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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Strap-On’s & Harnesses

 

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Strap-On's & Harnesses

Exploring strap-ons and harnesses can be a rewarding journey into new sexual experiences, whether for fun, pleasure, or intimacy with a partner. For beginners, strap-ons and harnesses may seem a bit intimidating at first, but with the right guidance and tips, they can open doors to exciting forms of connection and sensation. This guide will cover what strap-ons and harnesses are, how they work, the different options available, and tips for making the experience enjoyable and fulfilling.

What Are Strap-Ons & Harnesses?

A strap-on is a sex toy usually involving a dildo attached to a harness. The harness is worn around the waist or hips, allowing the user to control the movement of the dildo with their body. This setup enables penetration, allowing couples to experiment with different positions, explore gender play, and switch up traditional roles if desired. For people of all gender identities, strap-ons offer versatility and creativity in the bedroom, as well as an opportunity to experience something new.

How Do Strap-Ons & Harnesses Work?

Strap-ons generally consist of two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness is what secures the dildo to the body, and the dildo is the part that provides penetration. Many harnesses have an adjustable waistband and leg straps to ensure a snug, comfortable fit. The dildo is often attached to the harness using an O-ring - a flexible ring that holds the dildo securely in place - or a proprietary attachment system. Different harnesses accommodate different types of dildos, so it’s important to check for compatibility if you’re choosing parts separately.

To use a strap-on, the person wearing the harness simply puts it on and adjusts it until it feels secure. Then, with some lube and a bit of practice, they’re ready to explore with their partner. Communication, patience, and an open attitude make the process more comfortable and fun for both parties.

Different Types of Harnesses

When exploring with strap-ons, it’s helpful to know that harnesses come in various designs to fit different preferences, activities, and comfort levels. Each type of harness offers unique benefits, whether you’re looking for something secure, adjustable, or more intimate.

From traditional belt or jock-style harnesses, which provide stability and versatility, to strapless strap-ons that eliminate the need for a harness entirely, each style caters to different kinds of experiences. Understanding the options available can help you find a harness that fits comfortably and enhances connection, making the journey smoother and more enjoyable.

Belt or Jock-Style Harness

The belt or jock-style harness, like the Strap U Double Take Vibrating Dildo & Harness (pictured left), is a classic and widely preferred type of harness, making it a popular choice for beginners and experienced users alike.

Resembling a pair of underwear, this harness has two leg loops and a waistband that goes around the hips, holding the dildo securely in place. This design is known for being user-friendly, as it’s easy to put on, offers good stability, and allows for adjustments in fit and comfort. These harnesses are usually compatible with O-ring dildos, which means they can accommodate various shapes and sizes.

Pros of belt or jock-style harnesses include its stability, making it suitable for different types of movement and positions, as well as its wide compatibility with most dildos. However, the bulkier design can feel a bit cumbersome if worn for long periods or if you’re looking for a lightweight option. Some find the thickness of the straps less ideal for a more discreet or minimalist experience, but for reliable performance, this harness style is hard to beat.

Underwear-Style Harness

Underwear-style harnesses offer an alternative for those who prefer a softer, more discreet experience. These harnesses look and feel like regular underwear, with fabric that fits snugly and comfortably against the body. Often, panty and brief style harnesses include a built-in pouch or O-ring for holding dildos in place. The softness and natural fit of these harnesses make them a great option for beginners, as they’re often the least intimidating and easiest to wear out of all types.

Harnesses like the Active Harness Wear - Fit Strap-On Harness Brief By Sportsheets (pictured right) offer ease and comfort, ideal for gentle, low-maintenance experiences. However, they may not provide as much stability as other types, especially if you’re using a heavier dildo or engaging in vigorous activity.

Additionally, they tend to have limited compatibility with certain dildo sizes, particularly larger models, and may lack the adjustable features that are found in other harness types. Despite these limitations, the underwear-style harness is a fantastic option for those looking for comfort, simplicity, and subtlety.

Double-Strap Harness

Double-strap harnesses, like the Vibrating Black Corsette Strap-On Harness by Sportsheets (pictured left), take the traditional harness a step further by adding extra flexibility and freedom. With two straps going around each thigh and connecting to a waistband, this design leaves the area between the legs open, which can enhance sensation for the wearer and allow for dual stimulation. This open design is ideal for those who enjoy a bit more direct contact and sensitivity, as well as added versatility.

The double-strap harness is highly adjustable, providing a more customized fit, which makes it suitable for a range of activities and movements. However, it may take a bit longer to put on and adjust compared to single-strap designs, and it might feel a bit more complex for beginners who are still familiarizing themselves with harnesses. Once adjusted, though, it offers secure, stable support and allows for creativity.

Strapless Strap-Ons

Strapless strap-ons,  are a unique and innovative option that doesn’t require any harness at all. Instead, they are designed with a bulb on one end, which is held internally by the wearer, leaving the external part free for penetration. This allows for an intimate, skin-on-skin experience without the need for straps or additional adjustments. The result is a more natural feeling, often preferred by those looking for a close, hands-free experience with their partner.

