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Review: Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Ask anyone with a smaller than average penis about their experiences and most will likely admit that “making do with what they’ve got” is sometimes easier said than done.

That isn’t to say that anything below average isn’t good. Because it is. Very much so. As someone that isn’t a size queen, I can personally testify to that.  But considering we live in a culture where the message of “bigger is better” is a constant, it’s silly to expect someone to be confident when they don’t feel what they have is adequate, even when it is.  So, like anyone would do, they look for something that will make them feel better, whether it be a pump, sleeve, or otherwise.

Enter the Rhino by Traz penis extension; a kick ass 4-in-1 penis sleeve I found while updating my beginners guide to penis extensions.

Now I know this isn’t something that will appeal to all of you, but with sex toys designed for “men” finally starting to catch up to their “female” counter parts, I can’t help but think Traz is poised to take over a considerable part of the market, and quite deservedly so. What they’re offering is leaps and bounds above what’s currently available, both in terms of design, usage, and materials.Traz Rhino, The Worlds #1 Penis Sleeve

 The Good

Even as someone who tends to opt for decidedly ‘average’ sized insertables, I can’t help but love the sleeves Traz has created. They’re sleek and easy to use, supple, body safe, comfortable, and most importantly, THEY STAY PUT!

  • Unlike other sleeves, the Traz versions are the ONLY ones made of 100% silicone that don’t require a sling under the balls to hold them in place, allowing them a handful of benefits:
    • they’re far less likely to tear with time, a common issue I hear with ‘real feel‘ and roll on versions.
    • allergic to latex? no worries, they’re latex free.
    • being non-porous they won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria.
    • they’re hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, and phthalate free, so they won’t leech chemicals into you or your partners body.
  • Each of the sleeves is totally customizable when it comes to length, simply cut it to the exact size you need.
  • Even though they’re thick, with a considerable amount of weight (especially the Stampede/Genesis versions), the silicone still has some squish, give, and flexibility, allowing for a decent cushion and comfortable fit.
  • They can be used as a masturbation sleeve; just add some lube, slide yourself inside, and stroke away. If you want to add a different sensation cover the end with your finger for some ‘sucking’ action. It’s obvs not like the real thing, but I’ve been told it’s above par.
  • If you have a traditional vibe hanging around, or a basic dildo for that matter, the sleeves can be placed over top to ‘enhance’ it.
  • Finally, as someone that’s tried all the options available (we’re talking latex, realistic, and strap-on), I appreciate not having to continually start and stop because the sleeve is sliding off. If you want a sleeve that stays put! you want a Rhino by Traz.

How To Use/Sizing

Included in the kit are three components; the silicone sleeve, an inner sizing core, and the plug (inserted it in the end to create the vacuum suction). For the most part putting it all together easy to do; just add some lube, slide the core all the way to the top of the sleeve, insert your erect penis, squish the base to remove any air, and insert the plug. Easy peasy!

Note: Before use with a partner I suggest taking some time to explore on your own; masturbate with it, put all the parts together and remove them, let your partner use it (on a vibe or dildo) so they’re familiar with it, and make sure it’s the right size (this might require cutting the sleeve, core, or both). That way, when the time comes, you’ll be confident and know what to expect.  It’ll go a long way for making the experience a good one. Trust me on this.


I’m going to assume the majority of reviews you read will be from those who have a penis and can give you some insight on what to expect as the one wearing it. This is sadly something I can’t do. Ahem, *vagina*. Instead, what I can do is offer what it’ll be like for the person you’re sharing with. A considerable point of interest for those looking to get something because their partner isn’t satisfied.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension: SleekRhino by Traz Penis Extension: Sleek

Being the least intimidating of the three I opted to explore with the Sleek first. Resembling a lot of the dildos I own, the 1.5″ diameter was similar enough in size that I felt confident I could manage it without a hitch.

After a bit of foreplay and the addition of lube, the smooth shaft slid in effortlessly with a minimal amount of drag. Even though it was longer than I’m used to, it didn’t take long before we had a steady rhythm going, the supple silicone added a gentle cushioning that made deep thrusting comfortable and enjoyable.

Having said that I’ll admit it wasn’t quite what I was expecting. I knew what I was getting into reviewing these sleeves; that they were silicone and wouldn’t feel like a ‘real’ penis, but even with all the dildos I’ve used over the years it felt foreign. It wasn’t something I didn’t find pleasurable, because I did, I’m just used to certain sensations (i.e. the feeling of ‘him‘), and not having that took me by surprise. Fortunately that passed rather quickly and the two of us were able to focus on each other rather than the sleeve.

As for using it to masturbate with, my tester was impressed. He said he could feel the ridges inside as it slid up and down his shaft and that the suction action was something he thoroughly enjoyed. Because it’s thinner the grip can be better felt.

Who Will Like It

If you’re comfortable with your girth but want that ‘little bit more’ by way of length, I’d say choose a Sleek. The sleeve is adequately ‘above average’, but still totally doable. That isn’t to say it won’t add girth if you need it, because it will.  It’s also the most comfortable of the three, both to wear and insert.  On that note, being lighter than the other two it shouldn’t weigh your penis down, something my partner complained about with the larger versions.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension: GenisisRhino by Traz Penis Extension: Genesis

After conquering the Sleek with a minimal amount of effort I suffered from a bout of overconfidence and rushed into the Genesis, after all, how much difference could a half inch make?

Let me tell you, it makes A BIG DIFFERENCE.

Although they look damn near identical, save for a half inch upgrade in girth, these two sleeves are worlds apart. Unlike the Sleek, Genesis is bulky with a weight increase that’s noticeable from just holding it. Flexibility is also something they don’t share; Sleek is exceptionally pliable, whereas Genesis is much more substantial with minimal give. There’s also a slightly raised bump in the head of the shaft designed to offer g-spot stimulation, making it feel thicker. All of these differences played a role in my ability, or lack thereof, to take the sleeve without a deliberate effort.

