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Sex Ed 102: Beginners Guide To Butt Sex Toys
Just like every other sex toy on the market, butt toys come in a wide variety of colours, shapes, sizes and materials, each designed to offer a specific kind of sensation. Some target the p-spot (prostate), others provide a feeling of fullness, some allow you to become comfortable with the idea of having something in your butt, while others penetrate deeply for a fuller feeling, some vibrate for a heightened sense of arousal, while others simply let you safely explore anal play.
Regardless of what you’re into, there is something to suit your needs, it’s just a matter of finding one that works with you and your body.
Tips & Suggestions
Since there’s a lot of false information and toxic myths when it comes to butt play, products designed for anal stimulation, and our butts in general, I thought I’d fill you in on some general information and offer a few tips & tricks just to make sure you’re fully in the know before engaging.
- Desensitizing products are a no-no; although some may feel using numbing agents is a good idea, I suggest you don’t; not only do they limit the amount of control you have, they could be dangerous as you probably won’t feel any pain and therefor not know when you’re going too far too fast. Instead, you may want to consider an anal spray that relaxes the area rather than numbing it.
- Always use a product with a flared base; this is important as it will stop the product from being pulled inside, potentially saving you a trip to the doctors office. If you’re using beads, make sure to count them after. Yes, they have popped off and been lost in people before.
Choose a good quality lube; no matter what type you choose I highly suggest the use of a thick lubricant that’s very slippery and maintains its consistency. Otherwise, you’ll likely find yourself constantly have to stop to reapply. I find silicone lubricants work best (unless you’re using a silicone product, then I’d suggest something else like a good water based lube).
- No rough stuff; be sure that anything you insert is smooth and free of any jagged edges, points, or ridges, as the internal lining of the rectum/anus could be torn or scratched, potentially leading to infection.
- Never go from back to front; although you can go from vagina to anus, I highly suggest you refrain from going anus to vagina. That’s just asking for trouble. If you’re going to be sharing with a partner, I’d advise either using a condom (and changing it between partners) or thoroughly cleaning it between uses.
- Cleanliness is next to Godliness; on that note, because the anus can harbor bacteria it is always advised that you fully clean each and every product after use (that goes for everything, not just butt toys).
- Pick a body safe material; finally, when shopping for a butt toy make sure to choose one crated out of a non-porous material like glass, steel, high quality silicone, sealed wood or aluminum as they won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria like a cheap jelly or rubber toy would.
*Wanna play but not sure how to do it safely or where to begin? Check out my Beginners Guide To Butt Play as it should answer any of the questions you have.
Butt Toy Breakdown
Because there are so many different butt toys on the market, some that often beget a ‘wtf is that for?’, I figured I’d explain what the most common products are and what they’re used for.
Butt Plugs
Butt plugs are designed to be inserted into the anus and held securely in place by the sphincter muscles. These muscles naturally contract and relax around the stem and base of the plug, creating the sensation of being “plugged up” or gently filled.
Once inserted, the plug stays in position, providing a pleasurable feeling of fullness or pressure, which can be stimulating for many people. This stationary aspect makes butt plugs distinct from other anal toys, as they are meant to remain in place rather than being moved in and out.
Because many plugs come in smaller sizes, they are particularly well-suited for beginners who may feel intimidated or nervous about anal play. The smaller, tapered designs make the insertion process easier and less overwhelming, allowing users to ease into the experience. Additionally, high-quality plugs are crafted from smooth, body-safe materials like silicone, which ensures comfort and reduces the risk of discomfort or injury. Whether used for solo exploration or during partnered play, the butt plug offers a simple yet effective way to explore anal sensations in a controlled and safe manner.
*the Tantus Ryder pictured left is a good example of a body safe butt plug. Some other great plugs include the Vixen Creations Buddy, any of the Crystal Delights Plugs (comes with a genuine Swarovski Crystal in the base), any of the Njoy Pure Plugs, the newer Tantus Juice, Twist or Neo, or the ones Blush, Aneros, or Good Vibes make.
Anal Probes
While the name may sound somewhat scary (thanks to the association with ‘alien probing’), anal probes tend to be surprisingly pleasurable. Unlike plugs, which tend to be rather small, rounded, and compact by comparison, probes usually describe any type of longer sized intimate accessory that offers deeper anal penetration.
They’re typically slender, smooth, and come in various sizes to accommodate different levels of experience and comfort, the Mason Vibrating Silicone Anal Probe pictured right is a good example of a body safe probe.
Like other sex toys, they can be used during solo or partnered play and can enhance sexual experiences by stimulating sensitive nerve endings in the anus. Some anal probes feature additional functionalities like vibrations or remote controls for more intense sensations.