While the absence of straps provides a more seamless and intimate connection, strapless strap-ons, like the BodyWand ID Access Strapless Strap-On (pictured right), require some pelvic muscle strength to hold in place, which can be challenging for some users, particularly beginners.

Practicing solo with these toys can help build confidence and control. Additionally, they may not provide the same level of stability as traditional harnesses, so patience and experimentation with different angles and positions can make the experience more enjoyable and comfortable for both partners.

Thigh Strap-Ons and Alternative Harness Styles

For those interested in mixing things up, thigh strap-ons and harnesses designed for different parts of the body offer exciting and versatile options. Thigh strap-ons are typically secured around the upper leg, allowing the wearer’s thigh to be used as the point of penetration. This can open up a range of positions and angles that aren’t as easily accessible with a traditional waist-mounted harness. Thigh strap-ons, like the Ultra Thigh Strap On (pictured left) are especially popular for hands-free play, allowing both partners to experiment with varied rhythms, sensations, and levels of control.

In addition to thigh-mounted harnesses, other strap-ons can be worn on different parts of the body, such as the hand, chin, or lower leg. These designs offer unique ways to enjoy penetrative play that can align with different levels of accessibility, creativity, and intimacy.

Although these styles may require a bit more experimentation to find positions that work best, they’re ideal for those looking to try new sensations and movements with their partner.

Double Penetration Strap-Ons and Harnesses

Double penetration strap-ons and harnesses are designed to provide simultaneous internal stimulation for the wearer or their partner, creating a fuller and more intense experience. These strap-ons typically feature two dildos: one for vaginal and one for anal penetration, or one for both the wearer and the receiver.

Double penetration harnesses, like the Dual Desires Strap-On (pictured right), can be worn around the waist with dual attachments, or they may include an internal component that allows the wearer to enjoy internal stimulation as well.

These strap-ons are versatile and can cater to a variety of preferences and body types, allowing couples to experiment with new sensations and explore different levels of intimacy. Many double-penetration harnesses are adjustable for comfort and stability, though they may feel more complex than single attachment harnesses and can take some trial and error to get the fit just right. For those interested in adding extra layers to their experience, these offer a chance to deepen connection and variety.

Dillio Body Dock System of Strap-On

The Dillio Body Dock is a unique strap-on system that offers an alternative to traditional harnesses by simplifying attachment and use. Instead of using O-rings or buckles, the Body Dock (pictured left), relies on a strong, suction-based docking system. This feature allows users to quickly and securely attach any dildo with a suction cup base to the docking pad, making setup easy and efficient. The harness itself is typically worn around the waist with adjustable straps, ensuring a secure fit.

This system is particularly popular for those who want the flexibility of swapping out different dildos without fussing with various attachments. This design also allows for a wider range of dildo shapes and sizes, giving users more freedom to personalize their experience.

While it’s beginner-friendly and ideal for quick changes, the suction design may not offer as much stability as more traditional O-ring harnesses during vigorous use. However, for anyone looking for a convenient, versatile, and customizable strap-on system, the Dillio Body Dock is an innovative choice.

Vac-U-Lock Strap-On System

The Vac-U-Lock system (pictured right), is a popular and versatile strap-on design known for its unique plug-and-lock mechanism. Instead of relying on traditional O-rings or suction cups, Vac-U-Lock harnesses feature a secure plug that “locks” compatible dildos into place, providing a stable and reliable attachment. This innovative system allows users to switch out dildos effortlessly, and the Vac-U-Lock collection offers a broad range of attachments in various shapes, sizes, and textures, all designed to fit securely.

These harnesses are typically made from durable materials and are often fully adjustable, ensuring comfort and security during use. This system is ideal for anyone who wants a consistent fit and firm control, even during more vigorous activity.

Even though the setup may feel slightly different at first, many users find the stability and selection of compatible toys to be major advantages. For those seeking a customizable and dependable strap-on system that accommodates a range of preferences, the Vac-U-Lock is an excellent choice.

 

Popular Strap-On & Harness Options

Choosing Safe, Non-Toxic Materials

When selecting a strap-on compatible dildo, it's essential to choose products made from body-safe, non-toxic materials. Some toys, especially cheaper options like jelly dildos, may be made from materials that contain potentially harmful chemicals, such as phthalates. These chemicals can cause irritation, allergic reactions, and, with long-term exposure, even pose health risks. Jelly toys, in particular, are often porous, which means they can trap bacteria, bodily fluids, and lube, and are harder to keep clean, increasing the risk of infections.

Safe options for strap-on attachments, like the Tantus Curve (pictured left), are non-porous, easy to sanitize, and free from harmful chemicals, making them a healthier choice for your body. Silicone dildos, in particular, are soft, durable, and highly recommended due to their flexibility and compatibility with a wide variety of harnesses.

Choosing the Right Dildo

When selecting a dildo to pair with your harness, it’s important to consider both compatibility and safety. The best dildos for harness play will have a flared or suction cup base, which keeps the toy securely in place during use and prevents any risk of slipping through the harness or becoming unsafe for internal use.

