The Best Black Friday Sex Toy Sales 2019

Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sales

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales 2019For the last 6 years I’ve created a list of the very best Black Friday sex toy sales I could find. I debated not doing it this year as I’ve been fairly absent from the scene (because, life). But at the end of the day I figured I shouldn’t let my set backs keep you from having a great sex life.

That in mind, I’m once again taking away the guess work and posting all my favourite Black Friday sex toy sales below. Rest assured you won’t find them listed cheaper anywhere else… unless I’ve missed a sale, and if I did, let me know and I’ll update the page if the products are body safe and quality made.

I’ve done my best to streamline the sales in an attempt to make bargain hunting easier for you. Last year I split the ‘highlights’ into 3 sections, this year I’m going balls to the wall and creating lists that are highly specific. Hopefully that’ll help you find exactly what you want without wasting too much time.

If you’re up for it, I suggest doing a quick scroll down the page as there are products and bundled sales I don’t mention in the highlights.

The lists this year are long and detailed… that’s what happens when I spend a week jumping between sites, comparing prices, emailing manufacturers for advance notice, and doing my damnedest to help you save! On that note, unlike other years I didn’t go overboard. Instead, I just focused on the stores I shop at personally. Quality over quantity.

Want to thank me for hooking you up? Just remember to clear your cookies and cache before you link to your favorite store, that way you can be sure I’ll make a tiny commission anytime you shop. It’s not a lot of money, but it’s enough to keep me doing something I love while helping you along the way.

*all prices are in USD unless otherwise specified

The Best Highlights

If you don’t feel like scrolling over the whole page, or if you’re easily overwhelmed by big posts, here are all of my no bullshit lists of the very best deals I could find for some of the MOST COVETED products…

**(After you ‘proceed to checkout’ use the coupon codes for the discounts to apply – the websites wont automatically adjust the prices until you do this)

Clitoral Stimulation

 

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales Hitachi Magic Wand

Original Magic Wand

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales WeVibe Tango

WeVibe Tango

JimmyJane Form 2

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales Womanizer Liberty

Womanizer Liberty

Original Pocket Rocket

Vibrators, Thrusting Toys & G-Spot Stimulation

Black Friday Sex Toy Deals Njoy Pure Wand

Njoy Pure Wand

Bi Stronic Dual Vibe

G-Spot Pulsator

Max Thrusting Vibe

Lelo Gigi

Butt Stuff, Dildos, & Dilator Sets

Perfect Plug Kit

Sheology Dilator Set

What are dildos - Tantus Mark O2

Basic Dildo

Pride 6″ Rainbow Dildo

Tantus T-Rex

 

Fantasy Themed Sex Toys

Unicorn Horn Dildo

Game Of Moans Dildo

Tentacle Dildo

Darth Vibrator

The Realm Combo

 

BDSM Highlights

For those of you into BDSM, I put together an extra little section n the best Black Friday sex toy Sales so you wouldn’t have to hunt around online. Personally I think this list has enough stuff to help you get started, or add to your repertoire. I’ll be adding more as I find them, but for now this should do.

**(After you ‘proceed to checkout’ use the coupon codes for the discounts to apply – the websites wont automatically adjust the prices until you do this)

Dragon Tail Spanker

Wedge w/ Wrist Cuffs,

Wrist & Ankle Cuffs

Bondage Swing

Obedience Bench

For My Readers w/ Dicks & Prostates

Just because you have a dick or a prostate doesn’t mean you should be left out. That in mind, here’s all the best Black Friday sex toy sales on masturbators, sex dolls, cock rings, prostate toys, and penis enhancers I could find. Hopefully it’ll help you find something that’ll work for your needs.

**(After you ‘proceed to checkout’ use the coupon codes for the discounts to apply – the websites wont automatically adjust the prices until you do this)

Fleshlight

PDX Mega Stroker

Prostate Massager

AutoBlow 2

Plus Size Doll

 

For those of you interested in doing all your shopping in one place (as opposed to grabbing different toys at different places just so you can save more), I’ve listed the best Black Friday Sex Toy Sales at my favourite retailers and manufacturers below. Feel free to scroll through to the bottom and see which retailer/manufacturer suits your needs.

 

 


Like last year SheVibe is doing a straight forward tiered Black Friday sex toy sale meaning, the more you buy the more you save. Truthfully, you’ll find better Black Friday sex toy sales prices on single items elsewhere, but you likely won’t find the same amazing selection.

They’ve got just about all of my favorite independent manufacturers and lesser known brands in one place; Crystal Delights, Godemiche, Funkit Toys, BS Is Nice, Hole Punch, Lumberjill, Pop by the Semenette, Chrystalino, DoDil, Sili Saddle, Split Peaches, Uberrime, Vixen Creations, and Pleasure Works.

Get 10% off when you spend $75+, plus free shipping (use code ‘BUMBLE10)

Get 15% off when you spend $100+, plus free shipping (use code ‘JACK15’)

Get 20% off when you spend $125+, plus free shipping, (use code ‘RALPHIE20’)

Get 25% off when you spend $350 or more , plus free shipping, (use code ‘GRINCH25’)

– The Perfect G-Spot Combo–

Njoy Pure Wand

Liberator Decor Throe

Decor Throe

Sliquid H2O Water Based Lube

Sliquid H20

I’ve posted this combo every year because it’s just do damn good… pair the definitive g-spot ‘dildo’, Njoy Pure Wand $99.99 + Liberator Decor Throe for $89.99 or any of the Liberator Throes for that matter, + 4.2oz bottle of Sliquid H2O $10.99, for a grand total of $200.97… then use code ‘RALPHIE20‘ at checkout and save 20%, bringing your total down to $160.77 plus free shipping! That’s a total of $40.20 in savings versus buying at regular price! Honestly, if I could pick any combo of toys to give someone that loves g-spot stimulation (and either gets really wet or squirts), this one would be it.

*prices shown include applicable discounts from using coupon codes
  • If you love unique toys made by hand, you’ll definitely want to take a look at Hole Punch Toys (check out my interview with them), right now I’m lusting after the absolutely stunning Hole Punch Silicone Nun Dildo for $101 (reg $119), and their Carrot and Radish butt plugs. Yes, you read that right. They make veggie shaped butt plugs.
  • When it comes to wood toys, NobEssence is where it’s at – I can haz a Seduction for only $117?
  • For those of you that love the feel of silicone and want something bright, colourful, and fun, I think the lovelies made by BS Is Nice might be right up your alley. I honestly love all their designs, but I think they make some of the very best Rainbow Sex Toys around!
  • Last but not least, I can’t speak highly enough about Vixen Creations – everything they make is just perfection.

 

Hole Punch Carrot Plug

Hole Punch Carrot

Nobessence Seduction

Tentacle Dildo

Funkit Cashew Nib

BS is Nice Pride

Vixen Raquel

Crystal Delights Plug

Godemiche Ambit

BS is Nice Bingo

Hole Punch Rad-ish

 

Make sure to check out the blowout section when searching for some of the best Black Friday sex toy sales – everything here is WAY cheaper than you’ll find elsewhere (in most cases you’re looking at 25% less than other retailers). Everything here can be reduced an additional 50% with the coupon code FIFTY. If you do choose to shop in this section make sure to pay attention to the quality of the toys, not all of them are made of body safe materials; you’ll want to stick with pure silicone (not a blend), stainless steel, tempered glass, ABS plastic (think hard vibrators), ceramic, and wood. Avoid jelly/rubber at all costs; it stinks (literally), it sweats out harmful chemicals into your mucous membranes, absorbs bacteria like lube and bodily fluids, and it can’t be fully sterilized. Ew.

Other than that EVERYTHING on the site is on sale for 40% off with the coupon code BLACK40. There’s A LOT to choose from, most of which I placed in the highlights at the start of the post. Below I’ve re-posted some of those deals. Having said that, if you want to save definitely hit up Pinkcherry and browse through the site. I’m sure you’ll find exactly what you want at the lowest price available.

  • When it comes to hand held massager the Original Magic Wand ($35) is where it’s at. For years it was a go-to for anyone looking for a powerfully deep and rumbly, yet discreet, vibrator. Then came the Rechargeable Magic Wand ($75), a very similar version with one main difference; no cord chaining you to a specific location. Personally I’m happy with the original version, but for those that like to switch things up, or those with limited power outlets, the Rechargeable version will do just as well (maybe better).
  • The We-Vibe Touch ($48) and We-Vibe Tango ($56), are a steal for two of the very best clit vibes available. I have 3 of them so there’s always one charged and ready to go. That should say something.
  • They also have the best prices I’ve seen for all of the Womanizer clitoral suction stimulators.
  • Again, my penis envy has forced me to list the following;
  • If you’re into a little BDSM, Pinkcherry has some decent Black Friday sex toy sales this weekend; you can snag an Adjustable Spreader Bar for only $27. Need a sturdy but portable place to bind your partner? The Strict Bondage Board provides 14 separate D-ring attachments that can be connected to cuffs, leashes, tethers and more ($180). For those that like weightless sex, or just trying new things, the Fetish Fantasy Bondage Swing ($120) gives you the freedom to play and experiment without worrying about damaging the walls or ceiling (supports up to 300 pounds).

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales Hitachi Magic Wand

Original Magic Wand

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales WeVibe Tango

WeVibe Tango

Womanizer

Strict Bondage Board

WeVibe Touch Review

WeVibe Touch

 

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Sex Ed 102: The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

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Question

I recently got into a new relationship and we’re planning on having sex soon (I’m a gay male by the way). The problem is that I’m not that experienced, both with partners and toys (and condoms for that matter).  I’d like some help where lube and condoms are concerned. Do you have any lubes that you’d personally recommend, preferably silicone for anal play?

Also, would you have any flavored lubes that you’d recommend? We’ve tried a bunch of cheap samples we bought at a local novelty store and they were all pretty gross. Most of them were really thick, sickly sweet, and kinda burned our mouths. We obviously don’t need them to have a good time, but sometimes it’s fun to try new things. Any suggestions would be great.

Finally, I’m not that sexually experienced and quite nervous. Do you have any tips for a first timer?

 

 Answer

Whether it’s anal, vaginal, or otherwise, first times can be overwhelming and scary.  Trust me I know, I’ve been there. At some point we all have. With that in mind, the discomfort you may encounter during first time anal sex could be minimum or very intense depending on how relaxed you are. It’s for this reason that I created a post on anal sex tips for beginners, all designed to help make things a bit more comfortable and fun. I suggest reading the full post just so you’re not missing anything. In the meantime, I’ve copied the most valuable info below.

Sh*t Happens… Sometimes.

Before I get into the how-to’s of comfortable butt play, I think it’s worth mentioning the one thing most people are afraid of… having their partner remove whatever they’ve inserted and it being covered in shit. Yes, I really did write that and I really am going there.

The truth of the matter is sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn’t. It can be as little as a tiny speck or a lot (though that’s usually not the case), sometimes there’s nothing at all. Diet can have an affect, as can how recently your last bowel movement was.  If it’s something you’re really worried about make sure to go beforehand, don’t eat foods that you know make you feel gassy or have to go (avoid fatty, fried, and spicy food as well as caffeine), and try using a quality douche to clean yourself out.

At the end of the day any time you engage in butt play there’s a chance shit will happen. It’s normal, natural, and should be expected. Sure, it can be embarrassing but if you’re having sex with a great lover that’s mature, understanding, and informed, it doesn’t have to be.

Now that that’s said and done let’s get on to questions at hand…

First Time Anal Sex Tips

Before engaging in full anal penetration it’s a good idea to take some time to warm up; relaxing breathing exercises, meditating, and getting comfortable with your partner will prove helpful in the long run. Remember, the more relaxed you are the more relaxed your muscles will be. This will go a long way when it comes to inserting a toy, finger, or penis comfortably.

After you’ve added some lube, add a finger and just a finger; trying to insert a penis right off the bat can be a shock to the system. Likewise, going too fast too soon can cause you to tense up, leading to a painful experience rather then a enjoyable one. By using a finger you prep the body, stretch the muscles, and allow yourself time to get used to the feeling.

Once the finger is inserted, have your partner leave it there until you’re totally comfortable and relaxed. Tell them not to thrust or move it around… just insert it and leave it.

When you’re ready have them slowly remove the finger. Doing it quickly can cause you to tense up, so make sure to go slow. From there I suggest adding more lube and a toy. You’ll want one that’s on the smaller side, flexible, made of 100% silicone, and has a flared base like the Small Tantus Silk (pictured right). This will give you the opportunity to work up to something larger with minimal discomfort.

Whether you decide to continue with a finger, toy, or penis, have them thrust gently in the beginning. Take your time, relax into it, and try to enjoy the moment.

I know we see the people of porn taking it like champs, but they’re trained professionals. It’s what they do for a living.  You’re not expected to take a pounding the first time around. It’ll likely take a few tries, or maybe you won’t ever feel comfortable doing that. Either way, it’s totally okay and normal.

If you’re partner is having a hard time inserting, try doing it doggy style. This may make it easier as you’re the one determining how far it gets inserted and at what speed.  Simply have your partner on their knees staying as still as they can. Then slowly back up onto it. Once they’re inside you can find a pace and depth that’s comfortable for you.

Finally, be gentle with yourself and know that if at any time you want to stop there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s your body, you get to call the shots.

The Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex

Silicone Lube Options

Best Condoms and Lube For Anal SexSince the anus doesn’t self lubricate you’re definitely going to want to invest in some good quality lube. Most silicone lubes are very similar; they’re condom compatible, will maintain a slippery consistency and wont dry out like water based lubes, are tasteless and odourless, are glycerin/paraben free, and are great for use in the shower. Personally I use Sliquid Silver, Premium System Jo, Sliquid Silk, or Pjur. They’re all affordable, quality lubes, made by companies I trust.

If you’re wary of pain and want something that will relax your butt without numbing the area (which can be dangerous since you’re unable to feel tearing), I highly suggest Analyse Me Spray by Pjur. I’ve also heard really great things about Intimate Earth Ease Lube (pictured left). Rather than using benzocaine or lidocain (numbing agents), Intimate Earth uses Bisabolol (a component of chamomile essential oil) which will relax the area while also potentially providing anti-irritant, anti-inflammatory, and anti-microbial benefits.

Of course there are some drawbacks to using silicone lubes; they have the potential to stain fabrics, you’ll need soap and water to fully remove them, and they can break down silicone toys. If you’re nervous about ruining a toy just do a patch test on the bottom of it to see if it’ll be an issue.

Best Condoms And Lube For Anal Sex - Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based LubeWater Based Lube Options

I know you specifically asked for silicone lubes, but I figure it’s always good to have options.

For water based I tend to go with Sliquid H20 because it doesn’t have the shitty chemicals most others do (the people behind the company focus on body safe ingredients so that helps). It also doesn’t get sticky or tacky quickly. It still will a bit, all water based lubes do, but it’s not as bad. If it starts to dry you can easily use spit or water to get it slippery again. When I’m out of Sliquid I use Pjur Med Natural Glide Water Based Lube (pictured right) or Slippery Stuff it’s more of a gel consistency but melts quickly with body heat.

Flavored Lube Options

As for flavored lubes System Jo and Sliquid Swirl are great if you like fruitier flavors. If you’d prefer something that tastes like dessert Wet Warming Desserts and Wicked Sensual Care have the biggest varieties.

Cherry Vanilla Sliquid (pictured left) is my favourite (check my Cherry Vanilla Sliquid Review here). It’s light and fruity with a hint of vanilla. Not at all thick or gross, and didn’t leave a bad after taste.  More than that it didn’t burn my throat or tongue. If you want to sample them before investing in a larger size, the Lip Lickers Cube from Sliquid has 4 different flavours you can try. I can’t recommend Sliquid enough!