As with any sex toy, it is important to use plenty of good quality lubricant, choose body-safe materials (such as silicone, tempered glass, ceramic, or stainless steel), and clean the probe thoroughly after each use to ensure hygiene and safety. Proper relaxation and communication with a partner are key to making anal play with probes enjoyable and comfortable.
Some other great probes include the Tantus Ripple, Quaker Silicone Anal Vibe by VeDO, Rechargeable High Intensity Anal Probe, Cheeky X-5 Beads Silicone Anal Probe, or the Boundless 6 Inch Ridged Probe.
Anal Beads
Because stimulation of the anus and surrounding areas can offer a surprising amount of pleasure, many people have shed their inhibitions and begun to explore anal play with products like anal beads.
As the name would suggest, anal beads consist of multiple balls or spheres of similar or varying sizes, which are inserted anally and removed at varying speeds during orgasm (the pleasurable feeling of having them pass through the narrow sphincter can help to enhance the experience).
Unfortunately not all beads are created equally, especially when it comes to body safe materials and overall design. Things you’ll want to consider when choosing. Always look for silicone or non-porous material for both the beads and the ‘cord’ to which they’re attached. Nylon, lycra and other fabric materials are all porous and therefore cannot be fully sterilized. Moreover, while it doesn’t happen very often (think rarely), there is the off chance that the cord can rip or come apart during use, leaving the beads inside your butt. Again, this is a rare occasion, but something to be aware of.
You’ll also want to find beads that are fixed in place, meaning they don’t move up or down the ‘cord.’ This design allows for more control and predictability during use, which can be especially important for beginners. Fixed beads ensure that the sensation remains consistent as you insert or remove them, reducing the likelihood of discomfort or unexpected movement. When using anal beads, it’s crucial to take your time, apply plenty of water-based lubricant, and always ensure there is a flared base or handle to prevent the toy from slipping inside the body. Safe use and proper care will enhance the experience while minimizing any potential risks
Absolutely no seams or sharp edges should be present, as these can cause irritation, discomfort, or even injury during insertion and removal. Always check the toy carefully to ensure it’s made from high-quality, body-safe materials that are smooth and gentle on the skin.
*the Sweet Treat Silicone Anal Beads By Evolved Novelties (pictured above right) are a good example of body safe anal beads. Some other great probes include the Graduated Anal Beads, Vibrating Progressive Beads, Anal Adventures Platinum Large Silicone Anal Beads.
Prostate Stimulator/Massagers
The prostate, often referred to as the “P-spot,” is located a few inches inside the anal canal and is a key component of the male reproductive system, responsible for producing fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. This gland is surrounded by a network of nerves that also play a crucial role in controlling erections, making the prostate highly sensitive to stimulation. Those born with female bodies don’t have one.
Many people with prostates have found that applying pressure or massaging this area can produce intensely pleasurable sensations, often leading to enhanced sexual experiences or even prostate orgasms. Prostate massage can intensify sexual pleasure by combining internal stimulation with external sensations, such as stroking the penis or perineum.
To meet this demand, there are numerous sex toys specifically designed to target and stimulate the P-spot. These toys often feature curved designs that allow for precise pressure on the prostate, sometimes with added vibrations to heighten the experience. Whether you’re seeking new avenues for sexual pleasure or exploring prostate health benefits (as regular massage is said to promote prostate well-being), prostate massagers can be a great addition to anal play stimulation.
For some it’s the sensation of ‘fullness’ that brings pleasure, for others it’s stimulation of specific areas like the ‘p-spot’ that do it, regardless of your specific likes or dislikes, so long as you’re being safe and using a product specifically designed for anal play I say embrace it and enjoy it!
Final Thoughts
Butt toys, including plugs, beads, and prostate massagers, offer a variety of ways to explore and enhance pleasure through anal stimulation. From the beginner-friendly, smaller-sized plugs to more advanced toys with vibrating features or targeted P-spot stimulation, these toys can provide a range of sensation; whether it’s the feeling of fullness, pressure, or the deeply pleasurable effects of prostate massage. When used correctly and with the right mindset, they can significantly enhance solo play or partner experiences. The key is to start slow, use plenty of lubricant, and choose toys that are designed with safety and comfort in mind, such as those made from body-safe materials and with a flared base.
As with any sexual exploration, communication, patience, and respect for personal limits are essential for a positive experience. Butt toys can add a whole new dimension to intimacy and pleasure, and with the right preparation, can be a safe and enjoyable part of your sexual routine.
Always prioritize hygiene and safety, and don’t be afraid to experiment within your comfort zone, whether you’re new to anal play or a seasoned explorer. With the right toy, you can discover new levels of satisfaction and fulfillment.
Curious about the butt toys I’ve reviewed? Head over to my butt toy review page for all the ass stuffin’ goodness!
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