If you find that none of the natural methods work, or that cock rings just aren’t your thing, you may want to look into the option of topical ointments. Not only are they usually affordable, but many of them are easy to apply, safe for use with latex (condoms), have a limited span of time in which they’re ‘active’, and come with few side effects.
Whether it’s a cream, balm, spray, brush on liquid or otherwise, each of these products usually work by numbing the area and limiting the amount of stimulation the person in question experiences. Since every body is different, some will work and some won’t. The key is to not judge them all by the same measuring stick and instead experiment with the various options available until you get the desired results. Below I’ve listed some of the different products on the market along with a mini review of each one.
Warning: Because these products work by numbing the area it’s advised that you pay close attention to what you’re doing at all times. Any time you can’t feel yourself, or your partner, there is a risk of unintentionally hurting yourself or them. While I’d advise products like this for external use (clitoris, penis) I would NOT suggest them for use internally, whether it’s vaginal or anal. If you want to use something for those purposes you’re better off getting a product that either relaxes the area or enhances sensation. On that note, it’s always better to use the amount specified on the directions – using more doesn’t always mean you’re going to get better results. Lastly, if you’ve decided to use a condom as your form of protection, it’s a good idea to stop every so often and make sure the condom is still intact/on… if you’re numb you likely won’t be able to tell if it’s ripped or has come off.
Big thanks to the folks at PinkCherry.com for sending all the products my way! Without them, a post with this much info would not have been possible!
*Since I don’t have a penis to try these products on, I’ve enlisted the help of some very close friends who’s opinions and feedback I trust. Names have been omitted out of respect for privacy.
China Brush ($12.99 – $19.99)
The watery brown liquid comes in a tiny 3ml sized bottle with limited info on the packaging and an almost complete lack of info on the bottle. If you’re worried someone might find it and know you’re using a dick ointment to last longer, I think you should be fine.
My tester applied the product as directed – a small (and I mean small) amount under and around the sides of the glans (head) of his penis, the same small amount on the shaft, then sat back and waited. At first he said there was no real sensation, just a slight warming so he added more. After about 5 minutes he said there was a hot and cold sensation that felt slightly like he had put A535 on his dick (no erection). After another 10 minutes he said it felt warm, not as cool, and started to go numb (only a slight erection). After a half hours time he said he didn’t feel much so he decided to add another product for effect… BAD IDEA!!! From there the ‘experiment’ went south, as did any hope of an erection.
To put it in his words (this is going to be potentially inappropriate – just know I gave you fair warning)
You know the day after you eat really spicy chicken wings and use the can and your ass hurts after? You know, like you shat a hot pepper? Well yeah, that’s what the tip of my dick felt like.
Let that be a lesson to all of you, unless you know what your doing and how things work, do not mix them or add more!
After the experience he got up the balls to try the product again, this time in a smaller amount and only applied it once. He said it felt the same way at first but after about an hour the discomfort had subsided and left him feeling numb but aroused. Intercourse felt slightly different, with the shaft of his penis being far more sensitive and the head being less so. The orgasm was also more intense, though he “wasn’t quite sure of timing the shot” as the tip of his dick was numb (I’ll admit, that last bit had me laughing uncontrollably at the visuals).
Ingredients: Fructus Cnidi (Carrot family), Cortex Cinnamomi (Cinnamon Bark), Flos Caryophylli (Clove), Rhizoma Alpiniae Officinarium, Rhizoma Atractylodes, Pericarpium Zanthoxyli, Radix Angelicae Dahurica, Rice Wine
Application is rather simple, unscrew the cap and use the cotton swab (that’s attached) to apply a thin amount around the head of the penis and wait. Based on various opinions I’ve heard it’s best to wait anywhere from a half hour to an hour before engaging in intercourse. If you don’t notice anything within the first 20 minutes DO NOT ADD MORE. Instead wait for it to take affect. If you use too much too soon you might not have a very good experience.
*Note: it will not desensitize your partner should they come into contact with it.
In regard to how it works I have to be honest, I’m not exactly sure. Having said that, all of the ingredients are natural and have been known to aid in various ways; some work at numbing the skin (clove – Flos Caryophylli), others relax muscles and increase nitric oxide release (Fructus Cnidi), while others increase blood flow (cinnamon – Cortex Cinnamomi). From the sounds of it, there’s quite a bit going on here.
