Black Friday + Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales: 2017 Edition

black friday sex toy sales, deals, & discounts: 2016 EditionHunting around for the best Black Friday sex toy sales can be really daunting, I’ve been there too. So, as a token of my appreciation for all the support over the years, I’m taking away the guess work and posting all my favorite sales below. Rest assured you won’t find them listed cheaper anywhere else (unless I’ve missed a sale, and if I did, please let me know!).

Like previous years I’ve done my best to streamline sales to make bargain hunting easier for you… but this year I took it a step further and split the ‘highlights’ into three sections: general sex toy sales, BDSM, and masturbators (because my readers with dicks deserve great deals too!). That said, if you’ve got time to spare, I highly suggest doing a quick scroll through all the deals on the page – that way you’ll be sure to get exactly what you want at the best prices. As an added bonus, if you’re like me and hate shopping from multiple sites, I went ahead and bundled sales on the same site from my fave retailers (where I could) so you’ll also save on shipping.

Beware, the list this year is long and surprisingly detailed… that’s what happens when I spend 3 days jumping between sites, comparing prices, emailing manufacturers for advance notice, and doing my damnedest to help you save!

Want to thank me for hooking you up? Just remember to clear your cookies and cache before you link to your favorite store, that way you can be sure I’ll make a tiny commission anytime you shop. It’s usually not a lot of money, but it’s enough to keep me doing something I love while helping you along the way.

*all prices are in USD unless otherwise specified

Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales Highlights

If you don’t feel like scrolling over the whole page, or if you’re easily overwhelmed by big posts, here’s a no bullshit list of the very best deals I could find for some of the MOST COVETED products…

Black Friday BDSM Sale Highlights 2017

For those of you into BDSM, I put together an extra little section so you wouldn’t have to hunt around online. Personally I think this list has enough stuff to help you get started, or add to your repertoire. I’ll be adding more as I find them, but for now this should do.

For My Readers w/ Dicks & Prostates

Just because you have a dick doesn’t mean you should be left out. That in mind, here’s all the best deals on masturbators, sex dolls, cock rings, prostate toys, and penis enhancers I could find. Hopefully it’ll help you find something that’ll work for your needs.

For those of you interested in doing all your shopping in one place (as opposed to grabbing different toys at different places just so you can save more), I’ve listed the best sales at my favorite retailers and manufacturers below. If you already know where you want to shop simply click the images below to jump to the retailer. Otherwise, feel free to scroll through to the bottom and see which retailer/manufacturer suits your needs.

Click the links below to go straight to my favorite retailers

Tantus silicone sex toys, the best you can get!Black Friday Sex Toy Sales Fleshlight Black Friday Sex Toy Sales at SheVibe


Vibrant

Vibrant is the new kid on the block in this years round up, and I gotta say, I really love what they do. Their customer service is superb, all of the stock is quality with an attention paid to body safety, prices are more than reasonable, navigating the site is easy, the product listing and design are gender neutral, and most importantly they’re inspired and backed by Planned Parenthood of the Rocky Mountains. I know for some of you that may not be a reason to shop with them, but to me, a company that supports a ‘happy and safe sex life, free from stigma and judgment‘ while also giving back to a program that’s desperately needed, is good enough for me. ‘Nuff said.

Politics aside, from the highly coveted Njoy Stainless Steel Pure Butt Plug to my absolute favorite L’Amorouse Rosa g-spot vibe, the raved about Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo Masturbator to the ridiculously comfortable Liberator Wedge Sex Furniture, Vibrant has some of the very best Black Friday sex toys sales going this weekend. I’ve listed all of my favorites below.

Don’t forget to use code ‘CYBERMONDAY17‘ when you check out to get prices I’ve listed.

6 Pack Tenga Egga

Vibrating Cock Ring

Liberator Wedge

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales

Minna Ola Vibe

L’Amourose Rosa

L’Amourose Prism

Hot Octopuss III

We-Vibe Wish

nJoy Pure Plug

Liberator Wedge


 

Split Peaches

When it comes to smaller companies making body safe, colorful, fun, and out of the box sex toys, Split Peaches is one of the first that comes to mind. From Unicorn Horn dildos in various sizes to the steampunk themed Rivitor dildo, screwdriver dildos to an adorable glow-in-the-dark ‘grenade’ butt plug (trust me, it’s not as scary as it sounds), they’ve got a handful of stuff you won’t find anywhere else.

So, if you’re a over the standard shaped dildos… or if you just want to try something new, I highly suggest taking advantage of their Black Friday sex toy sales. There’s only one sale going, 25% off EVERYTHING with code ‘BLACKFRIDAY2017’, but the price points are already reasonable so it’s a win/win.


Tantus Black Friday Sales

 

If you’ve followed me for any amount of time you likely know that Tantus is one of my absolute most favorite companies ever. I was a huge fan of them when I worked in a sex toy shop 12 years ago, and I love them even more today. If you don’t know much about them or what they do I suggest watching the ‘Tantus Haul’ video I posted above (you can read more about the products in the video here), or read about why I’ve loved Tantus for the last 10 years.

As for Black Friday, they only have one major sale going… for 24hrs you can take a whopping 50% off pretty much EVERYTHING on their site! There are a few exceptions, but for the most part, you’ve got more than enough to choose from.

UPDATE: The Black Friday discount is no long available since it’s now the weekend. But don’t fret, they’re offering 40% off on Cyber Monday, which is probably the best deal you’ll see on Tantus toys.

Not sure what to buy?

  • First and foremost, the grab bag section has products that are already heavily discounted, we’re talking excessive savings on a normal day… use code ‘BLACKFRIDAY’ and you can save an additional 40%! This is a steal. I’m not even kidding. Start here if you don’t care too much about the colors, but want a kick ass toys that are made to last a life time. Personally, I prefer the grab bags since I think of them as one of a kind, limited edition toys (the ones I’ve collected are absolutely stunning).

If they sell out of grab bag items (which happens very often), I’ve included some of my other fave sex toys below.

There are obviously other things that I love, so if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Prices below reflect the 40% discount, use code ‘CYBERMOANDAY’ when checking out to save

 

Tantus Uncut #2

Uncut #2 ($59)

Tantus Adam O2

Adam O2 ($45.60)

Duchess ($55.15)

Tantus Flurry O2

Flurry O2 ($46)

Tantus Charmer

Charmer ($33)

Slow Drive

Slow Drive ($28)

Curve

Curve ($43)

Plug Kit ($41)

T-Rex ($70)

Anaconda ($33)

 


Fleshlight Black Friday Sales

 

 

If there was ever a product range that gave me “penis envy”, it would be pretty much everything made by Fleshlight. Don’t know what a Fleshlight is or why you NEED one? Check the video above, I made it and it explains everything (if you can’t view it, you should be able to watch on YouTube here).

As for deals, they always have something going on… but Black Friday at Fleshlight is where things get good!

Keep in mind there are different sales for Canadian and US shoppers, with the US shoppers often getting the best deals. I’ve listed the sales by percentage and Country below, that way you’ll be able to easily snag the best ones without having to hunt around the site. For the record, everything is 15% – 40% off.

HINT: you’re going to need renew powder to keep your Fleshlight like new, but rather than spending so much on such a small bottle, you’d be better off getting a larger bulk package of corn starch on Amazon. It’s basically the same thing at a fraction of the cost.

EXTRA HINT: If you don’t care about all the added freebies, you can save 30% on Fleshlight Girls here more specifically; Kendra Sunderland ‘Angel‘, Jessica Drake ‘Heavenly‘, Nikki Benz ‘Reign’, Anikka Albrite ‘Siren’, Tera Patrick ‘Tease’ and ‘Twisted’, and Katsuni ‘Lotus Garden’ (they’re only 25% off on the Fleshlight website). It’s not a lot of money, but if you’re buying other sex toys too it’s worth it. Also, it’s worth it to check out this Fleshlight page and compare some of the prices.

EXTRA EXTRA HINT: The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit Value Pack is only $69.96 on one of my favorite sites, but it’s listed on the Fleshlight site for $99. It certainly pays to shop around.

🇺🇸 U.S. BLACK FRIDAY FLESHLIGHT DEALS 🇺🇸

  • Spend $100 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift
  • Spend $150 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot
  • Spend $200 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot, Free Mystery Sleeve w/ case
  • Spend $250 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot, Free Mystery Sleeve w/ case, Free Interactive Device
  • Plus more sales below…

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales

🇨🇦 CANADIAN BLACK FRIDAY FLESHLIGHT DEALS 🇨🇦

  • Spend $100 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift
  • Spend $150 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot
  • Spend $200 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot, Free Mystery Sleeve w/ case
  • Spend $250 = Free Shipping, Free Mystery Gift, Free Holiday Quickshot, Free Mystery Sleeve w/ case, Free Joybox Toy Storage

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales at Fleshlight Canada

 



I’ll be honest, I’ve loved SheVibe since the very first day I saw their website 7+ years ago; the graphics are amazing, the prices are some of the lowest you’ll find, the site itself is ridiculously easy to navigate, they focus on carrying body safe options, and the customer service is fabulous. If there was any place I’d want all my readers to shop, it’s here!

Like last year SheVibe is doing a straight forward tiered sale deal which means the more you buy the more you save. Truthfully, you’ll find better prices on single items elsewhere, but you likely won’t find the same amazing selection, in fact they’ve got all of my favorite independant manufacturers in one place including; Crystal Delights, Godemiche, Funkit Toys, BS Is Nice, Hole Punch, Lumberjill, Pop by the Semenette, Unbound, and Pleasure Works.

  • Get 10% off when you spend $75+, plus free shipping (use code ‘PAST’)
  • Get 15% off when you spend $100+, plus free shipping (use code ‘PRESENT’)
  • Get 20% off when you spend $125+, plus free shipping, (use code ‘FUTURE’)

– The Perfect G-Spot Combo

Njoy Pure Wand

Liberator Decor Throe

Decor Throe

Sliquid H2O Water Based Lube

Sliquid H20

I’ve posted this combo every year because it’s just do damn good… pair the definitive g-spot ‘dildo’, Njoy Pure Wand for $99 (reg $110) + Liberator Decor Throe for $89 (reg $120), or any of the Liberator Throes for that matter, + 4oz bottle of Sliquid H2O for $11 (reg $12.99), then use code ‘FUTURE’ at checkout and save an additional 20%, plus free shipping! That’s a total of $83 in savings versus buying at regular price! Honestly, if I could pick any combo of toys to give someone, this one would be it. If you’re a squirter you’ll thank me for this later. Promise.

*prices shown include applicable discounts
  • If you love unique toys made by hand, you’ll definitely want to take a look at Hole Punch Toys (check out my interview with them), right now I’m lusting after the absolutely stunning Hole Punch Evolver Silicone Dildo for $175 (reg $219), and their Carrot and Radish butt plugs. Yes, you read that right. They make veggie shaped butt plugs.
  • When it comes to wood toys, NobEssence is where it’s at – I can haz a Seduction for only $116.79?
  • For those of you that love the feel of silicone and want something bright, colorful, and fun, I think the lovelies made by BS Is Nice might be right up your alley. I honestly love all their designs, but I think they make some of the very best Rainbow Sex Toys around!
  • Last but not least, I can’t speak highly enough about Vixen Creations – everything they make is just perfection.

Hole Punch Carrot Plug

Hole Punch Carrot

Nobessence Seduction

Hole Punch Evolver

Funkit Cashew Nib

BS is Nice Pride

Vixen Raquel

Crystal Delights Plug

Godemiche Ambit

BS is Nice Bingo

Hole Punch Rad-ish

 


PinkCherry

Just like every other year, I’ve saved the best for last. From their huge selection to already ridiculously low prices, PinkCherry is one of the sites I always check when I’m looking for a deal. On a regular day it’s pretty easy to snag something kickass… add Black Friday sex toy sales to the mix and you’re golden! Because there’s so much to choose from I’ve posted all the best sales below. Having said that, I highly suggest you go over the website yourself. I’m sure there are deals I didn’t find.

Note: Just about everything on the website is 30% off, including their sex toy clearance section and lingerie clear out section.

As for other sales:

  • Save between $42 – $105 on Bathmate Penis Pumps. This is the lowest price you’ll find them anywhere.
  • The We-Vibe Tango is only $52.50, that’s a steal for one of the very best clit vibes. I have 3 of them so there’s always one charged and ready to go. That should say something.
  • If you want a clit vibe that’s almost as powerful as the Touch, covers a wider surface, and is the same quality, the We-Vibe Touch for only $65.79 is what you’re looking for.
  • When it comes to legendary look no further than the Original Magic Wand, right now it’s only $41.30. It’s the only massager I replaced when it broke (my cat chewed the cord) and I’d happily buy another if I needed to.
  • If you’re a squirter, are into water sports, or like things a little kinky, the Kink Wet Works Waterproof Flat and Fitted Sheets are on sale for $80 each (personally I’d only get the fitted sheet).
  • You could easily pair the above with the Fifty Shades Darker: Dark Desire Advanced Couples Kit and includes Satin Paddle, Bondage Rope, Silicone Butt Plug, Bullet Vibe, and Vibrating Cock Ring all for only $45.50, or the Sex & Mischief Bed Bondage Restraint Kit for $21. Both of those are a steal.
  • Looking for some serious bang for your buck? the JimmyJane Afterglow Form 4 Slate Indulgences Bundle has everything you need including a Form 4 vibrator, massage candle, condoms, feather tickler, and sample packet of lube – all for just $70. In all honesty, all the JimmyJane deals (with discount code) are pretty sweet.
  • There’s some pretty sweet Fleshlight sales going on this weekend, but one of the best ones isn’t even on the manufacturer website. Rather than paying $99 (what they have it listed for), you can snag the Stamina Training Unit Value Pack for only $69.96. If you’ve ever wanted one, now’s the time to buy.

