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Q&A w/ Kara_Sutra: The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

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Question

I recently got into a new relationship and we’re planning on having sex soon (I’m a gay male by the way). The problem is that I’m not that experienced, both with partners and toys (and condoms for that matter).  I’d like some help where lube and condoms are concerned. Do you have any lubes that you’d personally recommend, preferably silicone for anal play?

Also, would you have any flavored lubes that you’d recommend? We’ve tried a bunch of cheap samples we bought at a local novelty store and they were all pretty gross. Most of them were really thick, sickly sweet, and kinda burned our mouths. We obviously don’t need them to have a good time, but sometimes it’s fun to try new things. Any suggestions would be great.

Finally, I’m not that sexually experienced and quite nervous. Do you have any tips for a first timer?

 


 Answer

Whether it’s anal, vaginal, or otherwise, first time sex can be an overwhelming and scary thing. Fortunatley there are some really great resources available with a quick Google search.

As for my own personal advice, the discomfort you may encounter during first time anal sex could be minimum or very intense depending on how relaxed you are. It’s for this reason that I created a post on anal sex tips for beginners, all designed to help make things a bit more comfortable and fun. I suggest you read the full post just so you’re not missing anything. In the meantime, I’ve copied some of the most valuable info below.

First Time Anal Sex Tips

Before engaging in full anal penetration it’s a good idea to take some time to warm up; relaxing breathing exercises, meditating, and getting comfortable with your partner will prove helpful in the long run. Remember, the more relaxed you are the more relaxed your muscles will be. This will go a long way when it comes to  inserting a toy, finger, or penis comfortably.

After you’ve added some lube, add a finger and just a finger; the anus has a very tight opening and trying to insert a penis can be a shock to the system. Likewise, going too fast too soon can cause you to tense up, leading to a painful experience rather then a enjoyable one. By using a finger you prep the body, stretch the muscles, and allow yourself time to get used to the feeling.

Once the finger is inserted, have your partner leave it there for about a minute. Tell them not to thrust or move it around… just insert it and leave it.

When you’re ready have them slowly remove the finger. Doing it quickly can cause you to tense up, so make sure to go slow. From there I suggest adding more lube and moving onto a toy. You’ll want one that’s on the smaller side, flexible, made of 100% silicone, and has a flared base like the Small Tantus Silk (pictured right). This will give you the opportunity to work up to something larger with minimal discomfort.

Whether you decide to continue with a finger, toy, or penis, have them thrust gently in the beginning. Take your time, relax into it, and enjoy the moment. I know we see the people of porn taking it like champs, but they’re trained professionals. It’s what they do for a living.  You’re not expected to take a pounding the first time around. It’ll likely take a few tries, or maybe you won’t ever feel comfortable doing that. Either way, it’s totally okay and normal.

If you’re partner is having a hard time inserting, try doing it doggy style. This may make it easier as you’re the one determining how far it gets inserted and at what speed.  Simply have your partner on their knees staying as still as they can. Then slowly back up onto it. Once they’re inside you can find a pace and depth that’s comfortable for you.

Finally, be gentle with yourself and know that if at any time you want to stop there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s your body, you get to call the shots.

The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

Silicone Lube Options

Best Condoms and Lube For Anal SexSince the anus doesn’t self lubricate you’re definitely going to want to invest in some good quality lube. Most silicone lubes are very similar; they’re condom compatible, will maintain a slippery consistency and wont dry out like water based lubes, are tasteless and odourless, are glycerin/paraben free, and are great for use in the shower. Personally I use Sliquid Silver, Premium System Jo, Sliquid Silk, Pjur, or Pink (it says it’s for cis women but it’s almost the same as Pjur, just a little thinner consistency).

If you’re wary of pain and want something that will relax your anal sphincter and rectum, without numbing the area (which can be dangerous since you’re unable to feel tearing), I highly suggest Analyse Me Spray by Pjur. I’ve also heard really great things about Intimate Earth Ease Lube (pictured left). Rather than using benzocaine or lidocain (numbing agents), Intimate Earth uses Bisabolol (a component of chamomile essential oil) which will relax the area while also potentially providing anti-irritant, anti-inflammatory, and anti-microbial benefits.

Having said all that, there are some drawbacks to using silicone lubes; they have the potential to stain fabrics, you’ll need soap and water to fully remove them, and they can break down silicone toys (just do a patch test on the bottom of your toy to see if it’ll be an issue).

Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex - Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based LubeWater Based Lube Options

I know you specifically asked for silicone lubes, but I figure it’s always good to have options.

