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Q&A w/ Kara_Sutra: The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

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Question

I recently got into a new relationship and we’re planning on having sex soon (I’m a gay male by the way). The problem is that I’m not that experienced, both with partners and toys (and condoms for that matter).  I’d like some help where lube and condoms are concerned. Do you have any lubes that you’d personally recommend, preferably silicone for anal play?

Also, would you have any flavored lubes that you’d recommend? We’ve tried a bunch of cheap samples we bought at a local novelty store and they were all pretty gross. Most of them were really thick, sickly sweet, and kinda burned our mouths. We obviously don’t need them to have a good time, but sometimes it’s fun to try new things. Any suggestions would be great.

Finally, I’m not that sexually experienced and quite nervous. Do you have any tips for a first timer?

 


 Answer

Whether it’s anal, vaginal, or otherwise, first times can be overwhelming and scary.  Trust me I know, I’ve been there. At some point we all have. With that in mind, the discomfort you may encounter during first time anal sex could be minimum or very intense depending on how relaxed you are. It’s for this reason that I created a post on anal sex tips for beginners, all designed to help make things a bit more comfortable and fun. I suggest reading the full post just so you’re not missing anything. In the meantime, I’ve copied the most valuable info below.

Sh*t Happens… Sometimes.

Before I get into the how-to’s of comfortable butt play, I think it’s worth mentioning the one thing most people are afraid of… having their partner remove whatever they’ve inserted and it being covered in shit. Yes, I really did write that and I really am going there.

The truth of the matter is sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn’t. It can be as little as a tiny speck or a lot (though that’s usually not the case), or sometimes there’s nothing at all. Diet have have an affect, as can how recently your last bowel movement was.  If it’s something you’re really worried about make sure to go beforehand, don’t eat foods that you know make you feel gassy or have to go (avoid fatty, fried, and spicy food as well as caffeine), and try using a quality douche to clean yourself out.

At the end of the day any time you engage in butt play there’s a chance shit will happen. It’s normal, natural, and should be expected. Sure, it can be embarrassing but if you’re having sex with a great lover that’s mature, understanding and informed, it doesn’t have to be.

Now that that’s said and done let’s get on to questions at hand…

First Time Anal Sex Tips

Before engaging in full anal penetration it’s a good idea to take some time to warm up; relaxing breathing exercises, meditating, and getting comfortable with your partner will prove helpful in the long run. Remember, the more relaxed you are the more relaxed your muscles will be. This will go a long way when it comes to inserting a toy, finger, or penis comfortably.

After you’ve added some lube, add a finger and just a finger; trying to insert a penis right off the bat can be a shock to the system. Likewise, going too fast too soon can cause you to tense up, leading to a painful experience rather then a enjoyable one. By using a finger you prep the body, stretch the muscles, and allow yourself time to get used to the feeling.

Once the finger is inserted, have your partner leave it there until you’re totally comfortable and relaxed. Tell them not to thrust or move it around… just insert it and leave it.

When you’re ready have them slowly remove the finger. Doing it quickly can cause you to tense up, so make sure to go slow. From there I suggest adding more lube and a toy. You’ll want one that’s on the smaller side, flexible, made of 100% silicone, and has a flared base like the Small Tantus Silk (pictured right). This will give you the opportunity to work up to something larger with minimal discomfort.

Whether you decide to continue with a finger, toy, or penis, have them thrust gently in the beginning. Take your time, relax into it, and try to enjoy the moment.

I know we see the people of porn taking it like champs, but they’re trained professionals. It’s what they do for a living.  You’re not expected to take a pounding the first time around. It’ll likely take a few tries, or maybe you won’t ever feel comfortable doing that. Either way, it’s totally okay and normal.

If you’re partner is having a hard time inserting, try doing it doggy style. This may make it easier as you’re the one determining how far it gets inserted and at what speed.  Simply have your partner on their knees staying as still as they can. Then slowly back up onto it. Once they’re inside you can find a pace and depth that’s comfortable for you.

Finally, be gentle with yourself and know that if at any time you want to stop there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s your body, you get to call the shots.

The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

Silicone Lube Options

Best Condoms and Lube For Anal SexSince the anus doesn’t self lubricate you’re definitely going to want to invest in some good quality lube. Most silicone lubes are very similar; they’re condom compatible, will maintain a slippery consistency and wont dry out like water based lubes, are tasteless and odourless, are glycerin/paraben free, and are great for use in the shower. Personally I use Sliquid Silver, Premium System Jo, Sliquid Silk, Pjur, or Pink (it says it’s for cis women but it’s almost the same as Pjur, just a little thinner consistency). They’re all affordable, quality lubes, made by companies I trust.