Between the weight of the sleeve pulling his dick down and my vag deciding it was too big, getting it in was a struggle. There was a considerable amount of discomfort at first, followed by a cycle of start, stop, remove, add lube, etc until it was half in. At that point we had to just leave it alone so my body could relax and adjust. Then, just when I thought we’d have to quit, he gave a gentle thrust and it slid into place perfectly. As someone that doesn’t regularly use anything larger than 5″ in length or 1.5″ in diameter, this was a major accomplishment.

The size was fulfilling without being too much, and once we got into the swing of things it became surprisingly comfortable. From that point each thrust went from discomfort to instant gratification. Not at all what I expected considering the amount of effort it took to get it in.

Like the previous version it serves well as a masturbation device, with the added thickness offering some decent squish and give.

Who Will Like It

If you’re looking for an all around increase in size, we’re talking both girth and length, you’ll probably prefer the Genesis. It’s considerably heavier than the sleek, and also less flexible, but it feels a lot more substantial. Like the Sleek, the Genesis has dense ribbing, making it perfect for masturbation sessions.

Rhino by Traz Penis Extension: StampedeRhino by Traz Penis Extension: Stampede

There was no time that I wasn’t overwhelmed by the Stampede. If we’re being honest, it’s safe to say that I was legitimately afraid. I probably sound like a big sissy, but here’s the thing, until you hold it in your hands and feel the heft behind it, you really won’t appreciate the situation.

Let me make this very clear: the Stampede is a beast, not unlike the Tantus T-Rex, however there is one big difference between the two; with the T-Rex you’re in full control, after all it is just a dildo and you’re the boss. With the Stampede however, you’re at the mercy of the person wielding it.  A scary thought for someone like me. Again, I’m going to emphasize the fact that my vadge is most pleased with anything 5″ in length and 1.5″ – 2″ inches in diameter, however in it’s entirety (we’re talking 8″ x 2.2″), the Stampede seemed staggering.

Even with all the right prepping, the first time we tried was a no-go; there was lube, and lots of it. Dirty grooves played in the background. I even went so far as to get the body wand original and a Vixen Maverick involved for a good half hour. Didn’t matter, my vagina shut down and refused entry. Fortunately I wasn’t alone in my disappointment, due to the added weight my partner had a hard time maneuvering and found himself using it like a barbell to show off his “dick lifting skills” rather than screw me with.

Never one to accept defeat I decided to take matters into my own hands literally and break out the big guns; there was a bottle of Chardonnay (for drinking! pervs), four of my largest dildos, my favorite lube, and an old acrylic vibe that hasn’t seen the light of day in years. One by one I worked through the toys until I thought I’d be able to handle the Stampede. Then, inch by overly large inch, I manged to get it in fully, though not comfortably or to my liking. Thrusting didn’t feel like the others; the matte texturing added some drag and the weight of it made my wrist tired. Eventually I gave up and left it inserted while stimulating externally until I climaxed around the thick shaft. Let’s just say it offers a fullness that’s hard to beat.

This was also my partners least favourite when it came to use as a masturbation sleeve. He said that although the thickness added a lot of cushioning, it didn’t offer as much control over ‘tightness’ as he would have liked. Also, because the internal core has ridges that are more spread out, it wasn’t as stimulating. He still enjoyed it, just not as much.

Who Will Like It

If you’re the type that follows the motto “go big or go home“, the Stampede is for you. If you love big cock, the Stampede is for you. If you don’t shy away from a challenge and like the idea of feeling like a badass after conquering something large and in charge, the Stampede is for you. Point being, this baby is no joke. It’s products like this that make me wish I was a size queen. *sigh*

internal sleeves traz rhino

The Bad

Due to the size of the internal hole you may or may not fit inside. As for length, if you’re 4 ½” to 5″ inches you should be fine with leaving the sleeves as is, though if you’re larger you may need to trim the inner core.  If you’re shorter than 4 1/2″ you’ll likely need to cut the sleeve to custom fit, otherwise it’ll hang off and feel segmented.

They don’t feel like a “real” penis. Instead, it’s like having sex with a partner who’s penis has been replaced by a really great dildo. That’s not me knocking it, I just don’t want you to expect it to feel “human” and be disappointed.

You’re probably going to worry that the plug will come out inside you, lost to the depths of your vadge forever more… I know I did. Thankfully it never happened. I can’t promise that it won’t for you, but of all the times we used it I didn’t have any issues. #vacuumsealforthewin

The website states that they can be used anally, however this is something I didn’t try as I have a strict ‘must have a base to go in my butt’ policy. You could place it on a dildo that has a base and see how things go, but I just wasn’t willing to chance it.

Because they’re rather small, think of a thumb tack minus the pin, there’s a likely chance you’ll accidentally lose or misplace your plug. If you do, don’t worry. Just email the folks at Traz and they’ll send you a replacement or two.

Care & Cleaning

Because they wont retain bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, they don’t require heavy duty cleaning. Simply give them a good wash with mild soap and water and let them sit to air dry. Or, if you’re a clean freak, you can boil them in water for 3 minutes, toss ’em in your dishwasher, or wash them with a 10% bleach solution. Though honestly, it’s pretty unnecessary.

Final Verdict – Rhino by Traz Penis Extension

Rhino by Traz Penis ExtensionI was first introduced to penis sleeves 9 years ago. The concept was strange to me, the product even more so. I mean, why wouldn’t someone just learn to work with what they had? Seemed reasonable enough. Especially to someone who preferred things on the smaller side and didn’t really understand the whole size queen thing. But I was a noob and really didn’t know any better.

Now, almost a decade later, I’ve come to understand just how helpful a good extension can be. Not only for the person wearing it, but the partner that might want just that little bit more… or in the case of the Stampede or Genesis sleeves, a lot more.