Final Verdict: Smelling like an old ancient medicine and packing one hell of a punch, China Brush is a product you’ll want to use in small doses as using too much can often lead to pain, discomfort and the inability to achieve an orgasm. However if you follow the directions, don’t mix products and give it the time it needs to ‘set in’ (as per his second time around) the experience should be far more pleasurable.
Rating: 3.75 out of 5 stars (deductions for the lack of detailed instructions and ability to cause an experience known as ‘hot pepper dick‘. His words, not mine).
If there is one male enhancement spray that’s managed to last the test of time I’d have to say it’s the quick acting male genital desensitizer Stud 100. Available in 60 Countries and sold for over 20 years, with over 21 million sold world wide, this is a product that’s staying power has never failed to amaze me.
For those of you wondering how it works, Stud 100 spray contains 9.6% Lidocaine (a very effective local anesthetic used in many products) that delays ejaculation and orgasm by temporarily reducing the sensitivity of the penis. Basically put, it numbs your dick.
My tester applied 3 sprays and waited about 10 minutes then flicked the head of his dick to see if it was numb, being that he could still feel it, he applied another 5 sprays (taking him to the 8 that’s suggested).
After another 10 minutes he said there was almost no feeling so he put a condom on and went for it. He said he usually reaches an orgasm and ejaculates in about 10 – 20 minutes, but due to the numbing of his member he was able to go for about a half hour before reaching an orgasm.
When I asked him if anything was different that may have affected his experience (i.e. the mood, person involved, space etc), he said it was the same person he’s been sleeping with for some time and it was a situation and place that wouldn’t have changed the impact. In an attempt to make sure it wasn’t just a ‘one off’ I asked him to try it again – he happily obliged and followed the same steps as previously mentioned, leading to the same results. When I asked him if there were any side effects he didn’t expect, he said that it felt weird when he peed for about a half hour after (probably because he was numb), but that was about it.
*Just keep in mind that there are warnings and cautions to keep in mind like not applying on broken skin, exceeding the suggested amount in a 24 hour time span, not applying internally or ingesting, limiting the use if a rash or irritation develops etc. Pretty standard warnings if you ask me.
When it came to things that I didn’t really like there was only one – the packaging. While there is nothing on it that’s rude, inappropriate, tacky or cheesy, it’s by no means discreet; plastered on the front of the box (and spray bottle) are the words “Male Genital Desensitizer“. For as much as I’ll tell you there’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of, I know there are many of you that would be mortified if someone happened to come across it. Having said that, keep in mind that it is a small bottle that would be easily stored and hidden inside another container or drawer.
Applying the product is very simple; spray between 3 and 8 pumps of the clear liquid on the penis 5 to 15 minutes before intercourse, give it a chance to kick in, and when the penis begins to feel numb, you’re good to go.
*Note: the amount used will depend on a persons personal needs, but for the most part 5 pumps should do it. Unlike China Brush, this can potentially numb your partner(s).
Fortunately Stud 100 has much to offer as it’s non-toxic, odorless (for the most part there’s no scent, just a slight minty undertone), ozone friendly, easy to apply, has little to no negative side effects, begins to work within 3 – 5 minutes and can be used with latex condoms. Just keep in mind that you’ll need to give it time to ‘set’ before you let your partner give you a blow job – yes, it can and does also numb the mouth.
Final Verdict: Considering that this is a product that actually does what it says it does, at an affordable price, with an ease of application and limited negative side effects, it’s definitely one I would suggest trying.
Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
Rocket Balm ($13.99 – $15.99)
For those of you looking for a balm, rather than a spray or liquid, the tingling sensation provided by the ‘all natural’ Rocket Balm is one you won’t want to over look.
One of the things I love about this product is the fact that it’s basically all natural and doesn’t contain any harsh chemicals or cheap fillers. When it comes to the list of ingredients there’s only 10 – all of which are derived from ‘natural’ sources and are things you’d likely find in a massage oil or candle: almond oil, coconut oil, beeswax, shea butter, menthol, peppermint oil, methyl paraben, bht, ginseng, wild oat extract – that’s it.
*Because it contains natural oils it is NOT compatible with latex, if you’re going to use this for intercourse make sure you have another method of protection available.
After the experiences he had with the other products he went easy on the Rocket Balm and only applied a very small amount to the shaft of his penis. He said he could feel the tingly and warm sensation almost instantly, but that it didn’t burn, hurt, sting or irritate like he expected. He said that although it didn’t really do much by way of numbing or delaying his orgasm/ejaculation, that it did actually help him maintain a certain level of arousal simply because it was such an interesting sensation. When I asked him what he thought of the product over all he said it was one he’d try again and was very pleased with the results – I guess 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.
