It’s no exaggeration to say that dating is really hard. There are so many things that could go wrong; it seems next to impossible to get it right. You’re always one wrong word, action, or deed away from ruining the chances of a second date. These mistakes can be made by anyone. That said, by keeping the following in mind when on a date the likelyhood of things going bad can be minimized.
5. Don’t expect one person to pay
The days of a man taking out a woman and footing the entire bill are almost gone. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it, though. Plenty of guys feel that it’s their duty to pay for the date and will feel inadequate if they don’t. The key to it all is simply not expecting things to go one way or another. Both parties should make moves to pay for the date. If the man declines and wants to pay himself, and she’s comfortable with the idea, then by all means allow it. If the woman declines and wants to pay herself, that has to be fine as well. Offering is the most important thing to do.
4. Turning an outing into a date
There was a time when pretty much all dating started in a club or a bar. Men and women would go out with the intention of finding someone to spend time with. Those things don’t really happen anymore. A guy going out and looking for a girl will most likely end in him trying to break up a group of women that are out just trying to have fun. That’s why it’s best to set up your dates online. Sites like Fuckbook are great for finding someone to get together with.
3. Not being prepared
No one ever knows how far a date is going to go. That’s why it’s always important to be prepared for anything to happen. Nothing is worse than making your way home with someone only to realize you don’t have any protection. It’s going to be hard for the both of you to control yourselves at this point. Sure, we’re all capable of holding off, however mixing an inebriated mindset with sexual tenstion can lead to poor decisions with life altering repercussions. Simply keeping a condom somewhere on your person will let you go all the way while keeping both of you safe.
2. Being on your phone
There isn’t a single thing that turns someone off like their date being on their phone the whole time. It’s an immediate mood killer and will ensure that you don’t make it to your second date. If things aren’t going well between you, simply end the date and move on. There’s no sense in wasting hours together if you’re just going to be on your phone. If things are going well, keep your phone in your pocket. It doesn’t have any place in your date unless you’re using it to share something with the person in front of you.
1. Don’t talk about your ex
The golden rule that you must obey on a date is to keep your mouth shut about your ex. Unless you’re specifically asked about it, it’s best not to indulge. No one wants to feel like they can’t live up to the other person in your life. Don’t tell your date why it went wrong or how long you were together. None of it matters. Be in the moment with your date, enjoy yourself, engage in conversation, and be prepared for anything. That’s really what it’s all about.