After all, if your partner can use something bigger than you, like a dildo, why can’t you put on a high quality sleeve and do it yourself? You can. And that’s the whole point.

For more info or to get one of your own, head over to their website or check out SheVibe, the only other place you can currently get one

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Review: Lelo Ida

Lelo Ida & TaraAfter watching the promotional video for Ida & Tara, Lelo’s newest couples toy, the little sex toy hoarder living in my head desperately whispered… you need to have that.

I told it that I didn’t. That there were other things to covet. That I had my sights on another precious. That it had misled me before, and that because of past indiscretions I wasn’t sure I could trust it again. Yet each and every time I heard someone tweeting or talking about it, there was that familiar hushed voice growing ever more determined…  you need to have it.

You just, need to have it.

So, when the lovely Carlyle Jensen of Toronto based sex toy shop Good For Her asked if I’d like to review it, the little voice screamed YES! …and with my own curiosities peaked, I really couldn’t say no.


As with every other LELO product I’ve reviewed, the packaging is professional, respectful and ’boutique’ in appearance. The box is sleek, glossy, modern, and classy, with no tacky photos or cheesy slogans to detract from the level of quality the company has come to be known for.

Once open you’ll find a matte cardboard box that cradles both the remote and vibe within a velvety tray. There’s also a small compartment hiding a set of batteries, charging cord, key to open and close the battery cover, registration card for warranty, and instruction book.

For the record I love Lelo’s packaging; it keeps everything in one neat little lint free place, cords, batteries, lube and all, so I never have to rummage through drawers trying to find all the parts and pieces. On that note, do yourself a favor and hold onto it. It’ll likely serve you well in the long run.

outer package

inner & outer box

toy tray & outer box

the full shebang


Personal Experience

Having previously reviewed the Tiani 2, another Lelo vibe with a disc like remote, I was familiar with how Ida worked… or at least I thought I was.

And so I laid, a piece of silicone stuffed lifeless inside me, arm flailing like a maniac having a carpal tunnel fit, cursing every dirty word I knew, hoping against all odds I’d remember and like one of Oprah’s signature Aha! moments, miraculously figure it out. As if that wasn’t awkward enough, I caught sight of my partner standing in the middle of room staring at me mid remote controlled flail, looking confused, horrified and amused. After the fact he said he was seriously considering calling 911. Suffice to say,  I’ll not make that mistake again. Instructions, people. Even when you think you know better, always read the instructions. And lock the door.

buttons, buttons, everywhere.

Good luck trying to find these in the dark, or when lubed hands are at the helm

Feeling like a total failure I decided it would be in my best interest to forgo the remote and try the vibe on its own. This posed its own set of problems… the power button is located on the side of the rounded base, which is fine, except that each time you want to switch settings (there’s 6 of them), the entire vibe must be removed. Sure, you could spend a good 10 minutes aimlessly running lubed fingers around the base, feverishly searching for tiny and impossible to find embossed ridges, only to continuously land on the charging port instead. But that would be foolish. Removing it would certainly be easier. And far more time effective. You’d think I’d have learned by now.

Thankfully there’s a silver lining to my lack of common sense… it was during this constant insertion and removal that I came to realize how Ida works best; because the base was too short to rest on the clitoris and offer direct stimulation, placing the edge of it on the clit while slowly rocking with a hand cupped over the the base, so the arm penetrates in a gentle gliding motion, I was able to bring myself to orgasm.

Assuming I was on to something, I tested this method 3 times over the next few days and was thankfully met with the same result; a slowly built release that left a pleasurable and steady wave of orgasmic contractions.  Was it a bit more involved than I hoped? Yup. Was it mind blowing or intense? No. But it was effective. That’s better than nothing, right?

Lelo Ida size comparison

a full fingers worth, plus a bit

For as determined as I am there were times when my wrist started to cramp and I had to stop, rather than giving up and grabbing my Hitachi, I laid there like a lazy little bitch and let Ida twirl away. The rhythmic pressure felt nice as it gently stroked my g-spot and the vibrations did their thing on my vulva, but there was something that lingered… something not quite right… something was missing… then BAM! it hit me, I couldn’t help but notice the arm was pretty wimpy size wise. Even for someone that isn’t a size queen, measuring 3 inches in circumference at its thickest, and 3.5′ inches insertable, it isn’t very impressive. Granted Ida is meant to be a couples toy, so the thinner the better, but in this case, I was left wanting. If I had to compare it to something, I’d say the thickness is pretty close to having a finger inside you. Maybe two, but that’s pushing it.

As for prostate use, my tester said he could feel it and it was comfortably good, but that the wide, thick, and firm base was hard to get used to between his ass cheeks and that finding a good angle while sitting was a bit trying (he’s used to flexible silicone, so that may be more him than the product).  I tried it this way myself… it’s an interesting sensation, a little weird at first, then fairly pleasurable. Though I’ll admit, I had the same issue with the base until I wedged it between my butt cheeks and clenched like my life depended on it. Not ideal, but it’ll do.

Partner Use

Unfortunately partner use is where things start to get really tricky, and by tricky I mean worse; once Ida is inserted it’s rather difficult to get a partner in, especially if they’re wearing a condom. In fact, if they’re wearing a condom don’t even bother, it’ll likely end badly – as per the one condom that went missing, and the other that pulled and eventually tore.  Yes, we found the lost one, but still. This is not okay.

On that note, I know that Ida was a product designed for couples, couples that presumably don’t use condoms anymore. But for those of us that do, it’s a righteous pain the ass, on top of being worrisome and disappointing. There should be a warning about this somewhere, yet there is not.  Lelo, please fix this.