Wicked Sensual Care has 10 different dessert flavored lubes with most of them being what you’d typically expect. From Salted Caramel to Vanilla Bean, Cinnamon Bun to Candy Apple, they’ve got all the bases covered. With regard to price points, they come in two different sizes so you don’t have to break the bank if you’re not sure about a flavor.  I find they’re a bit sweeter, not too syrupy (considering the flavors), have a nice consistency (not sticky or tacky), and a little goes a really long way.

Going back to 2010, System Jo made the first flavored lubes I really liked. The flavors are light, the lube isn’t too thick or goopey, and the feeling is more like a slippery silicone lube than water based.  My faves are Chocolate Delight (my review), and Banana Lick. They also just came out with a ‘Candy Shop’ line, I’m excited to try the Cotton Candy and Butterscotch flavors.  There’s a whole bunch more on the System JO website.  If you want a bit more info here’s my review of System Jo fruit flavors.

Condoms I’d Recommend

Condom wise, you’ll likely want one that’s barely there. If neither of you have a latex allergy you should enjoy One Vanish, Skyn, Kimono Micro Thin, and Trojan Bareskin. I’ve tried them all and think they’re some of the best around. You can usually find good deals on the Undercover Condoms website in their ‘bulk’ section.

Even though you’ll be using lube you’ll benefit from lubricated condoms as they’ll reduce any chance of friction. Just make sure not to use one that has Nonoxynol-9 as it can actually increase your chances of contracting an STD/STI. Also, don’t go for Magnums unless you absolutely need the larger size.  An improper fit can slip off during intercourse, which defeats the purpose of wearing it in the first place.  If you’re not sure what size will work best for your needs, this condom sizing guide should help. There’s also my succinct beginners condom guide.

Hopefully this post helped you to not only find a lube and condoms that works for your needs, but also gave you some valuable information on how to make your first time an enjoyable one.

I linked you to the places I shop online, support and trust. If you’d prefer to shop somewhere for reasons of discretion I’ve also linked to Amazon. If you find any of the products I’ve mentioned cheaper elsewhere please let me know so I can pass on the savings other readers.

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Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

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When it comes to sexual acts, tit jobs are often one of the things I’m asked about on a regular basis. In practice it’s a relatively easy thing to pull off, though it can admittedly be a little uncomfortable, awkward, distracting, oddly funny, and weird at first… especially if you’ve never done it before or aren’t that comfortable with trying new things.

If it’s something you’d like to try, or if you’d simply like to be better at it, feel free to check out the video above and read the content below. Both have valuable insight and techniques that will have you mastering and enjoying it in no time!

What is a tit job?

Basically, it’s when someone with a dick (or strap-on) has sex with a set of tits.

The act itself is a low risk, non-penetrative form of outercourse (rather than intercourse), that involves thrusting between breasts to create friction and visual stimulation for sexual gratification. It can be used as a form of foreplay leading up to sex, combined with oral sex for greater stimulation, or used in place of sex itself.  If done safely, tit jobs allow both partners to enjoy themselves sexually without the worry of an unintended pregnancy or risk of contracting an STI/STD.

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Although it can be fun, jumping straight to it often doesn’t feel like the most natural thing to do, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be easy or effortless.

I suggest starting with some foreplay and taking the time to both get aroused.  When you feel ready slowly maneuver yourself into a position where your breasts are level with your partners penis. You can do this by kissing down their torso, moving down to give them a blow job, or lowering yourself to your knees while you undo their pants/belt/skirt etc.

Once you’ve got yourself into position you can rub their penis over your breasts and nipples. Next, add some of the lube to their penis (a teasing handjob works great), then simply place the penis between your breasts and press them together, sandwiching it in the process.  From there you should be good to go.

If it feels awkward at first don’t worry, it will get easier as you figure out what positions work best for you and your body type.

You’ll also probably find that the penis slips out easily. Again, this is totally normal and nothing to be embarrassed by. Just slide it back in and keep going.

Tips & Suggestions

While a fairly standard practice, there are tips and suggestions to help make the experience much more enjoyable for everyone involved…

Don’t Be Scared

  • The main problem I hear from my viewers is having the courage to do it, being nervous about trying it, and not feeling comfortable naked in front their partner.  All of these experiences are totally normal, natural, and should be expected, especially if it’s your first time or if you’re experimenting with a new partner. Anytime we’re naked and exposed, trying something we’ve never done before, there’s bound to be some sense of nervousness or vulnerability. The best advice I can give is to relax, have fun with it, and know that no matter what you think of your body, your partner likely thinks you’re sexy as hell and can’t wait to be naked with you.

Don’t Forget About Your Needs

  • On that note, this can be one of the least stimulating experiences for the person offering up the tits. If this is a problem for you, I have the following suggestions:
    • get your partner to reach behind and stimulate you (by hand/with a toy – works best if they’re on top straddling you)
    • if you’re kneeling with them sitting in front of you and you don’t have any hands free (because you’re using them to hold your breasts together), you can try to mount a dildo from above as if you’re riding it.
    • for better clitoral stimulation, try using a product that’s designed for hands free use like the Eva by Dame or a floor based model like The Cone.
    • if you’re still wearing undies, you could easily place a vibrator like a We-Vibe Touch inside to help hold it in place.
    • for those with an ample bosom, use your upper arms to push your boobs together. Depending on how you’re positioned you can possibly reach down and play with yourself without much issue.
    • have your partner take over holding your tits so you can stimulate yourself.
    • try incorporating a boob job with a 69 position.

Lube Is Your Friend

  • sliquid lube for tit jobsJust like having sex without proper lubrication can be uncomfortable, painful even, so can giving an unlubed boob job. There can be chaffing. Pulling of skin on skin. Friction burn. An inability to thrust completely. The dick getting stuck somewhere in the cleavage. Granted these things don’t always happen, but they can, which is why I always suggest having a good bottle of water based or silicone lube on hand. You can easily change things up by using a lubricant that cools/warms, comes in flavors (for bj’s), or otherwise.

Size Doesn’t Matter (Boob Size That Is!)

  • Contrary to what you might think, you don’t need to have huge tits to pull this off; for those that aren’t big in the boob department, I’d suggest leaning forward over your partner while they lay on their back – gravity will likely offer a bit more to work with. It probably won’t be as easy as  someone with a larger set, but it is still possible.

Explore & Experiment

  • If you want to have a bit more fun try incorporating oral sex. It might be a little awkward or uncomfortable for those lying on their backs, and you likely wont be able to deep throat very well. But it’s still something worth experimenting with.  Just remember to use a dental dam or condom to help reduce the risks of transmitting an STI.
  • Rather than using a simple in and out thrusting motion, try grabbing the breasts and jiggling them while the penis is sandwiched between.

 

Things To Avoid – Tips For Those With The Penis

  • Unless your partner says they like it, don’t just grab their tits, jam ’em together and go to town. Not only can you rub yourself raw, you can also hurt your partner with the force of pushing the breasts together, and/or the friction that’s created while you thrust. Again, I highly suggest the use of a good lube to help make the experience comfortable.
  • If your partner is going to be giving you a blow job, when your penis comes out from the top of their cleavage – go slow. I’ve heard many instances where the someone has accidentally rammed their penis in the back of their partners throat, jabbed them in the face, or poked them in the eye (seriously!) etc. Remember, this is meant to be fun… if you hurt your partner there is a very likely chance they won’t be up for doing it again.
  • realistic breast masturbatorsBe careful how you position yourself or move when kneeling over your partner (with them on their back). Often the breasts will slide and drop to the side of the body, especially for those with large breasts; if you’re not careful you could accidentally pinch or jam them between your leg and your partners body.
  • If you’ve talked to your partner and they just aren’t comfortable with the idea or don’t like giving a tit job, you can purchase  realistic breast masturbators online (pictured right). Although they’re not the real thing, they could go a long way for helping you explore and experiment without having to bother/pressure your partner.
  • When it comes to ejaculating, I highly suggest talking beforehand about what’s okay and what’s off limits. I’ve received more than enough messages from viewers who have been unexpectedly shot in the face, eye, mouth, or hair by their partner who thought it was part of the plan. Remember, communication is key.

 

Regarding Positions

A variation in positions can not only help with visual or physical stimulation, it can also help with putting either person in a place of control, while also making the experience a bit more comfortable.

*Note: Unlike the content within the video, I’m opting out of using ‘male’ and ‘female’ pronouns when suggesting positions below. Instead, I’m going to use ‘Partner A’ to represent the person with breasts, and ‘Partner B’ to represent the person with the penis/strap-on etc.

Cowboy: Partner A lays on their back while Partner B straddles their torso (kneeling), and places the penis/strap-on between the breasts of Partner A. Once in this position either partner can grab the breasts and wrap them around the penis. Because this position limits the amount of movement the Partner A has, this places Partner B in control of the rhythm, speed, and timing as to which the ejaculation and/or orgasm occurs. Also, it’s a good idea for the person on top to remember not to lean all their weight as it could accidentally make breathing difficult (for their partner).

Reverse Cowboy:  This position is like cowboy only instead of Partner B facing the partner, they’re turned to face their feet. While in this position the person on the bottom can provide oral or manual stimulation to the anus, balls, taint, or other erogenous zones, while the person on top can reach forward and manually stimulate their partner. Again, this position limits the actions of the person beneath, giving Partner B the opportunity to reach down and control the rhythm, speed, and timing when it comes to ejaculation and/or orgasm. One thing to keep in mind when it comes to the oral sex aspect is that it increases the risk of contracting an STD. As such, I suggest using a dental dam to create a barrier and limit the risks.

Standing: Pretty much what it sounds like; Parner B stands while Partner A either kneels or sits in front of them. Although this does usually lend to a more typically thought ‘submissive’ role, it actually gives Partner A a bit more control when it comes to thrusting. Depending on the heights of the people involved, as well as the way the penis curves, this position can be rather difficult or annoying for both parties. Also, depending on the size of breasts involved the act of lifting, pushing together, and holding in place can be tiring. It can also be tough on the knees and joints (use a pillow for adding padding).

Edge of The Seat: When it comes to placing Partner A in control, I’ve been told that this position is preferred.  Partner B sits while Partner A kneels in between their legs, using the legs of Partner B for support. Then, leaning forward, Partner A can place the penis between the breasts and control the speed, depth, and rhythm of thrusts. An alternative to this has Partner A sitting, with Partner B standing in front. I suggest experimenting with both positions and seeing which works best for you.

Hopefully this helped in some way and answered any questions you might have, but most of all, I hope this provided you with a new and fun way of exploring and experimenting with your partner without also having to worry about an unintended pregnancy or contracting an STD.

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Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!

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Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!
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If you follow the sex positive community on twitter, you probably saw a thread of angry tweets recently pop up in your feed with the hashtag #tweetyourlube, created by in support of Rachel Kramer Bussels‘ Salon article, where she refuted some terrible sex advice UFC Bantamweight Champion, Ronda Rousey, had to give a male reader.

In the Maxim​ Magazine piece, Ronda Rousey​ was asked, “What should a guy ALWAYS do in bed? What should a guy NEVER do in bed?”, to which she answered…

What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, than you’re being lazy…and you’re not taking your time.

While I can appreciate what she’s trying to suggest – that great sex comes when you’re present in the moment, not rushing, and enjoying your partner – her answer was ignorant, disappointing, and very unacceptable.

It’s this kind of uninformed advice that further purports the misguided beliefs that a.) if a person can’t get wet it’s because their partner is doing something wrong and failing them, b.) their partner is responsible for their sexual arousal, and/or c.) lube generally isn’t necessary.

I’m sorry Ronda, but no. Just no. This is just not okay.

Arousal and Desire: Knowing The Difference

According to Ms. Rousey’s answer, all it takes for a person to get wet is time, more time, and a bunch of foreplay.

Unfortunately this isn’t exactly how things work.

What she failed to understand is that there is a difference between the processes of arousal and desire.  Arousal (the cause of lubrication, we’ll get to that below), is an involuntary physiological bodily response to a type of stimulus.  Whereas the desire to have sex is often based a psychological need or want for sexual intimacy. While the two are often deemed as being one in the same, they are two separate experiences.

Furthermore, although arousal and desire often work together, they can also operate independently, for instance; your partner may want to have sex but their body may not respond the way they need/want (i.e. lack of wetness), or in the opposite case, they may not want to have sex but their body could be responding (as is the case with some rape victims who experience orgasm during the attack).

Sure, a lack of foreplay could play a big role in lowered sexual arousal (and subsequent wetness) but there are a variety of other factors that could have an impact as well. Simply suggesting that it comes down to foreplay, time, and more time, is highly ignorant.

But I digress.

You Are Responsible For Your Orgasm, Not Your Partner

come as you are bookSince 2007 I’ve received countless emails from my cis male readers/viewers asking for help when it came to stimulating their cis female partner. In almost every situation the reader felt like he was doing something wrong because his partner couldn’t get wet, wasn’t fully aroused, or couldn’t orgasm no matter how hard he tried.

Unlike Ms. Rouseys advice that he spend more time on stimulation, my first suggestion was often to open the lines of communication; find out what type of touch she preferred, where she liked to be touched, the amount of pressure she needed, and where she was most sensitive to sexual stimulation. Without this information, no amount of help I had to offer would be of any use.

Yes, a person should take their time, but if you’re not doing what your partner likes or needs, it’s pointless. And spending more time doing it certainly isn’t going to help.

Screen Shot 2015-11-06 at 1.21.54 PMIn all honesty, this is the kind of thing that makes me ridiculously angry. Unfortunately societal standards have often dictated that it takes a strong, steadfast, virile man to get a female off. That her orgasm is his responsibility. That she is dependent on him and his skills to ‘get her ready’. That if she doesn’t orgasm it’s his fault because he finished too quickly, or didn’t take his time, or wasn’t focused, or wasn’t a good lover, or didn’t know what he was doing, or didn’t anticipate her needs, or couldn’t read her body language, or was ‘lazy‘, or…

I could go on, but the point I’m trying to make is that if you can’t orgasm or become aroused with your partner it’s your responsibility to learn about your body and communicate what you need.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that speaking about sex, or during sex for that matter, is an easy or comfortable thing to do. With all the shame surrounding the subject, our bodies, and sexuality in general, I know how hard and complicated it can be. But if you don’t take ownership of your pleasure and share your needs, you can’t fault your partner when they do try to please you but miss the mark.

A Bit About Vaginal Lubrication, Or Lack Thereof

Before I go on, I figured this would be the perfect opportunity to give a quick run down on vaginal lubrication. That way we’ll all be completely clear on how what Ms. Rousey is suggesting isn’t exactly the best advice…

Vaginal Lubrication: The Coles Notes

During sexual arousal the ‘female’ body experiences a variety of physical changes, the vulva and clitoris swell, the nipples become erect, muscular tension pulls the uterus upwards causing the vaginal canal to extend (both in length and width – called ‘tenting‘), and the vaginal walls fill with blood in a process called vasocongestion (also how erections occur). This vasocongestion causes increased pressure which, in turn, causes the fluid within the blood serum to be pushed through the tissues of the vaginal wall… thus, the vagina becomes lubricated.

Vaginal fluid has other functions besides making it easier for a penis, finger, or sex toy to enter; it decreases pressure and reduces the amount of friction that occurs (potentially saving the vaginal walls from tearing), limits any pain that may be associated with intercourse (allowing for a more comfortable experience), while also changing the chemical nature of the vagina, causing it to become more alkaline and less acidic (making it more hospitable to sperm).