For water based I tend to go with Sliquid H20 because it doesn’t have the shitty chemicals most others do (the people behind the company focus on body safe ingredients so that helps). It also doesn’t get sticky or tacky quickly. It still will a bit, all water based lubes do, but it’s not as bad. If it starts to dry you can easily use spit or water to get it slippery again. When I’m out of Sliquid I use Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based Lube (pictured right) or Slippery Stuff (it’s more of a gel consistency but melts quickly with body heat).

Flavored Lube Options

As for flavored lubes System Jo and Sliquid Swirl are great if you like fruitier flavors. If you’d prefer something that tastes like dessert Wet Warming Desserts and Wicked Sensual Care have the biggest varieties.

Cherry Vanilla Sliquid (pictured left) is my favorite (check my Cherry Vanilla Sliquid Review here). It’s light and fruity with a hint of vanilla. Not at all thick or gross, and didn’t leave a bad after taste.  More than that it didn’t burn my throat or tongue. If you want to sample them before investing in a larger size, the Lip Lickers Cube from Sliquid has 4 different flavours you can try. I can’t recommend Sliquid enough!

Wicked Sensual Care has 10 different dessert flavored lubes with most of them being what you’d typically expect. From Salted Caramel to Vanilla Bean, Sweet Peach to Candy Apple, they’ve got all the bases covered. With regard to price points, they come in two different sizes so you don’t have to break the bank if you’re not sure about a flavor.  I find they’re a bit sweeter, not too syrupy (considering the flavors), have a nice consistency (not sticky or tacky), and a little goes a really long way.

Going back to 2010, System Jo made the first flavored lubes I really liked. The flavors are light, the lube isn’t too thick or goopey, and the feeling is more like a slippery silicone lube than water based.  My faves are Chocolate Delight (my review), Tangerine Dream (it tastes like a Creamsicle), and Banana Lick. They also just came out with a ‘Candy Shop‘ line, I’m excited to try the Cotton Candy and Butterscotch flavors.  There’s a whole bunch more on the System JO website.  If you want a bit more info here’s my review of System Jo fruit flavors.

Condoms I’d Recommend

Condom wise, you’ll likely want one that’s barely there. If neither of you have a latex allergy you should enjoy One Vanish, Skyn, Kimono Micro Thin, and Trojan Bareskin. I’ve tried them all and think they’re some of the best around. You can usually find good deals on the Undercover Condoms website in their ‘bulk’ section.

Even though you’ll be using lube you’ll benefit from lubricated condoms as they’ll reduce any chance of friction. Just make sure not to use one that has Nonoxynol-9 as it can actually increase your chances of contracting an STD/STI. Also, don’t go for Magnums unless you absolutely need the larger size.  An improper fit can slip off during intercourse, which defeats the purpose of wearing it in the first place.  If you’re not sure what size will work best for your needs, this condom sizing guide should help. There’s also my succinct beginners condom guide.

Hopefully this post helped you to not only find a lube and condoms that works for your needs, but also gave you some valuable information on how to make your first time an enjoyable one.

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#FunFindFriday: The Dragon by Traz

 

 

When I entered the sex toy industry 10+ years ago there wasn’t a lot available in the realm of penis oriented masturbation products. Sure, there were more than a handful of decent options, but for the most part the products being made weren’t body safe, looked cheap, tacky, or hideous, and didn’t make much of an effort to be original, let alone inspired. Thankfully things have progressed and a variety of devices have made their way to market offering new and innovative ways to get off… enter The Dragon by Traz!

Needing to know more about the colorful and intriguing design, I went right to the source, asking the Marketing Chief at Traz if he’d be willing answer a bunch of questions about The Dragon. Thankfully he very graciously obliged. Big thanks to Craig for taking time out of his busy schedule, I totally appreciate it.

The Dragon by Traz - Swinger

The Swinger by Traz

1. What motivated you to create ‘The Dragon’?

While there are plenty of masturbation devices to choose from, it’s just one sensation. Meaning whatever the design and texture of the canal, that’s what you feel … over and over and over. We’re all about our customers and and it just seems unfair that in order get more than one sensation, you need to buy more than one device or multiple sleeves for the same device. And that can get expensive in a hurry. So we developed The Dragon to give users the choice of pretty much unlimited sensations … or as we refer to them, hundreds to thousands of fantasies all in one masturbation device.