    Don’t forget to use code ‘CYBER30‘ when you check out to get prices I’ve listed.

We-Vibe Tango ($52.50)

Original Magic Wand ($41)

Waterproof Fitted Sheet ($80)

Bathmate Penis Pump ($42 – $105)

We-Vibe Touch ($65)

Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit ($67)

Fifty Shades Darker Advanced Kit ($45)

JimmyJane Slate Form 4 Kit ($70)

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Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

 

When it comes to sexual acts, tit jobs are often one of the things I’m asked about on a regular basis. In practice it’s a relatively easy thing to pull off, though it can admittedly be a little uncomfortable, awkward, distracting, oddly funny, and weird at first… especially if you’ve never done it before or aren’t that comfortable with trying new things.

If it’s something you’d like to try, or if you’d simply like to be better at it, feel free to check out the video above and read the content below. Both have valuable insight and techniques that will have you mastering and enjoying it in no time!

What is a tit job?

Basically, it’s when someone with a dick (or strap-on) has sex with a set of tits.

The act itself is a low risk, non-penetrative form of outercourse (rather than intercourse), that involves thrusting between breasts to create friction and visual stimulation for sexual gratification. It can be used as a form of foreplay leading up to sex, combined with oral sex for greater stimulation, or used in place of sex itself.  If done safely, tit jobs allow both partners to enjoy themselves sexually without the worry of an unintended pregnancy or risk of contracting an STI/STD.

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Beginners Guide: How To Give A Tit Job

Although it can be fun, jumping straight to it often doesn’t feel like the most natural thing to do, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be easy or effortless.

I suggest starting with some foreplay and taking the time to both get aroused.  When you feel ready slowly maneuver yourself into a position where your breasts are level with your partners penis. You can do this by kissing down their torso, moving down to give them a blow job, or lowering yourself to your knees while you undo their pants/belt/skirt etc.

Once you’ve got yourself into position you can rub their penis over your breasts and nipples. Next, add some of the lube to their penis (a teasing handjob works great), then simply place the penis between your breasts and press them together, sandwiching it in the process.  From there you should be good to go.

If it feels awkward at first don’t worry, it will get easier as you figure out what positions work best for you and your body type.

You’ll also probably find that the penis slips out easily. Again, this is totally normal and nothing to be embarrassed by. Just slide it back in and keep going.

Tips & Suggestions

While a fairly standard practice, there are tips and suggestions to help make the experience much more enjoyable for everyone involved…

Don’t Be Scared

  • The main problem I hear from my viewers is having the courage to do it, being nervous about trying it, and not feeling comfortable naked in front their partner.  All of these experiences are totally normal, natural, and should be expected, especially if it’s your first time or if you’re experimenting with a new partner. Anytime we’re naked and exposed, trying something we’ve never done before, there’s bound to be some sense of nervousness or vulnerability. The best advice I can give is to relax, have fun with it, and know that no matter what you think of your body, your partner likely thinks you’re sexy as hell and can’t wait to be naked with you.

Don’t Forget About Your Needs

  • On that note, this can be one of the least stimulating experiences for the person offering up the tits. If this is a problem for you, I have the following suggestions:
    • get your partner to reach behind and stimulate you (by hand/with a toy – works best if they’re on top straddling you)
    • if you’re kneeling with them sitting in front of you and you don’t have any hands free (because you’re using them to hold your breasts together), you can try to mount a dildo from above as if you’re riding it.
    • for better clitoral stimulation, try using a product that’s designed for hands free use like the Eva by Dame or a floor based model like The Cone.
    • if you’re still wearing undies, you could easily place a vibrator like a We-Vibe Touch inside to help hold it in place.
    • for those with an ample bosom, use your upper arms to push your boobs together. Depending on how you’re positioned you can possibly reach down and play with yourself without much issue.
    • have your partner take over holding your tits so you can stimulate yourself.
    • try incorporating a boob job with a 69 position.

Lube Is Your Friend

  • sliquid lube for tit jobsJust like having sex without proper lubrication can be uncomfortable, painful even, so can giving an unlubed boob job. There can be chaffing. Pulling of skin on skin. Friction burn. An inability to thrust completely. The dick getting stuck somewhere in the cleavage. Granted these things don’t always happen, but they can, which is why I always suggest having a good bottle of water based or silicone lube on hand. You can easily change things up by using a lubricant that cools/warms, comes in flavors (for bj’s), or otherwise.

Size Doesn’t Matter (Boob Size That Is!)

  • Contrary to what you might think, you don’t need to have huge tits to pull this off; for those that aren’t big in the boob department, I’d suggest leaning forward over your partner while they lay on their back – gravity will likely offer a bit more to work with. It probably won’t be as easy as  someone with a larger set, but it is still possible.

Explore & Experiment

  • If you want to have a bit more fun try incorporating oral sex. It might be a little awkward or uncomfortable for those lying on their backs, and you likely wont be able to deep throat very well. But it’s still something worth experimenting with.  Just remember to use a dental dam or condom to help reduce the risks of transmitting an STI.
  • Rather than using a simple in and out thrusting motion, try grabbing the breasts and jiggling them while the penis is sandwiched between.

Things To Avoid – Tips For Those With The Penis

  • Unless your partner says they like it, don’t just grab their tits, jam ’em together and go to town. Not only can you rub yourself raw, you can also hurt your partner with the force of pushing the breasts together, and/or the friction that’s created while you thrust. Again, I highly suggest the use of a good lube to help make the experience comfortable.
  • If your partner is going to be giving you a blow job, when your penis comes out from the top of their cleavage – go slow. I’ve heard many instances where the someone has accidentally rammed their penis in the back of their partners throat, jabbed them in the face, or poked them in the eye (seriously!) etc. Remember, this is meant to be fun… if you hurt your partner there is a very likely chance they won’t be up for doing it again.
  • realistic breast masturbatorsBe careful how you position yourself or move when kneeling over your partner (with them on their back). Often the breasts will slide and drop to the side of the body, especially for those with large breasts; if you’re not careful you could accidentally pinch or jam them between your leg and your partners body.
  • If you’ve talked to your partner and they just aren’t comfortable with the idea or don’t like giving a tit job, you can purchase  realistic breast masturbators online (pictured right). Although they’re not the real thing, they could go a long way for helping you explore and experiment without having to bother/pressure your partner.
  • When it comes to ejaculating, I highly suggest talking beforehand about what’s okay and what’s off limits. I’ve received more than enough messages from viewers who have been unexpectedly shot in the face, eye, mouth, or hair by their partner who thought it was part of the plan. Remember, communication is key.

 

Regarding Positions

A variation in positions can not only help with visual or physical stimulation, it can also help with putting either person in a place of control, while also making the experience a bit more comfortable.

*Note: Unlike the content within the video, I’m opting out of using ‘male’ and ‘female’ pronouns when suggesting positions below. Instead, I’m going to use ‘Partner A’ to represent the person with breasts, and ‘Partner B’ to represent the person with the penis/strap-on etc.

Cowboy: Partner A lays on their back while Partner B straddles their torso (kneeling), and places the penis/strap-on between the breasts of Partner A. Once in this position either partner can grab the breasts and wrap them around the penis. Because this position limits the amount of movement the Partner A has, this places Partner B in control of the rhythm, speed, and timing as to which the ejaculation and/or orgasm occurs. Also, it’s a good idea for the person on top to remember not to lean all their weight as it could accidentally make breathing difficult (for their partner).

Reverse Cowboy:  This position is like cowboy only instead of Partner B facing the partner, they’re turned to face their feet. While in this position the person on the bottom can provide oral or manual stimulation to the anus, balls, taint, or other erogenous zones, while the person on top can reach forward and manually stimulate their partner. Again, this position limits the actions of the person beneath, giving Partner B the opportunity to reach down and control the rhythm, speed, and timing when it comes to ejaculation and/or orgasm. One thing to keep in mind when it comes to the oral sex aspect is that it increases the risk of contracting an STD. As such, I suggest using a dental dam to create a barrier and limit the risks.

Standing: Pretty much what it sounds like; Parner B stands while Partner A either kneels or sits in front of them. Although this does usually lend to a more typically thought ‘submissive’ role, it actually gives Partner A a bit more control when it comes to thrusting. Depending on the heights of the people involved, as well as the way the penis curves, this position can be rather difficult or annoying for both parties. Also, depending on the size of breasts involved the act of lifting, pushing together, and holding in place can be tiring. It can also be tough on the knees and joints (use a pillow for adding padding).

Edge of The Seat: When it comes to placing Partner A in control, I’ve been told that this position is preferred.  Partner B sits while Partner A kneels in between their legs, using the legs of Partner B for support. Then, leaning forward, Partner A can place the penis between the breasts and control the speed, depth, and rhythm of thrusts. An alternative to this has Partner A sitting, with Partner B standing in front. I suggest experimenting with both positions and seeing which works best for you.

Hopefully this helped in some way and answered any questions you might have, but most of all, I hope this provided you with a new and fun way of exploring and experimenting with your partner without also having to worry about an unintended pregnancy or contracting an STD.

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Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!

Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!
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If you follow the sex positive community on twitter, you probably saw a thread of angry tweets recently pop up in your feed with the hashtag #tweetyourlube, created by in support of Rachel Kramer BusselsSalon article, where she refuted some terrible sex advice UFC Bantamweight Champion, Ronda Rousey, had to give a male reader.

In the Maxim​ Magazine piece, Ronda Rousey​ was asked, “What should a guy ALWAYS do in bed? What should a guy NEVER do in bed?”, to which she answered…

What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, than you’re being lazy…and you’re not taking your time.

While I can appreciate what she’s trying to suggest – that great sex comes when you’re present in the moment, not rushing, and enjoying your partner – her answer was ignorant, disappointing, and very unacceptable.

It’s this kind of uninformed advice that further purports the misguided beliefs that a.) if a person can’t get wet it’s because their partner is doing something wrong and failing them, b.) their partner is responsible for their sexual arousal, and/or c.) lube generally isn’t necessary.

I’m sorry Ronda, but no. Just no. This is just not okay.

Arousal and Desire: Knowing The Difference

According to Ms. Rousey’s answer, all it takes for a person to get wet is time, more time, and a bunch of foreplay.

Unfortunately this isn’t exactly how things work.

What she failed to understand is that there is a difference between the processes of arousal and desire.  Arousal (the cause of lubrication, we’ll get to that below), is an involuntary physiological bodily response to a type of stimulus.  Whereas the desire to have sex is often based a psychological need or want for sexual intimacy. While the two are often deemed as being one in the same, they are two separate experiences.

Furthermore, although arousal and desire often work together, they can also operate independently, for instance; your partner may want to have sex but their body may not respond the way they need/want (i.e. lack of wetness), or in the opposite case, they may not want to have sex but their body could be responding (as is the case with some rape victims who experience orgasm during the attack).

Sure, a lack of foreplay could play a big role in lowered sexual arousal (and subsequent wetness) but there are a variety of other factors that could have an impact as well. Simply suggesting that it comes down to foreplay, time, and more time, is highly ignorant.

But I digress.

You Are Responsible For Your Orgasm, Not Your Partner

come as you are bookSince 2007 I’ve received countless emails from my cis male readers/viewers asking for help when it came to stimulating their cis female partner. In almost every situation the reader felt like he was doing something wrong because his partner couldn’t get wet, wasn’t fully aroused, or couldn’t orgasm no matter how hard he tried.

Unlike Ms. Rouseys advice that he spend more time on stimulation, my first suggestion was often to open the lines of communication; find out what type of touch she preferred, where she liked to be touched, the amount of pressure she needed, and where she was most sensitive to sexual stimulation. Without this information, no amount of help I had to offer would be of any use.

Yes, a person should take their time, but if you’re not doing what your partner likes or needs, it’s pointless. And spending more time doing it certainly isn’t going to help.