If you’re wary of pain and want something that will relax your butt without numbing the area (which can be dangerous since you’re unable to feel tearing), I highly suggest Analyse Me Spray by Pjur. I’ve also heard really great things about Intimate Earth Ease Lube (pictured left). Rather than using benzocaine or lidocain (numbing agents), Intimate Earth uses Bisabolol (a component of chamomile essential oil) which will relax the area while also potentially providing anti-irritant, anti-inflammatory, and anti-microbial benefits.

Of course there are some drawbacks to using silicone lubes; they have the potential to stain fabrics, you’ll need soap and water to fully remove them, and they can break down silicone toys. If you’re nervous about ruining a toy just do a patch test on the bottom of it to see if it’ll be an issue.

Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex - Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based LubeWater Based Lube Options

I know you specifically asked for silicone lubes, but I figure it’s always good to have options.

For water based I tend to go with Sliquid H20 because it doesn’t have the shitty chemicals most others do (the people behind the company focus on body safe ingredients so that helps). It also doesn’t get sticky or tacky quickly. It still will a bit, all water based lubes do, but it’s not as bad. If it starts to dry you can easily use spit or water to get it slippery again. When I’m out of Sliquid I use Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based Lube (pictured right) or Slippery Stuff it’s more of a gel consistency but melts quickly with body heat.

Flavored Lube Options

As for flavored lubes System Jo and Sliquid Swirl are great if you like fruitier flavors. If you’d prefer something that tastes like dessert Wet Warming Desserts and Wicked Sensual Care have the biggest varieties.

Cherry Vanilla Sliquid (pictured left) is my favorite (check my Cherry Vanilla Sliquid Review here). It’s light and fruity with a hint of vanilla. Not at all thick or gross, and didn’t leave a bad after taste.  More than that it didn’t burn my throat or tongue. If you want to sample them before investing in a larger size, the Lip Lickers Cube from Sliquid has 4 different flavours you can try. I can’t recommend Sliquid enough!

Wicked Sensual Care has 10 different dessert flavored lubes with most of them being what you’d typically expect. From Salted Caramel to Vanilla Bean, Sweet Peach to Candy Apple, they’ve got all the bases covered. With regard to price points, they come in two different sizes so you don’t have to break the bank if you’re not sure about a flavor.  I find they’re a bit sweeter, not too syrupy (considering the flavors), have a nice consistency (not sticky or tacky), and a little goes a really long way.

Going back to 2010, System Jo made the first flavored lubes I really liked. The flavors are light, the lube isn’t too thick or goopey, and the feeling is more like a slippery silicone lube than water based.  My faves are Chocolate Delight (my review), Tangerine Dream (it tastes like a Creamsicle), and Banana Lick. They also just came out with a ‘Candy Shop‘ line, I’m excited to try the Cotton Candy and Butterscotch flavors.  There’s a whole bunch more on the System JO website.  If you want a bit more info here’s my review of System Jo fruit flavors.

Condoms I’d Recommend

Condom wise, you’ll likely want one that’s barely there. If neither of you have a latex allergy you should enjoy One Vanish, Skyn, Kimono Micro Thin, and Trojan Bareskin. I’ve tried them all and think they’re some of the best around. You can usually find good deals on the Undercover Condoms website in their ‘bulk’ section.

Even though you’ll be using lube you’ll benefit from lubricated condoms as they’ll reduce any chance of friction. Just make sure not to use one that has Nonoxynol-9 as it can actually increase your chances of contracting an STD/STI. Also, don’t go for Magnums unless you absolutely need the larger size.  An improper fit can slip off during intercourse, which defeats the purpose of wearing it in the first place.  If you’re not sure what size will work best for your needs, this condom sizing guide should help. There’s also my succinct beginners condom guide.

Hopefully this post helped you to not only find a lube and condoms that works for your needs, but also gave you some valuable information on how to make your first time an enjoyable one.

I linked you to the places I shop online, support and trust. If you’d prefer to shop somewhere for reasons of discretion I’ve also linked to Amazon. If you find any of the products I’ve mentioned cheaper elsewhere please let me know so I can pass on the savings other readers.