Just like you like to change it up with your partner … why shouldn’t you be able to do that when masturbating? We did some basic calculations based on our most popular Dragon model, The Swinger – it provides 385 different experiences. Someone would have to spend over $26,000 dollars to get that many different masturbation devices. We’re not even sure if there are 385 different such devices available. So, it’s about putting freedom in the hands of our customers when it comes to how they want to orgasm.

2. How is The Dragon by Traz different from other products on the market?

Two big differences make The Dragon by Traz the most advanced masturbation device … ever. First, you can enter from either end. The Dragon by Traz accommodates a different orifice at each end … it’s dual entry. Secondly, five distinct, interchangeable pleasure rings are housed in The Dragon’s “Fantasy Silo.”

Let’s start with the benefit of “dual entry”. Imagine you’re rocking along and you’ve penetrated through the vagina orifice, but you want to switch it up mid-stream … you simply flip over The Dragon by Traz and and slide in through the butt or mouth orifice. It’s just that easy. But, that’s just the start. I mentioned the five distinct pleasure rings. Each ring has a different diameter opening as well as a distinct textured canal creating a different sensation. For example, take the “Give and Go” ring. You’ll swear there are four free floating fingers twisting and wrapping around your shaft as you move in and out. And here’s how users can have many, many different fantasies. Simply change the order the rings in the “Fantasy Silo.” It clicks open and you can rearrange them in any order. Remember – each ring is unique – different size opening and different textured canal. This means different sensations as you move back and forth through each one. It’s really mind blowing.

And get this, users can choose two different style opening diameters, depending on their preference – there’s “just right” and “super tight.” Customers can specify their choice when ordering.

Also, we know people like it different ways, so we designed three offices for The Dragon – Vagina, Mouth and Butt. That also leads to the every increasing number of fantasies available for everyone that wants to “ride the Dragon.” Also, customers will have no problem distinguishing one pleasure ring from another with just a glance. Each are a different color.

The Dragon by Traz pleasure rings and orifices

Dragon Pleasure Rings & Orifices

3. Speaking about the pleasure rings, each of them look amazingly detailed, what was the process/how long did they take to craft, and how did you choose each design?

First we polled users to get a sense of what sensations they found most pleasurable, most exiting and stimulating. As you can imagine we heard a lot of varying answers, descriptions and desires. We also asked them to describe the sensations of three different types of penetration; vaginal, oral and anal. We used those answers to help influence our designs. Take for example the description I used earlier for the “Give and Go” pleasure ring. Many we asked described that slight twisting action partners will use when giving them a hand job and also during oral sex. We took that data and then set out to design an inner set of textures to try and duplicate that sensation.

It took us about 14 months of literally about 150 different prototype molds to come up with our first set of 15 rings. As part of this initial launch we’ve introduced the first set of five. As mentioned previously we created two versions of those first five – “just right” and “super tight.” We’ll release the next set of five sometime in late Spring and the third set at the beginning of Fall.

For those interested in each of the The Dragons pleasure rings sensations, here’s what they feel like (*color coded to match the rings):

  • Pleasure N’ Pleasure – That real vagina sensation comes from 8 mini rings within the ring – four tight and four a little looser.
  • Ten and One – It’s like being licked as you move into a tighter center. The dual ribs on both side of the narrowing shaft really do a number.
  • Full Throttle – You get that gentle grip and drag sensation found only in a real partner.
  • Stacked Desire – A little pull and tug action from three softly ribbed openings.
  • Give and Go – It’s like the best hand job you ever had … you know that twisting action that really heightens how it feels.

The Dragon by Traz - Pleasure 'N PleasureThe Dragon by Traz - Ten and One  The Dragon by Traz - Full ThrottleThe Dragon by Traz - Stacked DesireThe Dragon by Traz - Give and Go

4. Why did you choose silicone material over other available options?

When we founded the company, we purposely decided to make the highest quality adult toys possible. And today, the absolute best material is medical grade silicone. First and foremost it is body-safe. Also, it’s durable requiring no special powders, creams, etc. to keep it in pristine condition. Clean-up is snap – simply use soap and water.

5. What can we look forward to in the future from Traz?

We’re developing a new version of our Rhino Penis Extension. Customers have asked if we could create an extension that worked as well as the original Rhino, but looked more like a real penis. It was important to first determine if our patented “no slip grip” design would perform as it does with the original Rhino’s more cylindrical shape. I’m happy to report we have a working prototype that we will put into production in late March. If your readers have suggestions for what they think would be a good name, we’d love to hear them!

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Save 40% On Tantus Sex Toys: Valentines Weekend Sale

As I’m sure the majority of companies have made you painfully aware, Valentines Day is right around the corner. Unfortunately it’s become a holiday filled with bullshit beliefs that if you’re not part of a couple, you just don’t deserve to enjoy the day.