Screen Shot 2015-11-06 at 1.21.54 PMIn all honesty, this is the kind of thing that makes me ridiculously angry. Unfortunately societal standards have often dictated that it takes a strong, steadfast, virile man to get a female off. That her orgasm is his responsibility. That she is dependent on him and his skills to ‘get her ready’. That if she doesn’t orgasm it’s his fault because he finished too quickly, or didn’t take his time, or wasn’t focused, or wasn’t a good lover, or didn’t know what he was doing, or didn’t anticipate her needs, or couldn’t read her body language, or was ‘lazy‘, or…

I could go on, but the point I’m trying to make is that if you can’t orgasm or become aroused with your partner it’s your responsibility to learn about your body and communicate what you need.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that speaking about sex, or during sex for that matter, is an easy or comfortable thing to do. With all the shame surrounding the subject, our bodies, and sexuality in general, I know how hard and complicated it can be. But if you don’t take ownership of your pleasure and share your needs, you can’t fault your partner when they do try to please you but miss the mark.

A Bit About Vaginal Lubrication, Or Lack Thereof

Before I go on, I figured this would be the perfect opportunity to give a quick run down on vaginal lubrication. That way we’ll all be completely clear on how what Ms. Rousey is suggesting isn’t exactly the best advice…

Vaginal Lubrication: The Coles Notes

During sexual arousal the ‘female’ body experiences a variety of physical changes, the vulva and clitoris swell, the nipples become erect, muscular tension pulls the uterus upwards causing the vaginal canal to extend (both in length and width – called ‘tenting‘), and the vaginal walls fill with blood in a process called vasocongestion (also how erections occur). This vasocongestion causes increased pressure which, in turn, causes the fluid within the blood serum to be pushed through the tissues of the vaginal wall… thus, the vagina becomes lubricated.

Vaginal fluid has other functions besides making it easier for a penis, finger, or sex toy to enter; it decreases pressure and reduces the amount of friction that occurs (potentially saving the vaginal walls from tearing), limits any pain that may be associated with intercourse (allowing for a more comfortable experience), while also changing the chemical nature of the vagina, causing it to become more alkaline and less acidic (making it more hospitable to sperm).

The amount of lubrication created varies from person to person, may be different one day from the next, and changes based on any number of factors.

On that note, the addition of a good lube, whether because a person needs or wants to, certainly isn’t anything to feel bad or embarrassed about. When everything is said and done, it’s a fantastic way of helping things along, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Causes of Vaginal Dryness

Contrary to what Ms. Rousey implied, vaginal dryness is not always caused by a partners lack of time spent engaging in foreplay. Instead, there are many other reasons lack of lubrication could be occurring, including but not limited to;

  • menopause/perimenopause (lowered estrogen levels are often experienced during this time which affect lubrication)
  • health issues (diabetes, hypertension, polycystic ovarian syndrome, heart and kidney disorders, among others)
  • skin irritations/allergic reactions (soaps, dyes, laundry detergents and dryer sheets, body washes, perfumes, etc. can have an irritating and drying effect on the skin/genitals which could affect natural lubrication)
  • Summers Eve Douchepregnancy, having recently given birth, breastfeeding (shifts in estrogen/progesterone levels, possible lack of genital sensitivity requiring, tenderness due to childbirth, lowered estrogen during to lactation/breastfeeding can all have a negative impact on vaginal lubrication)
  • douching (disturbs the normal chemical balance of the vagina, often leading to irritation and vaginal dryness)
  • alcohol abuse/alcohol use (alcohol has a dehydrating affect on the body which could lead to vaginal dryness, it also acts as a depressant on the nervous system affecting sexual arousal and orgasm)
  • smoking cigarettes (cigarettes can affect circulation and destroy estrogen which can affect arousal and vaginal lubrication)
As you can clearly see, there are many reasons a person may not become lubricated enough for comfortable intercourse. To imply that it simply comes down to a lack of foreplay, without acknowledging other causes, is an uninformed thing to suggest. To then take it one level further and also state that a person should “never need lube in their life” is just ignorant, rude, and insensitive. Ronda, you can do better.

Dear Ronda Rousey, Just Say Yes To Lube!

prod-naturalsLook, I get it, when a person reaches the point of popularity that Ronda Rousey has, the general public starts thinking that because they are experts on one thing (in her case, fighting), they must be experts on a variety of topics… and when they’re then made into sex symbols by the media, that usually comes with the added bonus that they’re assumed to be highly educated on all things sex. Before long they’re touting sex advice on widely read publications, and praised for it, even when the advice they’re offering could be detrimental to someones health, sense of self, or relationship.

Everything considered, I can’t help but sympathize with the readers who will take her words at face value, apply the suggestions she made, find they’ve had no difference (because she didn’t properly educate them), and feel bad about themselves, their partners, and the sex they’re having. Especially when all it might have taken is a bottle of good lube to help things along.

Like I said in the start of this post, I appreciate what she was trying to do with her answer, but I think she needs to take a step back, get some insight on how the body works and until she’s learned better, leave sex ed to those who know what they’re actually talking about.

Investing a bottle of good lube probably wouldn’t hurt her either. #dontknockittilyouvetriedit

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Sex Negativity – Just Say NO To Sensationalized Media

Sex Negativity - Just Say NO To Sensationalized MediaIf you follow me on twitter, you probably saw a smattering of angry tweets recently pop up in your feed in response to a Womens Health Mag article (originally posted on Your Tango) that @FemmeReviews shared: “Why I Had To Break Up With My Vibrator: It’s not me, it’s you“.

For those that haven’t read it, the author pens a tale about taking a gig reviewing sex toys for Playboy and getting addicted to her Hitachi Magic Wand in the process.

Um, okay. Sounds simple enough…

Here’s where things get convoluted; the author readily admits to a previous obsession with cocaine and a nine year battle with alcoholism, yet rather than writing about a struggle with addiction that eventually affected her sex life, the article ignorantly became a condescending, fear based piece, filled with generalizations and misinformation, further purporting the stereotype that sex toys are bad and unnecessary if you want to live a healthy happy life.

Spoiler alert: she tosses the Hitachi down the garbage chute and finds herself again. Yay!

Don’t get me wrong, knowing all too well how debilitating a disease addiction can be, I sympathize with the author and her efforts to remain sober. I even respect the experience, we all have our own sexual situations to grow through. However, the apparent inability to accept responsibility for her actions, instead placing blame on a sex toy, is both infuriating and intolerable.

On that note, had this article been about someone ‘breaking up with a sex toy‘ because they learned it was toxic (as pictured above right) – giving Women’s Health Mag the opportunity to teach and empower its readers about making responsible decisions when it comes to choosing a sex toy – I could have supported it. The fact that the mag/author went the sensationalized “sex toys are bad and addictive” route just disappoints me.

Just so I’m perfectly clear: sex toys aren’t bad, THE UNDERLYING MESSAGES IN THE ARTICLE ARE.

Reading Between The Lines: Debunking The Bullshit

I expect that many who read the article won’t give it much thought, let alone notice any of the sex negative insinuations, but as someone who’s devoted much of the last ten years to helping people become comfortable in their sexuality and encouraged self exploration via the use of body safe sex toys, they simply can’t be ignored.

Hitachi Magic WandFor example:

She assuredly writes…

If the Hitachi doesn’t make you orgasm, nothing will.

Not only is this statement a complete load of horse shit, it’s ridiculously discouraging for anyone that has struggled to orgasm, bought a Hitachi, and had lackluster results.

Speaking from personal experience, if I had a dollar for every time I’ve had an orgasm with something that wasn’t a Hitachi, I’d be hella rich by now. Granted, my experiences weren’t all amazing. In fact some were down right shitty. But the point is I did finish… and do you know why? Because I’ve taken the time I needed to explore my body, likes/dislikes, including the type of touch I prefer,  how much pressure is required, which side of my clitoris is the most sensitive, and everything else that’s important when one wants to master the art of cumming.

So, just because the Hitachi won’t make someone orgasm, it doesn’t mean NOTHING ELSE WILL.

Again, this comes back to knowing one’s self: Some people need strong vibrations, others need something muted. Some people need direct stimulation, others need a subtler touch. Some people regularly use vibrators because it’s a far more rewarding experience (not to mention, being necessary), some never do. Regardless of what a person requires, it’s normal, natural, and nothing to be ashamed of. The key is to experiment until you find something that works. And yes, at some point something will work. You just have to keep trying.

And then there’s this:

Vibrator aficionados know better; they also recommend that you put a towel between it and you so that, I assume, you don’t burn your clitoris off—it’s that powerful.

Followed shortly after by,

I was as devoted to my wand as other women are to abusive lovers, and even when I started getting lacerations near my clitoris (those towel recommenders, it turned out, had a point), I covered for my beloved, going so far as to ask my gynecologist if perhaps the little cuts were evidence of a disease.

fear nothing but fear itselfI can see the headline now: WOMAN BURNS CLITORIS OFF WITH ULTRA POWERFUL SHOULDER MASSAGER!

Ugh. Can we please just stop the fear mongering already?

First things first, the Hitachi WILL NOT burn your clitoris off. It is not that powerful. If it was the case, mine would have burned at the stake years ago.

Yes, many will advise placing a towel or layer of clothes between you and it, but that isn’t because it’s going to set your genitals ablaze. Instead, we know that for the inexperienced user the 600rpms offered by the Hitachi may be too much. Rather than overwhelming you from the get go, we suggest dampening the vibrations so that you’re able to ease into the experience, allowing the necessary time to get accustomed to something so strong. Admittedly, there are days when I’m extra sensitive and have to use it over pajamas or jogging pants. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just the way my body works.

As for the lacerations, clearly that’s a sign of overuse and not indicative of the Hitachi itself. And comparing ones devotion to a sexy toy to an abusive relationship, I refuse to even allow this to be a thing. No. Just fucking no.

But I digress…

Regarding introducing the Hitachi to her partners, she had this to say:

And with an audience, the wand and I couldn’t seem to get into our groove, anyway. During these threesomes, my orgasms, when they happened, were wholly unsatisfying.

She comes first

I don’t think I should have to say this but… sex toys are not people.

They aren’t meant to be replacements for partners. Using one with a partner is not the same as having a threesome. And there is no point in time when they should be referred to as such.  It’s this type of off the cuff statement that creates insecurities within relationships and often leaves partners feeling inadequate. Not to mention feeding the stereo-type that if a woman has a sex toy she doesn’t need a man/partner, and vice versa. But we’ll get to that in a moment.

As for the admission that her orgasms were “wholly unsatisfying”, our lovers are not mind readers, we cannot expect them to know what we need to get off. If you can’t orgasm with your partner it’s your responsibility to teach them how to get you there. It’s not an excuse or reason to ditch them for a vibe. Well, you could, but that’s on you. Not your partner. Or your sex toy for that matter. And to be honest, it’s kinda lazy and shitty.

She then goes on to quote relationship expert, Gilda Carle:

Vibrators are great fun for the short term, when a woman is between loves.

Sex Negativity: Just Say NO To Sensationalized MediaWhen we speak of the gendered cultural ideals around female sexuality, there’s the ever present notion that a woman in a heterosexual relationship shouldn’t need a vibrator, and if she does, there’s something wrong with her, her partner, or the relationship.  There’s also the idea that if a woman has to use a sex toy during intercourse she mustn’t know how to experience pleasure with another person. Thankfully, both of these concepts are often completely false.

Like sensual massage, a playful smack on the ass, or some good foreplay, sex toys can be used as tools to help encourage intimacy, open the doors for honest communication, and enhance orgasms for both partners, among other things.

Aside from all that, whether it’s learning to orgasm, relieving aches and pains, releasing stress and tension, or rebuilding clitoral nerve endings (so that orgasms are possible), this statement completely ignores and downplays the therapeutic use of vibrators before, during, and after a relationship ends.

And don’t even get me started on the use of the word “loves”. Look, I know she’s just using it for effect, but we’re living in a time where sex often happens without ‘love’. So long as people are being responsible and respectful, there’s nothing wrong with that.

As far as I’m concerned Dr. Gilda Carle can take the entire sentence and stuff it up her ass. #sorrynotsorry

Sex Negativity – Just Say NO To Sensationalized Media

After reading Trust Me, I’m Lying I can look online content for what it is – a sensationalized piece/title designed around click-baiting, fear mongering, and/or a crappy attempt at entertainment – however that doesn’t mean I’m not highly offended when content like this, who’s seeming intent is to fill readers heads with the type of unnecessary nonsense many of us within the sex positive community have fought to destigmatize, pops up in my news feed.

My suggestion, forget crap like this even exists, and read Rachel Kramer BusslesIs My Vibrator Ruining My Relationship?” or the informative “Are Vibrators Addictive or Numbing?” instead. While both articles cover similar elements found here, the underlying tone is one of acceptance, understanding, and sex positivity. You’ll thank yourself for it later.

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#FunFindFriday: Rainbow Sex Toys

With Gay Pride Month in full effect, Toronto has been infused with color like I’ve never seen before. From banks to fast food chains, crosswalks to libraries, even the CN tower, everywhere I look, I see RAINBOWS! 🌈😍

Not that I’m complaining, I actually wish this was a regular occurrence rather than something reserved for one acceptance and love filled week of the year. But it’s not. So, while they’re here I’m going to take in as many rainbow sightings as I can… which got me thinking about rainbow sex toys and the like. #sexonthebrain

For those of you like me, needing a few more shades of fun in your life, here’s a little collection of all the rainbow sex toys I found floating around on the internets. There aren’t many, but the fact that some exist makes me happy beyond words.rainbowdildos

You Can Haz All The Rainbow Sex Toys!