Lack of a condom makes the experience arguably less frustrating, but it’s still awkward and requires effort, lots of lube, a lot of foreplay, and even more patience and perseverance.  Getting a rhythmic thrusting going wasn’t easy either, I had to hold Ida in place to keep it from slipping when he pulled out, discouraging to say the least. Of course this wasn’t the only let down; rather than providing ‘more pleasure for him‘, with each thrust (when we could finally manage it, they were few and far between), he was met with the firm base hitting his pelvis. Grinding was no better, the base dug into him awkwardly until he finally asked if we could stop.  Even though changing angles and positions provided different results, it’s safe to say Ida isn’t something he’d opt to use again given the choice.

As for the rotations, I could feel them, but it wasn’t what I expected… there was pressure internally, but it was muted, almost like an afterthought, and didn’t add that much to the experience. Externally I felt the vibrations, but I was concentrating so hard on keeping it in place and trying to feel the rotations that I didn’t pay them the attention they deserved.

a plethora of dildos

my allies in defeat

Certain it was just my partner or the way we have sex, I armed myself with a handful of dildos of varying sizes/materials and settled in to prove myself right. For the record, there is nothing like an angry sex hoarder wielding sex toys totally ready for a challenge.

Yet again, I was wrong.

Even when lubed the silicone on silicone gripped and pulled my skin or each other, making insertion and any thrusting a serious difficulty. I struggled with hard ABS plastic, wood, and glass on silicone that at first dragged, then slipped all over the place. Admittedly, a lack of lube would have solved this problem, but I can’t begin to think of the ordeal it would have been without it. Quite unexpectedly, the last set of materials also made the vibrations pitch take on a distracting buzzy tone every time they unintentionally touched the ABS plastic cover. It was an all around fail.

Now add to all of these experiences a remote, one that requires either constant movement, focus, the ability to multitask, or all of above, and you’ve got one hell of a situation going on. Maybe it’s just me, but sex shouldn’t require this much work, especially from a product that’s supposed to offer “intense satisfaction“. Their words, not mine. Don’t get me wrong, the wireless remote is fun to play with… it’s just a tad involved and seems more like a gimmick to inflate prices than anything else.

Care & Cleaning

Thankfully Ida doesn’t require a heavy duty cleaning after use, the silicone won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, allowing a quick wash with warm water and antibacterial soap. You’ll want to take a few extra seconds to make sure the indent around the gold cover is clean, same goes for the remote buttons. I’ve found fluids will collect around the seam, something you probably wont notice until after the fact.  Also, make sure to avoid getting any water or soap in the charging socket of the toy, and that it’s dry before you plug it in to recharge, that could obviously be dangerous.

Final Verdict

Personally I think Ida has a bit of an identity crisis to work out, which is crappy since I’ve had really great luck with Lelo toys so far;  Ella was one of the very first toys that consistently had me squirting (tmi? meh.), their dual stimulator Ina was one of my go to toys for over 3 years, and I’ve loved the first and second generation Gigi without fault. Maybe if it was thicker, and a tad longer, with a slightly higher resting base, it would make for an ideal solo toy, but as a couples vibe it comes up short. Not to mention being far too complicated.

My advice, if you want a vibrator that has the quality Lelo is known for, are in the market for something on the smaller side, that isn’t overwhelmingly powerful (i.e. NOT a Hitachi), head over to Good For Her and get yourself a Lelo Tara. Sans Ida. It’s basically the same thing without a remote, or the high price tag. If on the other hand you want something a little bit more substantial, I’d suggest snagging a Gigi 2, Ina 2, We-Vibe Touch… or if you’re dead set on a couples vibe, give the Tiani 2 a go. Or maybe the We-Vibe 4. I haven’t tried it yet, but it looks a lot more promising than what Lelo cooked up, even without the rotations.

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Review: Lelo ~ Design Edition Tiani 2

New & Improved Tiani 2

When it comes to couples vibes for use during intercourse you’ve got a few options to choose from, the external clitoral stimulator Fixsation panty set, the We-Vibe (with it’s many incarnations), simple to use yet not always fulfilling cock rings,  and the newest kid on the block; the remote controlled Lelo SenseMotion Tiani 2 (an updated version of the original Tiani  – a product I opted not to review thanks to the disgruntled review it received from one of my fave reviewers, Dangerous Lilly).

Fortunately all of the design issues the original Tiani faced have been fixed, creating a product that’s easy to use (whether alone or with a partner), whisper quiet, discreet, comfortable, totally stunning, body safe, waterproof, and rechargeable. With everything it has to offer the Tiani 2 encompasses pretty much everything I look for in a couples vibe, now add to that the fact that there’s a remote control (one that actually works) and I’m pretty damn impressed.


Like everything LELO does the product is very professionally packaged; the box is both colorful and pretty with nothing on it that’s rude, inappropriate or tacky. There’s no nudity, profanity, or cheesy slogans, nor is there anything else that might make you recoil at the sight of it. The box itself is “designer” in appearance and could easily be mistaken for an unknown high-tech gadget found in a department store or high end boutique.

Once the outer box is removed you’ll find a matte cardboard box with the LELO logo embossed in shiny black on the front, inside the box sits the Tiani 2, remote, and a small compartment that holds the attachment, charging cord, and a sample packet of Lelo Personal Moisturizer (a.k.a lubricant).

*For the record mine didn’t come with instructions, batteries, the “key” to open the battery compartment or the satin pouch. When I asked my contact at the company about this she suggested I check the space under where the vibe sits as they often slide down and get missed. Unfortunately mine still didn’t have them, but that isn’t to say yours won’t.

The Good

Considering it’s a product made by LELO I had very high expectations, how could I not, they’re the makers of my fave dual stimulator Ina, designed what I think may be one of the very best g-spot targeted silicone dildos on the market, Ella, and were one of the first intimate accessory manufacturers to branch into the ‘luxury’ market with an amazing response from consumers and retailers. Over the years they’ve set the bar fairly high for others to follow, with their newest upgrade, Tiani 2, being no exception.