In my opinion, whether you’re splurging on a 2lb box of chocolate, indulging in a luxurious soak, curling up with a good book, heading out for a night on the town, or just chillin in your onsie while streaming your fave tv shows, this holiday is a perfect excuse to treat yo’ self to anything and everything your little heart desires… especially if that means buying some sex toys to enjoy anytime you want.

Thankfully I’m not the only one that thinks this way – in an attempt to help you have an amazing weekend filled with self pleasuring and love, no matter your relationship status, Tantus is having a flash sale where you can take a whopping 40% off everything they carry!

Yes, you read that right – 40% off EVERYTHING!

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day @ Tantus

Vibrators Are On Sale Too!

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Magic Wand Original

Original Magic Wand

I love the bullet compatible vibes Tantus makes, but I’d be lost without my Original Magic Wand (was $60, now $36). Those rumbly deep vibrations, the ergonomic design, simple two power settings, cushioned head, and ease of use, are things my body lusts after. In all honestly, there hasn’t been a time it’s failed to make me orgasm, and for that I’m forever thankful.

There’s also the rechargeable Magic Wand up for grabs (was $125, now $75), as well as the new Doxy Massager  (was $130, now $78). I haven’t tried either of them yet, but I’ve heard from friends that they are both on par – if not better than the Original Magic Wand.

Tantus Haul Video Featuring My Favorite Tantus Toys!

 

 

*jump to 3:23 in the video to skip all my blabbing

If you’re not sure what to grab, I made a Tantus Haul video showcasing some of my fave products (above). It should give you a pretty good idea of the product sizes, colors, what they’re good for, and/or why I love them.

As for why you need some Tantus in your life: everything is crafted from body safe material (no worries about toxic chemicals), they don’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria (unlike jelly, tpr, or tpe sex toys – which can never be fully sterilized), they’ll last a lifetime with a minimal amount of care (this is HUGE money saver in the long run!), most are harness compatible or safe for stuffing in yer butt, and most importantly, Tantus has some of the best customer service around!

For Those On A Tight Budget

Sex Toys For Valentines DayIf you want to save EVEN MORE, this sale lets you take another 40% off already reduced Tantus grab bags… with the discount nothing is over $23!

They’re the same great products crafted from the same premium grade silicone, just mixed into a variety of shades Tantus usually doesn’t carry… I’ve managed to get some absolutely stunning color mixes this way (one is blackish purple, with a midnight purple glittery sheen). Trust me, this is a fantastic way of snagging some quality sex toys at amazing prices.

Just head over to the grab bags page, pick the toys you want, enter code “LOVEYA” during check out, and BOOM! You just got some of the very best silicone sex toys at prices that are almost unheard of.

p.s. Last time Tantus did a grab bag sale they sold out. I highly suggest you get your orders in sooner than later, this isn’t something you want to miss out on!

Need Some Help Choosing Grab Bag Items?

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Tantus Echo

Echo Grab Bag

Dildos

When it comes to g-spot stimulation I love the Tantus Echo (reg. $40, now $24). The ripples along the shaft provide an amazing sensation during thrusting and the silicone is firm, while still retaining some flexibility, squish and give, making it comfortable but highly effective. If you like textures, g-spot stimulation, or something a little different I’d highly suggest an Echo.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Tantus Vamp

Vamp

My second favorite is the Vamp (reg. $29, now $17.40). It doesn’t offer as much g-spot stimulation as the Echo, but there is a ridge where the head meets the shaft that feels glorious during use. Also, the length and girth are perfect for those times I want something slightly larger without being overwhelmed by size. As for the silicone, it’s a bit more rigid than the Echo, but still supple and retains some squish and give. If you want a dildo that has subtle nuances rather than heavy texturing, but still manages to offer g-spot stimulation, I’d go for a Vamp.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - tantus large silk

large silk

Then there’s the Large Silk (reg. $33, now $19.80) which I covered in the Tantus Haul video above.  Personally, I think the smooth seamless shaft makes this dildo perfect for deep and heavy thrusting. And although there isn’t much by way of sensation play, it glides effortlessly with a small amount of lube. It’s similar in size to the vamp, but way more flexible and not quite as heavy. If you don’t like g-spot stimulation and aren’t big on textures, but want a dildo that is fulfilling, you’ll definitely like the Large Silk.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Tantus Little Flirt