BS Atelier Pride Rainbow Dildos: $50 – $90

If there were ever a set of dildos that reminded me of Pink Floyds ‘Dark Side Of The Moon‘, the Pride Rainbow versions from BS Atelier would be first on the list.

Crafted by hand in Madrid, Spain, each of the dildos in the Pride Collection is unique, sporting sleek black shafts, curved bodies for g-spot stimulation, and rounded bases perfect for strap-on or anal play. Like Kusama and Amor (dildos mentioned in the post below), the stripes are defined with little to no bleeding, and contain all the shades you’d hope to find in a ‘traditional’ rainbow.

Whether you’re a fan the legendary rock band, or just someone who prefers a modern design, these sophisticated beauties are a must for anyone wanting a hint of a rainbow, without going overboard.

Newly added to their roster as part of the 2016 collection are the stunning ‘Alex’ dildo available in blue, grey, and pink, and the ‘Bingo’ butt plug in blue or pink, (all pictured below).

I WANT THEM ALL.

Pink Alex Rainbow DildoTurquoise Alex Rainbow DildoBlue Rainbow Bingo Butt PlugPink Rainbow Bingo Butt Plug


 

Babes N Horny KusamaBabes ‘N Horny Kusama: £80

Okay, so it’s not your typical red, orange, yellow, green, blue etc rainbow, but it’s close, and that’s good enough for me.

Like the Amor (mentioned below), Kusamas hand-poured stripes stand apart, bright and bold, with no bleeding or fading into the next. It’s playful, stunning, and certainly eye catching.

As for the specifics, the silicone is pliant with a decent amount of squish and give, has a lovely matte texture that’s smooth to the touch, and boasts a flared base for strap-on or anal use. Oh, and did I mention it’s uber comfortable and easy to use? ‘Cause it is.

Curious? Check my Kusama review.


Unitorn Rainbow Horn DildosRainbow Unicorn Horn: $43 – $120

According to legend, Unicorns are a perfect combination of ‘male’ and ‘female’ energies, rich in the symbolism of opposites, reflecting an archetypal primal energy at play in our own lives.

Okay, I’ll admit that sounds a little hokey, but that doesn’t mean these stunning rainbow unicorn horn dildos from Split Peaches wouldn’t be a worthy addition to anyone’s collection, regardless of gender.

rainbow dildo rivetorUnlike the previous two dildos, you’re not going to find straight cut edges or a defined rainbow – instead what you’ll get is a lovely subtle flow from one color to the next, with a gradual fading. Considering each of these beauties is hand poured in the U.S. it’s only to be expected, and part of what makes them so unique.

Of course rainbow offerings aren’t limited to unicorn horns; inspired by the steaming hot riveted steel boiler plates found in the industrial furnace, their newest edition, ‘The Rivetor(pictured left), is the first in a line of steampunk sex toys.

The curved shaft and studded head provide serious g-spot stimulation, while the flared base makes it excellent for anal play or use in a harness. My suggestion, rather than thrusting, try twirling it while inserted… with enough lube I’m sure the texturing would feel amazing.


RaPride dildo rainbowinbow Colour Pleasures & Official Pride Dildo $40 – $50

When it comes to rainbow dildos that’s are a little more ‘realistic’ you’ll definitely want to check out the new Color Pleasures rainbow dildo by NS Novelties. They’re truly breathtaking!

Since 2011 the Fun Factory Rainbow Amor (mentioned last in this post) has been my ultimate favorite rainbow dildo for a very specific reason: the colouring found on the shaft is clean cut, with precise definition, offering no bleeding from one shade to the next. Basically, it makes the perfectionist in me ridiculously happy. Unfortunately the Amor is no more – as in, it’s no longer being manufactured… THE HORROR. Thankfully there’s all the beauties in this collection to take it’s place in my heart.

Granted the design is completely different from the Amor, but that doesn’t mean it’s not as good; the medical grade silicone is velvety soft to the touch yet firm enough for effortless penetration, it’s easy to care for and clean, has a suction cup base so you can use it on any surface, and for those that like options – it comes in large and small.

Or, for those that prefer something without balls… there’s the official ‘Pride dildo’ (pictured right). It’s just as colorful as the original, has a tapered shaft for easier insertion, isn’t quite as thick, and has little bumpy detailing near the base. Truthfully I don’t think the details make that much of a difference where sensations are concerned, but the lack of balls does allow for more of the length to play with. Either way, if you love rainbows and realistic dildos, it’s one you’ll want to add to your collection.

If you like the coloring of the Pride Colors dildos, want to stick with the line, but don’t like the realistic versions, there’s the new Rainbow Wave Dildo that just came out this year (pictured left). Although I love the other versions, I think this might just be my favorite.

The sleek shaft is non-detailed, with a slightly swollen tip designed for stimulating both the g-spot and p-spot. A wide circular base allows the dildo to be used as a strap-on with harness systems, while also acting as suction cup that can be pressed securely on walls, windows, counter-tops, and more. As with the others, the coloring is absolute perfection with each of the shades being as bright and pigmented as a real rainbow should be.
All of the dildos in the collection are created from 100% body safe silicone, making them hypo allergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, and phthalate and latex free. Honestly, what more could you ask for?

Rainbow Sex Toys Knob Job DildoAbstract Rainbow Dildos: $24 – $55

As a fan of abstract design (and discreet sex toys), I can’t help but love the Rainbow Knob Job dildo. The super fun colorful shaft is on point, pleasing the perfectionist in me, while the tapered and bumpy head, ribbed contoured shaft, and 8.5 inches in length to play with leave me very curious about the sensations this silicone toy would provide.

Like the Rainbow Beads dildo mentioned below, which also doesn’t have a flared base, I don’t advise using this stunner anally as it might get lost in the great beyond, resulting in a trip to the ER. Save yourself the trouble and potential embarrassment and stick to vaginal play. For those that want something they can use for but play I’ve included a bunch of rainbow butt toys that are totally safe for use in the next section.

Rainbow Sex Toys Beaded Shaft DildoEven more discreet is the bright and playful Rainbow Beads dildo (pictured right).

Measuring 7 inches in length and crafted out of body safe silicone, the shaft sports 7 ribs offering continual stimulation with each thrust. Like most of my other fave rainbow sex toys, the bright neon coloring is perfect with no bleeding from one shade to the next – not that it has any impact on the way the toy feels, but visually it’s quite superb.

Having said that, the description on Amazon contains the words “Anal Plug”, something I highly disagree with being that there is no base to stop it from potentially venturing inward and getting stuck. Sure, the rounded bumps might provide some tension, but in my opinion it’s just not worth the risk. In a nutshell, play all you want vaginally, just don’t stuff it in yer butt.

Hand sculpted to be sleek and modern, the Avant Pride P1 Freedom dildo by Blush Novelties (pictured bottom right) is lovingly crafted in small batches and made of body safe platinum cured silicone making it hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, latex/phthalate free, and totally body safe.

Measuring 6 inches in total length, with 5.25 of that being fully insertable, the P1 Freedom dildo is harness compatible and features a deep, strong suction cup base. Lovers of g-spot and p-spot play will likely find this a perfect addition to their bedroom play.

 


Rainbow Butt Toys: $25 – $76

Have a penchant for sticking things in your butt? Look no further than these fantastically fun creations.

The Triple Play Butt Plug (pictured top left) is a stunning tush toy that allows the user to go from gentle to intense during anal play. The smooth contoured shape and super soft material easily slips in without any discomfort, staying put with a minimal amount of effort. Like many of the goodies found in this post the coloring is perfectly cut, with all the traditional shades you’d find in a rainbow, and no bleeding from one shade to the next. Just keep in mind it’s made of TPR so you’re going to want to use a good water based lube and make sure to clean it thoroughly between uses.

Bobo Butt Plug by BS Atelier

If you’d prefer something a little less overwhelming but just as pretty, the BS Atelier ‘Bobo’ butt plug (pictured right) is where it’s at. Smooth to the touch, flexible but firm, and crafted out of 100% medical grade body safe silicone, Bobo is the perfect mix of butt plug meets anal beads. Measuring 5″ in total length with 4.1″ of it being fully insertable, the plug is neither too large for a beginner, nor too small for someone more advanced. Like all BS Atelier plugs, the flared base allows you to use it without fear of it getting lost, and the graduated rounded beads offer a uniquely thrilling sensation.

Everything considered, the Bobo Rainbow Silicone Butt Plug is a perfect specimen. That said, because BS Atelier hand pours their toys there’s a likely chance the colors and patterns may vary slightly from their professional photos. Don’t worry though, even with minor differences they’re all absolutely breathtaking.

Tantus Asteroid

Tantus Asteroid

With neon popping tones of lime green, fluorescent orange, and opaque fuschia, the Tantus Asteroid looks like the start of a rainbow, one that forgot what followed, but in the most perfect of ways.

Unlike the clean cut lines found on Kusama, Amor, and the entire collection of Rainbow Colors Pride dildos, Tantus’ version is much less dramatic with the trio of shades gently fading into the next creating a much softer effect. They’re simple and that’s part of their charm. As for the actual plug, it’s supple to the touch and with a decent about of squish and give, has a flared base for safe butt play, and suctions to most surfaces. The tapered shape allows it to enter easily, providing a full sensation once completely inserted. Personally I’d suggest something more like the Perfect Plug Kit for beginners to butt play, but for those more experienced this is a must have.

Rainbows in my ass? Yasss please!

 


Rainbow Sex Toys: Rainbow Tail PlugRainbow Tail Plugs – $32 – $55

Speaking of butt toys, I recently found these stunning and oh-so-fun rainbow tail plugs that take it to the next level.

Rainbow Sex Toys: Pony Tail Butt PlugSure, you can find real fur ones online, but as someone that doesn’t like the idea of having part of a dead animal hanging from my ass cheeks I’ve opted for the less cruel faux fur option.

Crafted out of body safe silicone, each plug offers a tapered tip that slides into place with ease, eliminating discomfort or the worry of product toxicity.

Whether you’re into pony play, cosplay, have a unicorn fetish, are a Brony, or simply like to try new things, these rainbow tail plugs are absolutely perfect for whatever your little heart desires. Personally I love the fluffy version to the left since it’s true to typical ‘rainbow’ color order, but the one to the right isn’t a bad option if you’re not as picky as I am.

 


Rainbow Cock Ring: $27

Do you have a penis? Are insertables not quite your thing? Looking for something that will help you maintain an erection while also potentially giving you a stronger orgasm? Do you love rainbows? If you answered yes to most of those questions then this rainbow cock ring by Rascal Toys might be right up your alley.

With an inside diameter measuring 1.7 inches, this super comfy cock ring is made of soft touch silicone and features a wide band helping it to stay exactly where you put it. Although it may look rigid and potentially tight, there’s a decent amount of squish and give allowing it to stretch 3x it’s natural size fitting most penises without a struggle. Whether you want to wear it around just the shaft or the cock and balls, this ring is perfect for those curious about trying something new and more advanced users alike.

As for the design, the thick stripes are spot on with clean cut lines and no bleeding from one shade to the next. If I had a dick this would definitely be in my bedside drawer.


The Rainbow Amor Dildo: $65

*sadly rainbow Amor is no longer available. But I highly suggest the Colors Rainbow Pride dildos or anything by BS Atelier in its place.

Looking over this page makes me really happy, mostly because it shows just how far sex toy designs have come, especially when it comes to esthetics. Having said that, I think we really owe it to the OG of rainbow sex toys – the Fun Factory Rainbow Amor. Before Amor came along the vast majority of dildos were pink, shades of ‘skin tone’, or something else that was bland and ordinary. Now we have a plethora of options to choose from and I’m forever grateful.

As for the specifics of Amor… this stunning little number has been a favorite of mine since I laid eyes on it back in 2011. I coveted it, begged for it, almost going so far as to offer up my first born just to get the chance to review it (I hoard sex toys, what can I say). Fortunately things didn’t get that extreme and before I knew it, I had it in my hot little hands.

From start to finish this dildo is everything I could ask for; there’s no bleeding of shades from one to the next, it’s crafted from body safe silicone (Fun Factory, thank you for making this!), it’s neither too big nor too small, AND it has every color perfectly distributed just like a real rainbow should.

FYI, it’s one of the only toys that’s been in my bedside drawer 7 years straight. For someone that literally owns bins of sex toys, that counts for something.

Here’s my review of the rainbow amor dildo, just in case you had any questions.


Miscellaneous Rainbow Goodness!

Of course dildos, butt plugs, and tongue rings aren’t the only rainbow clad goodies available…

For those with a Unicorn fetish, the rainbow horn dildos by Split Peaches aren’t your only option. If you really want to commit, take it all the way and snag yourself a rainbow unicorn mask (pictured below). There’s a few to choose from, it’s just a matter of whether you want to go legit hardcore unicorn or the adorable unicorn route. And, if you’re gonna go that far you might as well buy a rainbow wig + tail set and call it a day. Though personally, I’d prefer a rainbow cat tail and some fluffy rainbow ears to match.