As expected Tiani 2 is very well-made with much attention paid to detail, functionality and appearance;

  • The body is sleek, compact and futuristic, with a texture that’s velvety smooth to the touch, supple and very luxurious, to be honest, it looks more like something you’d use in conjunction with an iPhone or iPod than during intercourse.
  • Each of the attachments can be easily affixed with a quick twist of the wrist and don’t require any additional parts or locking pieces. On top of that, they’re highly flexible, allowing them to bend, move and shift with you and your partner(s) when in the moment.
  • The bulbous design of the external portion makes stimulating the vulva easy to achieve. For those of you with a higher placed clitoris this may be all you have to go with since targeting the clit may be a tad difficult.
  • Vaginal insertion with or without lube is comfortable due to the texture of the silicone, and once inserted, the thinness of the ‘arms’ make adding a penis (or dildo) much easier than I found with the We-Vibe.
  • On that note, the entire product is comfortable. Not once did I feel like I was being poked or prodded, nor did it feel like there was something “extra” crammed inside me.
  • Since the vibe is rechargeable you don’t have to worry about batteries, it’s also waterproof for use in the bath or shower (just make sure the attachments are properly secured and there’s no overlapping parts where water may get inside).
  • The silicone used is totally body safe and non-toxic, hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-porous, odourless and phthalate/latex free, with the colors being bright and punchy (you’ve got the option of black,  purple or fuschia).
  • Finally, all LELO products come with a 1 year replacement warranty and and a 10 year guarantee – in the world of sex toys that’s a really big deal!

Everything considered there’s nothing about it that’s cheap, intimidating or tasteless, though I will admit, I found the metallic goldish bar wrapping the body to be slightly garish. Of course that’s just a matter of appearance, for some it will lend itself well to the high-end market they’re targeting.

As for the attachments, I personally like that they included two, especially since the original didn’t do much for me, nor did it stay in place very well. Having said that, I’m not sure if it was because of the slight lip/indent (not really visible in the bottom right photo), tiny increase in length and thickness, the squared and therefore wider surface area, or all of the above, but the second version did much more for me than the original when it came to g-spot stimulation.

Operating Instructions

Considering my Tiani 2 didn’t come with any instructions I was left to my own devices when it came to figuring it out, and to be honest, for as comfortable with technology and vibrators as I am, it was a bit of a challenge. So for those of you that find yourself in my predicament, I hope this helps:

For Use Without the Remote (Solo Mode)

To power on the toy, push the button located on the lower portion of the vibe and hold down for a few seconds, to cycle through the patterns simply press the button, each time you press it you’ll jump to the next setting. Unfortunately there is no ‘back’ button so if you accidentally jump past your fave setting you have to cycle through them again. To turn it off simply press and hold the button for 3 seconds and it will power down. Just keep in mind that the speed during solo mode is set at the highest and cannot be increased or decreased without the remote.

For Use With the Remote (SenseMotion Mode)

Before I go on I just want to make sure to mention a few things:

  • In SenseMotion mode the controller will vibrate in sync with the toy so the person holding it can feel what the person with the vibe feels, however you can turn it off by holding down the “|” button.
  • If the remote loses the signal the vibrations won’t stop, they’ll just go back to the basic vibration.
  • Each of the products must be powered on and off separately – you can’t turn off the vibe by using the remote.
  • If you hold down the “+” and “|” buttons simultaneously for about 3 seconds the remote will lock, press them again and they’ll unlock. It’s a nifty little addition, but I don’t know if it’s something I’d ever use.

Power on the vibe as before,  then power on the wireless remote by pressing the “+” button located on the silicone side (I suggest allowing at least 5 seconds for the connection to be made between the two devices). Once the connection is established, proceed to whichever “SenseMotion” mode you want by pressing the middle button (if you want the first setting press it once, if you want the second setting press it twice etc), you’ve got 3 to choose from:

1.) Simply twist the remote from horizontal to vertical position to increase or decrease the intensity of the vibration. It’s actually pretty cool when you’re holding it to feel the change in speed.
2.) Move the remote any way you wish, shake it, roll it, flip it etc. and the vibe will react in different ways – consider this your ‘free for all’ mode (the faster you move the controller, the more intense the vibrations become. Can we say fun? I think we can!).
3.) If you have a certain pattern you like (be it pulsation, escalation, steady vibe etc – there’s 6 patterns to choose from), simply press the middle button until you find it, once you find it you can press the “+” or “|” buttons to increase or decrease the power of the vibrations.

To power off the remote hold down the “|” for 3 seconds.

As for the actual usage of the product, it’s got quite a bit going for it:

  • Both the vibe and cordless remote are whisper quiet, allowing for an ease of experimentation, in private or public, that’s free of the distraction many other louder vibes often beget (it can’t be heard though clothes, walls or doors).
  • The remote is palm sized and ergonomically designed making it easy to hold and manipulate in the moment, without also being heavy, awkward or bulky.
  • Unlike other products that require pressing a button to get a desired change in vibration, simply turning, twisting or shaking the remote changes the speed, offering the opportunity to play without having to constantly stop and see what you’re doing.
  • Quite surprisingly the  range from remote to vibe is rather impressive, with the remote maintaining contact with the vibe just over 20ft (we didn’t try any farther though the website states it’s good for up to 39ft).
  • Regarding the vibrations, you’re looking at a mix of surface level and buzzy or slightly rumbly depending on the setting/speed, having said that they’re surprisingly strong for a smaller product and carry the sensation through the entire body of the toy rather nicely.
  • Once charged the product has a 9o day stand-by, with a two hour charge offering around 2 hrs worth of play time, for most that’s more than enough to mutually reach an orgasm. Wanting to test the toy I turned it on and left it sitting for just over 2 1/2 hours, when I came back it was still going, though the light was flashing to indicate that it needed to be recharged.

