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Sex Ed 102: Spermicides

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Sex Ed 102: Spermicides

Spermicides are contraceptive agents designed to kill or immobilize sperm before it can enter the uterus, helping to prevent pregnancy. Available in various forms such as gels, creams, foams, and films, spermicides are typically inserted into the vagina before sexual activity, often in conjunction with other barrier methods like diaphragms or condoms.

The active ingredient, most commonly nonoxynol-9, works by disrupting the sperm’s cell membrane, rendering it incapable of fertilizing an egg. Spermicides offer a non-hormonal option for contraception and are easily accessible over-the-counter, making them a convenient choice for individuals looking for additional protection.

However, spermicides come with potential risks and limitations. Nonoxynol-9 can cause irritation of the vaginal or rectal lining, increasing the likelihood of infection or discomfort for some users. Frequent use, particularly for anal sex or with those who engage in sexual activity multiple times a day, can lead to a higher risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV, due to the damage it may cause to mucosal tissues.

Additionally, when used alone, spermicides are less effective than other contraceptive methods, with a typical failure rate of around 21%. Therefore, it’s often recommended that spermicides be used in combination with other forms of contraception, like condoms, to maximize protection and reduce risks.

Since I create videos on the topic of being sexually educated I feel it is always important to inform you of all the pros AND cons when it comes to the decisions you make.

What is Nonoxynol-9?

N9 itself, it was originally thought that it could be used for the prevention of STD’s/STI’s however about 10 years ago it was discovered that spermicides actually INCREASE the chances of contracting infections like HIV by creating lesions on the layers of skin cells in the vagina or rectum walls, which can potentially facilitate infection. **remember what I said above, they “work by disturbing the cell membrane”

Not only that but there are other downfalls or potential dangers to using N9:

Nonoxynol-9 offers no protection against sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhea or chlamydia.
Nonoxynol-9 can damage the cells lining the rectum providing entry for HIV and other STD/STI’s
If used regularily Nonoxynol-9 can increase a woman’s chances of contracting Bacterial Vaginosis
If used regularly there are increased chances of developing a yeast infection
There have been reports of vaginal bleeding after intercourse due to misuse of spermicides containing Nonoxynol-9
Increased chances of vaginal dryness or itching after use of spermicides.

The product is so bad for you that the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) issued a final rule in 2007 that requires manufacturers of spermicidal products containing nonoxynol 9 to post the following warnings to its products; “N9 can irritate the vagina and rectum, which may increase the risk of getting HIV/AIDS from an infected partner”

The CDC (Centre for Disease Control) conducted their own study to research the effects of N9 and found that it was ineffective in the prevention of STD’s and in fact increased the risk of transmission by 50% *report can be found here: CDC N9 Aids research

As I stated I have done my best with this video to remain non-judgmental, unbiased and factual. Having said that, my Sex Ed 102 article (linked below) will be biased.

Please always look at both sides of the coin before choosing to place something in or on your body. It will save you in the long run.

For more information about Spermicides check the following links:

Sex Ed 102: Are Spermicides Safe, World Health Organization: Nonoxynol-9 ineffective in preventing HIV infection, Centre For Disease Control Letter: Spermicides might increase the risk for HIV sexual transmission, Your Contraception: Spermicides.

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Sex Ed 102 Q&A: Can you get pregnant if… ?

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Understanding Sexual Acts and Pregnancy Risk: What You Need to Know

When it comes to pregnancy, many are curious about which sexual activities carry a risk and which do not. Being that I have always striven to dispel any misinformation and/or confusion, this post is meant to breakdown the various sexual acts and the potential for pregnancy, while also explaining the science behind why certain activities can lead to conception while others cannot. Understanding these basics can help clear up any myths and ensure that individuals engage in sexual activity with greater awareness and confidence.

Vaginal Penetration and Pregnancy Risk

The most common way pregnancy occurs is through vaginal penetration with ejaculation inside the vagina or near the vaginal opening. During vaginal intercourse, sperm is released into the vagina, and if the sperm travels through the cervix into the uterus and meets an egg, fertilization can occur, leading to pregnancy. Sperm can live inside the female body for up to five days, meaning pregnancy is possible even if intercourse occurs a few days before ovulation. This is why vaginal intercourse is the act most commonly associated with pregnancy risk.