If burlesque, playing dress up with rainbows, role playing, or running around half naked is more your thing, there’s tons of fun stuff like rainbow pasties, rainbow wigs, sparkly rainbow rhinestone pasties, rainbow tutu’s, stockings, a one piece rainbow body suit, and cock socks to search through. Or, if you’re the creative type why not try your hand at some body art with a rainbow liquid latex paint kit (always make sure there’s no latex allergies before using). Regardless of what you’re specifically looking for I’m pretty sure you can find it if you know where to look.

 

Rainbow Unicorn Mask Rainbow Unicorn Mask Cute Rainbow Star Pasties Rainbow Skull Pasties Rainbow Cock Sock
Rainbow Tutu Rainbow Stockings & Socks Liquid Latex Rainbow Body Paint Kit Rainbow Wig Rainbow Body Suit

 

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#FunFindFriday: 101 Vagina Book Project

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I’m about to say some things about vaginas/vulvas that you’re not going to like. Consider this your fair warning, and my preemptive apology.

Vulvas are ugly. Vaginas too. They’re hideous, foul, repulsive, and embarrassing. All that extra skin just flapping around, serving no real function. The whole kit and caboodle is just disgusting, both to look at and deal with. Don’t even get me started on vaginal wetness, making everything slick, slimy, and sloppy. Especially when menstruation is involved, it’s like someone went to town with a hatchet. And that wiry mound of hair, it’s obscene. Any person that thinks a pile of wrinkled protruding skin is anything but icky clearly has something wrong with them. Vaginas/vulvas are gross. End of story. Yuck.  I wish I didn’t have one, my life would be so much easier without it.

Contrary to your assumptions those aren’t my thoughts or the way I feel. Instead, what you just read is a mish mash of the messages I’ve received over the last 7 years from readers who’ve hated their genitals for one reason or another.

It’s sad, disheartening, and depressing.

Having said that, I’m sure many of you have felt something similar at some point. Maybe you’ve contemplated labiaplasty because you thought your labia (inner/outer) were too big. Opted to have sex in the dark so partner(s) couldn’t see your genitals. Shaved it bare in an attempt to be more appealing. Smothered it in disinfectants to mask your bodies natural odour. Applied tightening lotions or potions in hopes of making your vulva appear more ‘youthful’. Slathered on lightening creams because you thought the pigmentation was too dark. Or maybe you’ve spent a lifetime feeling uncomfortable in your own skin because your vulva wasn’t a taught, neat, toned little package like the ones often seen in porn.

No matter the reason for hating your vulva, or embarrassment you’ve experienced because of it, I can promise you’re not alone.

It’s for this reason that I love 101 Vagina by Philip Werner. Throughout the hardcovers thick and glossy pages we’re given a brief but honest glimpse into what it’s like to be the owner of a vagina/vulva. Some of the writing is uplifting, poetic even, while other excerpts take on a tone of courage, anxiety, sadness, respect, appreciation, and humility. It is raw, deep, emotional, insightful, and intentional, offering the opportunity to redefine and honor our bodies in a way we may not have been able to before. It’s a reminder to love ourselves, to see past the indifference and shame, to fully embrace what we’ve been gifted with, for far too often we forget.

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A few choice quotes;

Until I met my husband, I was ashamed of my vagina, I thought it was weird. But he made it his mission to change how I felt about her, and now I’m proud.

That doctor decided I needed my labia and clitoral hood stitched back together. The procedure felt like something akin to being on an alien abduction table for human experimentation. To this day I re-experience the trauma of this event every time someone looks as my vagina. (speaking about a childhood accident)

You have welcomed both feminine fingers and tongues and masculine pulsing hard members of desire, filling me with joy and breathlessness. I now look at my vagina with awe, gratitude, and reverence – she is truly amazing.

While many of the comments I get are fairly crude, they are actually stated with the utmost fascination – and no small measure of respect – for the awesome that is my vagina.

101vaginashavenUnlike the photoshopped images often found in pornography and film, depicting shaven vulvas, primed and perfectly sculpted to be plush, plump and camera ready, each of the 101 black and white photographs accompanying the writings are real; there are bruises on thighs, unevenly shaved pubic hair, crooked tan lines, aged and rippled skin, moles and scars, cellulite and stretch marks, freckles, stubble, piercings, and tattoos.

Moreover, there are labia of every shape and size; some protrude yearning to be seen, others hide tucked away safe from the prying eyes of judgment. And yet, each of them is beautiful, perfectly suited for the person to which they belong.

101vaginabooktextFor some this book will be a commentary on female sexuality. To others, a work of art. Maybe it’s an homage to the almighty vagina/vulva, or a personally transformative experience. A minority might even view it as carefully crafted pornography, but for all intense and purposes, *smut* it is not.

Regardless of your perspective, I hope 101 Vagina gives you a chance to take a good hard look at the way society views genitals, as a body part and a means of gaining pleasure, and how those views shape and potentially damage along the way. And in that, I hope you are challenged to see past the lies about ‘beauty’ we’ve been brainwashed to believe are true and learn to love your body just as it is. Perspective is everything, and the content within these pages has heaps of it.

We should be taught from a young age that our vagina is noting to be ashamed of, that we’re all different and beautiful and deserve all the love and appreciation

Whether you’re uncomfortable in your own skin, are a lover of vadges everywhere, have kids nearing an age of curiosity about their body/the bodies of others, or simply want a coffee table book that’s sure to spark conversation, I implore you to buy a copy of 101 Vagina. I promise you’ll be a better person for it

To get one of your own head over the 101 vagina website, hit up Amazon.com/Amazon.ca, or if you’re in Toronto from June 14th – 22nd you can check out the last leg of the 101 Vagina Art Exhibit & Book tour at Creative Blueprint Gallery. Copies will be available for purchase, and if you happen to see Philip, make sure to thank him for his work. <3

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The Big Bin of #SexToyFails: Part 1

Over the last 7 years of reviewing sex toys a lot of craptastic things have come my way. Some bored me, others gave me migraine inducing headaches, one had me ‘flailing like a maniac having a carpal tunnel fit‘, another was complete and utter torture. I’ve even gone so far as to liken a vibrator to a rabid bunny bashing at my bits. Ok, so that wasn’t the exact quote, but it’s close enough.

And that’s just the sex toy fails I’ve written about.

Not surprisingly there are more, many more. Most of which found themselves dumped in an over sized storage bin and tucked in the furthest corner of my closet never to be seen again…. until the desperate need to purge rolled around. Which leads us to this post.

Big Bin Of Sex Toy Fails

the big bin of fails in all its glory

Rather than spouting off my opinion based on appearances alone, which is what I tend to do with the horrors found in my #WTFWednesday posts, I’ve tested each of these (or had someone try, as was the case with the masturbators) and either thought they were so ridiculous that I couldn’t bring myself to write a full review, or had one session with them and said ‘nope, not doing this again’, banishing them to the bin forevermore.

Even with my displeasure, I’ll admit they’re not all horrible, heck some of you might even own a few and like them. But for me, these were deal breakers; sex toy fails I’ll never use again and couldn’t bare to dump on unsuspecting friends. That shit would just be cruel.

The Big Bin Of Sex Toy Fails

bounding bunny dual vibeRhythm O Bounding Bunny

Once upon a time I was a huge fan of rabbit vibes. There was something so alluring about slipping one inside, pushing a button or two, and laying back like a lazy little b while it did all the work. It was around this period that I acquired the Rhythm O Bounding Bunny, a dual vibe I thought to be promising.  However, after one use I realized it would be better off as roadkill…

Rather than your typical metal balls or pearls, the ‘rotations’ are carried out via what appears to be a half cob of corn covered by a heavy layer of saran wrap. And the spinning action, let’s just say the kernels undulate rather than turn… so not only are you having sex with thickly wrapped dinner left overs, now they’ve apparently been eaten by a transparent snake that’s writhing around inside your vadge. Get the visual, yeah not very hot is it?

Aside from that it’s heavy, big and bulky, isn’t very ergonomic, has far too many buttons controlling different things (making it difficult to manage when it’s stuffed inside you), is made of TPE (so although phthalate free, it’s still porous and can’t be fully sterilized), attracts lint and fluff like you wouldn’t believe, and requires 4 AAA batteries. Oh, and as an added bonus, any time you clench your PC muscles, it stops. Maybe I just don’t know my own strength. *smirk*

Everything considered, the vibe isn’t terrible, but it’s not great either. I’d say it lands somewhere between meh and blah. Not exactly the place you want to find your product sitting with a well versed sex toy reviewer. Sadly, the only thing it has going for it is the decently powerful clitoral stimulator, but you can find something similar without all the bulk or hefty price tag in a standard vibrating egg.

If you’re dead set on a dual vibe, one that’s body safe, rechargeable, and doesn’t look like a cob of corn, take a gander at a few other luxury options like the Lelo Ina 2, Je Joue Fifi, OhMiBod Freestyle W Rabbit, Vanity Vr6, or Envy Seven. For those of you looking for something cheaper, there’s the Fun Factory Tango, Joya Tulip, the unconventional Rock Chick, or maybe something within the Entice collection of dual vibes. Trust me, any of them are better than that damn bounding bunny


Fleshlight Blade & Fleshjack Sword

fleshlight blade swordI’ve been a fan of Fleshlight ever since I finger fucked one in the poorly lit corner of a sex shop nine years ago. The realistic appearance, soft and plush texture, and ergonomic design instantly gave birth to a penis envy I still can’t shake.

Having said that, of the over 15 different things I’ve received from Fleshlight, there were bound to be a few that left my testers unimpressed… for example, the Fleshlight Blade and Fleshjack Sword.

Don’t get me wrong, I get it, people want the option to control how tight something is and giving them a masturbator with a squishy body probably seemed like a really great idea, but here’s the problem; it just doesn’t work that well.

Before I go on let me say that the experience, i.e. what the sleeves deliver, is true to form and exactly what it should be with any Fleshlight. But that’s where the fun stops. There’s no other way to say it than these versions feel cheap, flimsy, and just don’t live up to the standard I’ve grown accustom to.

Judging by exterior appearances they don’t look too bad; they’re highly detailed, original in design, and come in bright blue or gold casings. However, for as attractive as they are, I wouldn’t say they’re discreet. Rather than blending into the background these bad boys stick out like a sore thumb. I won’t lie, if I saw something made of bright blue plastic that looked like the end of a sword, I’d sure as hell ask what it was, if not reach out and open it myself. Then again I’m nosy like that.

fleshlight blade sleeve compared to original fleshlightAs for the sleeves, they have smaller openings, are shorter in length, and sport thinner bodies than the original designs. If you bought a Fleshlight and found it to be too large, you might like them, but if you’re someone with a larger than average sized penis, you’ll probably have issues with insertion and use.

Also, I’ve been told they make a distracting ‘pffft’ sound with each thrust; unlike the original Fleshlight whose suction can be adjusted via a screw cap on the bottom, Blade and Sword have four little holes where the air gets pushed through during use. Not only is your experience slightly limited because of this, but as an added bonus you’ve now got four ways for the lube to dribble to the floor. Yay! #sarcasm.

On top of all that, the original versions are much easier to reassemble, just give them a good wash, cornstarch them up, and slide into place for safe keeping. Not the case with Blade or Sword. One of my testers went into graphic detail about how he used the end of his toothbrush to ‘angrily jam it into place’ while muttering profanities at it. Certainly not how a fake pussy should be treated.

fleshlight case compared to fleshlight swordOh, and once you finally do get the sleeve back in the cover, the cap refuses to stay put.  Push with all your might, force it if you have to, just know that no matter what you do, all your Sword/Blade wants to do is go commando. One knock to the floor and it’s game over, I’m not even referring to the lint they’ll pick up. If you ask me, Fleshlight did it right the first time around. #ScrewCapForTheWin.

Lastly, they kinda look like you’re fucking a pussy or ass that’s a pear. Literally. Probably not a big deal for many of you, but if you’re into banging edibles, may I instead suggest a hollowed pumpkin? One can only assume it’d be a lot more accommodating, cheaper too!

With everything I disliked about these two I think you’d be better off snagging an original Fleshlight or a Fleshlight Vibro. Looking for something a little smaller? the three different Sex In a Can versions are much better options. Want a good deal? Check my Fleshlight sale page, I’ve collected the best sales and even listed a few combo packs and products you won’t easily find on the website.


  baconlubeBacon Flavored Lube

When it comes to bacon flavored foods there’s a lot that I ‘get’. Take smokey bacon Lays potato chips for example, it’s a no-brainer. Bacon flavored pancakes, delish. Beggin strips, probably the only thing my dog would leave me for. Baconnaise, that shit’s just necessary (it’s vegan too!). Bloody Caesar’s rimmed with bacon salt and spiked with Bakon Vodka, now you’re speaking my language.

However, when you start getting into the realm of bacon flavored gumballs, bacon sunscreen, bacon chocolate bars, bacon lollipops, bacon lip balm, or bacon soda, among other things, it’s time to take a step back and reassess the situation.