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#FunFindFriday: The Dragon by Traz

 

 

When I entered the sex toy industry 10+ years ago there wasn’t a lot available in the realm of penis oriented masturbation products. Sure, there were more than a handful of decent options, but for the most part the products being made weren’t body safe, looked cheap, tacky, or hideous, and didn’t make much of an effort to be original, let alone inspired. Thankfully things have progressed and a variety of devices have made their way to market offering new and innovative ways to get off… enter The Dragon by Traz!

Needing to know more about the colorful and intriguing design, I went right to the source, asking the Marketing Chief at Traz if he’d be willing answer a bunch of questions about The Dragon. Thankfully he very graciously obliged. Big thanks to Craig for taking time out of his busy schedule, I totally appreciate it.

The Dragon by Traz - Swinger

The Swinger by Traz

1. What motivated you to create ‘The Dragon’?

While there are plenty of masturbation devices to choose from, it’s just one sensation. Meaning whatever the design and texture of the canal, that’s what you feel … over and over and over. We’re all about our customers and and it just seems unfair that in order get more than one sensation, you need to buy more than one device or multiple sleeves for the same device. And that can get expensive in a hurry. So we developed The Dragon to give users the choice of pretty much unlimited sensations … or as we refer to them, hundreds to thousands of fantasies all in one masturbation device.

Just like you like to change it up with your partner … why shouldn’t you be able to do that when masturbating? We did some basic calculations based on our most popular Dragon model, The Swinger – it provides 385 different experiences. Someone would have to spend over $26,000 dollars to get that many different masturbation devices. We’re not even sure if there are 385 different such devices available. So, it’s about putting freedom in the hands of our customers when it comes to how they want to orgasm.

2. How is The Dragon by Traz different from other products on the market?

Two big differences make The Dragon by Traz the most advanced masturbation device … ever. First, you can enter from either end. The Dragon by Traz accommodates a different orifice at each end … it’s dual entry. Secondly, five distinct, interchangeable pleasure rings are housed in The Dragon’s “Fantasy Silo.”

Let’s start with the benefit of “dual entry”. Imagine you’re rocking along and you’ve penetrated through the vagina orifice, but you want to switch it up mid-stream … you simply flip over The Dragon by Traz and and slide in through the butt or mouth orifice. It’s just that easy. But, that’s just the start. I mentioned the five distinct pleasure rings. Each ring has a different diameter opening as well as a distinct textured canal creating a different sensation. For example, take the “Give and Go” ring. You’ll swear there are four free floating fingers twisting and wrapping around your shaft as you move in and out. And here’s how users can have many, many different fantasies. Simply change the order the rings in the “Fantasy Silo.” It clicks open and you can rearrange them in any order. Remember – each ring is unique – different size opening and different textured canal. This means different sensations as you move back and forth through each one. It’s really mind blowing.

And get this, users can choose two different style opening diameters, depending on their preference – there’s “just right” and “super tight.” Customers can specify their choice when ordering.

Also, we know people like it different ways, so we designed three offices for The Dragon – Vagina, Mouth and Butt. That also leads to the every increasing number of fantasies available for everyone that wants to “ride the Dragon.” Also, customers will have no problem distinguishing one pleasure ring from another with just a glance. Each are a different color.

The Dragon by Traz pleasure rings and orifices

Dragon Pleasure Rings & Orifices

3. Speaking about the pleasure rings, each of them look amazingly detailed, what was the process/how long did they take to craft, and how did you choose each design?

First we polled users to get a sense of what sensations they found most pleasurable, most exiting and stimulating. As you can imagine we heard a lot of varying answers, descriptions and desires. We also asked them to describe the sensations of three different types of penetration; vaginal, oral and anal. We used those answers to help influence our designs. Take for example the description I used earlier for the “Give and Go” pleasure ring. Many we asked described that slight twisting action partners will use when giving them a hand job and also during oral sex. We took that data and then set out to design an inner set of textures to try and duplicate that sensation.

It took us about 14 months of literally about 150 different prototype molds to come up with our first set of 15 rings. As part of this initial launch we’ve introduced the first set of five. As mentioned previously we created two versions of those first five – “just right” and “super tight.” We’ll release the next set of five sometime in late Spring and the third set at the beginning of Fall.

