After receiving two years worth of messages on whether or not you could use an oil lube with Latex Condoms, and why or why not? I thought I would finally put out a video strictly dedicated to the subject.
The answer quite clearly is NO.
When attempting to have safe sex it is best to stick with water or silicone based products that are 100% oil.
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After receiving two years worth of messages on whether or not you could use an oil lube with latex condoms, and why or why not, I thought I would finally put out a video strictly dedicated to the subject.
When latex comes in contact with anything oil-based (e.g. skin lotions, baby oil, Vaseline, Crisco, cold cream, or even whipped cream), a chemical reaction occurs between the two substances which dramatically breaks down and weakens the latex. As the latex weakens it is more likely to have small holes in it, diminishing the amount of protection the condom offers. Within a short time it will cause the condom to break or tear completely. According to the CDC, within as little as 60 seconds of exposure, a 90% decrease in latex strength will occur in a condom when using an oil based lubricant; this is why latex condoms (and anything else made of latex) should only be used with water-based lubricants (water-based lubricants will not damage latex).
If you use a polyurethane condom, there is no need for worry as any type of lubricant (oil-based or water-based) is safe to use, since both of these types of lubricants will not damage things made out of polyurethane.
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With all of the heated debates that have surfaced from the recent Miss Universe pageant, I thought that I would offer my two cents on the subject.
If the comments that you have to post are mean, cruel, hurtful, or hateful in any way they will NOT be allowed.
Also, for those of you questioning your sexuality please understand that there is nothing wrong with you, what you are going through is a normal part of your development and one more step in you finding out who you are ~ a person who deserves to be loved and respected no matter what.
After two years of questions from my viewers about their penis, its size, and how to make it larger, I thought I would offer a couple product reviews that might potentially help.
Before we move on, I just want to emphasize there is nothing wrong with having a penis that’s not the reported ‘average’. There are many people that prefer something not so big, and considering over 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm (something PIV can’t provide), having a smaller cock may just come in handy (it’s better at stimulating the g-spot!).
Having said that, I realize there is nothing I can say to make you feel better about your size, so instead I’m choosing to offer help the only other way I know how… by educating you on some of the options available. Hopefully it’ll make you feel more secure and confident in your body.
Like I’ve said time and time again, you’ve gotta learn to work with what you’ve got. And when you can’t, sometimes accessorizing it might just be the way to go.
What are penis extensions?Penis Extensions are accessories that can be used for a variety of reasons, the most common are to increase the length or girth of your penis, to sustain an erection, or increase the pleasure your partner experiences.
They are often found in 3 basic forms; Realistic, Latex Roll On, and Strap-On Extensions.
The first are hollow tube like structures that are placed over the end of the penis and slid down until the penis fills the space (pictured left). Most are crafted out of ‘skin like’ materials, be it UR3, Cyberskin, Real Feel, or otherwise. You’ll also find them made of silicone, PVC, and plastic (though the last two aren’t suggested as they’re not body safe). Skin like versions tend to be a tad pricier, aren’t very discrete, require cornstarch or renew powder to maintain their texture, can be difficult to clean since they’re porous, may slide off during use, and are more prone to tearing over time.
For those that have issues with keeping them on, you might want to try the Tommy Gunn version or a Traz Rhino as they use a ‘suction’ action to stay in place. Here’s a link to my video review of the Traz Rhino.
Latex Roll OnThe second type of penis extension is made of latex (pictured right) and is designed to be placed on the head of the penis and rolled down like a condom. These tend to be a little less bulky than the ‘realistic’ versions, are easier to apply, are far more discrete, and a lot cheaper. On the down side they tend not to last very long and are only good with condoms if large amounts of lube are used.
Strap On ExtensionFinally, you’ll find strap on extensions. Like the others they’re hollow to accommodate a penis, however they are held in place by a large strap of elastic or other adjustable material that either fits around the waist, or a combination of waist and between the thighs. Although they are the most ‘sturdy’, easiest to care for, clean, and use, they tend to be made of sub-par materials (pvc, etc) and not the most comfortable since there is limited squish or give to them.
When looking for an extension it’s suggested that you think about what type of experience you wish to have, how long you want the product to last, if you are doing this for yourself or your partner, the size you’re looking for (they usually vary from 1 inch to 4 inches in length), how much you’re willing to spend, and whether or not discretion is of importance.
Latex Penis Extension ($5.40 – $17.44)
The extension consists of latex and provides a comfortable feel for the man and an enjoyable, natural sensation for the woman (or other man). The extension is flexible enough to fit over a range of penis circumferences so you dont have to worry about finding one that is exactly right. Just make sure that the extension is not too tight to be uncomfortable or too loose to fall off while inside your partner. If this is a concern, you may want to use a condom over the extension and the penis to help hold everything in place.