Then there’s Bacon Flavored Lube… and almost instantly everything in me screams no, JUST. NO.

I’m going to be blatantly honest and say there is no point in time when I want to go down on a partner whose junk smells like it was just flipped out of a frying pan and served up with all day breakfast. And in the off chance that I absolutely had to, I’d hope to be pleasantly surprised. Instead what you’re greeted with is much closer to licking a pan where bacon grease was left cooling to a white coating, than what you’d get from eating actual bacon. It’s salty, musty, thick and pungent, slightly sweet, and wrong on every level. I think my partner summed it up best when he said “it’s bacony, but it’s disgusting!”

baconlubeforbreakfastMaking matters worse, the scent lingers long after you’ve attempted to lick/wash it off. My word of advice, don’t go to the dog park after. It’s creepy, and depending on who’s in the park that day, could potentially land you in the hospital. Or jail. #guardyourprivates

Also, it’s billed as a ‘personal lubricant and massage oil’. Considering I have a hard enough time stomaching the lube idea, the massage oil takes it to a whole other level. Why anyone would want to be slicked down with simulated bacon grease just so they could be massaged into a stinking mess is beyond me. Shit, I might understand if it was actually good, but it’s not. I say again, ‘it’s bacony, but it’s disgusting!”

Being a lover of flavored lubes I have no problem admitting there’s a certain charm to ones that smell like desert, fruits, or other goodness, but there is nothing charming about the smell of cooked meat on someone’s privates. Period.

Rather than assaulting your taste buds with the horrific concoction that is bacon lube, I’d suggest any of the Sliquid flavored lubes, System Jo Tangerine Dream, Raspberry Sorbet, or Chocolate DreamIntimate Organics Macadamia Nut, or Cinnamon Vanilla by Good Clean Love. None of them taste like the crap J&D’s make, and they’re better lubes because of it.

End Rant.

So there you have it, the first edition of my big bin of sex toy fails.

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Review: Tantus Neo, Juice, & Twist

Tantus PlugsAfter my recent success with the Tantus Meteorite I figured it was time I pushed the boundaries even further. So, ready to embark on a challenge far greater than the last, I pulled the Tantus Juice, Twist and Neo out of their packaging and laid them before me. As I contemplated exactly what it was I was about to do, three words chanted like a mantra in my head: Git. ‘Er. Done.

Under normal circumstances I wouldn’t dream of doing something like this; three plugs, larger than most I’ve tried, all in one sitting. But considering they’re made by Tantus, and were sent to me by one of my absolute favorite retailers, SheVibe, I decided it was worth pushing past my comfort zone for.  You’d think I’d have learned after the Tantus T-Rex. Nope. I’m clearly a glutton for punishment.

The Good

Before I break down my experiences, here’s all the good stuff they have in common:

  • Unlike the wide top of the the Tantus Ryder, the tips of Juice and Neo are gently pointed, making the initial insertion far easier and much more comfortable. Twist on the other hand is more of a gently rounded corkscrew.
  • They aren’t as flexible as the Meteorite. Sounds like a con, I know. However it is not.  The firmness was what made them doable. Being bendy isn’t always a good thing.
  • The base is probably the best I’ve ever found on an anal toy. It’s not rectangular or round, but instead an interesting anchor shape that fit in my butt crack nicely. For the most part I hardly felt it. On a couple instances I actually stopped to check and see if it was still there. More of this please.
  • Tantus LogoThey’re totally body safe. We’re talking hypoallergenic, hygienic, non-toxic, phthalate and latex free, odourless, tasteless, bleachable, boilable and for the most part virtually non-porous. If you want quality, you want Tantus.
  • Even though they’re thick, there’s still a fair bit of squish and give. Cushioning makes my ass happy.
  • Unlike other silicones the texture is satiny smooth, supple, and matte, limiting the amount of drag on the skin.
  • The bulbous shaft is tapered, gently graduating in girth from around 3.25“ inches to 4.25“ inches in the middle, back down to around 4“ inches, and finally settling in at just under 2″ inches for the bottom quarter. In my experience, that last portion was what kept them in place and made them comfortable. Without it they probably would have been too overwhelming to use for a decent period of time.
  • Each of the plugs measures 4″ inches in length, that’s a 1/2″ inch shorter than the Meteorite, but 1/4″ inch longer than the Little Flirt. Let’s just say it’s a happy medium.
  • They don’t attract lint like other, glossier, silicones. If you follow my reviews, you’ll know this matters to me.
  • This last bit is of no significant importance but I’m including it because I can; the colors are true colors. As in, the purple is really purple, not some pink-trying-be-purple-but-not-really-purple-cause-there’s-too-much-pink like you’ll find with other companies. I appreciate this.

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Comparison

An easy challenge this was not. While the differences are apparent from just looking at them, experiencing them first hand was something else. For starters, each of the plugs are significantly girthier than my previous challenger, the Meteorite. We’re talking a whole inch difference. For some of you this will seem measly, but for me it was enough to require patience, perseverance, dedication, breathing techniques, and lube… an obnoxious amount of lube. Note to self: buy more Sliquid Sea a.s.a.p.

FYI: In an attempt to have a well rounded experience I usually ‘test’ toys a handful of times, choosing then to write my reviews based on those most memorable or similar (and therefore a ‘generality’).  In this case I was able to use Neo and Juice on multiple occasions. Twist however, I struggled with continuously and was only able to get it fully in once. The rest of the time my ass just fought with it mercilessly until I gave up. Bare that in mind when you make your purchasing decisions.

Tantus Neo Butt Plug Tantus Neo

Judging by appearances I went for Neo first.  It seemed the least intimidating of the three, and with no textures, the one most likely to enter without a struggle.  Sadly, I was wrong.  It wasn’t all bad though; the tip found its way almost instantly and with some pressure, the first 1/4 slowly slid into place. From there on it was a bit of an undertaking.

At first I couldn’t relax. The impending girth had me fearing for my sphincter, causing me to tense and clench. Not what you want to have happen when you’re trying to shove something in your butt.  Then came a considerable amount of start, stop, remove, add lube, start, stop, remove, add lube (you get the picture), until I finally had it half way in. At that point I had to pause, leave it alone, and allow my body to get used to the sensation as shoving it in would likely prove futile. Then in one fell swoop, I reached back and pushed, landing in place with a slight popping sensation. Almost instantly my body breathed a heavy sigh of relief.

The size was fulfilling without being too much, and the portion holding it there was surprisingly comfortable. Not at all what I expected considering the amount of effort it took to get it in. As I moved I could feel it inside me, but there was no jabbing, ‘stretching’, or discomfort. Instead, it was satisfying. With everything I had been through, I think this was a well earned result.

Also not surprising was the way the base fit in place, on three separate occasions I had to stop what I was doing and wiggle around to see if it was still there. This was a new experience for me as many butt toys (with thicker bases) often leave me feeling as if my butt’s being spread far and wide.

When it came time for removal the process was fairly simple; I gently slipped two fingers underneath the anchored base and pulled steadily. Unlike its entrance, Neo slid out with a minimal amount of hesitation. In retrospect I can honestly say this was one of the more intense experiences I’ve had in my reviewing career. Bravo, Tantus. Bravo.

Who Will Like It

People who have worked up from something thinner and are looking to explore, those that like a full feeling with little to no texture, anyone that’s tried the Tantus Ryder, loved it, but found the head continually hard to insert (being that it’s fully rounded and not ‘pointed’), or those that prefer medium sized plugs over probes.

Tantus Juice Butt PlugTantus Juice

Next up was the Tantus Juice, a plug akin to Neo. The main difference? Rather than a smooth untextured surface, Juice has a ribbed body similar to that of a deflated punch balloon, making my venture slightly more interesting.

While I’ll admit that having Neo to ready myself beforehand probably helped, it seemed as though the ribbing itself offered a bit more squish, give, and room for my ass to maneuver.  Quite surprisingly it glided into place within a minimum amount of force or effort.  The entire time I could feel the textures adding a new level of stimulation and pleasure.  Sadly though, once inserted it was as if the ribs didn’t exist. I could feel them if I focused, but for the most part internally it felt just like Neo. Very weird.

As for the rest of my experience with Juice, everything was almost identical to Neo; it was comfortable to wear, at no point did I feel ‘stretched out’, the base fit perfectly, and removal was stress free. With how smooth things went, I wish there was more to report. Though I’ll admit, if I had to choose between Neo and Juice, I’d definitely opt for the latter.

Who Will Like It

People that enjoy slight texturing, a feeling of fullness, and everything Neo has to offer.

 Tantus Twist Butt PlugTantus Twist

How do I say this nicely… I am not fond of the Tantus Twist.

In fact, it’s probably my least favorite of any butt toy I’ve reviewed thus far; the coiled body made getting it in place fairly difficult, and as each bump slid into place, my body offered more and more resistance until it became nearly unbearable. Good thing I like a challenge.

On that note, don’t try twirling it like you would the Crystal Delights twist, the base on Tantus’s version makes it almost impossible. Rather than a quick spin and insertion, you’ll likely find the base continually jabbing you with each go round. And while this does make the plugs body slightly easier to work in, eventually you’ll end up at a point where the base is stuck between your ass cheeks and just won’t turn anymore. Having a toy jammed in my crack before the rest of it is entirely inserted, no thank you.

Also, if you don’t use enough lube and try to twist it, you’ll likely feel like something is pulling at your hole. Ouch. Eventually I had to remove it entirely (we’ll get to the removal in a minute) and start from scratch. You cannot imagine my disdain. Let’s just say I wasn’t overly impressed with myself, my ass, or Twist by this point.

After much deliberation I finally managed to get it in, however once inserted, the ripples felt kind of odd. I mean, I could feel them, but every time I moved I couldn’t help but think I had crammed corrugated cardboard in my ass. Not pleasurable, and certainly not what I was hoping for.

Unfortunately my misfortune didn’t stop there, when it came time to take Twist out I struggled almost as much as I did putting it in; each bump felt as bad, if not worse, as it did during insertion. AND I DID THIS TWICE. The things I do for you people. The only saving grace was the fact that I knew once it was out, it was over. Sweet relief, why must you come in the form of a removed butt plug?

Who Will Like It

Those that are really experienced with anal play and really love textures, anyone that wants to ‘try something new’, persons who aren’t afraid of a challenge, those that like the sensations anal beads provide.

The Bad

Despite what most websites selling these three say I don’t think they’d be good for ‘beginners’. Someone who’s explored with fingers, yes. Someone that’s experienced with smaller, thinner butt plugs and wants something a larger than a finger but smaller than a breadbox, yup. Someone that’s had anal sex, enjoyed it, and wants a plug to play with, most def. But a person that’s new to the scene, hasn’t had many opportunities to put things in their butt, be it a finger, plug, penis, or otherwise, likely not.

As someone that knows her body, has spent the past 7 years putting things in her ass for ‘science’, I can honestly say these were a tad too large my first few goes round. If they were too large for me, I can only imagine what they’d feel like to someone that has no idea what they’re doing. If you’re not sure where to start my ‘Beginners Guide To Butt Play‘ might come in handy.

Other than that I don’t have much to complain about. They’re luxurious as far as anal plugs go, they just weren’t my ideal. I’m working on it.

Care & Cleaning

Tantus Butt Plug Close UpBecause they’re all crafted out of medical grade silicone, and therefore wont retain bodily fluids, lube or bacteria, they don’t require heavy duty cleaning many lesser products would. Simply give them a good wash with mild soap and water and let them sit to air dry.

Or, if you’re a clean freak and can’t stand the thought of something that’s been in your ass coming into contact with anything else, you can boil them in water for 3 minutes, toss ’em in your dishwasher, or wash them with a 10% bleach solution. Though honestly, it’s pretty unnecessary.

Also, because Juice and Twist are quite textured there’s a lot of opportunity for bodily fluids, lube, bacteria, and ‘stuff’ to collect. They won’t absorb into silicone and don’t pose any real risks, but it does mean you’ll need to pay a bit more consideration when cleaning.

Final Verdict

Tantus Neo, Juice, Twist Butt PlugsAt the end of the day, and knowing Tantus like I do, I don’t think these are bad plugs. On the contrary.  Even with my personal struggles I think they’re shining examples of what high quality butt plugs should be; they’re crafted out of medical grade silicone making them totally body safe, are silky smooth to the touch,  don’t drag on the skin, have a base that makes them exceptionally comfortable to wear, don’t attract lint, bare pointy tips to help make insertion easier than most, and will last a lifetime with a minimal amount of care. Unfortunately, they’re just too for me, right now. Like I said, I’m working on it.

Considering all that, I’d certainly suggest them. I’d just make sure to point out all the differences so anyone interested would know what to buy… if you like a medium plug that’s fairly basic, grab a Neo.

If you want something the same size, with a slight amount of texturing adding some fun sensations, pick up a Juice.

For those brave souls that don’t back down when the going gets tough, Twist will be your new favorite.

Otherwise, when it comes to butt plugs, you’ve certainly got a lot of other options to choose from over at SheVibe.

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Q&A w/ Kara Sutra: Is Masturbation Bad?


