practical and enjoyable choice for safe intimacy. Some flavoured condoms come in sugar-free or hypoallergenic formulas, ensuring they’re gentle on sensitive areas and suitable for a variety of users.

Pros:

  • Enhance the oral sex experience with appealing flavors.
  • Offer STI protection during oral activities.
  • Widely available in different flavors and styles.

Cons:

  • Not ideal for vaginal or anal use unless the flavoured coating is sugar-free, as sugar-based lubricants can disrupt pH balance and increase the risk of infections.
  • Limited material options, with most flavoured condoms made from latex.

Extra-Large Condoms

Extra-large condoms, such as the popular Magnum brand, are designed to provide a comfortable fit for individuals who find standard-sized condoms too tight or restrictive. These condoms cater to those who require a bit more length or girth, ensuring a snug yet comfortable fit that doesn’t compromise on safety.

They’re condoms are made from the same materials as standard options, including latex, polyurethane, and polyisoprene, and are just as effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs when used correctly.

For those with larger anatomy, ill-fitting condoms can lead to discomfort, reduced sensation, or even breakage. Extra-large condoms eliminate these issues by offering more room where it’s needed most.

Brands like Trojan Magnum or Durex XXL often feature extra width and length without being too bulky, allowing for a more pleasurable and secure experience.

Pros:

  • Provide a comfortable fit for individuals with larger anatomy.
  • Reduce the risk of condom breakage caused by tightness.
  • Widely available and offered by trusted brands.

Cons:

  • Not suitable for those with average or smaller anatomy, as they may slip off.
  • Slightly more expensive than standard-sized condoms.

Ribbed and Textured Condoms

Ribbed and textured condoms are designed to enhance sensation for both partners, adding an extra layer of stimulation to your intimate experience. These condoms feature raised patterns, such as ribs, studs, or spirals, strategically placed to increase friction and pleasure. They’re an excellent option for couples looking to spice things up and explore new sensations during sex.

Ribbed condoms, like Trojan Ultra Ribbed or Durex Pleasuremax, have raised lines along the shaft to heighten stimulation. Studded condoms, on the other hand, feature small bumps or dots designed to provide even more intense sensations. Some textured condoms combine both ribs and studs, offering a variety of pleasurable experiences. These options are typically made from latex but are also available in non-latex materials for those with allergies.

Pros:

  • Enhance pleasure for both partners through added stimulation.
  • Widely available in various styles to suit different preferences.
  • Compatible with most lubricants for an even better experience.

Cons:

  • The added textures may feel too intense or uncomfortable for some individuals.
  • Not ideal for those with very sensitive skin or intimate areas.

Desensitizing Condoms

Desensitizing condoms are specially designed to help prolong sexual activity by reducing sensitivity. These condoms are typically lubricated with a mild numbing agent, such as benzocaine or lidocaine, on the inside of the condom. This agent gently desensitizes the penis, which can help delay ejaculation and extend the duration of intimacy. Popular options in this category include Durex Performax Intense (pictured right) and Trojan Extended Pleasure.

These condoms are an excellent choice for individuals looking to address premature ejaculation or simply to enjoy longer sessions. While the numbing effect is subtle, it can make a noticeable difference in control and endurance, helping create a more satisfying experience for both partners.

Most desensitizing condoms also include additional features, such as ribbing or lubrication, to enhance pleasure for the receiving partner.

Pros:

  • Help prolong sexual activity by delaying ejaculation.
  • Often come with added features like ribs or extra lubrication for mutual pleasure.
  • Easy to use and widely available.

Cons:

  • May cause over-numbing or discomfort if the desensitizing agent spreads to the receiving partner.
  • Not suitable for individuals with allergies to benzocaine, lidocaine, or other numbing agents.
  • Require proper storage and handling to ensure the numbing agent remains effective.

 


Micro-Thin Condoms

Micro-thin condoms are specially designed to provide maximum sensation while maintaining the protection you expect from a standard condom. These ultra-thin condoms, like the Trojan BareSkin Raw or Kimono Microthin, are made using advanced materials that allow for a more natural feel, enhancing intimacy by reducing the barrier between partners. Despite being thinner than standard condoms, they are rigorously tested to meet safety and reliability standards for preventing pregnancy and STIs.

These condoms are an excellent choice for those who dislike the sensation of thicker condoms or feel that traditional options reduce sensitivity. They are typically made from high-quality latex, polyurethane, or polyisoprene and come in various sizes to suit different anatomies. Some brands even offer lubricated versions to further enhance comfort and pleasure.

Pros:

  • Provide heightened sensitivity for a more natural experience.
  • Just as safe and reliable as standard condoms when used correctly.
  • Available in various materials and sizes.