For those interested in each of the The Dragons pleasure rings sensations, here’s what they feel like (*color coded to match the rings):

  • Pleasure N’ Pleasure – That real vagina sensation comes from 8 mini rings within the ring – four tight and four a little looser.
  • Ten and One – It’s like being licked as you move into a tighter center. The dual ribs on both side of the narrowing shaft really do a number.
  • Full Throttle – You get that gentle grip and drag sensation found only in a real partner.
  • Stacked Desire – A little pull and tug action from three softly ribbed openings.
  • Give and Go – It’s like the best hand job you ever had … you know that twisting action that really heightens how it feels.

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4. Why did you choose silicone material over other available options?

When we founded the company, we purposely decided to make the highest quality adult toys possible. And today, the absolute best material is medical grade silicone. First and foremost it is body-safe. Also, it’s durable requiring no special powders, creams, etc. to keep it in pristine condition. Clean-up is snap – simply use soap and water.

5. What can we look forward to in the future from Traz?

We’re developing a new version of our Rhino Penis Extension. Customers have asked if we could create an extension that worked as well as the original Rhino, but looked more like a real penis. It was important to first determine if our patented “no slip grip” design would perform as it does with the original Rhino’s more cylindrical shape. I’m happy to report we have a working prototype that we will put into production in late March. If your readers have suggestions for what they think would be a good name, we’d love to hear them!

Wanna be the first to know when new products come out? Of course you do! Make sure to follow Traz on Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube.

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Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales: 2015 Edition

Rather than leaving you to click around in search of the best Black Friday and Cyber Monday sex toy sales, I’ve conveniently listed all of my faves below. Consider this a token of my appreciation for your support over the years. That and a way of getting you to buy quality sex toys at a fraction of the cost, ’cause that’s just how I do.

Like last year I tried to streamline this as best I can, but if you’ve got some time to spare, I suggest doing a quick scroll through all the deals – that way you’ll be sure to get exactly what you want at the best prices. Beware, the list this year is long and surprisingly detailed… that’s what you get when I spend 3 days jumping between sites, comparing prices, emailing manufacturers for advance notice, and doing my damnedest to help you save!

Want to thank me for hooking you up? Just remember to clear your cookies and cache before you link to your favorite store, that way you can be sure I’ll make a tiny commission anytime you shop. It’s usually not a lot of money, but it’s enough to keep me doing something I love.

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Black Friday Sex Toy Sales 2015

If you don’t feel like reading everything, or if you’re easily overwhelmed by big posts, here’s a no bullshit list of the very best deals I could find for some of the very best products…

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Click the links below to go straight to my favorite retailers

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Tantus Black Friday Sales

Tantus Black Friday Banner Tantus, the makers of some of the worlds best silicone toys, one of my absolute most favorite companies ever, has a bunch of major sales going… if you don’t yet own anything by them I HIGHLY suggest you take advantage while you can and treat yo self! You’ll thank me for it later, promise!

As for why you’d want everything Tantus makes; they’re 100% medical grade silicone and won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria, are phthalate and latex free (no toxins here!), are easy to care for and clean, come in a variety of amazing colors and styles, have the very best customer service, and most importantly – the toys they make will last you a lifetime with a minimum amount of care. Yes, you’ll spend a bit more than you would on some shitty jelly toy, but you’ll NEVER have to replace them (saving you money in the long run!). If you still aren’t sure about Tantus I suggest you watch my Tantus Haul video and read about why I’ve loved Tantus for the last 10 years.

Now that I’ve got that out of the way, let’s move on to the sales…

  • First and foremost, the grab bag section has products that are already heavily discounted, we’re talking excessive savings on a normal day… well, right now they’ve got a ‘Buy 2 Get 1 Free‘ deal going so you can save EVEN MORE MONEY! If you don’t care too much about the colors, but want a kick ass toys that are made to last a life time, start here!

Black Friday

  • Taking it one level further, today through Sunday Nov 29th at 11:59pm you can BUY 1 GET 1 FREE on EVERYTHING TANTUS MAKES, which is rare! The only items it doesn’t include are lube and non Tantus made stuff. But honestly, you can get that anywhere else so no loss. My suggestion, if there’s something you’ve ever wanted that’s really expensive – like a feeldoe for strapless strap-on sex or a giant toy like their Amsterdam, this is a perfect opportunity to grab it and get something else of equal or lesser value FOR FREE.

Cyber Monday

  • If you missed the BOGO sale Tantus, Inc.had, no need to worry, you can save 40% for a limited time on you ENTIRE purchase! Use code ‘MOANDAY’ from 11am – 3pm pst and save. Get the deals here –> http://bit.ly/1hR1Ekk
  • Don’t forget, you also get U.S. free shipping with orders over $100+, international is free with orders $200+.