Hi Kara Sutra

I’m a long time fan of yours and I’ve watched all of your videos. I was hoping you could answer some questions I had about masturbation because I have no clue what to think or if there are health ramifications. Plus I’ve always been told that its bad so I’ve never done it and I want to but I’m scared that it will make me a pervert. Is masturbation bad? Is it normal? Am I going to go to hell? If I do it does it mean that there is something wrong with me?

I hope you can answer my questions.

Thanks.

Answer

Thank you so much for watching and supporting what I do!!

As for the message, in a perfect world masturbation wouldn’t cause feelings of fear, shame, or guilt. It’s a very natural thing that most species do, and almost every person has done, sometimes without even knowing it.  Even as babies and young children one of the first things we do is experience our body. We touch, squeeze, tickle, our hands venture to places that can cause enjoyment we don’t yet understand.

Unfortunately, most of the guilt or shame we feel from this touching comes from early childhood experiences brought on by another persons reaction to what we were doing. And that isn’t fair or healthy.

When children touch their genitals it’s usually not in a sexual way, but instead an attempt to explore out of sheer curiosity and wonder.  Very often they are immediately told to stop, that it’s ‘bad’, ‘dirty’, ‘wrong’, ‘gross’, ‘naughty’, and are shot scornful looks from whomever caught them.  Sometimes their hands are slapped away or they’re punished for it. All of these experiences shape what they think of their bodies, sexuality, and how they feel about themselves.

That being said, I want to let you know that there is nothing wrong with masturbating. There is nothing wrong with exploring your body and figuring out what you like. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable and confident in your sexuality. And there is nothing wrong with giving yourself an orgasm.

Benefits of Masturbation

Contrary to any statements about masturbating being bad for you, there are quite a few positive benefits, including (but not limited to);

  • releasing tension
  • lowering stress levels
  • increasing the ability to have orgasms
  • helping to release endorphins that relieve pain
  • burning calories
  • it’s a natural sleep sedative
  • helping to keep the pelvic floor strong/healthy (potentially preventing urinary incontinence)

In ‘men’ it has be found to improve the immune system’s functioning, build resistance to prostate gland infection, and possibly even reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer. Not to mention the fact that it can help guys increase ejaculatory control and manage rapid or delayed ejaculation (basically put, through masturbation you can teach yourself to last longer).

In ‘women’, it’s great for combating pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with the menstrual cycle like cramps and backache. It can help prevent cervical infections and relieve urinary tract infections as well as generally help to gain confidence in our sexuality.

Aside from all those wonderful benefits, masturbating is a great way to learn about what you like and dislike when it comes to arousing yourself and achieving an orgasm.

You can fault me for this if you’d like, but you can’t blame your partner for not helping you achieve an orgasm if you don’t even know what it takes to get you there.  No matter your gender, learning about your body and how to bring excitement is your responsibility, so is telling your partner so that they can provide what you require –  the only way to learn is to do it yourself.

How Much Is Too Much?

Regarding the two most asked questions, “how much is too much?” and “whats wrong with me? I don’t know how to stop!

So long as it’s not interfering with your daily activities, i.e. keeping you from hanging out with friends, making you late for work, is the only thing on your mind and the only thing you want to do day in and day out, you don’t really need to worry. The frequency of masturbation isn’t a problem unless it is linked with an obsessive compulsive disorder, where the same activity must be repeated over and over.

As for what’s considered “normal”: ‘normal’ ranges from several times per day, week or month, to never masturbating at all.  Since everyone is different what’s ‘normal’ for you may be very different from what’s ‘normal’ for someone else.

Finally, will you go to hell? That’s a whole other can of worms I’d rather not open. But as someone that doesn’t believe in a ‘punishing God’, I’d say no. If you’re religious, maybe reading the book Conversations With God would give you another perspective on things.

That’s pretty much it, hopefully it helped in some way.

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#FunFindFriday: The Dragon by Traz

 

 

When I entered the sex toy industry 10+ years ago there wasn’t a lot available in the realm of penis oriented masturbation products. Sure, there were more than a handful of decent options, but for the most part the products being made weren’t body safe, looked cheap, tacky, or hideous, and didn’t make much of an effort to be original, let alone inspired. Thankfully things have progressed and a variety of devices have made their way to market offering new and innovative ways to get off… enter The Dragon by Traz!

Needing to know more about the colorful and intriguing design, I went right to the source, asking the Marketing Chief at Traz if he’d be willing answer a bunch of questions about The Dragon. Thankfully he very graciously obliged. Big thanks to Craig for taking time out of his busy schedule, I totally appreciate it.

The Dragon by Traz - Swinger

The Swinger by Traz

1. What motivated you to create ‘The Dragon’?

While there are plenty of masturbation devices to choose from, it’s just one sensation. Meaning whatever the design and texture of the canal, that’s what you feel … over and over and over. We’re all about our customers and and it just seems unfair that in order get more than one sensation, you need to buy more than one device or multiple sleeves for the same device. And that can get expensive in a hurry. So we developed The Dragon to give users the choice of pretty much unlimited sensations … or as we refer to them, hundreds to thousands of fantasies all in one masturbation device.

Just like you like to change it up with your partner … why shouldn’t you be able to do that when masturbating? We did some basic calculations based on our most popular Dragon model, The Swinger – it provides 385 different experiences. Someone would have to spend over $26,000 dollars to get that many different masturbation devices. We’re not even sure if there are 385 different such devices available. So, it’s about putting freedom in the hands of our customers when it comes to how they want to orgasm.

2. How is The Dragon by Traz different from other products on the market?

Two big differences make The Dragon by Traz the most advanced masturbation device … ever. First, you can enter from either end. The Dragon by Traz accommodates a different orifice at each end … it’s dual entry. Secondly, five distinct, interchangeable pleasure rings are housed in The Dragon’s “Fantasy Silo.”

Let’s start with the benefit of “dual entry”. Imagine you’re rocking along and you’ve penetrated through the vagina orifice, but you want to switch it up mid-stream … you simply flip over The Dragon by Traz and and slide in through the butt or mouth orifice. It’s just that easy. But, that’s just the start. I mentioned the five distinct pleasure rings. Each ring has a different diameter opening as well as a distinct textured canal creating a different sensation. For example, take the “Give and Go” ring. You’ll swear there are four free floating fingers twisting and wrapping around your shaft as you move in and out. And here’s how users can have many, many different fantasies. Simply change the order the rings in the “Fantasy Silo.” It clicks open and you can rearrange them in any order. Remember – each ring is unique – different size opening and different textured canal. This means different sensations as you move back and forth through each one. It’s really mind blowing.

And get this, users can choose two different style opening diameters, depending on their preference – there’s “just right” and “super tight.” Customers can specify their choice when ordering.

Also, we know people like it different ways, so we designed three offices for The Dragon – Vagina, Mouth and Butt. That also leads to the every increasing number of fantasies available for everyone that wants to “ride the Dragon.” Also, customers will have no problem distinguishing one pleasure ring from another with just a glance. Each are a different color.

The Dragon by Traz pleasure rings and orifices

Dragon Pleasure Rings & Orifices

3. Speaking about the pleasure rings, each of them look amazingly detailed, what was the process/how long did they take to craft, and how did you choose each design?

First we polled users to get a sense of what sensations they found most pleasurable, most exiting and stimulating. As you can imagine we heard a lot of varying answers, descriptions and desires. We also asked them to describe the sensations of three different types of penetration; vaginal, oral and anal. We used those answers to help influence our designs. Take for example the description I used earlier for the “Give and Go” pleasure ring. Many we asked described that slight twisting action partners will use when giving them a hand job and also during oral sex. We took that data and then set out to design an inner set of textures to try and duplicate that sensation.

It took us about 14 months of literally about 150 different prototype molds to come up with our first set of 15 rings. As part of this initial launch we’ve introduced the first set of five. As mentioned previously we created two versions of those first five – “just right” and “super tight.” We’ll release the next set of five sometime in late Spring and the third set at the beginning of Fall.

For those interested in each of the The Dragons pleasure rings sensations, here’s what they feel like (*color coded to match the rings):

  • Pleasure N’ Pleasure – That real vagina sensation comes from 8 mini rings within the ring – four tight and four a little looser.
  • Ten and One – It’s like being licked as you move into a tighter center. The dual ribs on both side of the narrowing shaft really do a number.
  • Full Throttle – You get that gentle grip and drag sensation found only in a real partner.
  • Stacked Desire – A little pull and tug action from three softly ribbed openings.
  • Give and Go – It’s like the best hand job you ever had … you know that twisting action that really heightens how it feels.

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4. Why did you choose silicone material over other available options?

When we founded the company, we purposely decided to make the highest quality adult toys possible. And today, the absolute best material is medical grade silicone. First and foremost it is body-safe. Also, it’s durable requiring no special powders, creams, etc. to keep it in pristine condition. Clean-up is snap – simply use soap and water.

5. What can we look forward to in the future from Traz?

We’re developing a new version of our Rhino Penis Extension. Customers have asked if we could create an extension that worked as well as the original Rhino, but looked more like a real penis. It was important to first determine if our patented “no slip grip” design would perform as it does with the original Rhino’s more cylindrical shape. I’m happy to report we have a working prototype that we will put into production in late March. If your readers have suggestions for what they think would be a good name, we’d love to hear them!

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Cyber Monday & Black Friday Sex Toys Sales, Deals, and Discounts: 2016 Edition

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BLACK FRIDAY SEX TOY SALES

Rather than leaving you to click around in search of the best Black Friday sex toy sales, I’ve conveniently listed all of my faves below. Consider this a token of my appreciation for your support over the years. That and a way of getting you to buy quality sex toys at a fraction of the cost, ’cause that’s just how I do.

Like last year I tried to streamline this as best I can, but if you’ve got some time to spare, I suggest doing a quick scroll through all the deals – that way you’ll be sure to get exactly what you want at the best prices. Beware, the list this year is long and surprisingly detailed… that’s what you get when I spend 3 days jumping between sites, comparing prices, emailing manufacturers for advance notice, and doing my damnedest to help you save!

Want to thank me for hooking you up? Just remember to clear your cookies and cache before you link to your favorite store, that way you can be sure I’ll make a tiny commission anytime you shop. It’s usually not a lot of money, but it’s enough to keep me doing something I love.

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Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales Highlights

If you don’t feel like scrolling over the whole page, or if you’re easily overwhelmed by big posts, here’s a no bullshit list of the very best deals I could find for some of the very best products…

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Black Friday BDSM Sales 2016

For those of you into BDSM, I put together an extra little section so you wouldn’t have to hunt around online. Personally I think this list has enough stuff to help you get started, or add to your repertoire. I’ll be adding more as I find them, but for now this should do.

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Split Peaches

When it comes to new companies popping up on the scene making body safe, colorful, fun, and out of the box sex toys, Split Peaches just can’t be ignored. From Unicorn Horn dildos to the steampunk themed Rivitor dildo, screwdriver dildos to an adorable glow-in-the-dark ‘grenade’ butt plug (trust me, it’s not as scary as it sounds), they’ve got a handful of stuff you won’t find anywhere else.

So, if you’re a little over the standard shaped dildos… or if you just want to try something new, I highly suggest taking advantage of their Black Friday sex toy sales. There’s only one sale going, 25% off EVERYTHING with code ‘BLACKFRIDAY2016’, but the price points are already reasonable so it’s a win/win.


Tantus Black Friday Sales

Black Friday Sex Toy Sales - Tantus Tantus, the makers of some of the worlds best silicone toys, one of my absolute most favorite companies ever, has just one major sale going… if you don’t yet own anything by them I HIGHLY suggest you take advantage while you can and treat yo self! You’ll thank me for it later, promise!

As for why you’d want everything Tantus makes;

  • they’re 100% medical grade silicone and won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria
  • are phthalate and latex free (no toxins here!)
  • are easy to care for and clean
  • come in a variety of amazing colors and styles
  • have the very best customer service
  • and most importantly – the toys they make will last you a lifetime with a minimum amount of care. Yes, you’ll spend a bit more than you would on some shitty jelly toy, but you’ll NEVER have to replace them (saving you money in the long run!).

If you still aren’t sure about Tantus I suggest you watch my Tantus Haul video and read about why I’ve loved Tantus for the last 10 years.

Now that I’ve got that out of the way, let’s move on to the sales…

  • First and foremost, the grab bag section has products that are already heavily discounted, we’re talking excessive savings on a normal day… well, right now everything is 40% off so you can save EVEN MORE MONEY! If you don’t care too much about the colors, but want a kick ass toys that are made to last a life time, start here!

Not sure what to buy?

I’ve included some of my fave items below.

There are obviously other things they make that I love, so if you have any questions feel free to ask.

When looking at prices remember I haven’t applied the 40% off!

 

Tantus Uncut #2

Uncut #2 ($99)

Tantus Adam O2

Adam O2 ($114)

Duchess ($106)

Tantus Flurry O2

Flurry O2 ($76)

Tantus Charmer

Charmer ($54)

Slow Drive

Slow Drive ($46)

Curve

Curve ($71)

Plug Kit ($68)

T-Rex ($115)

Anaconda ($66)

 


Fleshlight Black Friday Sales

If there was ever a product range that gave me “penis envy”, it would be made by Fleshlight. Don’t know what a Fleshlight is or why you NEED one? Check the video above, I made it and it explains everything (if you can’t view it here, you should be able to watch on YouTube here).