Whether you’re drawn to a realistic style, a curved design for targeted stimulation, or a textured option for extra sensation, there are many body-safe options to explore. Finding the right dildo can make all the difference in creating a comfortable, enjoyable experience for both partners.

Here’s a quick rundown of different types to consider:

  • Basic Dildos: These are non-realistic dildos that often come in a range of colors, sizes, and shapes. They’re simple, easy to clean, and versatile.
  • Realistic Dildos: Realistic dildos are designed to resemble human anatomy and may have veins, texture, and other details that add realism to the experience. These are popular for those who want a lifelike experience.
  • Vibrating Dildos: Some dildos come with a vibrating feature, which can add extra stimulation for both the wearer and the partner. The vibration intensity is adjustable in most models, making it an exciting option for those looking to enhance sensation.

Regardless of what you choose look for reputable brands that use 100% body-safe materials, and check labels or product descriptions carefully. Prioritizing safety will ensure that you have a comfortable, worry-free experience and can focus entirely on the pleasure and connection that strap-on play offers.

Tips & Suggestions for Getting Started

Starting out with strap-ons and harnesses can be both exciting and a little nerve-wracking, so here are some tips to make things go smoothly:

  • Start with Communication: Communication is the key to a satisfying experience. Talk openly with your partner about boundaries, desires, and any potential worries. Take turns adjusting the harness or practicing with it to make sure you’re both comfortable with how it feels and moves.
  • Practice Solo First: If you’re wearing the harness, try practicing alone first to get a feel for how it moves with your body. This practice can help build confidence and give you a sense of control before you’re using it with a partner.
  • Use Lube Generously: Lube is a must for comfort with strap-ons. Apply a good quality, water-based lubricant on the dildo and, if applicable, on any sensitive areas for smoothness and ease. This can reduce friction, enhance pleasure, and make the experience more enjoyable.
  • Go Slow and Experiment with Positions: Finding the right position is important for comfort and satisfaction. Many beginners start with positions like missionary or doggy style, which offer support and are easy to control. Experiment, move slowly, and adjust as needed.
  • Consider Adjustable or Beginner-Friendly Harnesses: Some harnesses are specifically designed for beginners, with added padding and support. Starting with a comfortable, easily adjustable harness can make your first experience more enjoyable and less intimidating.

Final Thoughts

Exploring strap-ons and harnesses can be a truly empowering and satisfying experience, allowing couples to share pleasure and connection in new and fulfilling ways. Remember, there’s no “right” way to approach using strap-ons - each person and each couple will find what works best for them through open communication and experimentation. As with any new experience, go slowly, communicate openly, and, most of all, have fun with the process. Whether it’s an occasional thing or something you want to incorporate more regularly, using a strap-on can be a unique way to deepen trust, playfulness, and intimacy in your relationship.
 
If you'd like to get your hands on a strap-on or harness of your own, be sure to check out my favourite online sex toy stores be it Pinkcherry, SheVibe, Babeland, or my online sex toy store, ShopSexEd102.com. Don't forget to shop around to make sure you're getting the best prices available.
 
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Product Review: Divine Interventions Baby Jesus Butt Plug

Update: Divine Interventions is no longer manufacturing toys. Yes, you read the title correctly. I'm reviewing a Baby Jesus Butt Plug. Unlike my review of the Divine Interventions Diving Nun dildo, I’m not going to make any apologies. I’m over censoring my experiences, especially when it's done for those who are unable to differentiate between a silicone moulded sex toy called the "Virgin Mary" - for dramatic effect - and having sex with an actual crucifix (which would be wrong, on so many levels). If there is a product I feel like reviewing I’m going to. Without shame, embarrassment, fear of retaliation, or guilt… so if you feel this deserves a warning before reading on, you can find one here. Of course I do know that no matter where I take this review, or what I do to make light of it, many of you will be taken aback. So, in an effort to make it clear that we're all on the same page let me just say this; I’m well aware of the potential implications and consequences sticking a little Jesus in my ass could create. Being married to someone who went to a very strict Catholic school I’ve been informed that this review in particular will practically pave a gleaming golden walkway to hell, complete with my very own fiery arches, winged apocalyptic horse drawn carriage, fanged minions, royal diamond encrusted scepter (sourced from unethical places and workers, of course), all topped off with a set of brass knuckles to rule them all… and I'm totally okay with that. At the end of the day I've made a living toting sex advice and slinging dildos. What's one more silicone mould to add to the fire and brimstone? I kid, I kid. Ugh, I'm just making it worse aren't I?! As if this is the very worst I could do. p.s. if anyone can draw me the above stated hellish scenario in graphic novel form I'd be beyond wowed.

Packaging

Like the other Divine Interventions goodies, this adorable little plug arrived swaddled in nothing more than a First Holy Communion napkin to protect it. No clam shell plastic, no flimsy cardboard box, no thin plastic bag. Literally nothing other than the shipping box. For some this may come off at cheap or impractical, but to me it’s highly appropriate, especially considering the nature of the product; if someone was to come across it they wouldn’t necessarily know what it was granting you the privacy and discretion you deserve. More than that it's cost effective and eco-friendly. Plain brown boxed Jesus for the win.