Not sure what to buy?

I’ve included some of my fave items below.

There are obviously other things they make that I love, so if you have any questions feel free to ask.

When looking at prices remember it’s a “Buy 1 Get 1 Free” sale!

Tantus Uncut #2

Uncut #2 ($99)

Tantus Adam O2

Adam O2 ($108)

Duchess ($87)

Tantus Flurry O2

Flurry O2 ($72)

Tantus Charmer

Charmer ($52)

Slow Drive

Slow Drive ($44)

Curve

Curve ($68.22)

Plug Kit ($68)

T-Rex ($110)

Anaconda ($63)

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Fleshlight Black Friday Sales

If there was ever a product range that gave me “penis envy”, it would be made by Fleshlight. Don’t know what a Fleshlight is or why you NEED one? Check the video above, I made it and it explains everything (if you can’t view it here, you should be able to watch on YouTube here).

As for deals, they always have something going on… and Black Friday at Fleshlight is no exception! I’ve listed the sales by percentage below, that way you’ll be able to easily snag the best ones without having to hunt around the site.

HINT: you’re going to need renew powder to keep your Fleshlight like new, but rather than spending so much on such a small bottle, you’d be better off getting a larger bulk package of corn starch on Amazon. It’s basically the same thing at a fraction of the cost.

DOUBLE HINT: If you want to save a bit more on the Fleshlight Launchpad and don’t mind shopping elsewhere, Babeland has it for only $18.

*Note: I’m showing the U.S. prices, for Canadians it’ll be slightly higher. Also, each sale image takes you to the general sale page.

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SheVibe Black Friday Sale BannerI’ll be honest, I’ve loved SheVibe since the very first day I saw their website 6+ years ago; the graphics are amazing, the prices are some of the lowest you’ll find, the site itself is ridiculously easy to navigate, they focus on carrying body safe options, and the customer service is fabulous. If there was any place I’d want all my readers to shop, it’s here!

Like last year SheVibe is doing a straight forward tiered sale deal…

  • Get 10% off when you spend $75+, plus free shipping (use code ‘STUFFING10’)
  • Get 15% off when you spend $100+, plus free shipping (use code ‘STUFFING15’)
  • Get 20% off when you spend $125+, plus free shipping, plus a free gift (use code ‘STUFFING20’)

Not sure what to snag?

I’ve got a few ideas that’ll save you even more loot…

Right now my favorite g-spot vibe is the L’amorouse Rosa; the vibrations are deep and rumbly, the body safe silicone is smooth, supple, and so lovely to touch, there’s 9 different vibration settings to go through, it’s rechargeable, waterproof, whisper quiet, and the curve is like nothing I’ve ever experienced. Although it’s not the cheapest toy around, coming in at $144 (with “STUFFING20” discount), SheVibe has it for the lowest price I’ve seen anywhere so far.

– The Perfect G-Spot Kit

Njoy Pure Wand

Liberator Decor Throe

Decor Throe

Sliquid H2O Water Based Lube

Sliquid H20


You could pair the definitive g-spot ‘dildo’, Njoy Pure Wand for $99 (Njoy has it listed for $110) + Liberator Decor Throe for $89 (reg $120), or any of the Liberator Throes for that matter, + 4oz bottle of Sliquid H2O for $8, then use code ‘STUFFING20’ at checkout and save an additional 20%, plus free shipping! Honestly, if I could pick any combo of toys to give someone, this one would be it. If you’re a squirter you’ll thank me for this later. Promise.(*with the discount code you’re looking at saving $80 vs buying items separately at regular price!)

– Amazing Toys & Prices You Wont Find Anywhere Else –

Doxy Wand

Die Cast Doxy

Gold G-Spoon #2

Nob Seduction

Marble Shilo

Mustang Royale


The new Doxy Wand is only $104, and the ultra powerful Die Cast Doxy Wand is $152. If you love glass toys and art, you’ll definitely want to take a look at Fucking Sculptures – right now I’m lusting after the absolutely stunning G-Spot Gold #2 Medium Dildo for $104. When it comes to wood toys, NobEssence is where it’s at – I can haz Seduction for only $117?. For those of you that love the feel of silicone and want something unique, I think the lovelies made by New York Toy Collective might be right up your alley (I’d be more than happy with the blue and pink marbled Shilo!). Last but not least, I can’t speak highly enough about Vixen Creations – everything they make is just perfection. (*use code ‘STUFFING20’ to save 20% on everything pictured above).