Cons:

  • Slightly more prone to breakage if not handled carefully due to their thinness.
  • Usually more expensive than standard condoms.

 


Tips for Choosing the Right Condom

Consider Allergies:
Allergies to latex are more common than many realize, and using a condom made from this material can lead to irritation, redness, or discomfort for those who are sensitive or allergic. If you or your partner experience these reactions, it’s important to switch to non-latex options like polyurethane or polyisoprene. Exploring these alternatives ensures a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners.

Match the Fit:
Proper sizing is crucial when choosing a condom. Ill-fitting condoms can lead to discomfort, reduced pleasure, or even breakage or slippage during use, compromising their effectiveness. Condoms come in a variety of sizes, from snug-fitting options to larger sizes, designed to accommodate different needs. To find the right dir, measure the girth and length of the penis and refer to the condom sizing guide provided by manufacturers. A condom that’s too tight may feel restrictive, while one that’s too loose could slip off during intercourse. Investing time in finding the right size ensures a secure, comfortable experience and maximizes protection.

Check Lubricant Compatibility:
Lubrication plays a significant role in enhancing comfort and reducing friction during intercourse, but it’s essential to choose the right type of personal lubricant for your condom. Latex and polyisoprene condoms are compatible with water-based or silicone-based lubricants, which are gentle and effective. However, oil-based lubricants should be avoided with these materials, as they can weaken the condom and increase the risk of tearing. Polyurethane and lambskin condoms, on the other hand, are compatible with oil-based lubes. Always double-check the condom packaging for specific recommendations to ensure optimal safety and performance.

Inspect the Packaging:
Before using a condom, take a moment to inspect the packaging. Ensure that the condom is not expired, as expired condoms can lose their elasticity and strength, making them more prone to breakage. Check that the package is sealed and undamaged; a tear or puncture could compromise the condom’s integrity. Store condoms in a cool, dry place to prevent heat or friction from degrading the material, and avoid carrying them in a wallet or pocket for extended periods. A quick inspection helps maintain trust in the product’s reliability.

Experiment with Varieties:
The wide variety of condoms available means you can tailor your choice to your preferences and needs. Explore options such as ribbed or textured condoms for added sensation, ultra-thin condoms for a more natural feel, or flavoured condoms for oral play. Condoms also come in different materials, thicknesses, and lubrications to suit a range of activities and sensitivities. Trying out different types allows you and your partner to find what works best, enhancing both comfort and pleasure. Don’t hesitate to experiment—your preferences may evolve over time, and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution.

Graphene Condoms:
If you’re curious about graphene condoms, be prepared for a slightly higher price point, but many users find the enhanced sensation and comfort worth the investment. Ensure that you check the compatibility of graphene condoms with your preferred lubricants, as not all types may pair well.

Desensitizing Condoms:
To avoid transferring the numbing agent to your partner, ensure the condom fits snugly and stays in place during use. If either partner experiences discomfort or irritation, remove the condom and switch to a non-desensitizing alternative. As with any product, read the label carefully to ensure compatibility with your needs and sensitivities.

Flavoured Condoms:
When purchasing flavoured condoms, look for sugar-free options to avoid irritation or infections if transitioning from oral to penetrative sex. Always check the packaging to ensure the condom is approved for protection against STIs and pregnancy, as some novelty products may prioritize flavour over functionality.

Textured Condoms:
When trying textured condoms for the first time, communicate openly with your partner about how they feel and adjust as needed. Adding a water-based or silicone lubricant can enhance the experience further by reducing friction and increasing comfort. Experiment with different patterns to find the one that works best for you both.


Final Thoughts

Choosing the right condom is an important step in ensuring safe and pleasurable sexual experiences. Whether you prefer the classic reliability of latex, the hypoallergenic comfort of polyisoprene, or the natural intimacy of lambskin, there’s an option to suit your needs and preferences. Taking the time to explore and experiment with different types can help you find the perfect fit for your body and lifestyle.

Remember, proper use is key to maximizing the effectiveness of any condom. Always check the packaging for damage, ensure the condom is not expired, and follow the instructions for application. By understanding your options and practicing safe habits, you can enjoy worry-free intimacy and focus on the connection with your partner.

 

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Sex Ed 102: Reversible Birth Control Methods

Choosing the right birth control method is an important step in taking control of your reproductive health. Whether you’re looking for a short-term solution or a long-term option that allows you to conceive in the future, reversible birth control methods provide the flexibility you need.