The Good

Regarding all of the non blasphemous reasons I think the Baby Jesus Butt Plug is a grand ‘ol time... With the exception of facial features, namely the chubby little cheeks and forehead, the silicone body is supple and smooth with a generous bit of squish and give. Even with the variety of ridges to work past, it's not overwhelming or intimidating, instead being designed to effortlessly slide and ‘pop’ into place with a generous amount of lube… just don’t make the mistake of thinking you wont feel much, because you will… a very weird experience indeed. What you’re sensing is the total awareness of Little J's head going in your sphincter. Thankfully the bumps aren't obnoxious or well defined, instead working quite well as a way to gauge how far it has travelled. It's like a built in GPS system shared between you and J.  I’m smirking at the thought. Once inserted it’s not too big nor too small, being perfect for those looking to try something larger and sleeker than the Vixen Creations Buddy, but a tad more sensational and stimulating than the Tantus Ryder - both of which are fantastic if you’re  afraid to explore, but willing to try. On that note, the flexible and elongated flared base is far more desirable than typical round versions as it doesn’t shift, turn, slide, or spread the ass cheeks uncomfortably apart, instead fitting with little to no discomfort. For the most part it makes itself unknown, unless you’ve never used one, in which case you’ll know it’s there, at all times. For those that like suction cup action (i.e. thwacking your product down so it stays in place allowing you to mount it), once suctioned to a flat surface it stays stuck extremely well with little to no shifting or moving (great for use in the shower or tub). When it comes to anything you pop in your butt you’ll want to make sure it won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, being that the Baby Jesus butt plug is made of non-porous silicone all the bases are covered. It’s also hypoallergenic, non-toxic, phthalate and latex free… basically put, if cleanliness is next to Godliness, this may just be as close as you’ll get where ass toys are concerned. Totally unrelated to the usage I have to say that the colouring is quite stunning, displaying a lovely deep Merlot hue marbled with metallic charcoal grey and black tones, all gleaming like the North Star in the night.

Stats

Size wise you're looking at 4.5" inches in length, 3" inches insertable, and 1.5" inches in diameter, all of which are pretty standard measurements where butt toys are concerned. Comparatively speaking, if you like the Tantus Ryder you'll likely find they're pretty damn similar, with the only major differences being the texturing and tapered lower portion; size wise, their near identical matches (pictured left).  
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size comparison
flared base

flared base
A Hand Full

A Hand Full
Back Of Plug

Back Of Plug

The Bad

There's a fair amount of grooves where bodily fluids, lube, and debris will collect, requiring more attention when it comes to cleaning. On the plus side it’s made of quality silicone so nothing will actually absorb into it, and a 3 minute purge in boiling water will sterilize it completely. Before I continue I just want to point out that the next "issue" has absolutely no effect on the usage of the toy, instead being more of a silly-little-bizzaro-land-masochistic-perfectionist expectation than a real complaint; if I’m going to be cramming a Baby Jesus butt plug in my ass, I’d like the product to resemble our lord and saviour so closely that I legitimately feel the guilt and shame a sinning blasphemer would. After all, isn't that the whole point? Sadly it certainly doesn’t look like him... in all honesty, I can't help but think it could be the potential offspring of Big Baby from Toy Story 3 and Spider Baby (a.k.a Babyface) from Toy Story 1, if that could even be a thing. Or a baby ninja turtle, without the shell and fun coloured bandana of course. Either way it's close, but not close enough. If only the one angry eyebrow could satisfy me aesthetically. Again, this isn’t necessarily a fault of the product, just something you’ll want to keep in mind since the ass doesn’t self lubricate, and silicone can often create a drag on the skin, you’ll need lube, and lots of it to make insertion as easy as possible. If you’re not fully relaxed, lubed, or ready, yes, you’ll likely find it a tad uncomfortable, but if you follow the steps I’ve outlined here, you’ll probably be pleasantly surprised by the glorious way it makes your ass feel. Finally, it attracts lint, fluff, pet hair, your own hair, dust, and damn near anything else that it might come in contact with. If your a klutz like me, be sure all surfaces are clean or expect to be annoyed.

Final Verdict

All things considered I wouldn’t say it’s my favourite plug. I wouldn’t even go so far as to say it’s my second favourite. But since it’s crafted from a quality material, isn’t overwhelmingly large or intimidating, feels comfortable once in place, and grants the opportunity to brag about something most people never will (complete and utter blasphemy), I can see how it might just become a favourite of many. Is it potentially inappropriate, a little creepier than expected, and tacky as all hell? Certainly. But I'd like to think I’m a better person and reviewer for it. The things I do for you people. If you're looking for quality sex toys made by a small company, and don't have any religious guilt to deal with (or if you do and it's the thing that gets you off), head over to Divine Interventions and grab something that might just help you get a little closer to God. Can I get an Amen? Or for those that want the same level of quality, without the religious aspect, I'm going to offer up the Non-Denominational line of sex toys ... just as great, but without all the fun of being a total blasphemous sinner. Want to stay up to date with the new reviews? Just sign up for an email update through the form below! Don't worry, I promise not to spam you.