Even without ejaculation inside the vagina, pregnancy can still occur if sperm is deposited near the vaginal opening or in the surrounding area. Pre-ejaculate fluid, or “pre-cum,” may contain sperm, which can enter the vagina and lead to pregnancy under the right conditions. Because sperm is needed for fertilization, pregnancy cannot occur without some form of semen exposure to the vaginal area.

Oral Sex and Pregnancy Risk

Oral sex, does not pose any risk of pregnancy. This is because pregnancy requires sperm to come into direct contact with the vagina or cervix, which is not possible during oral sex. However, while pregnancy is not a concern, it is important to note that sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can still be spread through oral sex. Using barriers like dental dams or condoms during oral activities can help reduce the risk of transmitting infections.

Anal Sex and Pregnancy Risk

Anal sex, which involves penetration of the anus, also does not carry a direct risk of pregnancy because sperm does not enter the vagina or come into contact with the reproductive system during this act.

However, there is still a small risk if semen leaks from the anus to the vaginal area after ward, particularly if the genital areas are in close contact or if fingers transfer semen. To completely avoid the risk of pregnancy during anal sex, it is advisable to use condoms and take care during any activity that could cause semen to reach the vaginal area.

Non-Penetrative Sexual Acts: Dry Humping and Mutual Masturbation

Dry humping, which is the act of rubbing against a partner without penetration, generally poses little to no risk of pregnancy as long as there is no direct semen exposure to the vagina. This activity typically involves clothes or barriers that prevent sperm from coming into contact with the vaginal area. However, if both partners are undressed and semen is deposited near the vagina, there could be a minor risk of pregnancy, though the chances are extremely low.

Mutual masturbation, where partners stimulate each other without penetration, does not carry a pregnancy risk unless semen is introduced near the vaginal area. If hands or objects covered in semen touch the vagina, there is a small possibility that sperm could enter the reproductive tract, but this is unlikely. Washing hands and keeping bodily fluids away from the vaginal area can eliminate this risk.

Sex with Contraceptive Methods

Various forms of contraception, such as condoms, birth control pills, intrauterine devices (IUDs), internal condoms, diaphrams, and implants, are designed to reduce or eliminate the risk of pregnancy during sexual activity. Condoms act as a barrier to prevent sperm from reaching the vagina, while hormonal contraceptives prevent ovulation, meaning there is no egg available to be fertilized. IUDs create an environment in the uterus that is hostile to sperm, preventing fertilization from occurring. However, no contraceptive method is 100% effective, so there is always a small chance of pregnancy if the method is not used correctly or fails.

Final Thoughts

Understanding the risks associated with different sexual activities can help you make informed choices and reduce anxiety around pregnancy. Pregnancy is only possible when sperm comes into direct contact with the vagina and has the opportunity to fertilize an egg. Activities like oral sex, anal sex, and non-penetrative acts generally carry no risk of pregnancy, while vaginal penetration is the primary way pregnancy can occur. Using contraception and practicing safe sex are key to preventing both pregnancy and STIs, ensuring a healthier and more informed sexual experience.

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Sex Ed 102 Q&A: Can You Get Pregnant From Anal Sex?

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Sex Ed 102: Can You Get Pregnant From Anal Sex?

A common question people ask is whether or not pregnancy can result from anal sex. The short answer is no – you cannot get pregnant directly from anal sex.

Here’s why: pregnancy occurs when sperm fertilizes an egg, and for this to happen, sperm must enter the vagina and travel through the cervix to reach the uterus and fallopian tubes, where the egg is located. Anal sex involves penetration of the anus, which is part of the digestive system, not the reproductive system. Since the anus does not lead to the uterus or any part of the reproductive organs, sperm cannot reach an egg through anal sex alone.

Having said that, while pregnancy cannot result from anal sex itself, there is a small, indirect risk if semen leaks or is transferred from the anus to the vaginal area. This can happen if partners engage in both anal and vaginal activities during the same encounter or if semen comes into contact with the external genitalia. If semen is introduced to the vagina in this way, there is a potential for pregnancy.

To prevent any unwanted risk, using condoms during anal sex can help prevent the transfer of semen to the vaginal area. Additionally, condoms help reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), which can be transmitted during anal sex. In conclusion, while pregnancy from anal sex is not directly possible, taking precautions can ensure safety and prevent any indirect risks.

If you’d like to learn other ways in which you can or cannot get pregnant I highly suggest reading my other post on the subject, Sex Ed 102: Can You Get Pregnant If…?.

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What is oral sex?

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e. sucking or licking) to the genitalia. Fellatio (also known as a ‘blow job’) is the term used to describe oral sex given to someone with a penis. Cunnilingus is the term which describes oral sex given to someone with a vagina.