These methods allow individuals to prevent pregnancy while maintaining the ability to conceive once they are discontinued. With so many options available, it’s essential to understand how each method works, its effectiveness, in order to figure out which one best fits your lifestyle and personal needs.

This page serves as a guide to the different types of reversible birth control. Each method varies in terms of effectiveness, ease of use, and potential side effects. Here, you’ll find images and links to dedicated pages where you can explore each option in more detail. By learning about the various choices, you can make an informed decision that aligns with your health, comfort, and reproductive goals.

What Are Reversible Birth Control Methods?

Beginners Sex Guide: CondomsReversible birth control methods are contraception options that allow individuals to temporarily prevent pregnancy while maintaining their fertility for the future. Unlike permanent solutions like sterilization, these methods can be discontinued at any time, with fertility often returning after stopping their use. They range from daily pills to long-term options like intrauterine devices (IUDs), giving individuals the ability to choose a method that fits their lifestyle and reproductive plans.

How Do Reversible Birth Control Methods Work?

Reversible contraception works by interfering with the reproductive process in different ways. Some methods, like hormonal birth control, prevent ovulation, ensuring that no egg is released for fertilization. Others create physical barriers that stop sperm from reaching the egg or alter the cervical mucus to make it harder for sperm to travel. Long-acting options like IUDs or implants provide continuous protection, while short-term methods like pills or patches require consistent use to maintain effectiveness.

What Are the Various Reversible Birth Control Methods?

There are several categories of reversible birth control, each offering unique benefits:

  • Hormonal Methods: These include birth control pills, the patch, vaginal rings, injections, and implants, all of which use synthetic hormones to prevent pregnancy.
  • Long Acting Methods: Long acting methods like IUD's, Depo-Provera, and Implants offer longer protection, lasting from 3 months to 10 years.
  • Barrier Methods: Condoms, diaphragms, and cervical caps physically block sperm from reaching the egg and are used only during intercourse.
  • Behavioural & Fertility Awareness Methods: By tracking ovulation through temperature changes, cervical mucus, or cycle patterns, individuals can avoid pregnancy naturally.
  • Emergency Contraception: Pills like Plan B can prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex.
If you'd like to learn about other methods of birth control please go back to the Birth Control Methods page and select the corresponding category.
 
 
 

Benefits & Disadvantages of Reversible Birth Control

Benefits:

  • Flexiblity: These methods allow you to prevent pregnancy temporarily and stop use when you're ready to conceive.
  • Variety of Options: With multiple methods available, individuals can choose one that best fits their health and lifestyle.
  • Not Permanent: Unlike sterilization, fertility can return quickly after stopping most reversible contraceptives.

 

Disadvantages:

  • Requires Consistency: Some methods, like pills or fertility tracking, require strict adherence to be effective..
  • Potential Side Effects: Hormonal options may cause mood changes, weight fluctuations, or irregular bleeding.
  • Effectiveness Varies: Some methods, particularly fertility awareness and barrier methods, have higher failure rates compared to IUDs or implants.

 

By exploring these options, you can make an informed choice about which reversible birth control method works best for you. Click on the links provided to dive deeper into each specific method and find the best fit for your reproductive health needs.


Reversible Birth Control Methods

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Sex E 102 Q&A: Are Spermicides Safe?

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Sex Ed 102: Are Spermicides Safe?

Question:

My partner has been saying that we don't need to use condoms if we use spermicide since it kills the sperm, is this true? if so what kind of spermicide do you suggest?

Answer:

First, let my just say that it is ALWAYS safer to use more then one type of protection, and when it comes to sex, I ALWAYS suggest you use condoms to help prevent against not only pregnancy, but STD/STI's as well. As for spermicidal lubes, though they do kill sperm, I'm sad to say there isn't a brand that I would recommend.  Most spermicidal lubes contain a substance called "nonoxynol-9". For those of you who don't know what "nonoxynol-9" or N9 is;  N9 is a surfactant that's used as an ingredient in various cleaning and cosmetic products, it's also a form of birth control for its spermicidal properties. I'm sure most of you read that and went wtf is a 'nonoxynol surfactant'?
Nonoxynols are non-ionic surfactant mixtures varying in the number of repeating ethoxy groups. They're used as detergents, emulsifiers, wetting agents, de-foaming agents etc. -  taken from Wikipedia
Surfactants are wetting agents that lower the surface tension of a liquid, allowing easier spreading, and lower the interfacial tension between two liquids. Also, surfactants are usually amphiphilic meaning they have "tails" and "heads"; think of what sperm or a tadpole looks like. If that isn't clear enough, the best way for me to describe it is to say that surfactants work by disturbing the cell membrane. **However due to the toxicity of these mixtures they are no longer allowed for anything that can be poured down the drain (think of chemical cleaners) or in laundry detergent. So I can't pour it down the drain, but I can put it in my vag? are you kidding me?! To put surfectants into perspective, think of the everyday products that they can be found in like;
  • Detergents
  • Fabric softener
  • Emulsifiers and Emulsions
  • Paints
  • Adhesives
  • Inks
  • Anti-fogging
  • Soil remediation
  • Wetting
  • Ski wax, snowboard wax
  • Deinking (particularly during the enzymatic deinking of used paper during the recycling and repulping process)
  • Foaming agents
  • Defoaming agents
  • Laxatives
  • Agrochemical formulations
  • Herbicides
  • Insecticides
  • Quantum dot coating
  • Biocides (sanitizers)
  • Hair conditioners (after shampoo)
  • Spermicide (nonoxynol-9)
  • Used as an additive in 2.5 gallon fire extinguishers
  • Pipeline, Liquid drag reducing agent
  • Alkali Surfactant Polymers (used to mobilize oil in oil wells)
Anti fogging? inks? snowboard wax? PAINTS? FABRIC SOFTENER? ...are you kidding me?! why would anyone want to put an ingredient that's found in paint or snowboard wax near their vagina!? As for N9 itself, it was originally thought that it could be used for the prevention of STD's/STI's however about 10 years ago it was discovered that spermicides actually INCREASE the chances of contracting infections like HIV by creating lesions on the layers of skin cells in the vagina or rectum walls, which can potentially facilitate infection. **remember what I said above, they "work by disturbing the cell membrane" Not only that but there are other downfalls or potential dangers to using N9:
  • Nonoxynol-9 offers no protection against sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhea or chlamydia.
  • Nonoxynol-9 can damage the cells lining the rectum providing entry for HIV and other STD/STI's
  • If used regularily Nonoxynol-9 can increase a womans chances of contracting Bacterial Vaginosis
  • If used regularly there are increased chances of developing a yeast infection
  • There have been reports of vaginal bleeding after intercourse due to misuse of spermicides containing Nonoxynol-9
  • Increased chances of vaginal dryness or itching after use of spermicides.
The product is so bad for you that the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) issued a final rule in 2007 that requires manufacturers of spermicidal products containing nonoxynol 9 to post the following warnings to its products; "N9 can irritate the vagina and rectum, which may increase the risk of getting HIV/AIDS from an infected partner" The CDC (Center for Disease Control) conducted their own study to research the effects of N9 and found that it was ineffective in the prevention of STD's and in fact increased the risk of transmission by 50% *report can be found here: CDC N9 Aids research As you can see, with all of the above information there is no way that I could recommend such a product to any person at any time. hope that helped Kara_Sutra   Sit back, relax, let me come to you. Sign up through the form below and have my posts sent straight to your inbox. Don't worry, I promise not to spam you!
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Sex Ed 102: Everything You Need To Know About Diaphragms

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Sex Ed 102: Everything You Need To Know About DiaphragmsWhat is a diaphragm?

The diaphragm is a dome shaped cup with a flexible rim. It’s made of silicone or latex and is designed to stop sperm from entering the uterus and fallopian tubes in order to prevent an unintended pregnancy. To be more specific, it's a reversible barrier method of birth control. I personally suggest silicone because it lasts longer, is easy to care for, and won’t absorb odors, bodily fluids, or bacteria. The other reason I suggest silicone is that it is latex free, so for those of you that have latex allergies, or for those of you not sure if you have a latex allergy, it’s a good option.

Where can I get a diaphragm ?

Unfortunately you’re not able to buy them at a store or online like condoms. Instead, you need to get fitted for one by your health care provider to make sure that it’s the right size for your body and won’t allow any room for sperm to pass. During your fitting your health care provider should show you how to use it properly and allow you to practice in the office, checking once inserted, to make sure you did it correctly. If they don’t offer, please know there is nothing to be embarrassed about and you have every right to ask. The effectiveness of any birth control method always stands in using it perfectly. That said, it’s always better to be safe then sorry. When it comes to using your diaphragm there are a few things that I suggest:
  • Always make sure your hands are clean before handling it, you don’t want to  transfer any bacteria which could cause an infection.
  • Hold your diaphragm up to a light or place a small amount of water in it to check for cracks or holes before use, if you do find any don’t use it.
  • If you're using a silicone diaphragm do not use a silicone lubricant and make sure your hands are free of any silicone as it may break down the product.
  • If you're using a latex diaphragm do not use an oil based product and make sure your hands are free of anything that may cause the latex to break down.  Remember, latex diaphragms are the same as latex condoms (only thicker) so treat them with the same respect.
  • Diaphragms do not offer protection against STD’s so you will need to either add another method of protection (like condoms) or choose something that fits your specific needs.