Babeland Black Friday Sales

I don’t rep Babeland as much as I used to, it’s nothing personal, I just realized that in most cases you can get similar prices shopping companies other I love more *cough*SheVibe *cough*. Since it’s Black Friday I figured I’d check them out – you know, just in case – and actually I wasn’t disappointed.

Save 25% On Fun Factory

stronic Eins

Stronic Eins

Fun Factory Amor

Amor

Fun Factory Magnum

Magnum

Fun Factory Boss lady

Boss Lady

Tiger Vibe

Tiger Vibe


Now through 12/2 you can save 25% on all the amazing things Fun Factory makes. Very rarely will you find their stuff on sale, so this is a big deal. Personally I’d suggest anything in the Stronic line – instead of vibrating they thrust. Yes, you read that right. There’s also the Amor and Magnum dildos, I love them both equally. Actually that’s a lie, my vagina belongs to the Amor. Vibe wise the Boss Lady is pretty badass. So is the Tiger Vibe.

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PinkCherry

PinkCherry is often the first place I check when it comes to sex toy sales. This Black Friday however, they aren’t as flush as years prior. That doesn’t mean you can’t snag something kickass… it’s just a matter of knowing where to look. My fave deals are listed below.

* Use code ‘CYBER’ when you checkout to save.

Bathmate Penis Pump

BathMate Pump

WeVibe Tango

Original Hitachi

24k Gold Form 2

Liberator Wedge


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Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

 

When it comes to sexual acts, tit jobs are often one of the things I’m asked about on a regular basis. In practice it’s a relatively easy thing to pull off, though it can admittedly be a little uncomfortable, awkward, distracting, oddly funny, and weird at first… especially if you’ve never done it before or aren’t that comfortable with trying new things.

If it’s something you’d like to try, or if you’d simply like to be better at it, feel free to check out the video above and read the content below. Both have valuable insight and techniques that will have you mastering and enjoying it in no time!

What is a tit job?

Basically, it’s when someone with a dick (or strap-on) has sex with a set of tits.

The act itself is a low risk, non-penetrative form of outercourse (rather than intercourse), that involves thrusting between breasts to create friction and visual stimulation for sexual gratification. It can be used as a form of foreplay leading up to sex, combined with oral sex for greater stimulation, or used in place of sex itself.  If done safely, tit jobs allow both partners to enjoy themselves sexually without the worry of an unintended pregnancy or risk of contracting an STI/STD.

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Although it can be fun, jumping straight to it often doesn’t feel like the most natural thing to do, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be easy or effortless.

I suggest starting with some foreplay and taking the time to both get aroused.  When you feel ready slowly maneuver yourself into a position where your breasts are level with your partners penis. You can do this by kissing down their torso, moving down to give them a blow job, or lowering yourself to your knees while you undo their pants/belt/skirt etc.

Once you’ve got yourself into position you can rub their penis over your breasts and nipples. Next, add some of the lube to their penis (a teasing handjob works great), then simply place the penis between your breasts and press them together, sandwiching it in the process.  From there you should be good to go.

If it feels awkward at first don’t worry, it will get easier as you figure out what positions work best for you and your body type.

You’ll also probably find that the penis slips out easily. Again, this is totally normal and nothing to be embarrassed by. Just slide it back in and keep going.

Tips & Suggestions

While a fairly standard practice, there are tips and suggestions to help make the experience much more enjoyable for everyone involved…

Don’t Be Scared

  • The main problem I hear from my viewers is having the courage to do it, being nervous about trying it, and not feeling comfortable naked in front their partner.  All of these experiences are totally normal, natural, and should be expected, especially if it’s your first time or if you’re experimenting with a new partner. Anytime we’re naked and exposed, trying something we’ve never done before, there’s bound to be some sense of nervousness or vulnerability. The best advice I can give is to relax, have fun with it, and know that no matter what you think of your body, your partner likely thinks you’re sexy as hell and can’t wait to be naked with you.