The amount of lubrication created varies from person to person, may be different one day from the next, and changes based on any number of factors.

On that note, the addition of a good lube, whether because a person needs or wants to, certainly isn’t anything to feel bad or embarrassed about. When everything is said and done, it’s a fantastic way of helping things along, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Causes of Vaginal Dryness

Contrary to what Ms. Rousey implied, vaginal dryness is not always caused by a partners lack of time spent engaging in foreplay. Instead, there are many other reasons lack of lubrication could be occurring, including but not limited to;

  • menopause/perimenopause (lowered estrogen levels are often experienced during this time which affect lubrication)
  • health issues (diabetes, hypertension, polycystic ovarian syndrome, heart and kidney disorders, among others)
  • skin irritations/allergic reactions (soaps, dyes, laundry detergents and dryer sheets, body washes, perfumes, etc. can have an irritating and drying effect on the skin/genitals which could affect natural lubrication)
  • Summers Eve Douchepregnancy, having recently given birth, breastfeeding (shifts in estrogen/progesterone levels, possible lack of genital sensitivity requiring, tenderness due to childbirth, lowered estrogen during to lactation/breastfeeding can all have a negative impact on vaginal lubrication)
  • douching (disturbs the normal chemical balance of the vagina, often leading to irritation and vaginal dryness)
  • alcohol abuse/alcohol use (alcohol has a dehydrating affect on the body which could lead to vaginal dryness, it also acts as a depressant on the nervous system affecting sexual arousal and orgasm)
  • smoking cigarettes (cigarettes can affect circulation and destroy estrogen which can affect arousal and vaginal lubrication)
As you can clearly see, there are many reasons a person may not become lubricated enough for comfortable intercourse. To imply that it simply comes down to a lack of foreplay, without acknowledging other causes, is an uninformed thing to suggest. To then take it one level further and also state that a person should “never need lube in their life” is just ignorant, rude, and insensitive. Ronda, you can do better.

Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!

prod-naturalsLook, I get it, when a person reaches the point of popularity that Ronda Rousey has, the general public starts thinking that because they are experts on one thing (in her case, fighting), they must be experts on a variety of topics… and when they’re then made into sex symbols by the media, that usually comes with the added bonus that they’re assumed to be highly educated on all things sex. Before long they’re touting sex advice on widely read publications, and praised for it, even when the advice they’re offering could be detrimental to someones health, sense of self, or relationship.

Everything considered, I can’t help but sympathize with the readers who will take her words at face value, apply the suggestions she made, find they’ve had no difference (because she didn’t properly educate them), and feel bad about themselves, their partners, and the sex they’re having. Especially when all it might have taken is a bottle of good lube to help things along.

Like I said in the start of this post, I appreciate what she was trying to do with her answer, but I think she needs to take a step back, get some insight on how the body works and until she’s learned better, leave sex ed to those who know what they’re actually talking about.

Investing a bottle of good lube probably wouldn’t hurt her either. #dontknockittilyouvetriedit

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Sex Negativity – Just Say NO To Sensationalized Media

New Media, Opinion, The Written Word

Sex Negativity - Just Say NO To Sensationalized MediaIf you follow me on twitter, you probably saw a smattering of angry tweets recently pop up in your feed in response to a Womens Health Mag article (originally posted on Your Tango) that @FemmeReviews shared: “Why I Had To Break Up With My Vibrator: It’s not me, it’s you“.

For those that haven’t read it, the author pens a tale about taking a gig reviewing sex toys for Playboy and getting addicted to her Hitachi Magic Wand in the process.

Um, okay. Sounds simple enough…

Here’s where things get convoluted; the author readily admits to a previous obsession with cocaine and a nine year battle with alcoholism, yet rather than writing about a struggle with addiction that eventually affected her sex life, the article ignorantly became a condescending, fear based piece, filled with generalizations and misinformation, further purporting the stereotype that sex toys are bad and unnecessary if you want to live a healthy happy life.

Spoiler alert: she tosses the Hitachi down the garbage chute and finds herself again. Yay!

Don’t get me wrong, knowing all too well how debilitating a disease addiction can be, I sympathize with the author and her efforts to remain sober. I even respect the experience, we all have our own sexual situations to grow through. However, the apparent inability to accept responsibility for her actions, instead placing blame on a sex toy, is both infuriating and intolerable.

On that note, had this article been about someone ‘breaking up with a sex toy‘ because they learned it was toxic (as pictured above right) – giving Women’s Health Mag the opportunity to teach and empower its readers about making responsible decisions when it comes to choosing a sex toy – I could have supported it. The fact that the mag/author went the sensationalized “sex toys are bad and addictive” route just disappoints me.

Just so I’m perfectly clear: sex toys aren’t bad, THE UNDERLYING MESSAGES IN THE ARTICLE ARE.

Reading Between The Lines: Debunking The Bullshit

I expect that many who read the article won’t give it much thought, let alone notice any of the sex negative insinuations, but as someone who’s devoted much of the last ten years to helping people become comfortable in their sexuality and encouraged self exploration via the use of body safe sex toys, they simply can’t be ignored.

Hitachi Magic WandFor example:

She assuredly writes…

If the Hitachi doesn’t make you orgasm, nothing will.

Not only is this statement a complete load of horse shit, it’s ridiculously discouraging for anyone that has struggled to orgasm, bought a Hitachi, and had lackluster results.

Speaking from personal experience, if I had a dollar for every time I’ve had an orgasm with something that wasn’t a Hitachi, I’d be hella rich by now. Granted, my experiences weren’t all amazing. In fact some were down right shitty. But the point is I did finish… and do you know why? Because I’ve taken the time I needed to explore my body, likes/dislikes, including the type of touch I prefer,  how much pressure is required, which side of my clitoris is the most sensitive, and everything else that’s important when one wants to master the art of cumming.

So, just because the Hitachi won’t make someone orgasm, it doesn’t mean NOTHING ELSE WILL.

Again, this comes back to knowing one’s self: Some people need strong vibrations, others need something muted. Some people need direct stimulation, others need a subtler touch. Some people regularly use vibrators because it’s a far more rewarding experience (not to mention, being necessary), some never do. Regardless of what a person requires, it’s normal, natural, and nothing to be ashamed of. The key is to experiment until you find something that works. And yes, at some point something will work. You just have to keep trying.

And then there’s this:

Vibrator aficionados know better; they also recommend that you put a towel between it and you so that, I assume, you don’t burn your clitoris off—it’s that powerful.

Followed shortly after by,

I was as devoted to my wand as other women are to abusive lovers, and even when I started getting lacerations near my clitoris (those towel recommenders, it turned out, had a point), I covered for my beloved, going so far as to ask my gynecologist if perhaps the little cuts were evidence of a disease.

fear nothing but fear itselfI can see the headline now: WOMAN BURNS CLITORIS OFF WITH ULTRA POWERFUL SHOULDER MASSAGER!

Ugh. Can we please just stop the fear mongering already?

First things first, the Hitachi WILL NOT burn your clitoris off. It is not that powerful. If it was the case, mine would have burned at the stake years ago.

Yes, many will advise placing a towel or layer of clothes between you and it, but that isn’t because it’s going to set your genitals ablaze. Instead, we know that for the inexperienced user the 600rpms offered by the Hitachi may be too much. Rather than overwhelming you from the get go, we suggest dampening the vibrations so that you’re able to ease into the experience, allowing the necessary time to get accustomed to something so strong. Admittedly, there are days when I’m extra sensitive and have to use it over pajamas or jogging pants. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just the way my body works.

As for the lacerations, clearly that’s a sign of overuse and not indicative of the Hitachi itself. And comparing ones devotion to a sexy toy to an abusive relationship, I refuse to even allow this to be a thing. No. Just fucking no.

But I digress…

Regarding introducing the Hitachi to her partners, she had this to say:

And with an audience, the wand and I couldn’t seem to get into our groove, anyway. During these threesomes, my orgasms, when they happened, were wholly unsatisfying.

She comes first

I don’t think I should have to say this but… sex toys are not people.

They aren’t meant to be replacements for partners. Using one with a partner is not the same as having a threesome. And there is no point in time when they should be referred to as such.  It’s this type of off the cuff statement that creates insecurities within relationships and often leaves partners feeling inadequate. Not to mention feeding the stereo-type that if a woman has a sex toy she doesn’t need a man/partner, and vice versa. But we’ll get to that in a moment.

As for the admission that her orgasms were “wholly unsatisfying”, our lovers are not mind readers, we cannot expect them to know what we need to get off. If you can’t orgasm with your partner it’s your responsibility to teach them how to get you there. It’s not an excuse or reason to ditch them for a vibe. Well, you could, but that’s on you. Not your partner. Or your sex toy for that matter. And to be honest, it’s kinda lazy and shitty.

She then goes on to quote relationship expert, Gilda Carle:

Vibrators are great fun for the short term, when a woman is between loves.

Sex Negativity: Just Say NO To Sensationalized MediaWhen we speak of the gendered cultural ideals around female sexuality, there’s the ever present notion that a woman in a heterosexual relationship shouldn’t need a vibrator, and if she does, there’s something wrong with her, her partner, or the relationship.  There’s also the idea that if a woman has to use a sex toy during intercourse she mustn’t know how to experience pleasure with another person. Thankfully, both of these concepts are often completely false.

Like sensual massage, a playful smack on the ass, or some good foreplay, sex toys can be used as tools to help encourage intimacy, open the doors for honest communication, and enhance orgasms for both partners, among other things.

Aside from all that, whether it’s learning to orgasm, relieving aches and pains, releasing stress and tension, or rebuilding clitoral nerve endings (so that orgasms are possible), this statement completely ignores and downplays the therapeutic use of vibrators before, during, and after a relationship ends.

And don’t even get me started on the use of the word “loves”. Look, I know she’s just using it for effect, but we’re living in a time where sex often happens without ‘love’. So long as people are being responsible and respectful, there’s nothing wrong with that.

As far as I’m concerned Dr. Gilda Carle can take the entire sentence and stuff it up her ass. #sorrynotsorry

Sex Negativity – Just Say NO To Sensationalized Media

After reading Trust Me, I’m Lying I can look online content for what it is – a sensationalized piece/title designed around click-baiting, fear mongering, and/or a crappy attempt at entertainment – however that doesn’t mean I’m not highly offended when content like this, who’s seeming intent is to fill readers heads with the type of unnecessary nonsense many of us within the sex positive community have fought to destigmatize, pops up in my news feed.

My suggestion, forget crap like this even exists, and read Rachel Kramer Bussles “Is My Vibrator Ruining My Relationship?” or the informative “Are Vibrators Addictive or Numbing?” instead. While both articles cover similar elements found here, the underlying tone is one of acceptance, understanding, and sex positivity. You’ll thank yourself for it later.

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All Of The Rainbow Sex Toys You Need To Know About

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When I first started in this industry 12 years ago there were little to no rainbow sex toys to be found. Sure, what was available was pretty, but they were made of toxic jelly materials and weren’t anything I’d touch with a ten foot pole, let alone stick in my bits. Fortunately times have changed and manufacturers are seeing there’s a market for these beauties. A thing that makes me happy beyond words. Granted, it could be due to corporate greed, but I don’t really care. The world needs more rainbow sex toys. Period.

On that note, with Pride Month in full effect my city has been infused with color like I’ve never seen before. From banks to fast food chains, crosswalks to libraries, even the CN tower, everywhere I look, I see RAINBOWS! 🌈😍

Not that I’m complaining. I actually wish this was a regular occurrence rather than something reserved for one acceptance and love filled month of the year. But it’s not. So, while they’re here I’m going to take in as many rainbow sightings as I can… for those of you like me, needing a few more shades of fun in your life, here’s an extensive collection of all the rainbow sex toys I found floating around on the internets.

 

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FROM DILDOS TO BUTT PLUGS AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN!

Rainbow Sex Toys - BS Rainbow Pride Dildo BS Atelier Pride Rainbow Dildos: $50 – $90

If there were ever a set of dildos that reminded me of Pink Floyds ‘Dark Side Of The Moon‘, the Pride Rainbow versions from BS Atelier would be first on the list.

Crafted by hand in Madrid, Spain, each of the dildos in the Pride Collection is unique, sporting sleek black shafts, curved bodies for g-spot stimulation, and rounded bases perfect for strap-on or anal play. Like Kusama and Amor (dildos mentioned in the post below), the stripes are defined with little to no bleeding, and contain all the shades you’d hope to find in a ‘traditional’ rainbow.

Whether you’re a fan the legendary rock band, or just someone who prefers a modern design, these sophisticated beauties are a must for anyone wanting a hint of a rainbow, without going overboard.

Newly added to their roster as part of the 2016 collection are the stunning ‘Alex’ dildo available in blue, grey, and pink, and the ‘Bingo’ butt plug in blue or pink, (all pictured below).

I WANT THEM ALL.

Pink Alex Rainbow DildoTurquoise Alex Rainbow DildoBlue Rainbow Bingo Butt PlugPink Rainbow Bingo Butt Plug

Rainbow Sex Toys - Geeky Sex Toys Pride LGBT+ DildoPride Dildo LGBT+ by Geeky Sex Toys +$69

This years new kid on the block is the Pride Dildo LGBT+ collection by Geeky Sex Toys.

Although it may not look as ‘finished’ as others on the page, the gently curved body should not be overlooked.

Size wise, the overall circumference of 4.3 inches provides a nice sense of fullness, while the 6.5 inch shaft and medium firmness make insertion and thrusting both pleasurable and comfortable. The supple silicone is 100% body safe and won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria, making clean up a breeze. And the heart shaped base is not only adorable, it’s totally functional; use it in a harness for strap-on play, suction it to a surface for hands free action, grip it by hand for manual use (on yourself or a partner), or use the dildo for butt stuff without fear. No matter what you decide it’s sure to bring hours of pleasure. What more could you ask for?

As for the coloring, the lines aren’t clearly defined. Instead they blend from one to the next creating a gentle ombre affect. Although this leaves the perfectionist in me wanting, I do love that it makes each one unique.

On that note, the creators offer 5 options for coloring; there’s a a pink/white/blue version for those identifying as transgender. Pink, purple and blue for bisexuals. Graduated pink, white, and red for lesbians. A gorgeous traditional rainbow. And for those that want more specific coloring, they even offer a ‘something else’ where you can pick your own shade.

Everything considered this beautiful and brightly colored rainbow sex toy is a definite must have. Love is love.

 

Rainbow Sex Toys - Geeky Sex Toys

 

Rainbow Sex Toys - Babes N Horny Kusama

Babes ‘N Horny Kusama: £80

Okay, so it’s not your typical red, orange, yellow, green, blue etc rainbow, but it’s close, and that’s good enough for me.

Like the Amor (mentioned below), Kusamas hand-poured stripes stand apart, bright and bold, with no bleeding or fading into the next. It’s playful, stunning, and certainly eye catching.

The dildo is pliant with a decent amount of squish and give so insertion is easy. It also has a lovely matte texture that’s smooth and velvety to the touch. Finally, it boasts a flared base for strap-on or anal use. Did I mention that the girth is damn near perfect? ‘Cause it is.

Curious? Check my Kusama review.

Rainbow Sex Toys - Unicorn Rainbow Horn DildosRainbow Unicorn Horn: $43 – $120

According to legend, Unicorns are a perfect combination of ‘male’ and ‘female’ energies, rich in the symbolism of opposites, reflecting an archetypal primal energy at play in our own lives.

Okay, I’ll admit that sounds a little hokey. But that doesn’t mean these stunning rainbow unicorn horn dildos from Split Peaches wouldn’t be a worthy addition to anyone’s collection, regardless of gender.

