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Clitoral Stimulation Techniques

For The Beginner, For The Guys, For The Ladies, Tips, Tricks and Suggestions

For those of you curious about clitoral stimulation techniques, including tips in regard to stimulating it during intercourse, as well as a few other facts that you may not know, this video should fill you in and hopefully help you find out what will work best for you.

Clitoris Facts

The clitoris serves no other purpose than providing sexual pleasure. In fact it is the only organ in the human body that exists solely for pleasure.

There are around eight thousand nerve endings within the clitoris, which is part of what makes it so sensitive.

Contrary to popular belief, the clitoris is much larger then people assume. Like a miniature penis, the clitoris consists of a rounded tip (the glans, think of the head of the penis), attached to a longer part (the shaft). The shaft has two “arms” that stretch backwards into the woman’s body, under the skin on either side above the vaginal opening. This picture shows the similarities between the clitoris and penis quite well.

Nerves controlling clitoral muscle contractions travel alongside the walls of the vagina, the bladder and urethra, passing along the sensations produced from orgasm or stimulation. Which is why when a female experiences an orgasm during sex, the guy having sex with her will feel a throbbing or pulsing sensation inside her vagina.

During the one of the stages of the sexual response cycle her clitoris might become more sensitive then when you first started to play with it and may retract under the hood to shield it from direct stimulation. Check this diagram of a clitoris going through the stages or arousal.

When a person becomes sexually aroused, the clitoris fills with blood and increases in size just like a penis. After orgasm, the clitoris will return to its normal size. If the person doesn’t have an orgasm, the blood may remain there for a few hours and cause discomfort. This is pretty much the equivalent of “blue balls”.

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Male Sexual Response Cycle

For The Beginner, For The Guys

Today’s video is going to cover the Male Sexual Response Cycle. For those that haven’t seen it, I created another video for the ladies to help them learn about their bodies and they way it reacts when a female goes through the phases. If you haven’t seen it yet, I suggest you check it out.

I’m hoping that through watching this video all of my viewers will not only become better educated in regard to their own body, but also will have a better sexual experience because of it.

The Phases Of The Male Sexual Response Cycle:

1.) Arousal / Excitement: This phase begins when your body first begins to respond to sexual stimulation.

Physical reactions like the following can be expected:

an increase in heart rate
flushing of the face and/or neck
nipples becoming hard
partial raising of the testicles
erection of the penis

2.) Plateau: This is the stage where your body is highly aroused and on the verge of orgasm.

Physical reactions like the following can be expected:

everything that happens during the first stage continues and increases
testicles will enlarge and be fully raised
a few drops of pre-cum will be secreted by the Cowpers glands. (This precum is meant to lubricate the urethra, as well as clean out any bacteria that may have been left behind)

3.) Orgasm / Climax:

This phase tends to be slightly different between men and women, with the men experiencing it in two parts; the first tends to be a moment of inevitability characterized by sensations that mark the point of no return with contractions occurring in the testicles, prostate and seminal vesicles. The in second part is the ejaculation of sperm due to contractions in the urethra and penis. Typically the actual orgasm lasts less than one minute for most males.

4.) Resolution: the body slowly returns to normal:

Unlike the female, who can be responsive to stimulation even after orgasm and even have multiple orgasms, the male typically goes through a period of unresponsiveness or a refractory period where he is no longer able to be aroused and needs some time before he can get another erection and orgasm. Tho this is true for most males, its not true for every one.

I do highly suggest that you take the time to learn about your body, either during masturbation or intercourse and see if you can identify the phases as you are going through them, which will in turn help you to become a better lover.

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Cut vs. Uncut

For The Guys, Sex Ed 102

A lot of you have sent me questions and concerns about either your body or your partners body, especially in regard to foreskin. Unfortunately, those questions aren’t going to be answered in this video. Instead, I’m going to make a separate video at a later date that addresses everything you’ve messaged about.

This video is going to focus on making you a better lover and helping you understand – from a females perspective – whether or not being circumcised makes a difference when it comes to intercourse. Having said that, I’m basing the info and point of view within the video on the messages I’ve received from my female viewers – not just my own opinion and experiences.