All in all it’s fun to play with, though there is a definite learning curve, with or without the instructions. Having said that, I’d highly suggest playing with it on your own before inviting a partner, otherwise you’ll likely find yourself lost and confused, wondering wtf you’re doing, and in the process, miss out on some of the kick ass features Tiani 2 has to offer during partner play.

Recharging the Tiani 2 is actually really simple, just remove whichever attachment you’re using, plug the adapter into the white portion that juts out from the body of the vibe and plug it into the outlet.  During charging a small light (the same one that indicates that it’s on) will blink, once fully charged it will continually glow. For a two hour charge you’ll get around 2 hours worth of use, with a 90 day stand-by time.

Rather than being rechargeable like the vibe, the remote requires 2 AAA batteries. To insert them you’ll need to take the “key”, place the flat portion into the center indentation and twist, once you’ve done this the back should pop off and you can insert the batteries. Unfortunately mine didn’t come with the “key” so I had to use a random penny.

charging port and attachments

Care & Cleaning

Because it’s crafted out of body safe silicone that won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, it won’t need the same heavy duty cleaning other products require, as such simply washing it with warm water and antibacterial soap should suffice.

*I’d also suggest removing the arm and giving the internal parts a wipe with a damp cloth or toy wipe as fluids can sometimes make their way into and under the seam. Just make sure to avoid getting any of the water or soap into the charging socket of the toy.

Regarding lubes I’d only suggest a good water-based version since a silicone lube would likely ruin the product over time.

The Bad

When it comes to my personal dislikes, there’s a few worth mentioning;

  • Depending on your body and where your clit/g-spot are located (high or low/deep or shallow) the ‘arms’ may or may not be able to deliver stimulation exactly where you need it. Fortunately the inclusion of another ‘arm’ might make targeting the g-spot a bit more of a reality for some.
  • Because the arms aren’t very long or thick, some may have a hard time with them staying in place. There were a few occasions where the vibe shifted for us during use (mostly due to the positions we were in), but with it being rather thin and not too intrusive, reaching down and adjusting it back into place (with him inserted) wasn’t very difficult.
  • The remote runs on batteries rather than being rechargeable, not exactly impressive, but I’ll deal with it.
  • If you’re not very tech-savvy it may be slightly overwhelming to figure out how to make it work (with the remote). Then again, considering we’re becoming a very technologically invested society, that could also be considered a selling point. Being that mine didn’t come with instructions there was a bit of a learning curve, leaving me to fiddle for some time on my own before venturing into partner play.
  • Depending on how “tight” you are (God I hate that word!), or how large your partner is, it may not be comfortable during intercourse. Alternatively it may also be highly stimulating, adding that little something extra to help you get off… I found the latter to be the case with us.
  • It’s not exactly cheap (available for between $119 – $159 depending on the website) but then again I don’t expect it to be – like any high end intimate accessory it’s an INVESTMENT. You’re paying for quality, durability, functionality and luxury – all of the things you don’t get with cheaper made products mass produced by big corporate manufacturers.
  • If you hate finger prints or smudge marks the metallic goldish side of the remote may make you crazy. Lint on silicone is my pet peeve so I was fine.
  • Although the silicone is virtually seamless, the parts where the connectors attach does have a seam which may collect fluids and debris, along with being potentially uncomfortable.
  • Even though it’s relatively powerful it may not be enough to some to climax with.

Having said all of that I still think the Tiani 2 is a pretty incredible little toy. Yes, it has its issues, but for the most part it’s fun… and sex should almost always be fun!

Final Verdict

If you’ve been on the hunt for a remote controlled vibe designed for use during intercourse, one that’s body safe, whisper quiet, comfortable, and discreet, while also being rechargeable, waterproof and luxurious, the Tiani 2 may just be what you’ve been looking for. Sure there are other versions of wireless vibes available, but the SenseMotion technology is what sets it in a class of its own; not only does it blend high end intimate accessories with a functionality that’s hard to beat, it puts you and your partner(s) in a state of control that may have previously been impossible to achieve.

To get your hands on the Tiani 2 or to get more info head on over to the LELO website!

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Sexy Gifts For Couples

Maybe it’s just me but for as much as I love flowers and chocolate (and I do love chocolate), when it comes to gifts I’d much rather get something that’s fun, lasts the whole year, doesn’t die or go straight to my hips. For me, the thoughtful gift of something I could share with the person I play with (or by myself ) was always a much better option.

With that in mind, whether you’re shopping for yourself, your partner or as a couple, the following suggestions should come in very handy when it comes to this years gift giving.

If you’d prefer to shop for that special lady in your life, rather then couples gifts, I suggest you check out my post on “Gift Ideas For Her”. On that note, if you’re just looking for some fun little add-ons to a gift you’ve already purchased, my list of stocking stuffer ideas is also a good place to start , just ignore the “stocking stuffer” part and keep in mind all the products are relatively generic and not completely Christmas themed.

While I’d love if you shopped through my official online sexual wellness store, please feel free to click the links (on the right side) for other companies that may have the products offered for lower prices. To me it’s not about where you shop, it’s about helping you find a product you can afford, while also bringing hours of pleasure to you and yours.

*Prices quoted are from my store unless otherwise stated

*For more great ideas check out my “Enhancing Intimacy With Games” video/blog post.

My Joy Edible Body Paint for CouplesBody Paint & Dessert Toppings: ($2.33 – $31.73)

From glow in the dark to fruit flavored, from chocolate to graffiti inspired, when it comes to body paints you’re guaranteed to find a product you’ll like. The only suggestions I have are to look for products that don’t stain (you or the sheets), come in a variety of flavors/scents and come with everything you’ll need to use them to their full advantage. (glow in the dark and “requires a black light” are two very different things)

*Cheesy quote: “Nothing spells sexy like the words you’ll get to paint on your lovers body.” – blame Jamie for that one!