Unlike the previous two dildos, you’re not going to find straight cut edges or a defined rainbow. Instead, you’ll a lovely subtle flow from one color to the next, with a gradual fading. Considering each of these beauties is hand poured in the U.S. it’s only to be expected, and part of what makes them so unique.

Whether you prefer a toy that’s big and commanding or small and unintrusive, the dildos come in three different sizes; small, medium, and large. Taking it a step further, they even offer varying degrees of firmness; standard firm, medium squish, or super squish. No matter your wants and needs there’s something for everyone.

Rainbow Sex Toys - rainbow dildo rivetorAdding to the collection are the new neon rainbow unicorn horn dildos. They’re exact replicas of the originals, the only difference being absolutely stunning bright vivid shading. While I’m a traditionalist at heart, I can’t get over how ridiculously cool these look.

Of course rainbow offerings aren’t limited to unicorn horns; inspired by the steaming hot riveted steel boiler plates found in the industrial furnace, their newest edition, ‘The Rivetor‘ (pictured left), is the first in a line of steampunk sex toys.

The curved shaft and studded head provide serious g-spot stimulation, while the flared base makes it excellent for anal play or use in a harness. My suggestion, rather than thrusting, try twirling it while inserted… with enough lube I’m sure the texturing would feel amazing.

 

Rainbow Colour Pleasures & Official Pride Dildo $40 – $50

Rainbow Sex Toys - Rainbow Pride DildoWhen it comes to rainbow dildos that’s are a little more ‘realistic’ you’ll definitely want to check out the new Color Pleasures rainbow dildo by NS Novelties. They’re truly breathtaking!

Since 2011 the Fun Factory Rainbow Amor (mentioned last in this post) has been my ultimate favorite rainbow dildo for a very specific reason: the colouring found on the shaft is clean cut, with precise definition, offering no bleeding from one shade to the next. Basically, it makes the perfectionist in me ridiculously happy. Unfortunately the Amor is no more – as in, it’s no longer being manufactured… THE HORROR. Thankfully there’s all the beauties in this collection to take it’s place in my heart.

Granted the design is completely different from the Amor, but that doesn’t mean it’s not as good; the medical grade silicone is velvety soft to the touch yet firm enough for effortless penetration, it’s easy to care for and clean, has a suction cup base so you can use it on any surface, and for those that like options – it comes in large and small.

Pride dildo rainbowOfficial Pride Dildo

Or, for those that prefer something without balls… there’s the official ‘Pride dildo’ (pictured right). It’s just as colorful as the original, has a tapered shaft for easier insertion, isn’t quite as thick, and has little bumpy detailing near the base. The details probably won’t make much of a difference sensations wise, but the lack of balls does allow more length to play with. Either way, if you love rainbows and realistic dildos, it’s one you’ll want to add to your collection.

Rainbow Sex Toys - Rainbow Wave DildoRainbow Wave Dildo

If you like the coloring of the Pride Colors dildos, want to stick with the line, but don’t like the realistic versions, there’s the new Rainbow Wave Dildo that just came out this year (pictured left). Although I love the other versions, I think this might just be my favorite.

The sleek shaft is non-detailed, with a slightly swollen tip designed for stimulating both the g-spot and p-spot. A wide circular base allows the dildo to be used as a strap-on with harness systems, while also acting as suction cup that can be pressed securely on walls, windows, counter-tops, and more. As with the others, the coloring is absolute perfection with each of the shades being as bright and pigmented.
All of the dildos in the collection are created from 100% body safe silicone, making them hypo allergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, and phthalate and latex free. Honestly, what more could you ask for?

Rainbow Harnesses $25 – $70

Inclusion Harness

Not only does the Inclusion Harness look amazing, it’s also well made, supportive, hand sewn and vegan!

More than that, proceeds go to help create queer and trans friendly environments in schools across rural Ontario. For those not in the know, the Ontario Ministry of Education changed the health curriculum in 2018 to remove all queer and trans topics. While some may not care about this, it’s my belief that inclusion of all genders and peoples creates a safer environment for everyone. To read more about the creators efforts to help make positive strides check out their interview with Vice.

As for the specifics, this stunning rainbow harness is made out of comfortable and supportive polypropylene webbing. Metal snaps allow the O ring to be easily replaced with something smaller or larger so you can play with any toy. The buckles are the same ones used on backpacks to tighten shoulder straps, and because of that, users can adjust them to fit any body type. On that note, the inclusion harness comes in two different sizes, with the measurements based on a hip circumference. If somebody needed a size that was bigger, the creator could easily make one (for custom orders check them out on Etsy).

Unlike the Power Drive Harness mentioned below, the back end is open allowing for easy butt play, further stabilization, and comfort. As if all that wasn’t enough, the creator worked with a friend who’s a physiotherapist so that the straps would be easier to grab for somebody with mobility issues and lost muscle tone.

Everything considered, if you’re going to buy a harness I highly suggest investing in this one.

Rainbow Power Drive Strap-On with Harness

Aside from a bewitchingly bright, super soft and extra comfy elastic harness, this strap-on set includes a sleek silicone dildo in all the colors of the rainbow.

Pegging aside, the Power Drive is a perfect addition for any kind of strap-on play. The harness is stretchy and elastic, fitting most. Having said that, the descriptions I’ve found all say it’s adjustable however I can’t see how to alter it. Maybe I’m missing something.

Regardless, both the front padding and straps are interchangeable with other harnesses and dildos so you can happily explore with any toy you’d like.

Granted there are a couple things I don’t like about this harness; although the back strap looks great on the manequin, there’s a very likely chance during use it would ride into your ass crack and cause chafing. Not cute. Not fun. Definitely not hygeinic. On that note, because there are only 3 elastic straps I don’t see it being very supportive. If you’re looking for stability, comfort, and quality, go for the Inclusion Harness mentioned above.

With regard to the dildo, the shaft measures 6.5 inches and is just the right girth to stimulate without overwhelming beginner users. Slight veining provides the subtlest of sensations, while the wide base means you can go deep with no worries. It’s easily changed with any compatible harness system. As for coloring, they went traditional, no neon brights here. Just all the shades you’d expect with perfectly cut lines.

Rainbow Sex Toys Knob Job DildoAbstract Rainbow Dildos: $24 – $55

As a fan of abstract design (and discreet sex toys), I can’t help but love the Rainbow Knob Job dildo. The super fun colorful shaft is on point, pleasing the perfectionist in me. The tapered and bumpy head, ribbed contoured shaft, and 8.5 inches in length leave me curious about the sensations it would provide.

Like the Rainbow Beads dildo below, I don’t advise using it anally as it might be hard to remove. Save yourself the trouble and potential embarrassment and stick to vaginal play. For those that want something they can use for but play I’ve included a bunch of rainbow butt toys that are totally safe for use in the next section.

Rainbow Sex Toys Beaded Shaft DildoRainbow Beads Dildo

Even more discreet is the bright and playful Rainbow Beads dildo (pictured right).

Measuring 7 inches in length, the shaft sports 7 ribs offering continual stimulation with each thrust. Like most of my other fave rainbow sex toys, the bright neon coloring is perfect. Not that it has any impact on the way the toy feels, but visually it’s quite superb.

Having said that, the description on Amazon contains the words “Anal Plug”, something I highly disagree with. Unfortunately there’s no base to stop it from potentially venturing inward and getting stuck. Sure, the rounded bumps might provide some tension, but in my opinion it’s just not worth the risk. In a nutshell, play all you want vaginally, just don’t stuff it in yer butt.

Avant Pride P1 Freedom Dildo

Hand sculpted to be sleek and modern, the Avant Pride P1 Freedom dildo by Blush Novelties (pictured bottom left) is lovingly crafted in small batches and made of body safe platinum cured silicone making it hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, latex/phthalate free, and totally body safe.

Measuring 6 inches in total length, with 5.25 of that being fully insertable, the P1 Freedom dildo is harness compatible and features a deep, strong suction cup base. Lovers of g-spot and p-spot play will likely find this a perfect addition to their bedroom play.

 

Rainbow Butt Toys: $25 – $76

Have a penchant for sticking things in your butt? Look no further than these fantastically fun creations.

Rainbow Sex Toys - Geeky Sex Toys Butt PlugPride Butt Plug LGBT+ by Geeky Sex Toys

My current favorite rainbow butt plug is made by Geeky Sex Toys, a company crafting some of the coolest, most nerdy, creative toys I’ve seen in a long time. They’ve got toys based on Super Heroes, GOT, Star Wars, Doctor Who and more. Seriously, go check them out. They’re awesome.

As for their pride selection, they’ve got the rainbow dildos mentioned above as well as coordinating butt plugs. The tapered end makes insertion easy and comfortable, while the supple but firm silicone provides some squish and give. The colors are bright and pigmented gently bleeding from one shade to the next. Although I prefer clean cut lines the gradual shifting of shades creates a lovely ombre effect. The piece de resistance with this beauty is the heart shaped flared base; it’s both purposeful and absolutely adorable.

Besides a traditional pride rainbow, the creators offer a selection of options for coloring; there’s a a pink/white/blue version for those identifying as transgender. Pink, purple and blue for bisexuals. Graduated pink, white, and red for lesbians. And for those that want more specific coloring, they even offer a ‘something else’ where you can pick your own shade.

Triple Play Butt Plug

The Triple Play Butt Plug (pictured left) is a stunning tush toy that allows the user to go from gentle to intense during anal play. The smooth contoured shape easily slips in without any discomfort, staying put with a minimal amount of effort. Like many of the goodies in this post the coloring is perfect, featuring the traditional shades found in a rainbow. Just keep in mind it’s made of TPR so you’re going to want to use a good water based lube and make sure to clean it thoroughly between uses.

Bobo Butt Plug by BS Atelier

If you’d prefer something a little less overwhelming but just as pretty, the BS Atelier ‘Bobo’ butt plug (pictured left) is where it’s at. Smooth to the touch, flexible but firm, and crafted out of 100% medical grade body safe silicone, Bobo is the perfect mix of butt plug meets anal beads. Measuring 5″ in total length with 4.1″ of it being fully insertable, the plug is neither too large for a beginner, nor too small for someone more advanced. Like all BS Atelier plugs, the flared base allows you to use it without fear of it getting lost, and the graduated rounded beads offer a uniquely thrilling sensation.

Everything considered, the Bobo Rainbow Silicone Butt Plug is a perfect specimen. That said, because they hand pour toys there’s a chance the colors and patterns may vary slightly from their photos. Don’t worry though, even with minor differences they’re all absolutely breathtaking.

Tantus AsteroidTantus Asteroid

With neon popping tones of lime green, fluorescent orange, and opaque fuschia, the Tantus Asteroid looks like the start of a rainbow, one that forgot what followed, but in the most perfect of ways.

Unlike the clean cut lines found on Kusama, Amor, and the entire collection of Rainbow Colors Pride dildos, Tantus’ version is much less dramatic with the trio of shades gently fading into the next creating a much softer effect. They’re simple and that’s part of their charm. The plug is supple with decent squish and give and has a flared base for safe butt play. It also suctions to most surfaces. The tapered shape allows it to enter easily, providing a full sensation once completely inserted. Personally I’d suggest something more like the Perfect Plug Kit for beginners to butt play, but for those more experienced this is a must have.

Colours Pride Edition Rainbow Pleasure Plug – Silicone Suction Cup Butt Plug

Last but not least is the Colours Pride Edition Rainbow Pleasure Plug. Out of all the other options this is the most basic, but that isn’t a bad thing.

The long and slim tapered body makes insertion a breeze, the flared base is perfect for any kind of play, the 100% medical grade silicone is body safe, matte, and supple, and with 3 sizes to choose from there’s something for everyone.

With regard to the colors, each shade is highly pigmented with little to no shifting from one to the next. Personally I think it’s damn near perfect. But that’s just me.

Rainbows in my ass? Yasss please!

 

Rainbow Sex Toys: Rainbow Tail PlugRainbow Tail Plugs – $32 – $55

Speaking of butt toys, I found these oh-so-fun rainbow tail plugs that take it to the next level.

Rainbow Sex Toys: Pony Tail Butt PlugSure, you can find real fur ones online, but as someone that doesn’t like the idea of having part of a dead animal hanging from my ass cheeks I’ve opted for the less cruel faux fur option.

Crafted out of body safe silicone, each plug offers a tapered tip that slides into place with ease, eliminating discomfort or the worry of product toxicity.

Whether you’re into pony play, cosplay, have a unicorn fetish, are a Brony, or simply like to try new things, these rainbow tail plugs are absolutely perfect for whatever your little heart desires. Personally I love the fluffy version since it’s true to typical ‘rainbow’ color order. The unicorn version isn’t a bad option if you’re not as picky as I am.

 

Rainbow Sex Toys - Rainbow Cock RingRainbow Cock Ring: $27

Do you have a penis? Are insertables not quite your thing? Looking for something that will help you maintain an erection while also potentially giving you a stronger orgasm? Do you love rainbows? If you answered yes to most of those questions then this rainbow cock ring by Rascal Toys might be right up your alley.

With an inside diameter measuring 1.7 inches, this super comfy cock ring is made of soft touch silicone and features a wide band helping it to stay exactly where you put it. Although it may look rigid and potentially tight, there’s a decent amount of squish and give allowing it to stretch 3x it’s natural size fitting most penises without a struggle. Whether you want to wear it around just the shaft or the cock and balls, this ring is perfect for advcanced users and those curious about trying something new.

Design wise, the thick stripes are clean cut with no bleeding from one shade to the next. If I had a dick this would definitely be in my bedside drawer.

The Rainbow Amor Dildo: $65

Rainbow Sex Toys - Amor Dildo*sadly rainbow Amor is no longer available. But I highly suggest the Colors Rainbow Pride dildos or anything by BS Atelier in its place.

Looking over this page makes me really happy, it shows how far sex toy designs have come aesthetically. Having said that, I think we really owe it to the OG of rainbow sex toys – the Rainbow Amor. Before Amor came along the vast majority of dildos were pink, shades of ‘skin tone’, or something bland and ordinary. Now we have a plethora of options to choose from and I’m forever grateful.

This stunning little number has been a favorite of mine since I laid eyes on it back in 2011. I coveted it. Begged for it. Almost going so far as to offer up my first born just to get the chance to review it (I hoard sex toys, what can I say). Fortunately things didn’t get that extreme and before I knew it, I had it in my hot little hands.

From start to finish this dildo is everything I could ask for. There’s no bleeding of shades from one to the next. It’s crafted from body safe silicone (Fun Factory, thank you for making this!). It’s the perfect size for me. AND it has every color perfectly distributed just like a real rainbow should.

FYI, it’s one of the only toys that’s been in my bedside drawer 12 years straight. For someone that literally owns bins of sex toys, that counts for something.

Here’s my review of the rainbow amor dildo, just in case you had any questions.

Miscellaneous Rainbow Goodness!

Of course dildos, butt plugs, and tongue rings aren’t the only rainbow clad goodies available…

For those with a Unicorn fetish, the rainbow horn dildos by Split Peaches aren’t your only option. If you really want to commit, take it all the way and snag yourself a rainbow unicorn mask (pictured below). There’s a few to choose from, it’s just a matter of whether you want to go legit hardcore unicorn or the adorable unicorn route. And, if you’re gonna go that far you might as well buy a rainbow wig + tail set and call it a day. Though personally, I’d prefer a rainbow cat tail and some fluffy rainbow ears to match.