Little Flirt

Butt Play

When it comes to non-intimidating butt toys the little flirt (reg. $21, now $12.60 – pictured left), or small ripple (reg. $22, now $13), will do you just fine. Both are easy to insert and remove, have some flexibility making them very comfortable during use, the bases are flared so you don’t have to worry about them getting lost, and they really aren’t intimidating at all. When I first was introduced to butt play they were my go to. I’d highly suggest them to anyone getting started.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Tantus Ryder

Ryder

If you’re already well versed with putting things in yer butt and would prefer something a little larger, you’re going to want to grab a Ryder (reg $23, now $14.40, pictured right). It’s substantially less flexible than the lil flirt, but still has quite a bit of squish and give making it comfortable to insert, use, and remove. I don’t often venture away from my Ripple or Flirt, but when I do I opt for the Ryder (or Perfect Plug/Juice).

Regardless of what you choose I can promise each of the products listed above are amazing, I know because I own all of them.

So what are you waiting for! Head over to Tantus, find some toys you love, type in code “LOVEYA” at checkout, and snag some amazing for yourself… not just for Valentines Day, but any damn time you want! You’re worth it.

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Promescent Review

promescentNo matter how many times I cover premature ejaculation (or other erection issues), the main response I recieve from my viewers/readers is the same. Whether it’s asking about pills, creams and/or topical ointments, intimate accessories, or natural ways of obtaining results, every letter eventually leads to the question,

“…is there anything I can use or take to help me last longer and please my partner?…”

Often followed by,

“…you know, one that really works.”

It’s this continual inquiry that’s led me to sample more dick products than I care to admit. And while I may not have a penis of my own, I’m lucky enough to have a partner who’s willingly obliged to being a guinea pig for me time and time again. So when the folks at Promescent reached out and asked if I’d review their ejaculation delay spray, I couldn’t really say no. Hopefully this review will help those of you struggling with PE to find a product that might work for you.

If you don’t care about the product details, jump to our personal experience here.

What is Promescent and how does it work?

Promescent is a spray designed to delay ejaculation and orgasm by reducing sensitivity of the penis. Basically put, it numbs your dick so you can stay hard and have sex for a longer period of time.

According to the website, unlike other products that can’t be fully absorbed and therefore only affect the outer layers of skin (limiting the effectiveness and possibly transferring to the partner), Promescent uses a patented Lidocaine based formula that penetrates below the skins surface where the nerves reside. By blocking the signal of pain within the body (or any sensation, as the case may be), it offers a potential temporary solution for those suffering with premature ejaculation, without also diminishing the enjoyment of sex.

If you’re curious about the technical aspects of how it works, feel free to watch the embedded video from the Promescent website (above left).

The Good

  • promescent reivew: bottlesIt’s easy to apply and reliably sprays the same dosage amount each time (limits the chance of using too much and can be easily adjusted to suit your needs).
  • Takes effect within 10 minutes, no need to sit around waiting; you can actively engage in foreplay with your partner while waiting for the effects to kick in.
  • Because it’s absorbed by the skin it doesn’t transfer to your partner and/or reduce their pleasure, this also means you don’t need to worry about accidentally numbing their throat or mouth during oral sex. Just make sure to wash any residual spray off with a damp cloth beforehand.
  • Does not require a prescription, can be used by anyone in need of a little assistance, and is only needed when you have sex (unlike continually taking medications).
  • If you’ve ever had a hard-on that uncomfortably lasted for hours, which was my partners experience when we stupidly experimented with Viagara, you don’t need to worry as the effects should wear off between 45 mins to an hour after first application (doesn’t mean you’ll last that long, just the effects of the spray). Granted, Viagra is designed to cause and maintain an erection, but I thought it was worth noting for those that might refrain from using the spray for that reason.
  • It’s non-toxic and is the first and only spray that’s been passed by the FDA as safe for use.
  • Can be easily washed off with water and shouldn’t stain clothing or sheets.
  • For those that are engaging in safe sex practices, it’s safe for use with condoms.
  • Most importantly, it does work. Sometimes a little too well, but we’ll get to that in a minute.

Promescent Review: Personal Experience

Although there was a short period years ago where my partner had issues achieving and maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation was never an issue. Generally, for us sex lasts around 15 minutes, except in the event of being under the influence of alcohol (where it lasts longer), or really horny (intentionally, it’s over pretty quick).  Everything considered, I’d think we’re not the specific target market Promescent is hoping to reach, however it doesn’t mean we didn’t notice a difference.