   
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Product Review: Bunny Tail Butt Plug

Bunny Tail Butt PlugUpdate: This product is no longer being manufactured. I really shouldn't need an excuse or reason to review the Bunny Tail Butt Plug, after all... IT'S. A. BUNNY. TAIL. BUTT. PLUG. But with Easter upon us, I just couldn't resist taking advantage of the holiday. What can I say, it certainly helped egg me on. See what I did there? I digress. Truthfully, I've never really been much of a fan of Icon Brands or the products they produce, for the most part you'll find jelly items I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole, beyond obnoxious PVC replicas of male pornstar schlongs, and lots of other questionable merchandise, but the Fashionistas line is where they seem to have gotten it right; the materials are comparable to many other high end sex toys, the appearance is elegant yet striking, and the quality is definitely there. If only they could bring everything else up to par.

Packaging

Although the thin plastic box feels cheap, the outer appearance is anything but; purple, black, and gold tones combine with a slightly Gothic font to create a sophisticated theme. It's cute but brazen, classy but playful, professional yet edgy, and respectfully dark, offering an element of intrigue without coming off as campy or cheesy. Set in the centre of the box is a peek-a-boo window showcasing the bunny tail butt plug in all its fluffy glory. While it's not the most discreet, the choice of wording isn't as hardcore as one would expect with a product like this. Considering how intense the Fashionistas (porn) movie was, and the fact that most BDSM products come displayed in themes that are often all-out-balls-to-the-wall-freakish, I can't help but be impressed with the choice to remain minimal. I'd thank the success of 50 Shades of Gray for that, but I hated the book. So I wont. The sides of the box are rather boring, sporting nothing but the " Fashionistas" emblem. The back provides a brief description along with pictures of other products within the line.  I'm personally loving the design found on the handle of the Fashionistas Whip. Located within the box sits a clear plastic tray whose centre is cut to perfectly cradle the plug. If you want a tail that retains its shape later I suggest holding onto this piece for storage. Trust me on this.

Packing: Front
Fashionistas Butt Plug Packaging

Packing: Back
Fashionistas Bunny Plug Packaging

Packaging
Fashionistas Packaging Bunny Plug

Packing: Side

The Good

When first glancing the Fashionistas Bunny Tail Butt Plug I can't help but notice the slight resemblance to the Tantus Flirt (pictured lower right), however there are some considerable differences setting them drastically apart; the bunny tail is heavier and thicker, has absolutely no flexibility, squish or give (it's glass), has a round base, and for anyone that wants to be a bunny - sprouting from the base are a plume of feathers, that when fluffed, beget the appearance of a bunny tail. And yes, it does surprisingly look like a bunny tail once in place. Putting it to use is simple, as the combination of rounded tip, seamless design, tapered body, and sleek glass makes insertion damn near effortless, sliding into place without any discomfort or force. Once inserted, the bulging middle creates a comfortably full feeling, while also acting as something for the muscles to grasp, holding it in place satisfactorily. On that note, if you've found that thinner plugs slide or pop out of place during use, you may want to consider graduating up a size or grabbing something made of glass... for as much as I love my Tantus Flirt, it just doesn't remain in place, not to mention lacks some girth. The bunny tail fills those voids nicely, while also adding a noticeable amount of weight that's reminiscent of another plug I love.

Stats

Regarding total size, from tip of the feathers to the base of the plug, you're looking at between 7" inches and 8" inches. The difference being dependent on the length of the feathers, and whether or not they get wet/ruined by lube over time. The 3" inches that are insertable are pretty standard, though the 4" inch circumference and 2" diameter may be a little overwhelming for some. Don't let that last little bit fool you, by no means is this a large plug. I'd call it a comfortable medium, though that statement is admittedly subjective.  For those that feel it'll come up short, there's also a large bunny tail butt plug to contend with. One of the things I have always loved about glass sex toys is how well they work for those that want to explore with temperature play; simply place the body of the plug (not the feathers) in warm or cool water, give them 10 - 15 seconds to retain the temperature and enjoy. While this may not be ideal for some during anal use, there will be those that find the added sensations rather enjoyable. I know there are going to be quite a few of you that are looking at it and thinking ‘glass in my ass? No way!’, just let me state for the record that glass sex toys have quite a few benefits; they're non-porous so you never have to worry about it absorbing bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, they're naturally latex and phthalate free, are hypoallergenic, work with any kind of lubricant, and slip into place as if they're meant to be there. Everything considered, I'm always surprised glass toys still haven't gone more mainstream; they’re far better than any toxic porous jelly sex toys you’d cram in your ass without thinking twice about how gross and unsafe they are (jelly, I mean). You’re also probably going to assume that because the plugs are made of glass they might be a tad dangerous; so long as you don’t drop them or slam them against a wall I (but really, why would you be doing that?!) they will hold up to quite a bit of wear and tear. Trust me, I should know – I’ve accidentally dropped all of mine a couple times now and not one has a chip or crack in it.