If burlesque, playing dress up with rainbows, role playing, or running around half naked is more your thing, there’s tons of fun stuff like rainbow pasties, rainbow wigs, sparkly rainbow rhinestone pasties, rainbow tutu’s, stockings, a one piece rainbow body suit, and cock socks to search through.

Or, if you’re the creative type why not try your hand at some body art with a rainbow liquid latex paint kit (always make sure there’s no latex allergies before using). Regardless of what you’re specifically looking for I’m pretty sure you can find it if you know where to look.

 

Unicorn Rainbow T-Shirt Rainbow Unicorn Mask Cute Rainbow Star Pasties Rainbow Skull Pasties Rainbow Cock Sock
Rainbow Tutu Rainbow Stockings & Socks Liquid Latex Rainbow Body Paint Kit Rainbow Wig Rainbow Body Suit

 

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#FunFindFriday: 101 Vagina Book Project

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101vagina

I’m about to say some things about vaginas/vulvas that you’re not going to like. Consider this your fair warning, and my preemptive apology.

Vulvas are ugly. Vaginas too. They’re hideous, foul, repulsive, and embarrassing. All that extra skin just flapping around, serving no real function. The whole kit and caboodle is just disgusting, both to look at and deal with. Don’t even get me started on vaginal wetness, making everything slick, slimy, and sloppy. Especially when menstruation is involved, it’s like someone went to town with a hatchet. And that wiry mound of hair, it’s obscene. Any person that thinks a pile of wrinkled protruding skin is anything but icky clearly has something wrong with them. Vaginas/vulvas are gross. End of story. Yuck.  I wish I didn’t have one, my life would be so much easier without it.

Contrary to your assumptions those aren’t my thoughts or the way I feel. Instead, what you just read is a mish mash of the messages I’ve received over the last 7 years from readers who’ve hated their genitals for one reason or another.

It’s sad, disheartening, and depressing.

Having said that, I’m sure many of you have felt something similar at some point. Maybe you’ve contemplated labiaplasty because you thought your labia (inner/outer) were too big. Opted to have sex in the dark so partner(s) couldn’t see your genitals. Shaved it bare in an attempt to be more appealing. Smothered it in disinfectants to mask your bodies natural odour. Applied tightening lotions or potions in hopes of making your vulva appear more ‘youthful’. Slathered on lightening creams because you thought the pigmentation was too dark. Or maybe you’ve spent a lifetime feeling uncomfortable in your own skin because your vulva wasn’t a taught, neat, toned little package like the ones often seen in porn.

No matter the reason for hating your vulva, or embarrassment you’ve experienced because of it, I can promise you’re not alone.

It’s for this reason that I love 101 Vagina by Philip Werner. Throughout the hardcovers thick and glossy pages we’re given a brief but honest glimpse into what it’s like to be the owner of a vagina/vulva. Some of the writing is uplifting, poetic even, while other excerpts take on a tone of courage, anxiety, sadness, respect, appreciation, and humility. It is raw, deep, emotional, insightful, and intentional, offering the opportunity to redefine and honor our bodies in a way we may not have been able to before. It’s a reminder to love ourselves, to see past the indifference and shame, to fully embrace what we’ve been gifted with, for far too often we forget.

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A few choice quotes;

Until I met my husband, I was ashamed of my vagina, I thought it was weird. But he made it his mission to change how I felt about her, and now I’m proud.

That doctor decided I needed my labia and clitoral hood stitched back together. The procedure felt like something akin to being on an alien abduction table for human experimentation. To this day I re-experience the trauma of this event every time someone looks as my vagina. (speaking about a childhood accident)

You have welcomed both feminine fingers and tongues and masculine pulsing hard members of desire, filling me with joy and breathlessness. I now look at my vagina with awe, gratitude, and reverence – she is truly amazing.

While many of the comments I get are fairly crude, they are actually stated with the utmost fascination – and no small measure of respect – for the awesome that is my vagina.

101vaginashavenUnlike the photoshopped images often found in pornography and film, depicting shaven vulvas, primed and perfectly sculpted to be plush, plump and camera ready, each of the 101 black and white photographs accompanying the writings are real; there are bruises on thighs, unevenly shaved pubic hair, crooked tan lines, aged and rippled skin, moles and scars, cellulite and stretch marks, freckles, stubble, piercings, and tattoos.

Moreover, there are labia of every shape and size; some protrude yearning to be seen, others hide tucked away safe from the prying eyes of judgment. And yet, each of them is beautiful, perfectly suited for the person to which they belong.

101vaginabooktextFor some this book will be a commentary on female sexuality. To others, a work of art. Maybe it’s an homage to the almighty vagina/vulva, or a personally transformative experience. A minority might even view it as carefully crafted pornography, but for all intense and purposes, *smut* it is not.

Regardless of your perspective, I hope 101 Vagina gives you a chance to take a good hard look at the way society views genitals, as a body part and a means of gaining pleasure, and how those views shape and potentially damage along the way. And in that, I hope you are challenged to see past the lies about ‘beauty’ we’ve been brainwashed to believe are true and learn to love your body just as it is. Perspective is everything, and the content within these pages has heaps of it.

We should be taught from a young age that our vagina is noting to be ashamed of, that we’re all different and beautiful and deserve all the love and appreciation

Whether you’re uncomfortable in your own skin, are a lover of vadges everywhere, have kids nearing an age of curiosity about their body/the bodies of others, or simply want a coffee table book that’s sure to spark conversation, I implore you to buy a copy of 101 Vagina. I promise you’ll be a better person for it

To get one of your own head over the 101 vagina website, hit up Amazon.com/Amazon.ca, or if you’re in Toronto from June 14th – 22nd you can check out the last leg of the 101 Vagina Art Exhibit & Book tour at Creative Blueprint Gallery. Copies will be available for purchase, and if you happen to see Philip, make sure to thank him for his work. <3

“Dedicated to our bodies and our sexuality,

our deepest desires and most delicate vulnerability.”

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The Big Bin of #SexToyFails: Part 1

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Over the last 7 years of reviewing sex toys a lot of craptastic things have come my way. Some bored me, others gave me migraine inducing headaches, one had me ‘flailing like a maniac having a carpal tunnel fit‘, another was complete and utter torture. I’ve even gone so far as to liken a vibrator to a rabid bunny bashing at my bits. Ok, so that wasn’t the exact quote, but it’s close enough.

And that’s just the sex toy fails I’ve written about.

Not surprisingly there are more, many more. Most of which found themselves dumped in an over sized storage bin and tucked in the furthest corner of my closet never to be seen again…. until the desperate need to purge rolled around. Which leads us to this post.

Big Bin Of Sex Toy Fails

the big bin of fails in all its glory

Rather than spouting off my opinion based on appearances alone, which is what I tend to do with the horrors found in my #WTFWednesday posts, I’ve tested each of these (or had someone try, as was the case with the masturbators) and either thought they were so ridiculous that I couldn’t bring myself to write a full review, or had one session with them and said ‘nope, not doing this again’, banishing them to the bin forevermore.

Even with my displeasure, I’ll admit they’re not all horrible, heck some of you might even own a few and like them. But for me, these were deal breakers; sex toy fails I’ll never use again and couldn’t bare to dump on unsuspecting friends. That shit would just be cruel.

The Big Bin Of Sex Toy Fails

bounding bunny dual vibeRhythm O Bounding Bunny

Once upon a time I was a huge fan of rabbit vibes. There was something so alluring about slipping one inside, pushing a button or two, and laying back like a lazy little b while it did all the work. It was around this period that I acquired the Rhythm O Bounding Bunny, a dual vibe I thought to be promising.  However, after one use I realized it would be better off as roadkill…

Rather than your typical metal balls or pearls, the ‘rotations’ are carried out via what appears to be a half cob of corn covered by a heavy layer of saran wrap. And the spinning action, let’s just say the kernels undulate rather than turn… so not only are you having sex with thickly wrapped dinner left overs, now they’ve apparently been eaten by a transparent snake that’s writhing around inside your vadge. Get the visual, yeah not very hot is it?

Aside from that it’s heavy, big and bulky, isn’t very ergonomic, has far too many buttons controlling different things (making it difficult to manage when it’s stuffed inside you), is made of TPE (so although phthalate free, it’s still porous and can’t be fully sterilized), attracts lint and fluff like you wouldn’t believe, and requires 4 AAA batteries. Oh, and as an added bonus, any time you clench your PC muscles, it stops. Maybe I just don’t know my own strength. *smirk*

Everything considered, the vibe isn’t terrible, but it’s not great either. I’d say it lands somewhere between meh and blah. Not exactly the place you want to find your product sitting with a well versed sex toy reviewer. Sadly, the only thing it has going for it is the decently powerful clitoral stimulator, but you can find something similar without all the bulk or hefty price tag in a standard vibrating egg.

If you’re dead set on a dual vibe, one that’s body safe, rechargeable, and doesn’t look like a cob of corn, take a gander at a few other luxury options like the Lelo Ina 2, Je Joue Fifi, OhMiBod Freestyle W Rabbit, Vanity Vr6, or Envy Seven. For those of you looking for something cheaper, there’s the Fun Factory Tango, Joya Tulip, the unconventional Rock Chick, or maybe something within the Entice collection of dual vibes. Trust me, any of them are better than that damn bounding bunny

Fleshlight Blade & Fleshjack Sword

fleshlight blade swordI’ve been a fan of Fleshlight ever since I finger fucked one in the poorly lit corner of a sex shop nine years ago. The realistic appearance, soft and plush texture, and ergonomic design instantly gave birth to a penis envy I still can’t shake.

Having said that, of the over 15 different things I’ve received from Fleshlight, there were bound to be a few that left my testers unimpressed… for example, the Fleshlight Blade and Fleshjack Sword.

Don’t get me wrong, I get it, people want the option to control how tight something is and giving them a masturbator with a squishy body probably seemed like a really great idea, but here’s the problem; it just doesn’t work that well.

Before I go on let me say that the experience, i.e. what the sleeves deliver, is true to form and exactly what it should be with any Fleshlight. But that’s where the fun stops. There’s no other way to say it than these versions feel cheap, flimsy, and just don’t live up to the standard I’ve grown accustom to.

Judging by exterior appearances they don’t look too bad; they’re highly detailed, original in design, and come in bright blue or gold casings. However, for as attractive as they are, I wouldn’t say they’re discreet. Rather than blending into the background these bad boys stick out like a sore thumb. I won’t lie, if I saw something made of bright blue plastic that looked like the end of a sword, I’d sure as hell ask what it was, if not reach out and open it myself. Then again I’m nosy like that.

fleshlight blade sleeve compared to original fleshlightAs for the sleeves, they have smaller openings, are shorter in length, and sport thinner bodies than the original designs. If you bought a Fleshlight and found it to be too large, you might like them, but if you’re someone with a larger than average sized penis, you’ll probably have issues with insertion and use.

Also, I’ve been told they make a distracting ‘pffft’ sound with each thrust; unlike the original Fleshlight whose suction can be adjusted via a screw cap on the bottom, Blade and Sword have four little holes where the air gets pushed through during use. Not only is your experience slightly limited because of this, but as an added bonus you’ve now got four ways for the lube to dribble to the floor. Yay! #sarcasm.

On top of all that, the original versions are much easier to reassemble, just give them a good wash, cornstarch them up, and slide into place for safe keeping. Not the case with Blade or Sword. One of my testers went into graphic detail about how he used the end of his toothbrush to ‘angrily jam it into place’ while muttering profanities at it. Certainly not how a fake pussy should be treated.

fleshlight case compared to fleshlight swordOh, and once you finally do get the sleeve back in the cover, the cap refuses to stay put.  Push with all your might, force it if you have to, just know that no matter what you do, all your Sword/Blade wants to do is go commando. One knock to the floor and it’s game over, I’m not even referring to the lint they’ll pick up. If you ask me, Fleshlight did it right the first time around. #ScrewCapForTheWin.

Lastly, they kinda look like you’re fucking a pussy or ass that’s a pear. Literally. Probably not a big deal for many of you, but if you’re into banging edibles, may I instead suggest a hollowed pumpkin? One can only assume it’d be a lot more accommodating, cheaper too!

With everything I disliked about these two I think you’d be better off snagging an original Fleshlight or a Fleshlight Vibro. Looking for something a little smaller? the three different Sex In a Can versions are much better options. Want a good deal? Check my Fleshlight sale page, I’ve collected the best sales and even listed a few combo packs and products you won’t easily find on the website.

  baconlubeBacon Flavored Lube

When it comes to bacon flavored foods there’s a lot that I ‘get’. Take smokey bacon Lays potato chips for example, it’s a no-brainer. Bacon flavored pancakes, delish. Beggin strips, probably the only thing my dog would leave me for. Baconnaise, that shit’s just necessary (it’s vegan too!). Bloody Caesar’s rimmed with bacon salt and spiked with Bakon Vodka, now you’re speaking my language.

However, when you start getting into the realm of bacon flavored gumballs, bacon sunscreen, bacon chocolate bars, bacon lollipops, bacon lip balm, or bacon soda, among other things, it’s time to take a step back and reassess the situation.

Then there’s Bacon Flavored Lube… and almost instantly everything in me screams no, JUST. NO.

I’m going to be blatantly honest and say there is no point in time when I want to go down on a partner whose junk smells like it was just flipped out of a frying pan and served up with all day breakfast. And in the off chance that I absolutely had to, I’d hope to be pleasantly surprised. Instead what you’re greeted with is much closer to licking a pan where bacon grease was left cooling to a white coating, than what you’d get from eating actual bacon. It’s salty, musty, thick and pungent, slightly sweet, and wrong on every level. I think my partner summed it up best when he said “it’s bacony, but it’s disgusting!”

baconlubeforbreakfastMaking matters worse, the scent lingers long after you’ve attempted to lick/wash it off. My word of advice, don’t go to the dog park after. It’s creepy, and depending on who’s in the park that day, could potentially land you in the hospital. Or jail. #guardyourprivates

Also, it’s billed as a ‘personal lubricant and massage oil’. Considering I have a hard enough time stomaching the lube idea, the massage oil takes it to a whole other level. Why anyone would want to be slicked down with simulated bacon grease just so they could be massaged into a stinking mess is beyond me. Shit, I might understand if it was actually good, but it’s not. I say again, ‘it’s bacony, but it’s disgusting!”

Being a lover of flavored lubes I have no problem admitting there’s a certain charm to ones that smell like desert, fruits, or other goodness, but there is nothing charming about the smell of cooked meat on someone’s privates. Period.

Rather than assaulting your taste buds with the horrific concoction that is bacon lube, I’d suggest any of the Sliquid flavored lubes, System Jo Tangerine Dream, Raspberry Sorbet, or Chocolate Dream, Intimate Organics Macadamia Nut, or Cinnamon Vanilla by Good Clean Love. None of them taste like the crap J&D’s make, and they’re better lubes because of it.

End Rant.

So there you have it, the first edition of my big bin of sex toy fails.

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Review: Tantus Neo, Juice, & Twist

Butt Play, Product Reviews, SheVibe, Tantus Inc

Tantus PlugsAfter my recent success with the Tantus Meteorite I figured it was time I pushed the boundaries even further. So, ready to embark on a challenge far greater than the last, I pulled the Tantus Juice, Twist and Neo out of their packaging and laid them before me. As I contemplated exactly what it was I was about to do, three words chanted like a mantra in my head: Git. ‘Er. Done.

Under normal circumstances I wouldn’t dream of doing something like this; three plugs, larger than most I’ve tried, all in one sitting. But considering they’re made by Tantus, and were sent to me by one of my absolute favorite retailers, SheVibe, I decided it was worth pushing past my comfort zone for.  You’d think I’d have learned after the Tantus T-Rex. Nope. I’m clearly a glutton for punishment.