Note: Before testing the product we checked online and found instances where users had gone overboard and unwittingly left themselves totally numb and unable to maintain or achieve an erection. As such, we decided it best to err on the side of caution and casually experiment with increased doses over a three week period.

Test 1:

promescent review: bottle, packaging, directionsThe first time he only used 2 sprays (instead of the suggested 3-5) directly on the underside of his penis where the head meets the shaft. Not long after rubbing it in he started to feel a slight tingling sensation, then a bit of warmth, followed by “gentle” numbness. Wanting to abide by the instructions perfectly we waited the suggested 10 minutes (the time it takes to be fully effective) before going at it. When the alarm on his phone went off signalling time was up, we headed to the bedroom to make out. Before long he had a raging hard-on and we were soaked in sweat… as expected the sex lasted longer than normal, with him finally finishing around the half hour mark.

His experience: My partner said he didn’t notice the numbness until he touched the area, and that the numbness itself was very localized.  There was no burning, tingling, or uncomfortable feeling, and the numbing allowed him to go longer without completely dulling the stimulation he received. We’re not sure if it’s something that comes with numbing one area (head) and not another (shaft), but he said the shaft was more sensitive than usual.

My experience: Because sex for us is usually unplanned and totally spontaneous, the only real difference came from knowing I was going to get laid but had to wait for it. Let’s just say I’m not the most patient person when it comes to getting dick. The sex itself was great, I didn’t feel any transference of the spray, and it appeared he had a great time too. Granted I did feel a little tender after, but thanks to some good lube I wasn’t raw or sore.

Test 2:

The second time he was a little braver and used 5 sprays. He also rubbed it into the entire length of the shaft (under the head of the penis and down the base), rather than just the underside of the head.  As with the previous experience a tingling sensation and warmth started after 2 minutes, followed by numbness. Because we were using condoms we weren’t too worried about it transferring to me so we went at it before the 10 minutes was up. Again, the sex lasted longer than normal (around 25 minutes), however we  had to stop a few times because the numbness made the condom feel weird for him (like it had slipped off or ripped). Thankfully, it hadn’t.

promescent review bottle close upHis experience: Initially he was totally aroused, but he said the lack of sensation while wearing a condom was a little alarming. Had he put the condom on after it had set, he would have known what to expect and wouldn’t have felt the need to repeatedly stop (to check the condom). He also said that ejaculating felt weird, like he could feel it, but it was ‘diluted’. Other than that, he said he liked that he could still feel me and wasn’t totally numb.

My experience: Like the first time I didn’t notice any real difference (regarding sensation) from when we normally have sex. The starting and stopping (to check the condom) was a little annoying, but something that comes with using condoms anyways. Admittedly, it was nice to go longer than usual.

Test 3:

With his curiosity peaked, my partner used 7 sprays for our third test. In retrospect, it probably wasn’t the best idea. Like our second time he applied it under the head of the penis and down the shaft. Almost instantly the sensation was warmer and more tingly than before, then the localized numbness kicked in. After 15 minutes of foreplay his penis went from a full hard on to semi-erect. I asked if everything was okay, to which he replied that it felt weird, like he was disconnected from his dick and couldn’t get it to do what he wanted. He said he was still into it mentally, but his body just didn’t want to co-operate. We gave it another 10 minutes before he washed off as best he could and called it a day. Unfortunately when it comes to products like Promescent, more does not often = better. From our experience it proved to be just the opposite.

His experience: Contrary to our previous experiences he said he was caught off guard with how much it numbed, and while there was no actual discomfort (pain etc), it was a foreign sensation that left him a little worried (read: paranoid). He said it took a good hour before his dick felt ‘normal’, which was a relief. He agreed that he probably shouldn’t have used as much, but said his curiosity got the best of him and he couldn’t resist seeing what would happen.

My experience: He’s a pretty confident guy, so watching him struggle to achieve and maintain an erection was tough. We’ve been down this road before (so I knew how to handle it and didn’t take it personally), but it didn’t necessarily make things easier either.  Knowing he was disappointed, both in the product and himself, made it harder for me to stay in the mood.

IMG_5552Test 4:

This time he balls-to-the-wall and used 10 sprays (rubbing it all over his dick). Knowing what our previous experience was like, I still don’t understand why he did it. Almost instantly his dick was tingling, followed by a slight ‘hot’ sensation (not burning), then complete numbness. At this point he wasn’t into it, but he wanted to see if we could somehow cajole an erection (so he’d know what it felt like).