The packaging (pictured left) is respectful and professional, while also being fun and playful. Other than the word “orgasm” written on the back of the box there isn’t much to worry about. Out of the box you’ll find a silver tin with stickers on the front and back, the front being like the circular design pictured left and the back offering information on how to use it and the ingredients.
This smooth and creamy balm has an opaque white appearance when in the tin (due to the large amount) but glides on clear during application. It’s by no means runny, fluid or chunky and warms wonderfully, allowing it to spread very well over the skin, absorbing quickly and leaving you soft and supple. There’s a minty scent that’s fresh but sweet (it reminds me of spearmint gum and tastes like it too) with a slight hint of coconut – unlike like the China Brush which had a horrible medicinal scent and taste to it.
Applying the product is very easy, just slide your fingers over the top of the balm and gently massage a small amount onto the desired area (shaft, head of the penis, testis etc) until it’s fully absorbed. Almost instantly you’ll notice a slight warm and tingling sensation that’s arousing and heightens any stimulation received.
*Note: like any other product, if an irritation, rash or a burning sensation occurs discontinue using it and wash the area well – cool water is usually best.
Final Verdict: When it comes to making purchases that are in alignment with being eco-friendly and ‘all natural’, Rocket Balm has both bases covered. Aside from also being affordable and discreet, it does exactly what it says it will – without some of the nasty side effects my poor tester previously experienced.
Rating: 4.75 stars out of 5 (deduction because it really doesn’t taste that great and isn’t latex compatible)
Specially Lubricated Condoms ($10.29 – $12.99)
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best kind of sex is safe sex – and yes, I really do mean that! There is nothing worse than finishing an amazing session and being terrified you may be pregnant or have contracted an STD (I hear it all the time). Having said that, one of the best options available for male enhancement is one that mixes pleasure and safety, allowing you to play to your hearts content without all the worry that sometimes comes with it (assuming you’re using condoms correctly).
Although there are many condoms on the market that offer this type of option, one of the best I’ve come across is the Durex Performax or Trojan Extended condoms; they’re just like other latex condoms, only they have a ‘climax control lube’ applied to them. Unfortunately there is no full list of ingredients whether you’re looking at the packaging, internal leaflet or condom wrapper – but there is Benzocaine (as stated on the box). Considering it’s the same ingredient found in many over the counter tooth and pain medications/topical ointments I’m not surprised that they work so well.
The first friend, a female, was told to give hers to her boyfriend (with his permission of course) and to have him tell her what it was like. He said it felt just like a regular (non enhanced) condom and that it wasn’t until about 5 minutes in that he felt his dick starting to go numb. At first it freaked him out, which is understandable, but after 15 minutes of having the condom on he realized he was going for a far longer period of time than usual. Because he wasn’t feeling much (genitally) it enhanced the sensations he felt on his balls and inner thighs, and allowed him to go for over a half an hour before ejaculating. Considering his partner usually takes a very long time to orgasm herself, she said it was “the breakthrough they needed”. When I asked about dislikes they didn’t really have anything to offer.
The second friend used it with his partner and had a similar experience. It wasn’t until about 5 – 10 minutes in that he realized he wasn’t feeling much genitally. He too said it kind of freaked him out, but that since he knew what was going on he didn’t really pay it much mind. When I asked him if there was anything he didn’t like he said he didn’t have any complaints, just the opposite – he liked the way it was internally lubricated and therefore didn’t ‘stick’ to him like other condoms, the sensation, or lack thereof, was very interesting and it was all around one of the better condoms he’s used.
*Note: because they are made of latex you’ll want to steer clear of any lube that contains oil, you’ll also want to make sure you don’t have a latex allergy. Because they contain Benzocaine you should treat them like other male enhancement products and remove them should any rash, irritation or discomfort ensue.
Final Verdict: Speaking from personal experience, I absolutely love these condoms and have for quite some time now. They’re easy to apply, don’t feel like much, provide the reassurance and peace of mind that safe sex practices tend to offer, while also allowing partners to enjoy their experience… sometimes for a little longer than originally planned. If you find that the sprays, ointments, creams and balms just don’t work for you, you may want to look into what desensitizing condoms have to offer (as an added bonus they don’t stink like many other condoms – how they pulled that one off I’ll never know).
Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
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