The Good

Before I break down my experiences, here’s all the good stuff they have in common:

  • Unlike the wide top of the the Tantus Ryder, the tips of Juice and Neo are gently pointed, making the initial insertion far easier and much more comfortable. Twist on the other hand is more of a gently rounded corkscrew.
  • They aren’t as flexible as the Meteorite. Sounds like a con, I know. However it is not.  The firmness was what made them doable. Being bendy isn’t always a good thing.
  • The base is probably the best I’ve ever found on an anal toy. It’s not rectangular or round, but instead an interesting anchor shape that fit in my butt crack nicely. For the most part I hardly felt it. On a couple instances I actually stopped to check and see if it was still there. More of this please.
  • Tantus LogoThey’re totally body safe. We’re talking hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, phthalate and latex free, odourless, tasteless, bleachable, boilable and for the most part virtually non-porous. If you want quality, you want Tantus.
  • Even though they’re thick, there’s still a fair bit of squish and give. Cushioning makes my ass happy.
  • Unlike other silicones the texture is satiny smooth, supple, and matte, limiting the amount of drag on the skin.
  • The bulbous shaft is tapered, gently graduating in girth from around 3.25“ inches to 4.25“ inches in the middle, back down to around 4“ inches, and finally settling in at just under 2″ inches for the bottom quarter. In my experience, that last portion was what kept them in place and made them comfortable. Without it they probably would have been too overwhelming to use for a decent period of time.
  • Each of the plugs measures 4″ inches in length, that’s a 1/2″ inch shorter than the Meteorite, but 1/4″ inch longer than the Little Flirt. Let’s just say it’s a happy medium.
  • They don’t attract lint like other, glossier, silicones. If you follow my reviews, you’ll know this matters to me.
  • This last bit is of no significant importance but I’m including it because I can; the colors are true colors. As in, the purple is really purple, not some pink-trying-be-purple-but-not-really-purple-cause-there’s-too-much-pink like you’ll find with other companies. I appreciate this.

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Comparison

An easy challenge this was not. While the differences are apparent from just looking at them, experiencing them first hand was something else. For starters, each of the plugs are significantly girthier than my previous challenger, the Meteorite. We’re talking a whole inch difference. For some of you this will seem measly, but for me it was enough to require patience, perseverance, dedication, breathing techniques, and lube… an obnoxious amount of lube. Note to self: buy more Sliquid Sea a.s.a.p.

FYI: In an attempt to have a well rounded experience I usually ‘test’ toys a handful of times, choosing then to write my reviews based on those most memorable or similar (and therefore a ‘generality’).  In this case I was able to use Neo and Juice on multiple occasions. Twist however, I struggled with continuously and was only able to get it fully in once. The rest of the time my ass just fought with it mercilessly until I gave up. Bare that in mind when you make your purchasing decisions.

Tantus Neo Butt Plug Tantus Neo

Judging by appearances I went for Neo first.  It seemed the least intimidating of the three, and with no textures, the one most likely to enter without a struggle.  Sadly, I was wrong.  It wasn’t all bad though; the tip found its way almost instantly and with some pressure, the first 1/4 slowly slid into place. From there on it was a bit of an undertaking.

At first I couldn’t relax. The impending girth had me fearing for my sphincter, causing me to tense and clench. Not what you want to have happen when you’re trying to shove something in your butt.  Then came a considerable amount of start, stop, remove, add lube, start, stop, remove, add lube (you get the picture), until I finally had it half way in. At that point I had to pause, leave it alone, and allow my body to get used to the sensation as shoving it in would likely prove futile. Then in one fell swoop, I reached back and pushed, landing in place with a slight popping sensation. Almost instantly my body breathed a heavy sigh of relief.

The size was fulfilling without being too much, and the portion holding it there was surprisingly comfortable. Not at all what I expected considering the amount of effort it took to get it in. As I moved I could feel it inside me, but there was no jabbing, ‘stretching’, or discomfort. Instead, it was satisfying. With everything I had been through, I think this was a well earned result.

Also not surprising was the way the base fit in place, on three separate occasions I had to stop what I was doing and wiggle around to see if it was still there. This was a new experience for me as many butt toys (with thicker bases) often leave me feeling as if my butt’s being spread far and wide.

When it came time for removal the process was fairly simple; I gently slipped two fingers underneath the anchored base and pulled steadily. Unlike its entrance, Neo slid out with a minimal amount of hesitation. In retrospect I can honestly say this was one of the more intense experiences I’ve had in my reviewing career. Bravo, Tantus. Bravo.

Who Will Like It

People who have worked up from something thinner and are looking to explore, those that like a full feeling with little to no texture, anyone that’s tried the Tantus Ryder, loved it, but found the head continually hard to insert (being that it’s fully rounded and not ‘pointed’), or those that prefer medium sized plugs over probes.

Tantus Juice Butt PlugTantus Juice

Next up was the Tantus Juice, a plug akin to Neo. The main difference? Rather than a smooth untextured surface, Juice has a ribbed body similar to that of a deflated punch balloon, making my venture slightly more interesting.

While I’ll admit that having Neo to ready myself beforehand probably helped, it seemed as though the ribbing itself offered a bit more squish, give, and room for my ass to maneuver.  Quite surprisingly it glided into place within a minimum amount of force or effort.  The entire time I could feel the textures adding a new level of stimulation and pleasure.  Sadly though, once inserted it was as if the ribs didn’t exist. I could feel them if I focused, but for the most part internally it felt just like Neo. Very weird.

As for the rest of my experience with Juice, everything was almost identical to Neo; it was comfortable to wear, at no point did I feel ‘stretched out’, the base fit perfectly, and removal was stress free. With how smooth things went, I wish there was more to report. Though I’ll admit, if I had to choose between Neo and Juice, I’d definitely opt for the latter.

Who Will Like It

People that enjoy slight texturing, a feeling of fullness, and everything Neo has to offer.

 Tantus Twist Butt PlugTantus Twist

How do I say this nicely… I am not fond of the Tantus Twist.

In fact, it’s probably my least favorite of any butt toy I’ve reviewed thus far; the coiled body made getting it in place fairly difficult, and as each bump slid into place, my body offered more and more resistance until it became nearly unbearable. Good thing I like a challenge.

On that note, don’t try twirling it like you would the Crystal Delights twist, the base on Tantus’s version makes it almost impossible. Rather than a quick spin and insertion, you’ll likely find the base continually jabbing you with each go round. And while this does make the plugs body slightly easier to work in, eventually you’ll end up at a point where the base is stuck between your ass cheeks and just won’t turn anymore. Having a toy jammed in my crack before the rest of it is entirely inserted, no thank you.

Also, if you don’t use enough lube and try to twist it, you’ll likely feel like something is pulling at your hole. Ouch. Eventually I had to remove it entirely (we’ll get to the removal in a minute) and start from scratch. You cannot imagine my disdain. Let’s just say I wasn’t overly impressed with myself, my ass, or Twist by this point.

After much deliberation I finally managed to get it in, however once inserted, the ripples felt kind of odd. I mean, I could feel them, but every time I moved I couldn’t help but think I had crammed corrugated cardboard in my ass. Not pleasurable, and certainly not what I was hoping for.

Unfortunately my misfortune didn’t stop there, when it came time to take Twist out I struggled almost as much as I did putting it in; each bump felt as bad, if not worse, as it did during insertion. AND I DID THIS TWICE. The things I do for you people. The only saving grace was the fact that I knew once it was out, it was over. Sweet relief, why must you come in the form of a removed butt plug?

Who Will Like It

Those that are really experienced with anal play and really love textures, anyone that wants to ‘try something new’, persons who aren’t afraid of a challenge, those that like the sensations anal beads provide.

The Bad

Despite what most websites selling these three say I don’t think they’d be good for ‘beginners’. Someone who’s explored with fingers, yes. Someone that’s experienced with smaller, thinner butt plugs and wants something a larger than a finger but smaller than a breadbox, yup. Someone that’s had anal sex, enjoyed it, and wants a plug to play with, most def. But a person that’s new to the scene, hasn’t had many opportunities to put things in their butt, be it a finger, plug, penis, or otherwise, likely not.

As someone that knows her body, has spent the past 7 years putting things in her ass for ‘science’, I can honestly say these were a tad too large my first few goes round. If they were too large for me, I can only imagine what they’d feel like to someone that has no idea what they’re doing. If you’re not sure where to start my ‘Beginners Guide To Butt Play‘ might come in handy.

Other than that I don’t have much to complain about. They’re luxurious as far as anal plugs go, they just weren’t my ideal. I’m working on it.

Care & Cleaning

Tantus Butt Plug Close UpBecause they’re all crafted out of medical grade silicone, and therefore wont retain bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, they don’t require heavy duty cleaning many lesser products would. Simply give them a good wash with mild soap and water and let them sit to air dry.

Or, if you’re a clean freak and can’t stand the thought of something that’s been in your ass coming into contact with anything else, you can boil them in water for 3 minutes, toss ’em in your dishwasher, or wash them with a 10% bleach solution. Though honestly, it’s pretty unnecessary.

Also, because Juice and Twist are quite textured there’s a lot of opportunity for bodily fluids, lube, bacteria, and ‘stuff’ to collect. They won’t absorb into silicone and don’t pose any real risks, but it does mean you’ll need to pay a bit more consideration when cleaning.

Final Verdict

Tantus Neo, Juice, Twist Butt PlugsAt the end of the day, and knowing Tantus like I do, I don’t think these are bad plugs. On the contrary.  Even with my personal struggles I think they’re shining examples of what high quality butt plugs should be; they’re crafted out of medical grade silicone making them totally body safe, are silky smooth to the touch,  don’t drag on the skin, have a base that makes them exceptionally comfortable to wear, don’t attract lint, bare pointy tips to help make insertion easier than most, and will last a lifetime with a minimal amount of care. Unfortunately, they’re just too for me, right now. Like I said, I’m working on it.

Considering all that, I’d certainly suggest them. I’d just make sure to point out all the differences so anyone interested would know what to buy… if you like a medium plug that’s fairly basic, grab a Neo.

If you want something the same size, with a slight amount of texturing adding some fun sensations, pick up a Juice.

For those brave souls that don’t back down when the going gets tough, Twist will be your new favorite.

Otherwise, when it comes to butt plugs, you’ve certainly got a lot of other options to choose from over at SheVibe.

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Q&A w/ Kara Sutra: Is Masturbation Bad?

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Hi Kara Sutra

I’m a long time fan of yours and I’ve watched all of your videos. I was hoping you could answer some questions I had about masturbation because I have no clue what to think or if there are health ramifications. Plus I’ve always been told that its bad so I’ve never done it and I want to but I’m scared that it will make me a pervert. Is masturbation bad? Is it normal? Am I going to go to hell? If I do it does it mean that there is something wrong with me?

I hope you can answer my questions.

Thanks.

Answer

Thank you so much for watching and supporting what I do!!

As for the message, in a perfect world masturbation wouldn’t cause feelings of fear, shame, or guilt. It’s a very natural thing that most species do, and almost every person has done, sometimes without even knowing it.  Even as babies and young children one of the first things we do is experience our body. We touch, squeeze, tickle, our hands venture to places that can cause enjoyment we don’t yet understand.

Unfortunately, most of the guilt or shame we feel from this touching comes from early childhood experiences brought on by another persons reaction to what we were doing. And that isn’t fair or healthy.

When children touch their genitals it’s usually not in a sexual way, but instead an attempt to explore out of sheer curiosity and wonder.  Very often they are immediately told to stop, that it’s ‘bad’, ‘dirty’, ‘wrong’, ‘gross’, ‘naughty’, and are shot scornful looks from whomever caught them.  Sometimes their hands are slapped away or they’re punished for it. All of these experiences shape what they think of their bodies, sexuality, and how they feel about themselves.

That being said, I want to let you know that there is nothing wrong with masturbating. There is nothing wrong with exploring your body and figuring out what you like. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable and confident in your sexuality. And there is nothing wrong with giving yourself an orgasm.

Benefits of Masturbation

Contrary to any statements about masturbating being bad for you, there are quite a few positive benefits, including (but not limited to);

  • releasing tension
  • lowering stress levels
  • increasing the ability to have orgasms
  • helping to release endorphins that relieve pain
  • burning calories
  • it’s a natural sleep sedative
  • helping to keep the pelvic floor strong/healthy (potentially preventing urinary incontinence)

In ‘men’ it has be found to improve the immune system’s functioning, build resistance to prostate gland infection, and possibly even reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer. Not to mention the fact that it can help guys increase ejaculatory control and manage rapid or delayed ejaculation (basically put, through masturbation you can teach yourself to last longer).

In ‘women’, it’s great for combating pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with the menstrual cycle like cramps and backache. It can help prevent cervical infections and relieve urinary tract infections as well as generally help to gain confidence in our sexuality.

Aside from all those wonderful benefits, masturbating is a great way to learn about what you like and dislike when it comes to arousing yourself and achieving an orgasm.

You can fault me for this if you’d like, but you can’t blame your partner for not helping you achieve an orgasm if you don’t even know what it takes to get you there.  No matter your gender, learning about your body and how to bring excitement is your responsibility, so is telling your partner so that they can provide what you require –  the only way to learn is to do it yourself.

How Much Is Too Much?

Regarding the two most asked questions, “how much is too much?” and “whats wrong with me? I don’t know how to stop!”

So long as it’s not interfering with your daily activities, i.e. keeping you from hanging out with friends, making you late for work, is the only thing on your mind and the only thing you want to do day in and day out, you don’t really need to worry. The frequency of masturbation isn’t a problem unless it is linked with an obsessive compulsive disorder, where the same activity must be repeated over and over.

As for what’s considered “normal”: ‘normal’ ranges from several times per day, week or month, to never masturbating at all.  Since everyone is different what’s ‘normal’ for you may be very different from what’s ‘normal’ for someone else.

Finally, will you go to hell? That’s a whole other can of worms I’d rather not open. But as someone that doesn’t believe in a ‘punishing God’, I’d say no. If you’re religious, maybe reading the book Conversations With God would give you another perspective on things.

That’s pretty much it, hopefully it helped in some way.

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Strap-On’s & Harnesses

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Strap-On's & Harnesses

Exploring strap-ons and harnesses can be a rewarding journey into new sexual experiences, whether for fun, pleasure, or intimacy with a partner. For beginners, strap-ons and harnesses may seem a bit intimidating at first, but with the right guidance and tips, they can open doors to exciting forms of connection and sensation. This guide will cover what strap-ons and harnesses are, how they work, the different options available, and tips for making the experience enjoyable and fulfilling.

What Are Strap-Ons & Harnesses?

A strap-on is a sex toy usually involving a dildo attached to a harness. The harness is worn around the waist or hips, allowing the user to control the movement of the dildo with their body. This setup enables penetration, allowing couples to experiment with different positions, explore gender play, and switch up traditional roles if desired. For people of all gender identities, strap-ons offer versatility and creativity in the bedroom, as well as an opportunity to experience something new.

How Do Strap-Ons & Harnesses Work?

Strap-ons generally consist of two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness is what secures the dildo to the body, and the dildo is the part that provides penetration. Many harnesses have an adjustable waistband and leg straps to ensure a snug, comfortable fit. The dildo is often attached to the harness using an O-ring - a flexible ring that holds the dildo securely in place - or a proprietary attachment system. Different harnesses accommodate different types of dildos, so it’s important to check for compatibility if you’re choosing parts separately.