How do I insert the diaphragm?

Inserting your diaphragm and using it perfectly is something that will take some practice.  More likely then not, using your diaphragm will be uncomfortable, awkward, and annoying when you first start. I highly suggest taking some time inserting it and removing it before you use it during intercourse.  Now I know it sounds a little overwhelming but trust me, once you get the hang of it, it's a piece of cake. Step 1.) After you've washed your hands,  hold the diaphragm dome side down. Squeeze a teaspoon of spermicide cream into the center of the diaphragm and spread a bit of the cream around the rim with your finger. If you have long nails be gentle as you don’t want to accidentally pierce it. Step 2.) Squeeze the diaphragm so that it's boat-shaped. Then, while using your free hand to separate your inner labia, insert the folded device into your vagina. To do this use whatever position you use when inserting a tampon; standing with one foot propped up, squatting, or while lying on your back in bed are all fine, just do whatever is most comfortable to you. Keep in mind that the position of the cervix and the walls of the vagina will differ depending on your position. Step 3.) Push the diaphragm as far as it goes and use your index finger to tuck it behind your cervix.  Run the index or middle finger over the diaphragm’s dome to verify that it is covering the cervix; if the device is in the correct position, the cervix should be easily felt through the rubber. Some say it feels like the end of a nose, and that's what it's felt like for me, so I'm going with it.  It shouldn’t be too hard to tell since it is normal to detect folds in the diaphragm when it is in place. One thing that I do want to note is that for the Diaphragm to be its most effective it must remain in place for 6 hours after intercourse, but no longer 24 hours, as there is an increased risk of toxic shock syndrome if you do.

How do I remove the diaphragm?

To remove it insert the index finger inside the vagina and place it behind the front rim of the diaphragm then pull the diaphragm downward and out of the vagina. Fortunately getting it out is a lot easier then inserting it.

How do I clean my diaphragm?

As for cleaning it, just wash the diaphragm with non-perfumed soap and warm water, rinse it well and dry it carefully; I suggest letting it air dry. Then return it to its original container and store it in a dry, cool place.

How effective is the diaphragm?

In regard to its effectiveness when used typically 20 out of 100 women will get pregnant. However when use perfectly only 6 out of 100 women will get pregnant. That in mind, as I said before it’s always better to get guidance from your health care provider since practice makes perfect!

Pro’s of using a diaphragm

  • It can be discretely carried in your pocket or purse.
  • It can be used during breastfeeding without risk of affecting your baby.
  • It usually can’t be felt by you or your partner.
  • It has no effect on a persons natural hormones unlike other methods.
  • It is immediately effective and reversible.
  • There is no interruption of sex play and can be inserted up to 6 hours ahead of time.

Cons of using a diaphragm

While I do think that the diaphragm is a great method of protection, the only downfall is that it in order for it to be effective it must be used in conjunction with spermicide. If you are curious as to why I feel this way I suggest you watch my video on spermicide and check out my post on spermicides. That said if you plan on having sex again within a three hour span of time you need to add more spermicide.  If you do choose to use this method of protection I suggest keeping a tube ready just to be safe.
  • While it’s still up for debate some people suggest that it cannot be used during your period
  • may be difficult for some women to insert (again that just takes practice)
  • may be pushed out of place due to heavy thrusting, and certain sexual positions
  • must be in place every time a woman has vaginal intercourse and used in conjunction with spermicide
  • may need to be refitted due to giving birth or weight change.

Common Side Effects

Fortunately most women can use the diaphragm without any issues arising. Serious problems are very rare and not that common. But some women may experience these side effects;
  • Frequent urinary tract infections. To avoid infection, urinate before inserting the diaphragm and after intercourse which will help to flush out any bacteria from the urethra.  If you get frequent bladder infections, ask your health care provider to check to see if your diaphragm fits correctly.
  • Vaginal irritation; this can be a sign of an allergy to latex or spermicide. If you have a mild reaction stop using the diaphragm until you speak with your health care provider. It’s always better to be safe then sorry.
As with other methods of protection I have covered I want to stress that for some of you this may work and for some of you it may not. However, since choosing a method of protection that is right for you is a very important step in being sexually active and responsible, I do feel it necessary to cover all of the options so you can see what’s available, how to use it, and make sure your using it correctly, which will of course increase the chances of effectiveness.   Sit back, relax, let me come to you. Sign up for mailing list and get content only when I post it. Don't worry I promise not to spam you!

 
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