size comparison

tail base

bunny tail vs flirt

fluffy tail

The Bad

For as much as I love the idea of having a temporary bunny tail, there are a few major flaws I can't overlook... Sadly, the design of opaque black tapered plug is fairly basic, with almost no defining features differentiating it from other glass plugs on the market. Yes, the inclusion of a silvery etched fairy frolicking in the flowers/filigree is a seemingly cute touch, but the reason for it escapes me. A killer bunny or poisoned carrot may have been better, at minimum it would have been consistent with the dark theme. Then again, I haven't seen the complete film yet (the 7 minute masked Belladonna bj scene was enough for one day). It's safe to say maybe I'm missing something. Though I doubt it. Fortunately the etching isn't something that detracts from the smoothness of the glass, you can feel it when running fingers along the length of the plug, but during insertion it's virtually non-existent. Any contact with lube, especially silicone, will leave the feathers looking, in a word, ruined (as pictured below). Sadly there is no easy fix for this, it's a veritable catch 22; since the ass doesn't self lubricate you have to use a good lubricant with anal toys, however during insertion, it's almost impossible not to touch the feathers since they're so close to the base. See where I'm going with this? It's disappointing to say the least. Speaking of lube, one of the only issues I have with glass toys is how slippery they get once lube is introduced. Sure, it's great when it comes to insertion, but it makes removal a pain in the ass. No pun intended. Not only will you likely find yourself grasping at the base like your life depended on it, but you'll also likely find your fingers haphazardly slip sliding around in a vain attempt to maintain control. And herein lies the problem, no matter how hard you try, you'll be tempted to grab at those fluffy quills and yank with all your might. Giving into my temptations I did just that, finding myself left with a fistful of fluff. Fortunately the actual quills and majority of feathers remained intact, but that isn't to say that will always be the case... and was basically how I ended up ruining my fluffy tail with silicone lube. Now it looks more like roadkill. FML. In case you didn't know feathers can, and often do, retain scent. Oh, did I forget to mention they can't really be washed either?  Draw your own conclusions from that. Yeah, good times. Finally, and this won't be the case for everyone, if you're used to thinner products or haven't yet explored with anal play, the combination of rigid glass and size may be a bit uncomfortable.  If this is the case get yourself something smaller and a bit flexible like the Vixen Creations Buddy Butt Plug, Tantus Flirt, or Small Ripple, follow my advice when it comes to Beginners Butt Play, and take your sweet ass time. That time the pun was intended.

Care & Cleaning

Cleaning the plug is pretty simple, especially since it's glass; just give it a gentle wash with soap and water, or use toy cleaner. Keep in mind that exposing the feathers to water, or any form of liquid for that matter, will probably ruin them. If you must, and I mean absolutely must, you can give them a swipe with gentle baby wipes or moist towelettes, blot them with a soft towel, and leave them to completely air dry. Once dry, place the entire plug in a box or container that allows it to retain its shape, otherwise, you'll likely end up with a flat bunny tail that's a shadow of its former self.

Final Verdict

At the end of the day the Fashionistas Bunny Tail Butt Plug is a cute concept that somehow managed to fall a little flat.  The plug itself is beautifully designed, and though the fairy etching seems a little out of place, the overall look and feel is one I can certainly appreciate. It sits on the brink of tacky without ever fully venturing over the line. The piece de resistance, being the bunny tail, will be great for those that love petplay, just remember to keep every fluffy inch away from fluids and you should be fine. Otherwise, it'll probably look like you stuck roadkill in yer butt.  Fortunately, there are many other fluffy bunny tail butt plugs that are much better (no feathers makes a huge difference!). Want to stay up to date with the new reviews? Just sign up for an email update through the form below!

     
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Review: Zeus Beginners Electrosex E-Stim Kit

From the time I accidentally electrocuted myself by sticking a fork in a socket (I was 5), I've been fascinated with electricity and the euphoric rush that can be caused from the shock of it. And yes, I know just how dangerous or bizarre that sounds. Now of course I've never been one to go out an do something dangerous like run a wet paintbrush over an outlet (yep, I did that. I was 8 at the time). Or volunteered to have myself hit with a stun gun (yeah, I did that too - I was 16 and my curiosity got the best of me). But I have always wanted to get my hands on one of those handy, scary, intriguing, intimidating, and delightfully kinky Electrosex kits I've seen plastered online and hailed as "genius" by friends in the BDSM scene. Unfortunately, for as much as I wanted one, I was never able to find one I liked; they were either too expensive (upwards of $300.00), too confusing or powerful (knowing me I'd do some serious damage, especially without the right instructions), were cheaply made and looked like they'd fall apart (not good when it comes to something designed to electrocute you), were big and bulky, hard to store and rather heavy, or came in a design I didn't like very much. With all of that in mind, I just wasn't willing to to spend a wallet breaking amount of money on something I wasn't 100% sure of - let alone 100% sure I'd even like. Well, as they always say " good things come to those who wait" and thanks to the folks at SexToy.com I finally got my hands on a kit that's easy to use, not at all intimidating, fun, safe (it automatically turns off after 20mins), and best of all  - has just enough power to zap you into an endorphin rush without really hurting you - the Beginners E-Stim Kit by Zeus Toys.