To use a strap-on, the person wearing the harness simply puts it on and adjusts it until it feels secure. Then, with some lube and a bit of practice, they’re ready to explore with their partner. Communication, patience, and an open attitude make the process more comfortable and fun for both parties.

Different Types of Harnesses

When exploring with strap-ons, it’s helpful to know that harnesses come in various designs to fit different preferences, activities, and comfort levels. Each type of harness offers unique benefits, whether you’re looking for something secure, adjustable, or more intimate. From traditional belt or jock-style harnesses, which provide stability and versatility, to strapless strap-ons that eliminate the need for a harness entirely, each style caters to different kinds of experiences. Understanding the options available can help you find a harness that fits comfortably and enhances connection, making the journey smoother and more enjoyable.

Belt or Jock-Style Harness

The belt or jock-style harness, like the Strap U Double Take Vibrating Dildo & Harness (pictured left), is a classic and widely preferred type of harness, making it a popular choice for beginners and experienced users alike. Resembling a pair of underwear, this harness has two leg loops and a waistband that goes around the hips, holding the dildo securely in place. This design is known for being user-friendly, as it’s easy to put on, offers good stability, and allows for adjustments in fit and comfort. These harnesses are usually compatible with O-ring dildos, which means they can accommodate various shapes and sizes.

Pros of belt or jock-style harnesses include its stability, making it suitable for different types of movement and positions, as well as its wide compatibility with most dildos. However, the bulkier design can feel a bit cumbersome if worn for long periods or if you’re looking for a lightweight option. Some find the thickness of the straps less ideal for a more discreet or minimalist experience, but for reliable performance, this harness style is hard to beat.

Underwear-Style Harness

Underwear-style harnesses offer an alternative for those who prefer a softer, more discreet experience. These harnesses look and feel like regular underwear, with fabric that fits snugly and comfortably against the body. Often, panty and brief style harnesses include a built-in pouch or O-ring for holding dildos in place. The softness and natural fit of these harnesses make them a great option for beginners, as they’re often the least intimidating and easiest to wear out of all types.

Harnesses like the Active Harness Wear - Fit Strap-On Harness Brief By Sportsheets (pictured right) offer ease and comfort, ideal for gentle, low-maintenance experiences. However, they may not provide as much stability as other types, especially if you’re using a heavier dildo or engaging in vigorous activity.

Additionally, they tend to have limited compatibility with certain dildo sizes, particularly larger models, and may lack the adjustable features that are found in other harness types. Despite these limitations, the underwear-style harness is a fantastic option for those looking for comfort, simplicity, and subtlety.

Double-Strap Harness

Double-strap harnesses, like the Vibrating Black Corsette Strap-On Harness by Sportsheets (pictured left), take the traditional harness a step further by adding extra flexibility and freedom. With two straps going around each thigh and connecting to a waistband, this design leaves the area between the legs open, which can enhance sensation for the wearer and allow for dual stimulation. This open design is ideal for those who enjoy a bit more direct contact and sensitivity, as well as added versatility.

The double-strap harness is highly adjustable, providing a more customized fit, which makes it suitable for a range of activities and movements. However, it may take a bit longer to put on and adjust compared to single-strap designs, and it might feel a bit more complex for beginners who are still familiarizing themselves with harnesses. Once adjusted, though, it offers secure, stable support and allows for creativity.

Strapless Strap-Ons

Strapless strap-ons,  are a unique and innovative option that doesn’t require any harness at all. Instead, they are designed with a bulb on one end, which is held internally by the wearer, leaving the external part free for penetration. This allows for an intimate, skin-on-skin experience without the need for straps or additional adjustments. The result is a more natural feeling, often preferred by those looking for a close, hands-free experience with their partner.

While the absence of straps provides a more seamless and intimate connection, strapless strap-ons, like the BodyWand ID Access Strapless Strap-On (pictured right), require some pelvic muscle strength to hold in place, which can be challenging for some users, particularly beginners.

Practicing solo with these toys can help build confidence and control. Additionally, they may not provide the same level of stability as traditional harnesses, so patience and experimentation with different angles and positions can make the experience more enjoyable and comfortable for both partners.

Thigh Strap-Ons and Alternative Harness Styles

For those interested in mixing things up, thigh strap-ons and harnesses designed for different parts of the body offer exciting and versatile options. Thigh strap-ons are typically secured around the upper leg, allowing the wearer’s thigh to be used as the point of penetration. This can open up a range of positions and angles that aren’t as easily accessible with a traditional waist-mounted harness. Thigh strap-ons, like the Ultra Thigh Strap On (pictured left) are especially popular for hands-free play, allowing both partners to experiment with varied rhythms, sensations, and levels of control.

In addition to thigh-mounted harnesses, other strap-ons can be worn on different parts of the body, such as the hand, chin, or lower leg. These designs offer unique ways to enjoy penetrative play that can align with different levels of accessibility, creativity, and intimacy.

Although these styles may require a bit more experimentation to find positions that work best, they’re ideal for those looking to try new sensations and movements with their partner.

Double Penetration Strap-Ons and Harnesses

Double penetration strap-ons and harnesses are designed to provide simultaneous internal stimulation for the wearer or their partner, creating a fuller and more intense experience. These strap-ons typically feature two dildos: one for vaginal and one for anal penetration, or one for both the wearer and the receiver. Double penetration harnesses, like the Dual Desires Strap-On (pictured right), can be worn around the waist with dual attachments, or they may include an internal component that allows the wearer to enjoy internal stimulation as well.

These strap-ons are versatile and can cater to a variety of preferences and body types, allowing couples to experiment with new sensations and explore different levels of intimacy. Many double-penetration harnesses are adjustable for comfort and stability, though they may feel more complex than single attachment harnesses and can take some trial and error to get the fit just right. For those interested in adding extra layers to their experience, these offer a chance to deepen connection and variety.

Dillio Body Dock System of Strap-On

The Dillio Body Dock is a unique strap-on system that offers an alternative to traditional harnesses by simplifying attachment and use. Instead of using O-rings or buckles, the Body Dock (pictured left), relies on a strong, suction-based docking system. This feature allows users to quickly and securely attach any dildo with a suction cup base to the docking pad, making setup easy and efficient. The harness itself is typically worn around the waist with adjustable straps, ensuring a secure fit.

This system is particularly popular for those who want the flexibility of swapping out different dildos without fussing with various attachments. This design also allows for a wider range of dildo shapes and sizes, giving users more freedom to personalize their experience.

While it’s beginner-friendly and ideal for quick changes, the suction design may not offer as much stability as more traditional O-ring harnesses during vigorous use. However, for anyone looking for a convenient, versatile, and customizable strap-on system, the Dillio Body Dock is an innovative choice.

Vac-U-Lock Strap-On System

The Vac-U-Lock system (pictured right), is a popular and versatile strap-on design known for its unique plug-and-lock mechanism. Instead of relying on traditional O-rings or suction cups, Vac-U-Lock harnesses feature a secure plug that “locks” compatible dildos into place, providing a stable and reliable attachment. This innovative system allows users to switch out dildos effortlessly, and the Vac-U-Lock collection offers a broad range of attachments in various shapes, sizes, and textures, all designed to fit securely.

These harnesses are typically made from durable materials and are often fully adjustable, ensuring comfort and security during use. This system is ideal for anyone who wants a consistent fit and firm control, even during more vigorous activity.

Even though the setup may feel slightly different at first, many users find the stability and selection of compatible toys to be major advantages. For those seeking a customizable and dependable strap-on system that accommodates a range of preferences, the Vac-U-Lock is an excellent choice.

 

Popular Strap-On & Harness Options

 

Choosing Safe, Non-Toxic Materials

When selecting a strap-on compatible dildo, it's essential to choose products made from body-safe, non-toxic materials. Some toys, especially cheaper options like jelly dildos, may be made from materials that contain potentially harmful chemicals, such as phthalates. These chemicals can cause irritation, allergic reactions, and, with long-term exposure, even pose health risks. Jelly toys, in particular, are often porous, which means they can trap bacteria, bodily fluids, and lube, and are harder to keep clean, increasing the risk of infections.

Safe options for strap-on attachments, like the Tantus Curve (pictured left), are non-porous, easy to sanitize, and free from harmful chemicals, making them a healthier choice for your body. Silicone dildos, in particular, are soft, durable, and highly recommended due to their flexibility and compatibility with a wide variety of harnesses.

Choosing the Right Dildo

When selecting a dildo to pair with your harness, it’s important to consider both compatibility and safety. The best dildos for harness play will have a flared or suction cup base, which keeps the toy securely in place during use and prevents any risk of slipping through the harness or becoming unsafe for internal use.

Whether you’re drawn to a realistic style, a curved design for targeted stimulation, or a textured option for extra sensation, there are many body-safe options to explore. Finding the right dildo can make all the difference in creating a comfortable, enjoyable experience for both partners.

Here’s a quick rundown of different types to consider:

  • Basic Dildos: These are non-realistic dildos that often come in a range of colors, sizes, and shapes. They’re simple, easy to clean, and versatile.
  • Realistic Dildos: Realistic dildos are designed to resemble human anatomy and may have veins, texture, and other details that add realism to the experience. These are popular for those who want a lifelike experience.
  • Vibrating Dildos: Some dildos come with a vibrating feature, which can add extra stimulation for both the wearer and the partner. The vibration intensity is adjustable in most models, making it an exciting option for those looking to enhance sensation.

Regardless of what you choose look for reputable brands that use 100% body-safe materials, and check labels or product descriptions carefully. Prioritizing safety will ensure that you have a comfortable, worry-free experience and can focus entirely on the pleasure and connection that strap-on play offers.

Tips & Suggestions for Getting Started

Starting out with strap-ons and harnesses can be both exciting and a little nerve-wracking, so here are some tips to make things go smoothly:

  • Start with Communication: Communication is the key to a satisfying experience. Talk openly with your partner about boundaries, desires, and any potential worries. Take turns adjusting the harness or practicing with it to make sure you’re both comfortable with how it feels and moves.
  • Practice Solo First: If you’re wearing the harness, try practicing alone first to get a feel for how it moves with your body. This practice can help build confidence and give you a sense of control before you’re using it with a partner.
  • Use Lube Generously: Lube is a must for comfort with strap-ons. Apply a good quality, water-based lubricant on the dildo and, if applicable, on any sensitive areas for smoothness and ease. This can reduce friction, enhance pleasure, and make the experience more enjoyable.
  • Go Slow and Experiment with Positions: Finding the right position is important for comfort and satisfaction. Many beginners start with positions like missionary or doggy style, which offer support and are easy to control. Experiment, move slowly, and adjust as needed.
  • Consider Adjustable or Beginner-Friendly Harnesses: Some harnesses are specifically designed for beginners, with added padding and support. Starting with a comfortable, easily adjustable harness can make your first experience more enjoyable and less intimidating.

Final Thoughts

Exploring strap-ons and harnesses can be a truly empowering and satisfying experience, allowing couples to share pleasure and connection in new and fulfilling ways. Remember, there’s no “right” way to approach using strap-ons - each person and each couple will find what works best for them through open communication and experimentation. As with any new experience, go slowly, communicate openly, and, most of all, have fun with the process. Whether it’s an occasional thing or something you want to incorporate more regularly, using a strap-on can be a unique way to deepen trust, playfulness, and intimacy in your relationship.
 
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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Glass Sex Toys

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: Glass Sex Toys

Glass sex toys are a unique and elegant addition to the world of adult products, loved for their sleek design, body-safe materials, and ability to create a range of sensations. Made from specially treated glass, these toys aren’t just beautiful to look at - they’re also functional, totally body safe, versatile, and easy to clean. If you’re curious about what makes glass toys special, how they differ from other types of toys, and what types are available, read on for a quick but comprehensive guide.

Regardless of what you’re into, there is something to suit your needs, it’s just a matter of finding one that works with you and your body.

What Makes Glass Sex Toys Different from Regular Glass?

Glass sex toys are made from borosilicate glass, which is highly durable, shatter-resistant, and heat-tempered. Unlike standard glass, which can break easily, borosilicate glass is created to withstand pressure, temperature changes, and daily handling, making it ideal for safe intimate use. It’s the same material used in high-quality cookware and lab equipment, so it’s designed to be both strong and safe. Additionally, borosilicate glass is non-porous, meaning it won’t harbour bacteria or germs and can be easily sterilized, making it a popular choice for people with sensitivities or allergies.

Why Choose Glass Sex Toys?

Glass sex toys are known for their smooth texture and firmness, offering a different kind of stimulation compared to softer materials like silicone, TPR, or those made of plush flesh like material. Their firmness allows for deeper, more intense pressure, which many people find satisfying, especially when exploring G-spot or prostate stimulation. Glass toys also lend themselves well to temperature play; they can be gently warmed up or cooled down to create various sensations, adding an exciting element of sensory play.

Types of Glass Sex Toys

Glass sex toys come in a variety of options to cater to different preferences and styles of stimulation. These options allow you to explore sensations that are unique to the material, combining glass’s smoothness and firmness with innovative shapes. Here are some of the most popular types of glass sex toys available:

Glass Dildos

Glass dildos are among the most versatile types of glass toys, often designed with curves that make them excellent for targeted stimulation. Many glass dildos feature textural elements like ridges, swirls, or nubs, adding variety to the sensations they can provide. The smooth, firm texture allows users to apply pressure in ways that softer materials can’t match, and the added textures make these toys even more pleasurable. Glass dildos, like the Icicles No. 63 Clear Glass Realistic Dildo (pictured left), come in a range of sizes and shapes, so there’s something for everyone, from beginners to more experienced users.

Glass Toys for G-Spot and P-Spot Stimulation

Glass toys designed specifically for G-spot and P-spot (prostate) stimulation are crafted with unique shapes and curves that target these highly sensitive areas with precision. G-spot and p-spot glass toys, like the Premium G-Spot Wand or the Gender X Lustrous Galaxy Glass Wand (pictured right), often feature an upward curve or bulbous end that makes it easier to apply firm, consistent pressure where these spots are located. The rigidity of glass enhances this sensation, allowing users to explore a deeper, more direct type of stimulation that softer toys might not offer. Many of these toys also have textural elements like ridges or spirals to add even more pleasure as they glide in and out.

Glass Anal Plugs

Glass anal plugs, like the Booty Sparks Red Heart Gem Glass Anal Plug (pictured left), are another popular option, often chosen for their weight and non-porous surface. These plugs come in a variety of sizes, which allows users to gradually increase comfort and pleasure with consistent use. Unlike other materials, glass has a rigidity that many people find especially satisfying when it comes to anal exploration, as it can create a fuller, more pronounced sensation. Additionally, glass anal plugs are easy to sterilize, making them a safe and clean option for this type of play.

Beaded Glass Toys

Beaded glass sex toys offer unique sensations by incorporating “bumps” or beads along the shaft, creating more textured pleasure than a standard smooth surface. These toys are designed to be used both anally and vaginally, with their beaded design adding intensity to the sensation as each bead enters and exits the body. The beaded style can provide a rhythmic, fuller feeling that many users find highly pleasurable. 

Glass Trainer Kits

Glass trainer kits are a thoughtful option for those who are exploring anal or vaginal play and prefer to start with gradually increasing sizes. A glass trainer kit like the Crystal Premium Glass Tapered Anal Trainer Kit (pictured right), typically includes multiple plugs or dildos, each one larger than the previous, allowing users to progress at their own comfort level.

These kits are especially beneficial for beginners as they provide a safe and controlled way to experience the sensation of fullness. Glass trainer kits are popular for their smooth, non-porous surface and easy-to-clean properties, which make them ideal for users who want a body-safe, durable material. Whether used vaginally or anally, they're designed to build confidence and pleasure over time.