Is oral sex common practice?

Many studies have shown that oral sex is practiced by men and women of all ages, both gay and straight. It is a very common practice and may be performed on its own, or before or after sexual intercourse.

Is oral sex safe?

A number of studies have demonstrated that oral sex is not necessarily safe sex. Both giving and receiving oral sex can lead to the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (also known as STIs or STDs).

Which STDs are transmitted via oral sex?

The most common STD transmitted via oral sex is herpes. There are two main types of herpes simplex virus (HSV): HSV type 1 and HSV type 2. HSV type 1 usually causes cold sores around the mouth, while HSV type 2 generally causes genital herpes sores. However, oral sex can sometimes cause HSV type 1 around the mouth to be transmitted to the genital area causing genital sores in the other person. This process can also work in reverse, with HSV-2 transmitted from the genitals to the mouth of the other person during oral sex, though this is rare.

The human papillomavirus that causes genital warts can very occasionally be transmitted through oral sex, causing warts to appear around or inside the mouth in anyone who has given oral sex to an infected person.

Gonorrhea has been shown to infect the throat of some people who have given oral sex to an infected person. This infection can then be passed on from the throat to the genitals of any future partners. The body will almost always naturally clear the throat of the bacteria that cause gonorrhea within three months, although infections in the genital tract will usually require antibiotics to cure. Chlamydia can also infect the throat in a similar way, although this is less common. Both infections may result in a sore throat, although many people will remain asymptomatic and unaware they are infected.

Syphilis may be passed on during oral sex if a person’s mouth comes into contact with an open sore or a skin rash caused by the infection.

Gastrointestonal infections and parasites may be passed on during oral contact with the anus.

The Hepatitis A virus is also contained in human faeces, and may be passed on during anal-oral sex.

Hepatitis B is contained in sexual fluids and blood and may be transmitted during oral sex in a similar way to HIV (see below).

Hepatitis C is generally only contained in blood, and will only be transmitted if there is blood present during oral sex.

Can HIV be transmitted during oral sex?

HIV can pose a small risk for both the active (person giving the oral stimulation) and receptive (person receiving oral stimulation) partner.

Transmission from an HIV positive receptive partner to an HIV negative active partner may occur when the active partner gets sexual fluid (semen or vaginal fluid) or blood (from menstruation) or a wound somewhere in the genital or anal region) into a cut, sore, ulcer or area of inflammation somewhere in their mouth or throat. The linings of the mouth and throat are very resistant to viral infections such as HIV, so infection is unlikely if they are healthy.

Transmission from an HIV positive active partner to an HIV negative receptive partner is generally believed to be less common. This is because HIV is normally only present in saliva in very low levels that are not sufficient to cause infection. The only risk in this scenario would be from bleeding wounds or gums in the HIV positive person’s mouth or on their lips, which may transfer blood onto the mucous membranes of the other person’s genitals or anus, or into any cuts or sores they may have. Hepatitis C can also be transmitted this way.

How do I protect myself and my partner during oral sex?

The already low risk of becoming infected with HIV from oral sex can be reduced still further by using condoms. Flavoured condoms are available for those who don’t like the taste of latex or spermicide. For cunnilingus or analingus, plastic food wrap, a condom cut open, or a dental dam (a thin square of latex) can serve as a physical barrier to prevent transmission of HIV and many other STDs.

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Sex Ed 102 Q&A: Can you get pregnant from oral sex?

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I’m not sure exactly where this one started, but one of the questions I’m asked far to often is, can you get pregnant from oral sex?

The short answer, no.

Brief Anatomy Lesson

In order for a pregnancy to occur, sperm must make its way into the vagina, travel through the cervix into the uterus, and make contact with an egg in the Fallopian tubes. Because the digestive system (starting at your mouth and ending with your anus) and the reproductive system don’t meet in the body, there is no way for sperm to swim through one system to the other and make contact with an egg.

Having said that, although getting pregnant isn’t possible with oral sex, contracting a sexually transmitted disease like gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, warts, herpes, or HIV is. To keep yourself safe from an unplanned pregnancy or STD, I suggest using a condom no matter what type of play you’re getting into, including oral, vaginal, or anal. If you choose to go the route of cunnilingus, I’d suggest using a dental dam to protect against STD’s.

If the taste of latex isn’t your thing, there are flavored condoms and dental dams made specifically for oral sex.

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