What's Included

I'll be honest, when I first got my E-Stim Kit I was very intrigued while also being a tad nervous. I had never tried one before (especially one of my own) and was rather terrified that I would shock the living sh*t out of myself - or worse, out of someone else. It was then that I decided to thoroughly go through the owners manual, making sure to note any possible dangers, warning signs, and more specifically, learn the instructions inside and out. To my pleasant surprise the manual was very easy to read, well laid out, informative, and lead me through the operating procedures without any confusion. In fact, it was so easy to follow that I was instantly filled with confidence enough to use it almost right away - on my partner. I yanked the individual parts out of the box like a kid on Christmas morning and found everything a person would need to get started including; *4 adhesive pads - these pads come with a clear backing that can be easily removed for application or used to place the pads on when not in use giving them a longer life span. *2 sets of lead wires - they are rather long, which is good and thankfully look rather sturdy. *the power unit - the top of the unit has 2 external dials (amplitude controls) with speeds ranging from off - 8.  Also on top of the unit are 3 lights; 1 between each of the jack input and amplitude controls that glow red (to let you know the pulse rate of the electrical current) and 1 green light right in the middle of the unit to let you know that it's on. Internally there are 2 dials one for the Pulse Rate and the other for the Pulse Width (both explained below). In the middle is the Mode Selector which allows you to go from a steady Modulation Mode to Normal Mode and Burst Mode (also explained below). *9 volt battery and  *bonus "sex clamps" - not the best as the spring in one of mine popped out, but still a nice bonus. On that note, I did fix it without any problems.

How To Use

Being that I had read the instructions, very carefully I might add, putting it all together was extremely easy and not at all intimidating; First I made sure that all of the dials (4 in total - 2 external, 2 internal) were turned off (or on the lowest setting) so that I didn't accidentally shock myself when I plugged everything in.  Then I carefully removed the battery cover and inserted the 9v battery the product came with. Next I gently inserted the wire pins into the adhesive pads so that none of the bare wire was left exposed (you could also insert them into the clamps, I just liked the pads since they looked easier for a first timer). I plugged the connectors into the jacks on the case (there's one on each side) and removed the clear plastic backing from the adhesive pads and gently stuck them on my partners dry, clean, unbroken skin - forearm to be exact (I suggest you hold them down for 30 seconds just to make sure they actually stick).

Personal Experience

After double checking that the 2 internal dials were set to their lowest frequency, width and mode I switched on the 2 external dials to their lowest setting and my partner said he could slowly begin to feel the electrifying thrill that is the E-Stim Kit. Since this was being done in the realm of "testing" and "research" (basically giving me way to do what I wanted), I slowly increased the dials to a higher setting (somewhere between 4-5), sending a pulsing shock through my partners forearm. While it was intense he said it "wasn't too painful" and suggested I go to the next setting. Without hesitancy (more like sheer excitement, I think I was a Dom in a past life) I cranked it between 6 - 7 and his hand quickly began to involuntarily flex in time with the pulsations. With a slight gleam of fascination and fear in his eye, he asked me to take it up to the max (8 is as high as it goes). Again without hesitancy, I slowly turned the dial and watched as his hand moved in time with the pulsation, this time in more of a jerking manner rather then a ticking. Hilariously funny, yet slightly awe inspiring. Next up was an increase in the Pulse Width and Rate - now before I go any further I just want to take a moment to explain the difference; Pulse Width as described within the manual " adjusts the duration of each individual stimulation pulse width from 50 - 250 microseconds". From my experience it really just made a difference regarding the strength of the electrical current.  When it was at the lowest (50) it was hardly felt - giving off a slight tingling, rather than the strong shock that can't be mistaken at the highest (250). Pulse Rate as described within the manual "This control regulates the frequency of stimulation from 2Hz to 150Hz pulses per second".  This had less to do with the power of the electrical current and more to do with the speed at which it pulsed, as it made the product quickly go from a slight, fast paced tingling tapping to a long, drawn out current of pulsations with the biggest difference being felt between the 50Hz - 150Hz marks. With the above in mind I went for the Pulse Width first, fully knowing it was the most likely to cause an increase in pain. I watched as my partner went from slight interest and keen attention to a "holy shit wtf was that?!" face in an instant. Again, this was thoroughly exciting for me as I knew I was the one in full control of his pain or pleasure. At his insistence I took it all the way to the 250 mark, eagerly waiting for his reaction. He let out a slight yelp and I turned it down - we had found his threshold for pain. Once we had the Pulse Width at a setting that was comfortable for him, but still enough to cause a slight discomfort (somewhere around the 130 mark), I went for the Pulse Rate very slowly at first then (again) at his insistence cranked it to full - his hand and fingers went from a slow ticking to a strong uncontrollable and involuntary (almost fully) clenched fist - it was amazing to see!