Worth trying: Sexy Lovers Graffiti Paint, Kama Sutra Chocolate Body Paint, System Jo Dona Body DrizzleGlow In The Dark Finger Paints (pictured below)

Flavored Body Art Kit Kama Sutra Chocolate Body Paint Body Drizzle Sexy Glow In The Dark Body Paint

Bath Time Fun: ($3.89 – $12.94)

Imagine the scene; you’ve just spent a grueling day at work, your boss royally pissed you off, you didn’t have time to take a break and what’s worse you got caught in the rain without your umbrella. You open the front door and find your partner has a bath full of bubbles along with a glass of bubbly waiting for you. Sure, I’ll admit it sounds corny, but its little things like this that can make all the difference in the world – if not the perfect end to a really crappy day.

*if they’re open to it, why not have them join you in the bath and unwind together.

Indulge in these: Kama Sutra Treasures of The Sea, Secrets Bath Bliss Collection, Vibrating Body Scrubber, any of the products in the Sex In The Shower line, Kama Sutra Spa Pleasures, Pulsabath Vibrating Sponge, Sex Bubbles (bubble bath)  (first 4 pictured below)

Take It Off! ( $3.89 – $221.76)

I’m putting this on the list simply because I think it’s important for everyone  to learn to embrace not only their sexuality, but also their sense of self and work toward developing a healthy self esteem.

Whether you’re “fat”, “thin”, heavy on the top, small on the bottom, shaped like a pear or round all around, learning to be comfortable in your own skin is a big ingredient to having a satisfying sex life. With this in mind, I highly suggest investing in a fun kit that has everything you need to dance away your fears and feel sexy in front of your partner.

*sure the dancing part is for him/her, but the liberating feeling of being naked and not giving a shit what you look like is all about you!

Best products I’ve found: Striptease Kit, Art of Pole Dancing (book), Strip Deja Vu (game) Stripteuse kit, Practical Striptease (book), Art of Lap Dancing (book), Striptease CD (with play money), Stripper Bucks (playful vouchers), Pastease (nipple pasties), Feather Boa, (first four pictured)

Naughty Games: ($1.13 – $50.52)

Maybe it’s just me but there is nothing more fun than the kinky foreplay a lot of adult themed board games can inspire. Whether it’s a hand of strip poker, spin of the bottle, toss of the dice or some frisky snakes and ladders, finding a game that’s easy to play and sure to add some spice to the bedroom is much easier then you think.

*For those of you that have a hard time getting your partner to engage in foreplay – a game like any of the ones I’m listing is a great way of getting them involved without having it feel forced, confusing, intimidating or overwhelming. After all – it’s just a game right? 😉

Some of my personal faves: Climaxxx (board game), Bedroom Rockstar (board game), Indecent Proposals (board game), Talk Dirty To Me Lover (board game), Dice & Dominos (various types), Sex! For Gay MenForeplay Connect (game), Sex Detention (rule game) Sex Up The Night (role playing kit), Romantic Pleasures Kit, Scratch & Win Tickets, Bumps & Grinds (board/drinking game).  (first 4 pictured below)

Sexy Books: ($7.11 – $43.41)

From what I keep hearing there seems to be a consensus that any book on the subject of sex is filled with pages of “textbook” style writing, has numerous diagrams pointing out the anatomical differences between males and females and is basically boring. Fortunately, with the influx of fantastic writers hitting the scene books on sexual topics are exciting and fun, provocative, interesting and full of neat little tips and tricks you and your partner can share.

*my tip, get a book on something you’re both into and read to each other. When you’re finished the chapter, practice the techniques you’ve learned. Better suggestion; buy a book on toys like Babelands, read through it and take each other shopping for a product you might like trying.

My faves: Sex Toys 101, 101 Places To Have Sex, Moregasm, Anal Pleasure and Health, Fetish SexForbidden Knowledge, Comics (various themes), Your Orgasmic PregnancyTouch Me There, Sex In The City (not based on the TV show), Kama Sutra, Best Gay Erotica 2010, Make Your Own Adult Video. (first 4 pictured below)

Strap-On & Feeldoe’s: ($27.72 – $125.58)

If you’re a female looking for a present you and your lady can use, or if you’re a male that’s comfortable with anal play and wants to try something new, there are lots of fantastic products that can definitely make the experience an enjoyable one.

For those of you not in the know, a Strap-On is a product that is worn via a harness and includes varying rings or a locking system for different sized dildos or vibrators. They usually offer little stimulation for the “giver”, yet provide much for the “receiver”.  Alternatively, Feeldoe’s and other strapless penetrators are products that are vaginally inserted to deliver stimulation to the person doing the thrusting while also providing the dildo needed for penetration of the partner. If both would like to have the experience of having something inserted, while allowing  a longer depth of stimulation Double Dongs are an interesting option.

Personal Suggestions: Tantus Feeldoe, Sportsheets Heart Harness Dong Set, Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit, Fun Factory Share XS, Sportsheets Thigh Harness, (first 4 pictured below)

Romantic Ideas: ($14.06 – $158.40)

So sex toys aren’t your thing and your partner would prefer to spend a romantic weekend alone, no problem with all of the fantastic kits and gift sets that come out for Valentines Day you’ve got oodles and oodles to choose from.

On that note, in a long forgotten time, way before Jamie and I were together my partner surprised me with the complete Lovers Choice Fantasy Gift Suite including: warming massage oil, chocolate body paint with brush, champagne flutes, a champagne bucket, two satin robes, one thousand scented silk rose petals, three pillar candles, fifty tealights, the Amazing Hot Heart Massager, a romantic music CD, and a full color romance guide – if I said it was literally everything and anything you could dream of – that would be an understatement. While it was a tad pricey, it was definitely worth it! (pictured left)

*Keep in mind these make fantastic wedding/anniversary gifts!!