No matter how hard we tried his dick remained soft. Stroking did nothing. Same for oral. No amount of titillation got so much as a muscle flex out of it. Granted he wasn’t turned on by this point, and instead treated the situation like some ill advised science experiment/challenge.

Whether the lack of erection was due to his disinterest, the product, or a combination of both, is anyone’s guess. After 15 minutes he started to get paranoid again so we gave up, he washed off, and we watched missed episodes of Parks and Rec on Netflix while waiting for him to regain feeling in his dick (took about an hour and a half for the numbness to totally dissipate).

His experience: In full acknowledgement of the ridiculous amount he used, he said he was surprised it didn’t ‘hurt’ and that there was no ‘burning’ sensation (which he expected). He said he was shocked that he couldn’t get a reaction from his dick, at all, and that the lack of responsiveness really worried him.  He also noted that peeing felt weird, and that the last 45 minutes of his dick being numb was really annoying.  After this experience he promised that if we ever used it again he’d stick with only 2 sprays.

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My experience:  As someone that doesn’t have a dick, and therefore had no idea what he was going through, this was rather traumatizing for me. Sure, I’ve seen guys struggle with achieving erections before, but to get absolutely nothing was completely unexpected and very unnerving. Thankfully there was no lasting side effects, and his dick worked perfectly fine when we had sex the next day.

Test 5:

After our last run with the spray we were admittedly a little nervous to try it again. I told him it was up to him, that he didn’t have to if he didn’t want to, but being the considerate person he is, he wanted to make sure I didn’t give a thumbs up to something that wasn’t reliable. So, off he went bottle in hand and applied it exactly as he had the during our initial test: 2 sprays directly on the underside of the head, avoiding the shaft, allowing 10 minutes to fully absorb. Even though we both were nervous the sex was great and lasted longer than usual, clocking in at around 20-25 minutes.

His experience: With the exception of being wary, his experience was similar to the first time; his sensitivity was reduced but he could still feel me enough to have a great orgasm. He also said that ejaculating felt like it usually does (instead of being weird or disconnected), and there wasn’t any discomfort.

My experience: For the most part results were the same for me, however because I felt the need to continually check in and see if he was okay, the sex wasn’t quite as intense or fulfilling (for me). Admittedly, that was my own issue and didn’t have anything to do with the product itself; the spray definitely worked, I was just over considerate. Had he not gone so far with tests 3 and 4, I think I would have had a kick-ass time.

 The Bad

  • For me, the biggest drawback is the $79.95 retail price. Having said that, most users will likely find they only need 1 or 2 sprays, in which case the cost isn’t bad (you get around 60 sprays per bottle). But if effectiveness requires needing 3 or 4 sprays (each time), overall it could end up being rather costly.
  • promescent review: full packagingThe delaying effect is temporary, and therefore isn’t a permanent solution.
  • As with many products, there is a faint smell to the spray. It’s not overwhelming, but it is there. It reminded us of the minty but medicinal Original Listerine (the yellow one). Thankfully the scent doesn’t remain for very long, and it’s not something you’ll smell unless your up close (consider this before asking your partner for a blow job).
  • If too much is used it may cause loss of erection and numbness, as well as irritation. On that note, it’s always better to use the amount specified on the directions – using more doesn’t always mean you’re going to get better results (as we proved with our tests above).
  • Because Lidocaine has not been proven to be safe for use during pregnancy, it’s not recommended for couples who are or may become pregnant.

Aside from all that, because Promescent works by numbing the area, it’s advised that you pay close attention to what you’re doing at all times. Any time you can’t feel yourself, or your partner, there is a risk of unintentionally hurting yourself or them.  While I’d advise products like this for external use, I would NOT suggest them for use internally, whether it’s vaginal, oral, or anal. If you want to use something for those purposes you’re better off getting a product that either relaxes the area or enhances sensation.  Lastly, if you’ve decided to use a condom as your form of protection, it’s a good idea to stop every so often and make sure the condom is still intact/on… if you’re numb you may not be able to tell if it’s ripped or has come off.

IMG_5561Final Thoughts

For some people the causes of premature ejaculation are more physical than chemical/mental, in which case delay products like Promescent can help tremendously. During our tests we found the spray extended the lasting time during intercourse by around 10 minutes on average (allowing for a half hour session at its most effective).  Suffice it to say we were both impressed with the results.  With that in mind, as far as temporary solutions to premature ejaculation go, this one gets a big thumbs up.