Don’t Forget About Your Needs

  • On that note, this can be one of the least stimulating experiences for the person offering up the tits. If this is a problem for you, I have the following suggestions:
    • get your partner to reach behind and stimulate you (by hand/with a toy – works best if they’re on top straddling you)
    • if you’re kneeling with them sitting in front of you and you don’t have any hands free (because you’re using them to hold your breasts together), you can try to mount a dildo from above as if you’re riding it.
    • for better clitoral stimulation, try using a product that’s designed for hands free use like the Eva by Dame or a floor based model like The Cone.
    • if you’re still wearing undies, you could easily place a vibrator like a We-Vibe Touch inside to help hold it in place.
    • for those with an ample bosom, use your upper arms to push your boobs together. Depending on how you’re positioned you can possibly reach down and play with yourself without much issue.
    • have your partner take over holding your tits so you can stimulate yourself.
    • try incorporating a boob job with a 69 position.

Lube Is Your Friend

  • sliquid lube for tit jobsJust like having sex without proper lubrication can be uncomfortable, painful even, so can giving an unlubed boob job. There can be chaffing. Pulling of skin on skin. Friction burn. An inability to thrust completely. The dick getting stuck somewhere in the cleavage. Granted these things don’t always happen, but they can, which is why I always suggest having a good bottle of water based or silicone lube on hand. You can easily change things up by using a lubricant that cools/warms, comes in flavors (for bj’s), or otherwise.

Size Doesn’t Matter (Boob Size That Is!)

  • Contrary to what you might think, you don’t need to have huge tits to pull this off; for those that aren’t big in the boob department, I’d suggest leaning forward over your partner while they lay on their back – gravity will likely offer a bit more to work with. It probably won’t be as easy as  someone with a larger set, but it is still possible.

Explore & Experiment

  • If you want to have a bit more fun try incorporating oral sex. It might be a little awkward or uncomfortable for those lying on their backs, and you likely wont be able to deep throat very well. But it’s still something worth experimenting with.  Just remember to use a dental dam or condom to help reduce the risks of transmitting an STI.
  • Rather than using a simple in and out thrusting motion, try grabbing the breasts and jiggling them while the penis is sandwiched between.

 


Things To Avoid – Tips For Those With The Penis

  • Unless your partner says they like it, don’t just grab their tits, jam ’em together and go to town. Not only can you rub yourself raw, you can also hurt your partner with the force of pushing the breasts together, and/or the friction that’s created while you thrust. Again, I highly suggest the use of a good lube to help make the experience comfortable.
  • If your partner is going to be giving you a blow job, when your penis comes out from the top of their cleavage – go slow. I’ve heard many instances where the someone has accidentally rammed their penis in the back of their partners throat, jabbed them in the face, or poked them in the eye (seriously!) etc. Remember, this is meant to be fun… if you hurt your partner there is a very likely chance they won’t be up for doing it again.
  • realistic breast masturbatorsBe careful how you position yourself or move when kneeling over your partner (with them on their back). Often the breasts will slide and drop to the side of the body, especially for those with large breasts; if you’re not careful you could accidentally pinch or jam them between your leg and your partners body.
  • If you’ve talked to your partner and they just aren’t comfortable with the idea or don’t like giving a tit job, you can purchase  realistic breast masturbators online (pictured right). Although they’re not the real thing, they could go a long way for helping you explore and experiment without having to bother/pressure your partner.
  • When it comes to ejaculating, I highly suggest talking beforehand about what’s okay and what’s off limits. I’ve received more than enough messages from viewers who have been unexpectedly shot in the face, eye, mouth, or hair by their partner who thought it was part of the plan. Remember, communication is key.

 


Regarding Positions

A variation in positions can not only help with visual or physical stimulation, it can also help with putting either person in a place of control, while also making the experience a bit more comfortable.

*Note: Unlike the content within the video, I’m opting out of using ‘male’ and ‘female’ pronouns when suggesting positions below. Instead, I’m going to use ‘Partner A’ to represent the person with breasts, and ‘Partner B’ to represent the person with the penis/strap-on etc.

Cowboy: Partner A lays on their back while Partner B straddles their torso (kneeling), and places the penis/strap-on between the breasts of Partner A. Once in this position either partner can grab the breasts and wrap them around the penis. Because this position limits the amount of movement the Partner A has, this places Partner B in control of the rhythm, speed, and timing as to which the ejaculation and/or orgasm occurs. Also, it’s a good idea for the person on top to remember not to lean all their weight as it could accidentally make breathing difficult (for their partner).