Glass Vibrators

Glass vibrators combine the elegance and firmness of glass with the added stimulation of vibration, offering a unique and powerful experience. These toys typically feature a removable vibrating bullet or an internal mechanism that can add various levels of vibration to the rigid glass structure. This fusion of smooth glass with vibration allows for both firm pressure and rhythmic sensation, creating a satisfying experience that’s unlike other materials. The firm structure of glass transmits vibrations effectively, amplifying even low settings and creating a deeper resonance that some users find especially pleasurable.

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Pros of Glass Sex Toys

  • Body-Safe and Hypoallergenic: Glass toys are non-porous and free from chemicals like phthalates, making them a great choice for sensitive skin and allergies.

  • Easy to Clean: Being non-porous, glass is easy to sanitize with soap and water, toy cleaner, or even boiling. This makes them low-maintenance and long-lasting.

  • Temperature Play: Glass can be warmed or cooled easily, adding an extra element of excitement through temperature play. Simply hold the toy under warm or cold water to create new sensations.

  • Firm and Durable: Unlike softer toys, glass toys provide firm pressure, which can be more effective for certain types of stimulation, like G-spot or prostate play.

  • Beautiful Design: Glass toys are aesthetically pleasing and come in a wide variety of colourful, artful designs. They’re durable enough to be long-lasting, so they can even serve as a beautiful keepsake.

Cons of Glass Sex Toys

  • Initial Cost: High-quality glass toys can be more expensive than toys made of other materials due to their durability, craftsmanship, and safety. However, many people find them to be a worthy investment.

  • Weight and Firmness: The firmness of glass may not appeal to everyone, as it doesn’t provide any give like silicone or softer materials. This can make it less comfortable for those who prefer gentler or lighter toys.

  • Temperature Sensitivity: While temperature play is a benefit, it’s important to remember that glass is naturally sensitive to heat and cold. If not adjusted carefully, this could cause discomfort or even a burn if the toy is overheated.

  • Risk of Breakage: Though borosilicate glass is strong, it’s not entirely unbreakable. If dropped or misused, it can crack or shatter, which could be dangerous. However, with proper care, glass toys are generally very safe.

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Using the right lubricant with glass toys can enhance comfort and make your experience much more enjoyable. One of the great things about glass toys is that they’re compatible with all types of lube, so you’re free to choose from water-based, silicone-based, or even oil-based lubricants.

Water-based lubes are an all-around safe choice and easy to clean, while silicone-based lubes provide extra slipperiness that lasts longer, making them a popular choice for prolonged play. If you prefer a thicker feel or want a bit of added cushion, some people also enjoy hybrid lubricants, which blend water and silicone bases. Should you opt for an oil-based lube and plan on being intimate with a partner, keep in mind that oil isn't compatible with condoms - you'll need to wash yourselves clean before getting down to business.

It’s also worth mentioning that the combination of glass and lube can make the toy extra slippery, so it’s best to handle it carefully to avoid any drops or slips. Glass toys are durable but can still break if they fall onto hard surfaces, so take extra care if your hands get slick. Consider using a towel to hold the base or storing your toy on a stable surface between uses to minimize any accidents.

Final Thoughts

Glass sex toys offer a distinct, memorable experience with their smooth, firm surfaces and beautiful designs, making them a great option for those seeking something unique, versatile, and long lasting. Whether you're drawn to their ability to provide precise, targeted pressure, the ease of keeping them clean, or the fun of experimenting with temperature play, glass toys offer a lot to explore. They come in a variety of shapes, textures, and styles to suit different preferences, from dildos and anal plugs to vibrators and massage wands.
 
Like any intimate choice, it’s important to go at your own pace and find what feels right for your body. With care and proper use, glass toys can be a rewarding addition to your collection, offering sensations and experiences that go well beyond what other materials can provide. If you're new to glass toys, take your time exploring their benefits and different styles, and always remember to prioritize comfort and safety along the way.
 
If you'd like to get your hands on some high quality glass sex toys be sure to check out any of my favourite online sex toy stores be it Pinkcherry, SheVibe, Babeland, or my online sex toy store, ShopSexEd102.com. Don't forget to shop around to make sure you're getting the best prices available.
 
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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: The Clitoris

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Sex Ed 102 Beginners Guide: The Clitoris

Despite its importance, the clitoris has long been misunderstood or ignored in sexual education. In recent years, however, there has been a growing movement to raise awareness about its structure and function, emphasizing the importance of clitoral stimulation in sexual pleasure. Knowing how to properly stimulate the clitoris - whether through gentle touch, oral sex, or the use of sex toys - can empower individuals to take control of their sexual health and enjoy more fulfilling intimate experiences. Ultimately, education about the clitoris is vital for dismantling the myths and misinformation that have historically shrouded cis female sexuality. As awareness continues to grow, the clitoris is becoming rightfully recognized as an essential part of anatomy that deserves attention, respect, and care in the pursuit of a satisfying sex life.

Anatomy of the Clitoris

The clitoris is a complex and highly sensitive organ, often misunderstood or underrepresented in discussions about cis female anatomy. To get a better idea of the structure of the vulva and complete clitoral network, please refer to the Healthline image below.

The Clitoral Hood

The clitoral hood is a fold of skin that covers and protects the sensitive glans of the clitoris, much like the foreskin on a penis. It acts as a protective layer, shielding the clitoris from constant friction or irritation, while still allowing for pleasurable stimulation during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood can vary greatly in size and shape from person to person, and during arousal, it often retracts slightly, exposing more of the clitoral glans for direct stimulation. This natural covering plays an important role in regulating sensitivity, as some individuals prefer indirect stimulation of the clitoris by massaging the hood, while others enjoy more direct contact.

The Glans/Clitoris

The clitoral glans is the small, external part of the clitoris that is visible at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia meet. Despite its small size, the glans has an astonishing concentration of nerve endings - around 8,000 - making it the most sensitive erogenous zone in the human body and a central focus of sexual pleasure. During arousal, the glans becomes engorged with blood, increasing its size and responsiveness to touch. Although it is the only part of the clitoris visible externally, the glans is connected to a much larger internal structure that contributes to sexual sensation. Its primary function is to provide pleasure, and different individuals may prefer various types of stimulation to this sensitive area, whether through gentle touch, vibration, or pressure. However, this is only a small fraction of the clitoris.

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The Crura/Corpus Cavernosum

The crura are the two internal, elongated branches of the clitoris that extend downwards from the clitoral glans, running along the sides of the vaginal canal. Made of erectile tissue, the crura become engorged with blood during sexual arousal, much like the glans, contributing to the swelling and increased sensitivity of the clitoral structure. Though not visible externally, the crura play a significant role in sexual pleasure, providing a deeper sense of fullness and pressure when stimulated. They are part of the larger clitoral network, which works in unison to enhance arousal, making the crura an essential, though often overlooked, component of the female sexual anatomy.

Vestibular Bulbs

While not as widely recognized as the external clitoral glans, the vestibular bulbs are essential components of the clitoral anatomy. These bulbous masses of erectile tissue sit on either side of the vaginal opening, beneath the skin, and swell with blood during sexual arousal. Although not directly attached to the visible glans of the clitoris, they work in tandem with the internal crura and other parts of the clitoris to enhance sexual pleasure. The swelling of the vestibular bulbs can create a feeling of fullness and heighten sensitivity in the surrounding area, contributing to the overall sensation of arousal and pleasure.

Final Thoughts

Although there is no direct role in reproduction, the clitoris allows for a variety of pleasurable experiences. Essentially, the clitoris is the focal point of sexual enjoyment for many, enabling us to explore and experience deep levels of pleasure and satisfaction. By recognizing the importance of the clitoris in sexual pleasure and making space for conversations about it, we can develop a deeper understanding of our own bodies, or that of our partner(s), and enhance their sexual well-being. And as conversations around sexual health continue to evolve, it’s essential to prioritize accurate and inclusive education about the clitoris. Shedding light on its purpose and importance helps to dismantle outdated myths, ensuring that more of us are equipped with the knowledge to embrace our own pleasure and advocate for it in our relationships. Whether through solo exploration or shared intimacy, understanding the clitoris is key to unlocking deeper sexual fulfillment and fostering a positive, informed approach to sexuality. For those looking for more information on ways of exploring what feels good and what doesn't, whether with a partner or solo, my clitoral stimulation guide for beginners might be a helpful place to start. If you'd like to purchase products designed specifically for clitoral stimulation be sure to check out any of my favourite online sex toy stores be it Pinkcherry, SheVibe, or Babeland. Don't forget to shop around to make sure you're getting the best prices available. Sign up for my email list and get content sent straight to your inbox. Don't worry I promise not to spam you! [mc4wp_form id=10371]      
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Review: Rainbow Pumped Suction Cup Dildo

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Rainbow Dildo Review: Kara Sutra Reviews If you follow any of my social media you'll likely know by now how strong my love of rainbow sex toys is. Sadly, my collection isn't quite as large as I'd like it to be. As such, I decided I needed some new additions. When the folks behind HotCherry asked if I'd like to review something for them, I jumped at the chance to get my hands on the Rainbow Pumped Silicone Dildo. Before I get into the review it's worth mentioning that I am not a “size queen". Really big dicks just don't do it for me. Never have. With that in mind, my experiences with this rainbow dildo were hit and miss. That isn't to say that it's not a fantastic addition, just that due to its size, it was a tad too much for me. Those that like things on the thicker side will undoubtedly love this rainbow dildo. Me on the other hand, I'm still debating.

The Good

First things first, aesthetically the Rainbow Pumped Silicone Dildo is stunning. The edges are clean cut, with precise definition, offering no bleeding from one shade to the next. Each equally distributed layer is a perfect bright and bold hue, with no deviations from a traditional rainbow. Rather than having horizontal lines like most rainbow toys, the lines are diagonal, creating a lovely lengthening effect. All in all, it makes the perfectionist in me ridiculously happy. As for the silicone, it's matte and velvety to the touch, supple, with a bit of give. While there is some flexibility, it's firm enough that it doesn't bend, making insertion while mounting doable. Having said that, because it's a matte silicone it will require lube, and lots of it. Otherwise you can expect some uncomfortable dragging on the skin hindering insertion. Trust me on this. The head of the shaft has a pronounced ridge for those that like g-spot stimulation. The slight veining on the thick shaft offers some enjoyable sensations internally. And the firm but squishy balls let you gauge how far it’s inserted while also providing decent cushioning while thrusting. If you like to have a bit more control, flip it around and use them as a handle. For those that prefer hands free action, the flared base acts as a really good suction cup. I suggest wetting the bottom then pressing down hard on the area you want it to stick to. For the most part it's not going to move on flat surfaces, but because of the weight, it won't do well against shower tiles. We'll get to that later. Also on the note of the flared base, it’s compatible with strap-ons for pegging play. Getting it into the harness ring may require a bit of effort due to the length, but it should insert without too much trouble. Just know in advance that it’s heavy, very heavy, and will droop when worn.

Rainbow Dildo Review: Kara Sutra Reviews Experience

From the moment I saw it in the package I knew I was in over my head. My own fault really; unless it looks like big online (and this didn't), I rarely, if ever, check size stats before requesting a product. You'd think I'd have learned my lesson by now... nope. With regard to stats, the dildo is 9.75 inches in total length, with 7 inches being fully insertable. At it's thickest the girth measures 6.75 inches, while the shaft generally measures 5.5 inches. All in all it's a big dildo. As someone who likes to test a product as many times as possible before deciding if they like it, I won't lie, the struggle was real. That said, this isn't my first time at the rodeo. I tried another big dildo a few years ago, granted the rainbow dildo is by no means similar in girth. But still. While the 7 inch length is perfect for me, the 6.25 inch girth (at its largest point), is much, much, bigger than I'm used to.

Patience Is A Virtue

Knowing this was a dildo I wouldn't be able to instantly handle, I took my time. After 10 minutes with the Original Magic Wand and a smaller dildo to get things going, I slapped it onto a flat surface and mounted it. Nope. Not happening. Even with all the self pleasuring my body just wasn't ready. Never one to back away from a challenge, I spent another 10 minutes trying to find a position or angle that would allow me to take it. Eventually my body gave way, and with a slight 'pop', it slid into place with little resistance.  Once inserted the thick shaft was fulfilling while the length was highly satisfying. Thrusting was kept to a minimum as the weight of the dildo made it difficult to manage. For the most part the struggle was worth it. Having said that, I don't know that it's a dildo I'd go back to with any frequency. I had hoped that after my initial experience each new attempt would be easier. Sadly, wasn't the case. Every time I tried my body tensed in anticipation of the pronounced ridge. I'm sure with continued use I'll eventually get past that, but I fear the effort it'll take getting there will be a bit much. So many toys, so little time. Everything considered, I have a couple suggestions to make it enjoyable; use lots of lube and I do mean lots. Don’t go straight for it. Instead, work your way up by using a partner or other products before hand (the vaginal canal will expand and lengthen when aroused, take advantage of that). Finally, don’t be afraid to use something on your clitoris if you need to; it’ll help with arousal and self lubrication.

The Bad

I get it, most dildos replicate the appearance of a penis; as in, there's a pronounced ridge below the head on the shaft. Yes, aesthetically it might be pleasing. But it also makes insertion extra difficult for those not used to something this big. Removal even more so. My second attempt was slightly painful as I tensed in anticipation of the ‘pop’ I felt the first time around. Not fun. Although it did suction nicely to flat surfaces, it didn't do so well on the bathroom tiles. It’s got quite a bit of weight to it so it’s not going to instantly affix itself easily.  It’s also not going to stick to walls, the weight will eventually bring it down. Finally, it collects a lot of lint. Not a big deal, but it annoys me.

Care & Cleaning

Remember, anything that's quality silicone won't absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria. Simply wash this silicone dildo with soap and water, boil it, bleach it with a 10% bleach solution, or put it in the top rack of your dishwasher. As with all silicone toys you’ll want to use water based lubricants. You could opt for a silicone lube once you've done a patch test and are sure it's okay to use (just rub some silicone lube on the base of the toy, if there's a reaction it's not compatible). Otherwise a silicone lube will likely ruin it with time.

Final Verdict

I’m admittedly a little torn on this one… On the one hand I can see how those that like something a little bigger would love this dildo. The girth is fulfilling once inserted, while the length is perfect for those that like it deep. More than that, it’s quality made, virtually non-porous, easy to care for and clean, can be used with a harness, suctions to most surfaces, and doesn’t leach harmful chemicals into your body.  And let's not forget how aesthetically stunning this rainbow dildo is. I love the look of it. It's absolutely perfect. On the other hand, and this is just based on personal experience, I struggled.  A lot. Each and every time. Had the ridge below the head not been there, I think I would have really enjoyed it, probably even come to love it. But for the most part it was an overwhelming experience that left me disappointed in myself. Maybe with time and practice I'll get to a point where I can take it effortlessly. For now however, I'll be opting a smaller dildo that isn't quite as pretty. If you want to support me and what I do please support my sponsors. Without them I wouldn't be able to create fun reviews like this one for all of you. That in mind, if you're looking for quality sex toys at affordable prices be sure to hit up HotCherry, they've got great customer service, fast shipping, and carry most of the brands I've come to love.  Don't forget, if you use the links in this review I'll make a small commission from the sales. It doesn't make it more expensive for you, but it does allow me to keep doing something I love while letting sponsors know there is value in what I provide. Want to stay up to date with the new reviews? Just sign up for an email update through the form below! [mc4wp_form id="10371"]  
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