Mode Settings

By this point in our exploration I was thoroughly amused and enthralled, quickly wanting to play with the Mode Settings located inside the control. The Modulation Mode (M) consists of a contraction for 4 seconds, relaxation for 1 second and again a contraction of 4 seconds. Pulse Width and Rate are both adjustable on this setting. The Normal Mode (N) consists of a steady contraction with no breaks (effing intense!!). Pulse Width and Rate are both adjustable on this setting. The Burst Mode (B) consists of a contraction for 0.2 seconds then relaxation of 0.2 seconds (repeat), only the Pulse Width (strength) is adjustable. Since we had started with the switch on the Modulation Mode I thought I'd try the Normal Mode and see what happened. I lowered everything to it's lowest setting again and flicked the switch, slowly turning up the dials until I saw my partners arm begin to twitch ever so slightly (he said 8 was tolerable on the amplitude dial). Then I tuned up both the Pulse Width and Rate, again watching for signs of pleasure or pain - I was able to get the Pulse Width fully turned to 250Hz without him freaking out, but once I got the Pulse Rate up over 90 his arm began twitch frantically and uncontrollably, so much that I had to turn the amplitude dial down to around 6. Once I did this I was able to take the Pulse Rate to it's max, watching his hand clench again into a tight fist that he couldn't open. He said it was scary, but that had more to do with the fact that he couldn't open his hand no matter how hard he tried, something he'd never experienced before. Apparently it was a total "mind f*ck". After giving him 10 minutes of rest time I switched it into Burst Mode, slowly turning up the Amp dials to their highest setting. His hand moved like he had a permanent twitch, but he said it didn't hurt and actually felt "really interesting". Again I had to turn the Amp dial down in order to turn up the Pulse Width to it's fullest, this time his hand flicked and twitched like a fish out of water. He said it didn't hurt but felt "foreign and very, very odd".

User Feedback

Once we finished playing and had extracted all the fun we could for one sitting, I switched everything to it's lowest setting and turned the dials off so I could safely remove the adhesive pads. As I gently peeled them off his skin and returned them to their clear sheets, I asked him what he thought of it, this was what he had to offer... "It's different, original, slightly scary, and since I don't have much to compare it to quality wise, I have to say that it seems like it's rather good quality. As far as the electricity goes I guess it depends on your kink. The pain thing is something I'm kinda new to so I don't know if it's the right thing for me. However, for someone who is into that kinda thing I can see how this would be a definite "must have". I think it's value as an electro stimulator kit is great because it lets you try that kinda thing out without having to hook yourself up to a car battery - sure it hurt, but it was more or less a point of discomfort rather then serious "pain". I'm sure there are other ways of seeing if your into that kinda thing, but to me I'd think they'd all be kinda dangerous - you know sticking your fork in a socket or doing something stupid like that. This to me seems much safer and gives just enough "pain" to allow you to see if you like it as a beginner, without actually hurting yourself or someone else".

But What's The Point Of It?

Now I'm sure a lot of you are wondering what an Electrosex kit has to offer, and quite truthfully, up until recently using one I was somewhat perplexed myself.  While I understood how it played into the S&M scene, I wasn't sure what it might offer others (especially beginners), aside from the sheer novelty of shocking ones friends (yep, I've done that too!). From the experiences we've had with our kit I can safely and assuredly say that Electrosex is no slight novelty, especially when used in a sexual manner; it requires 110% complete trust between partners, open and honest communication, the willingness to let ones guard down and be vulnerable, the ability to retain control at all times (for the person that has the control unit), and an underlying interest in the realm of pleasure vs pain. It is by no means for the slight of heart, or those that just aren't that interested. If I look at it from the sexual point of view; creating and/or enhancing a state of sexual arousal is definitely heightened with an Electrosex kit. For others, it has the rare ability to induce intense orgasm(s) as it can create a sensation that is deep and penetrating, while also being unmatched. Simply put, there is no other sensation like it. Unfortunately it hasn't brought about an orgasm for myself or my partner, but it has allowed us to get into some serious role play and built trust while also allowing us to explore our sexual relationship in a way we never had before.

The Bad

When it came to things I didn't like about the product I didn't really have any.  Maybe if I get my hands on other products like it that might change, but for now I'm satisfied. Of course there are things with the Beginners E-Stim Kit that you won't really find with other sexual wellness products like warnings, cautions, detailed possible side effects, limitation of liability, indemnity and binding arbitration (there's some big words), but that's all to be expected - especially considering that you're playing with an electrical current. With that in mind, I think the biggest downfall might be the fact that it can be dangerous if used incorrectly or without knowing what you're doing first. As it says in the instructions, the product is for "healthy, consenting adults who understand all operating procedures and warnings" - a statement I thoroughly agree with.

Final Verdict

In my honest opinion I love the Begginers E-Stim Kit; it's easy to use, allows for a variety of settings (ranging from a slight tingling to a more intense pulsation), it can be put together rather easily and doesn't require much care or maintenance, it's lightweight, rather discreet (no one would know what it was), and includes everything a person would need to safely venture into the world of electrosex without being overwhelmed or intimidated. Again, I just want to give a big thanks to the folks at SexToy.com for sending me such a kick ass product!    
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