Reverse Cowboy:  This position is like cowboy only instead of Partner B facing the partner, they’re turned to face their feet. While in this position the person on the bottom can provide oral or manual stimulation to the anus, balls, taint, or other erogenous zones, while the person on top can reach forward and manually stimulate their partner. Again, this position limits the actions of the person beneath, giving Partner B the opportunity to reach down and control the rhythm, speed, and timing when it comes to ejaculation and/or orgasm. One thing to keep in mind when it comes to the oral sex aspect is that it increases the risk of contracting an STD. As such, I suggest using a dental dam to create a barrier and limit the risks.

Standing: Pretty much what it sounds like; Parner B stands while Partner A either kneels or sits in front of them. Although this does usually lend to a more typically thought ‘submissive’ role, it actually gives Partner A a bit more control when it comes to thrusting. Depending on the heights of the people involved, as well as the way the penis curves, this position can be rather difficult or annoying for both parties. Also, depending on the size of breasts involved the act of lifting, pushing together, and holding in place can be tiring. It can also be tough on the knees and joints (use a pillow for adding padding).

Edge of The Seat: When it comes to placing Partner A in control, I’ve been told that this position is preferred.  Partner B sits while Partner A kneels in between their legs, using the legs of Partner B for support. Then, leaning forward, Partner A can place the penis between the breasts and control the speed, depth, and rhythm of thrusts. An alternative to this has Partner A sitting, with Partner B standing in front. I suggest experimenting with both positions and seeing which works best for you.

Hopefully this helped in some way and answered any questions you might have, but most of all, I hope this provided you with a new and fun way of exploring and experimenting with your partner without also having to worry about an unintended pregnancy or contracting an STD.

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Halloween Sex Toy Sales

There’s a few times a year I feel sharing sales is to your benefit, and Halloween is usually one of them. Although the discounts often aren’t as steep as the ones found on Black Friday/Cyber Monday, there’s still some pretty great deals I don’t want you to miss out on. Consider this a token of my undying love for all of you. That and my way of helping you get your hands on some of the best kick ass toys currently available!

I apologize in advance for any of the cheesy Halloween lines you’re about to read. I couldn’t help it.

So, without further ado, here’s all the sales, deals, or discounts I know about for the coming Halloween weekend…

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Tantus

If there is one thing @Tantus does well (other than making the very best toys!), it’s surprising their customers with spooktacular surprise Flash Sales!

Starting Friday Oct 30th, every night at midnight another sale will go live… but there’s a catch: you won’t know what the sales are until they go live – so keep checking, and if you see something you want just grab it! Trust me on this, Tantus stuff always sells out fast! If you want to get your hands on some of the industries very best pleasure products at a fraction of the price, I HIGHLY suggest taking advantage of this!

PLUS – use code ‘BUTTCANDY’ and you’ll save 20% on butt plugs through Saturday.
PLUS, PLUS – From Plugs, RingsVibrators, and Dildos to Feeldoes, Strap-Ons, and Sensation Toys, buy any 2 two toys and you’ll get 20% off lube or cleaner.
PLUS, PLUS, PLUS – all of the comfortable, easy to use, and fangtastic Tantus Silks are $15 off right now! That’s a savings of up to 40%! (just the single toys, not the kits)

Seriously. With all those deals, this weekend will be an amazing opportunity to save a lot of money.

*click the images to go to the sale pages

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Fleshlight

I’m not sure about the success Fleshlight is having with their Freaks on a year round basis, but Halloween is the perfect time to put them on sale for all the ghosts and ghouls! (I really don’t know where I was going with that).

For a limited time you can save 25% on the entire collection of  Fleshlight Freaks; be amazed by the awesome textures of their mind-blowing Zombie, frightening Frankenstein, “out of this world” Alien, daring Dracula, and the bionic Cyborg.

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SheVibe

My fave online retailer, SheVibe, has some great sales going this weekend;

(No coupon codes needed, free U.S. shipping with orders $79+)

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PinkCherry

Another one of my favorite sites, PinkCherry, is offering 30% off with code ‘BOO’ for their Halloween Sex Toy Sale, plus free shipping with orders $49 or more!

Some deals worth checking out:

  • On the Canadian version of the site EVERYTHING by Njoy is heavily reduced! Rarely will you find the Pure Wand for under $100 (they’ve got it for $90 with discount – regular $129, that’s a $39 savings).  The Njoy Eleven usually retails for no less than $299, with discount you can snag one for $210 (regular $299, a savings of $90) . That’s a steal!

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I’ll be adding more sales as I learn about them, so make sure to check back throughout the weekend!

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