Transformer Cyberskin Penis Extension ($9.92 – $33.07)
Designed for wear during intercourse, the transformer extends the penis up to a full 4″ and enlarges the entire girth. Made of Virtual Touch CyberSkin texture for a realistic feel with Dual Density material in the tip for soft, yet firm penetration. The custom comfort design allows maximum satisfaction and fit during use. One size fits all; however, you can cut the sheath to desired length if necessary. Virtual Touch CyberSkin texture provides the ultimate experience in sexual pleasure and stimulation.
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Terribly sorry to bother you, I know you get a lot of emails and messages, but I really love your videos and they have helped me a lot, so I thought you might be able to help me with my situation and I couldn’t find the answer to my question in any of your videos.
To be blunt, my boyfriend has a rather large penis (7.5in, 2 in.wide), and I’m a very small female (120lbs), and we have been having problems in the bedroom. We are probably the most intimate couple I know, completely in love, and after a long wait we decided that we wanted to have sex. We’re both virgins. However, whenever we try, he cannot penetrate. I know that it is not a matter of our comfort level, both of us want it very much, and I get wet, but he can never penetrate more than an inch without me experiencing extreme pain. So I guess you could say we’re having problems with penetration. Inserting tampons larger than regular size is even uncomfortable for me. We have tried multiple times with various condoms, and I am aware of the fact that the first time will hurt, but I was wondering if you have any suggestions, like positions we could try, or products we could buy to make it less uncomfortable for me, or any other advice you might have.
Would it be easier if we “practiced,” as in, he tries to penetrate a little more every time? Or would that just make the pain worse? Should I use a toy, or would that just be silly?
Thanks for your help,
Worried First Timer
Dear Worried First Timer,
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What your are experiencing is very common and something I hear all the time. That being said, please be aware of the fact that it is normal, to be expected and nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.
As for suggestions, I think you should start small and then work up to an actual penis. There are many things that you can use that are smaller then him that will help your body to stretch (it won’t actually ‘stretch out’, so don’t worry about that), get accustomed to having something inside, as well as hopefully provide you with the stimulation you need to have an orgasm.
First I would suggest making foreplay a very regular and integral part of your experience. I say this because the more aroused you are the more your vaginal canal will expand to allow the insertion of a penis. Just to be clear, when the vaginal canal at its largest (fully expanded) it’s “usually” between 6″ – 7″ inches deep, whereas it’s normally only 3″ – 4″ inches deep. Crazy, I know. Unfortunately, more foreplay doesn’t equal a deeper expansion.
Foreplay doesn’t have to be anything specific, just whatever it is that turns you on in the moment. For some people it’s cuddling, others like talking dirty, some like watching porn, others prefer something more external like light caresses, massages, or spankings. Feel what’s right for you in the moment, it’s all about turning yourself on.
Also by making foreplay a regular part of your experience you allow your body to go through the natural response cycle of arousal, allowing you to lubricate and ready yourself for intercourse.
Next, I would suggest either using a finger or a small silicone dildo to get yourself used to the feeling of having something inside. This can be done by him or by you. I’d personally suggest a dilator set, they often have everything you need, starting with smaller sized dildos and graduating to much larger. Or if you’re looking for something more specific I’d say go with a Small Silk, Little Flirt, or a Tantus Meteorite (my review) the last one is meant for anal use, but can just as easily be used vaginally. They’re all relatively small, made of body safe materials, have a base so you can get them out easily, and will last you a lifetime.
As for using them, I don’t suggest you just try and cram them in or go for an instant thrusting motion as it’ll likely be painful. Instead, lube both yourself and the toy up, then when you’re ready slowly insert the toy until it starts to hurt and when it does… just stop. Don’t remove it or shift it, just leave it exactly where it is. I know this may seem a little silly, but as time passes your body will relax and you’ll find the pain will subside. When you’re ready insert a bit more until it hurts, again, just stop. Keep going like this until the toy is completely inside you. For some people this takes one session, for others a few days of practice, some are able to do it on the first go. There is no barometer for what’s right or wrong. Just take your time and go slow. Eventually it will far less painful and something you can learn to enjoy.
Once you’re comfortable with the toys, try having him use his finger to penetrate you. I realize that it still might hurt, but using lots of lubricant and relaxing can make a world of difference. Again, I don’t suggest that he use his fingers in an “in and out” motion as the friction can sometimes hurt, but instead place that he slowly insert one in you for as long as your comfortable. Follow the same steps outlined above until you’re comfortable and ready to explore something larger like two fingers. From there you could attempt a larger sized dildo or have him try and penetrate you. Again, it may still be painful but usually if you’ve taken the necessary time to allow your body to get used to the feeling, it can make a world of difference.
The final suggestion I have is to take some time relaxing before you have sex. The more relaxed you allow your body to become the more you will enjoy the experience because you are not tense, and therefor not “tightening” up.
Please remember that it isn’t something that is going to happen over night and instead is going to take some time for you to get used to. That being said, once you are comfortable and ready it can make the experience a much more pleasurable one then a painful one.
I do understand how frustrating this can be and hope that some of my suggestions helped.
Kara_Sutra
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