To answer the question as simply as possible (again, I’m basing this on the number of emails I received from female viewers I polled about the topic)… Yes, some women love cut dicks, others don’t prefer them, some don’t give a rats ass either way.

Whether you’re circumcised or not, great sex has less to do with your dick and more to do with how you use it, how well you stimulate your partner (in the way that they need), how open you are to feedback and honest communication, and how willing you are to make adjustments so that they can have a great time.

Key points to remember :

70% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Your penis, as wonderful as it may be, cannot provide the necessary stimulation to her clitoris to get her to orgasm.
when it comes to sex and pleasure, not everyone is the same. The most important factor in being good in bed is learning what your partners likes and dislikes are and providing them.
Whether you’re cut or uncut, I highly suggest the use of protection to keep you safe from STI’s and unwanted pregnancy.

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Hurray for Boobies!

For The Ladies, Health & Wellness, Sexuality

Do’s and Dont’s

Don’t Stare ~ We really don’t like it!

Don’t Grab ~ it hurts!

Don’t make it the first thing you go for ~ it’s annoying and the rest of a woman’s body needs attention too!

Don’t suckle ~ your not a baby and she’s not breast feeding you!

Do’s

Do be gentle ~ it’ll go a long way in regard to foreplay!

Do pay attention to both ~ both boobs deserve equal attention!

Do pay proper attention to the nipples ~ twirl, lick and tease. Don’t Bite~

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Redefining Virginity

For The Beginner, Health & Wellness, Sexuality

Over the course of the last 2 years I have spent much time debating whether or not to make this video. The reason for the debate was that ones “virginity” and the term itself, are hard to define in today’s society. As such, I thought that I would instead make a video that opened the doors of communication to help you define for yourself what being a Virgin, and Virginity are.

The word/term “Virgin” as defined by;

The Free Dictionary

1. A person who has not experienced sexual intercourse.
2. A chaste or unmarried woman; a maiden.
3. An unmarried woman who has taken religious vows of chastity.

Random House Dictionary

1. a person who has never had sexual intercourse.
2. an unmarried girl or woman.
3. Ecclesiastical. an unmarried, religious woman, esp. a saint.

Online Etymology Dictionary

c.1200, “unmarried or chaste woman noted for religious piety and having a position of reverence in the Church,” from O.Fr. virgine, from L. virginem (nom. virgo) “maiden, unwedded girl or woman,” also an adj., “fresh, unused,” probably related to virga “young shoot.” For sense evolution, cf. Gk. talis “a marriageable girl,” cognate with L. talea “rod, stick, bar.” Meaning “young woman in a state of inviolate chastity” is recorded from c.1310. Also applied since c.1330 to a chaste man. Meaning “naive or inexperienced person” is attested from 1953. The adj. is recorded from 1560 in the lit. sense; fig. sense of “pure, untainted” is attested from c.1300.

Wikipedia

Virginity refers to the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. There are cultural and religious traditions which place special value and significance on this state, especially in the case of unmarried females, associated with notions of personal purity, honor and worth. Like chastity, the concept of virginity has traditionally involved sexual abstinence before marriage, and then to engage in sexual acts only with the marriage partner.

Unlike the term premarital sex, which can refer to more than one occasion of sexual activity and can be judgment neutral, the concept of virginity usually involves moral or religious issues and can have consequences in terms of social status and in interpersonal relationships.

The term originally only referred to sexually inexperienced women, but has evolved to encompass a range of definitions, as found in traditional, modern, and ethical concepts.^[1]^[2]^[3]^[4] Heterosexual individuals may or may not consider loss of virginity to occur only through penile-vaginal penetration,^[1]^[3]^[4] while people of other sexual orientations may include oral sex, anal sex or mutual masturbation in their definitions of losing one’s virginity.^[3]^[5]^[6] Further, whether a person can lose his or her virginity through rape is also subject to debate, with the belief that virginity can only be lost through consensual sex being prevalent in some studies.^[2]

Feel free to comment on what you believe the terms mean, and how they apply to you or society. Please also feel free to throw in any information that I did not mention in regard to the term or words presented and how they may have changed over time.

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