Having said that, I assume pairing it with other methods would likely offer even better results. Just keep in mind, since every body is different, some products will work and some won’t. The key is to not judge them all by the same measuring stick and instead experiment with the various options available until you get the desired results. Or in our case, experiment until you learn your lessons the hard way and end up with a dick that won’t do anything you want. From now on, we’ll be sticking with 2 sprays.

If you’d like more information I’d suggest hitting up the Promescent website, Googling other online reviews, and/or contacting them if you have questions. For those looking to try the product, you can purchase it here (I’d suggest snagging the trial size, it’s currently 50% off = $14.90 including shipping) or via the Promescent account on Amazon.

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#FunFindFriday: Hole Punch Toys

I really do hate to admit it, but after 8+ years of working in the industry I’ve started to grow bored with the vast majority of non-vibrating sex toys on the market.

That isn’t to say I think everything is bland, just that many of the highly accessible and heavily advertised ones are surprisingly uninspiring; there’s little attention paid to originality, the color choices are lackluster, there’s no freedom of artistic expression, and damn near all of them have no kick or imagination.

Talent. I’ve been missing talentcreativity… and vision.

Of course there are companies like Babes ‘N Horny, BS Is Nice, Whipspider Rubberworks, Vixen Creations,Vibeology, NobEssence, Divine Interventions, Bad Dragon, Fun Factory, Tantus, and Crystal Delights keeping it real and fresh, but in an industry that’s slowly starting to recognize and embrace smaller companies, there’s definitely room for more.

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Enter this weeks #FunFindFriday: Hole Punch Toys, the designer behind some seriously fun and colorful artisanal small batch silicone sex toys, molded and poured by hand, one by one, in an art studio in St. Paul, Minnesota.

From playful radishes to carrot butt plugs, ice cream cones, stunning blue rockets, tri-colored popsicles, and a sleek blacked-out Nun, Hole Punch Toys has most of the bases covered when it comes to mixing art and pleasure.

The uniqueness doesn’t end there, unlike large volume manufactures each is made to order, and details like color are subject to the creators whim at the time of pouring. If he’s in a translucent grass-green mood, that is what you’ll get. Hunter green today? There you go. I have to admit, judging by this misfit box of toys or these white chocolate lookalikes, I’d be more than happy to get something completely my own.

Have an idea for a toy you’d like made? You’ve come to the right place, Bespoke toys are something they do. Just get in contact with a brief description of your idea, and if it’s something that can be done they’ll gladly work with you to make it happen. It’ll probably cost you a pretty penny, but there are times when it’s worth it. This is one of them.

Needing to know more I went right to the source, asking the creator if he’d answer a bunch of questions about Hole Punch Toys, the concept behind the designs, how the toys are made, etc. and he very graciously obliged. Big thanks to Colin for taking time out of his busy schedule, I totally appreciate it.

rocketholepunch1.) Who is Hole Punch Toys?

Hole Punch Toys are an extension of Hole Punch Studio, which is an arbitrary name assigned, for beuroctaric and advertising reasons, to the art I produce. I, being me, Colin. Primarily visual art, both two and three dimentiomal, audio visual, or in this case, silicone. I create one hundred percent of the material associated with Hole Punch Toys, with the exception of some borrowed imagery used in digital assemblages for labels and such.

2.) What motivated you to create Hole Punch Toys?

The same thing that motivates any creative endeavor I think. The challenge of bringing something that exist in your imagination into physical being. The process of making.  I suppose having sex toys in my head to begin with is telling of something, but I’ll leave that for another discussion.

hole punch radish3.) What sets Hole Punch Toys apart from other manufacturers?

It depends. If you are asking about the business as an entity, I would say that the main difference is in production capability.  This is a one person operation. I pour and package each piece to order in my free time which means each piece is approached as a singular object, made from a singular batch of silicone and tinted individually. That could all change of course, but for now, that is how it is.

If you are asking about the toys themselves, I DO NOT differentiate them from other silicone toys of this nature.

I think there is room for as many designs in this world as there are minds and the bodies attached to them. Not everything is for everybody. If someone likes what I make,  that’s fantastic. If not, that’s great also. Although it will hurt me deeply and might make me cry.

teeny creemee hole punch4.) Where do you draw inspiration for your designs from?

It is pretty plain to see my designs don’t come from a very high minded place.  Although I have appreciation for so called “fine art”,  I seem to have been impacted most deeply by the images and symbology of pop culture, from Saturday morning cartoons and comics to advertising imagery and the beauty of everyday objects.

All my art seems to be an effort to break down images and forms into their simplest components, which works well in designing insertables, where detail and complex shapes are not optimal. It suits my style, if I could be bold enough to think I have one.

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