Fantastic Finds: Kama Sutra Weekender Kit, forget the typical box of chocolate and get your lovely a Kama Sutra Sweetheart Box (filled with chocolate flavored goodies!), Shunga Tenderness and Passion Set, Deluxe Bed Of Roses Kit Lovers Choice Romantic Essentials Kit, Kama Sutra Treasure Trove (either flavor/scent) Sensual Desires Kit, Shunga Carnal Pleasures Collection, Kama Sutra Oil Collection (first 4 pictured below)

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Strap-On Review & Helpful Advice


Hi Kara_Sutra

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for about six months now and I’d really like to try some new things with her. I’m really into strap on/domination sex but I don’t know how to ask her about it or even how to introduce her to it. I’ve tried a few times to ask, but whenever I do I get really nervous and can’t go through with it. I’m not even sure I should ask her, because if she’s not into it, it would pretty much end the relationship, and be very awkward and embarrassing for a guy like me.

I hope you can help!


First off thanks for watching and supporting what I do!!

As for the question, there’s nothing wrong with strap-on or domination play and you are completely “normal”. In a world where exploring your sexual fantasies is becoming more mainstream, so too are new forms of sexual expression and experimentation.

That being said, bringing up the subject of anything sexually taboo with a partner can be challenging. It’s been my experience that when a person wants to try something new the best way to go about it is to ask questions and test the waters, start small and work up from there.

I’m sure the thought of asking her if she’s “ever done a guy up the butt?” is a bit too blunt and point blank for most people, so my suggestions to gain the info you need are these;

Find Common Ground

Find common areas where that type of play has been found in mainstream media and apply it to your situation. For instance, bondage and domination have been found in comic books, video games, movies, and TV (think of the female crusader in her tight leather outfit tying up bad guys and forcing their surrender).

To start the convo you might want to begin by saying something like “I’ve always thought women in stances of power like (Cat Woman/Electra/Silk Spectre/Laura Croft etc) were hot…

By relating it to something mainstream you remove the “weird” or “perv” factor and create a general area for discussion that’s open ended and comfortable for both parties to explore.

Another reason that I suggest relating it to mainstream media and female hero’s/vixens is that as a female, playing dress up in boots, garters, masks and taking on a state of dominance can be a very empowering experience, one that leaves her feeling more secure in her femininity, comfortable in her own skin, powerful, and confident as well as safer with you.

*Side note: If you want a really cool harness that’s perfect for costume play, and pretty badass if I do say so myself, Tantus just came out with the Connoisseur harnesses. There’s five to choose from, all with exceptional detailing. This is the kind of stuff cosplayers dream of!

Open The Floor For Discussion: Question Time

Once you’ve brought up the subject, spent some time talking and can see she’s still comfortable, you might want to start relating it to sex by asking some questions that open the floor for discussion and wont leave her thinking your a perv (I hate using that word, but it’s something I hear from my readers all the time).

Some questions you might want to ask her are:

has she heard of bondage or domination before as it relates to sex?
what are her thoughts on it?
has she ever engaged in it?
would she be interested?

The answers you get to these questions will give you a pretty good idea of if she’s interested and how far she is willing to go.

TristanTaorominosGuideToPeggingHelp Her Learn & Be Supportive

Over the last 7 years of giving sex advice I’ve had a lot of women confide that they don’t feel comfortable with pegging for two main reasons; they’re scared they’ll hurt their partner, or worse off (to them anyways), look like an idiot because they don’t know what they’re doing.

It’s no surprise that when it comes to inserting something in their partner (whether vaginally or anally), most women are at a loss… after all, they don’t have penises and haven’t grown up putting their dick in something, be it their hand, a mouth, masturbator, or otherwise. As such, they don’t know how to gauge things like how deep they’re going, how much is too much, when to stop, or how to thrust. Understandably, this can leave them feeling exposed, unsure, incompetent, overwhelmed, and confused.

The best thing I can suggest is to help ease any worries or fears by encouraging her, let her know you understand what she’s feeling/going through, and offer to go slow and let her learn. Maybe she starts by giving you a bj while fingering you anally. Perhaps you have her insert something small and guide her along the way. Maybe you both read up on the subject (Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex and Anal Pleasure For Health are both excellent options), or watch an educational video, if so, I’d highly suggest watching Tristan Taorominos Guide To Pegging. Regardless of what you choose to do, this is an opportunity for you to teach her and be supportive. The more encouraged and accomplished she feels, the more willing she’ll be to take it to the next step.

Relax and Have Fun

Assuming that she is into it and wants to play, I suggest you begin with something simple and fun like furry handcuffs, a blindfold, a bottle of good lube, and a smaller anal toy. Let her cuff you to the bed, chair, door etc, blind fold you and have her way with you. When she feels more comfortable you can move onto things like tying with scarves ( I didn’t suggest this first because knots can be dangerous) ball gags, whips, paddles, playing dress up and more. For more advice in regard to Domination and the world of BDSM you might want to watch my video Spankings & Safe Words.

As for getting involved with Strap On play, my suggestion is to start with the domination and mild anal play for now (butt plugs, graduating to larger sizes over time). Allow her to learn, feel comfortable, confident, and safe in that kind of environment and eventually (in the same way as suggested above) see if she is interested in prostate stimulation.

Be Patient & Give It Some Time

If she’s not interested leave it alone for a little while. I say this because if a subject matter is continually brought up, it can cause the other person to feel like they’re being forced or pushed into it, leaving them defensive and even more uninterested. Once a month or so has passed, mention it again with very careful hinting.

Although I do understand your fear and nervousness, I hope that you’ll eventually get up the courage to ask her since it is something you are interested in – and in a relationship, both partners needs should be met.

Hopefully that helped in some way,

Kara_Sutrashop sex ed 102


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