As for deals, they always have something going on… and Black Friday at Fleshlight is no exception! I’ve listed the sales by percentage below, that way you’ll be able to easily snag the best ones without having to hunt around the site. For the record, everything is 15% – 40% off.

BONUS: Spend $100 get a bonus gift + free shipping, spend $150 get a FREE mystery sleeve + bonus gift + free shipping, spend $200 get a FREE surprise pleasure pack + FREE mystery sleeve + bonus gift + free shipping.

HINT: you’re going to need renew powder to keep your Fleshlight like new, but rather than spending so much on such a small bottle, you’d be better off getting a larger bulk package of corn starch on Amazon. It’s basically the same thing at a fraction of the cost.

DOUBLE HINT: If you want to save a bit more on the Fleshlight Launchpad and don’t mind shopping elsewhere,

EXTRA HINT: (UPDATE: SOLD OUT!) Fans of Jessica Drake or Stoya are in luck! I found another website that’s got a Jessica Drake Swallow Fleshlight for 50% off (*only $32!), or a Stoya Lotus Fleshlight for 50% off (*again, only $32!).

*Note: I’m showing the Canadian prices, for U.S. it might be be slightly lower.

Fleshlight Deals

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Black Friday Sex Toy Sales ShevibeI’ll be honest, I’ve loved SheVibe since the very first day I saw their website 6+ years ago; the graphics are amazing, the prices are some of the lowest you’ll find, the site itself is ridiculously easy to navigate, they focus on carrying body safe options, and the customer service is fabulous. If there was any place I’d want all my readers to shop, it’s here!

Like last year SheVibe is doing a straight forward tiered sale deal…

  • Get 10% off when you spend $85+, plus free shipping (use code ‘KRINGLE10’)
  • Get 15% off when you spend $100+, plus free shipping (use code ‘KRINGLE15’)
  • Get 20% off when you spend $125+, plus free shipping, (use code ‘KRINGLE20’)
  • PLUS: If you spend $109.99+ you’ll also get a free toybox (use code TOYBOX) at checkout. (Yes, you can use both codes)

Not sure what to snag?

I’ve got a few ideas that’ll save you even more loot…

L'amorouse RosaL’amorouse Rosa G-Spot Vibe

Right now my favorite g-spot vibe is the L’amorouse Rosa; the vibrations are deep and rumbly, the body safe silicone is smooth, supple, and so lovely to touch, there’s 9 different vibration settings to go through, it’s rechargeable, waterproof, whisper quiet, and the curve is like nothing I’ve ever experienced.

Although it’s not the cheapest toy around, coming in at $128 (with “KRINGLE20” discount), SheVibe has it for the lowest price I’ve seen anywhere so far.

– The Perfect G-Spot Kit

Njoy Pure Wand

Liberator Decor Throe

Decor Throe

Sliquid H2O Water Based Lube

Sliquid H20

You could pair the definitive g-spot ‘dildo’, Njoy Pure Wand for $99 (Njoy has it listed for $110) + Liberator Decor Throe for $89 (reg $120), or any of the Liberator Throes for that matter, + 4oz bottle of Sliquid H2O for $8, then use code ‘KRINGLE20’ at checkout and save an additional 20%, plus free shipping! Honestly, if I could pick any combo of toys to give someone, this one would be it. If you’re a squirter you’ll thank me for this later. Promise.

*with the discount code you’re looking at saving $80 vs buying items separately at regular price!

– Amazing Toys & Prices You Wont Find Anywhere Else –

*prices shown include applicable discounts

Doxy Wand

Die Cast Doxy

Gold G-Spoon #2

Nob Seduction

Marble Shilo

Mustang Royale

(*use code ‘KRINGLE20’ to save 20% on everything pictured above).

 


PinkCherry

black friday sex toy sales pinkcherryPinkCherry is often the first place I check when it comes to Black Friday sex toy sales. This year they did not disappoint! It’s pretty easy to snag something kickass… you just need to know where to look. My fave deals are listed below.

Note: Everything on the website is 20% off, but if you use code ‘BLACK50’ you’ll save 50% on everything JimmyJane makes, 50% on Lingerie Blowouts, 50% on Sportsheets Bondage Bed Sheet Sets, and an extra 50% on their already reduced Sex Toy Blowout Sale section.

As for other sales:

Bathmate Penis Pump

BathMate Pump

WeVibe Tango

Original Hitachi

24k Gold Form 2

Liberator Wedge

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Save 40% On Tantus Sex Toys: Valentines Weekend Sale

As I’m sure the majority of companies have made you painfully aware, Valentines Day is right around the corner. Unfortunately it’s become a holiday filled with bullshit beliefs that if you’re not part of a couple, you just don’t deserve to enjoy the day.

In my opinion, whether you’re splurging on a 2lb box of chocolate, indulging in a luxurious soak, curling up with a good book, heading out for a night on the town, or just chillin in your onsie while streaming your fave tv shows, this holiday is a perfect excuse to treat yo’ self to anything and everything your little heart desires… especially if that means buying some sex toys to enjoy anytime you want.

Thankfully I’m not the only one that thinks this way – in an attempt to help you have an amazing weekend filled with self pleasuring and love, no matter your relationship status, Tantus is having a flash sale where you can take a whopping 40% off everything they carry!

Yes, you read that right – 40% off EVERYTHING!

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day @ Tantus

Vibrators Are On Sale Too!

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Original Magic Wand

I love the bullet compatible vibes Tantus makes, but I’d be lost without my Original Magic Wand (was $60, now $36). Those rumbly deep vibrations, the ergonomic design, simple two power settings, cushioned head, and ease of use, are things my body lusts after. In all honestly, there hasn’t been a time it’s failed to make me orgasm, and for that I’m forever thankful.

There’s also the rechargeable Magic Wand up for grabs (was $125, now $75), as well as the new Doxy Massager  (was $130, now $78). I haven’t tried either of them yet, but I’ve heard from friends that they are both on par – if not better than the Original Magic Wand.

Tantus Haul Video Featuring My Favorite Tantus Toys!

 

 

*jump to 3:23 in the video to skip all my blabbing

If you’re not sure what to grab, I made a Tantus Haul video showcasing some of my fave products (above). It should give you a pretty good idea of the product sizes, colors, what they’re good for, and/or why I love them.

As for why you need some Tantus in your life: everything is crafted from body safe material (no worries about toxic chemicals), they don’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria (unlike jelly, tpr, or tpe sex toys – which can never be fully sterilized), they’ll last a lifetime with a minimal amount of care (this is HUGE money saver in the long run!), most are harness compatible or safe for stuffing in yer butt, and most importantly, Tantus has some of the best customer service around!

For Those On A Tight Budget

Sex Toys For Valentines DayIf you want to save EVEN MORE, this sale lets you take another 40% off already reduced Tantus grab bags… with the discount nothing is over $23!

They’re the same great products crafted from the same premium grade silicone, just mixed into a variety of shades Tantus usually doesn’t carry… I’ve managed to get some absolutely stunning color mixes this way (one is blackish purple, with a midnight purple glittery sheen). Trust me, this is a fantastic way of snagging some quality sex toys at amazing prices.

Just head over to the grab bags page, pick the toys you want, enter code “LOVEYA” during check out, and BOOM! You just got some of the very best silicone sex toys at prices that are almost unheard of.

p.s. Last time Tantus did a grab bag sale they sold out. I highly suggest you get your orders in sooner than later, this isn’t something you want to miss out on!

Need Some Help Choosing Grab Bag Items?

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Echo Grab Bag

Dildos

When it comes to g-spot stimulation I love the Tantus Echo (reg. $40, now $24). The ripples along the shaft provide an amazing sensation during thrusting and the silicone is firm, while still retaining some flexibility, squish and give, making it comfortable but highly effective. If you like textures, g-spot stimulation, or something a little different I’d highly suggest an Echo.

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Vamp

My second favorite is the Vamp (reg. $29, now $17.40). It doesn’t offer as much g-spot stimulation as the Echo, but there is a ridge where the head meets the shaft that feels glorious during use. Also, the length and girth are perfect for those times I want something slightly larger without being overwhelmed by size. As for the silicone, it’s a bit more rigid than the Echo, but still supple and retains some squish and give. If you want a dildo that has subtle nuances rather than heavy texturing, but still manages to offer g-spot stimulation, I’d go for a Vamp.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - tantus large silk

large silk

Then there’s the Large Silk (reg. $33, now $19.80) which I covered in the Tantus Haul video above.  Personally, I think the smooth seamless shaft makes this dildo perfect for deep and heavy thrusting. And although there isn’t much by way of sensation play, it glides effortlessly with a small amount of lube. It’s similar in size to the vamp, but way more flexible and not quite as heavy. If you don’t like g-spot stimulation and aren’t big on textures, but want a dildo that is fulfilling, you’ll definitely like the Large Silk.

Save On Sex Toys For Valentines Day - Tantus Little Flirt

Little Flirt

Butt Play

When it comes to non-intimidating butt toys the little flirt (reg. $21, now $12.60 – pictured left), or small ripple (reg. $22, now $13), will do you just fine. Both are easy to insert and remove, have some flexibility making them very comfortable during use, the bases are flared so you don’t have to worry about them getting lost, and they really aren’t intimidating at all. When I first was introduced to butt play they were my go to. I’d highly suggest them to anyone getting started.

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Ryder

If you’re already well versed with putting things in yer butt and would prefer something a little larger, you’re going to want to grab a Ryder (reg $23, now $14.40, pictured right). It’s substantially less flexible than the lil flirt, but still has quite a bit of squish and give making it comfortable to insert, use, and remove. I don’t often venture away from my Ripple or Flirt, but when I do I opt for the Ryder (or Perfect Plug/Juice).

Regardless of what you choose I can promise each of the products listed above are amazing, I know because I own all of them.

So what are you waiting for! Head over to Tantus, find some toys you love, type in code “LOVEYA” at checkout, and snag some amazing for yourself… not just for Valentines Day, but any damn time you want! You’re worth it.

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Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales: 2015 Edition

Rather than leaving you to click around in search of the best Black Friday and Cyber Monday sex toy sales, I’ve conveniently listed all of my faves below. Consider this a token of my appreciation for your support over the years. That and a way of getting you to buy quality sex toys at a fraction of the cost, ’cause that’s just how I do.

Like last year I tried to streamline this as best I can, but if you’ve got some time to spare, I suggest doing a quick scroll through all the deals – that way you’ll be sure to get exactly what you want at the best prices. Beware, the list this year is long and surprisingly detailed… that’s what you get when I spend 3 days jumping between sites, comparing prices, emailing manufacturers for advance notice, and doing my damnedest to help you save!

Want to thank me for hooking you up? Just remember to clear your cookies and cache before you link to your favorite store, that way you can be sure I’ll make a tiny commission anytime you shop. It’s usually not a lot of money, but it’s enough to keep me doing something I love.

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Black Friday Sex Toy Sales 2015

If you don’t feel like reading everything, or if you’re easily overwhelmed by big posts, here’s a no bullshit list of the very best deals I could find for some of the very best products…

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Tantus Black Friday Sales

Tantus Black Friday Banner Tantus, the makers of some of the worlds best silicone toys, one of my absolute most favorite companies ever, has a bunch of major sales going… if you don’t yet own anything by them I HIGHLY suggest you take advantage while you can and treat yo self! You’ll thank me for it later, promise!

As for why you’d want everything Tantus makes; they’re 100% medical grade silicone and won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube, or bacteria, are phthalate and latex free (no toxins here!), are easy to care for and clean, come in a variety of amazing colors and styles, have the very best customer service, and most importantly – the toys they make will last you a lifetime with a minimum amount of care. Yes, you’ll spend a bit more than you would on some shitty jelly toy, but you’ll NEVER have to replace them (saving you money in the long run!). If you still aren’t sure about Tantus I suggest you watch my Tantus Haul video and read about why I’ve loved Tantus for the last 10 years.

Now that I’ve got that out of the way, let’s move on to the sales…

  • First and foremost, the grab bag section has products that are already heavily discounted, we’re talking excessive savings on a normal day… well, right now they’ve got a ‘Buy 2 Get 1 Free‘ deal going so you can save EVEN MORE MONEY! If you don’t care too much about the colors, but want a kick ass toys that are made to last a life time, start here!

Black Friday

  • Taking it one level further, today through Sunday Nov 29th at 11:59pm you can BUY 1 GET 1 FREE on EVERYTHING TANTUS MAKES, which is rare! The only items it doesn’t include are lube and non Tantus made stuff. But honestly, you can get that anywhere else so no loss. My suggestion, if there’s something you’ve ever wanted that’s really expensive – like a feeldoe for strapless strap-on sex or a giant toy like their Amsterdam, this is a perfect opportunity to grab it and get something else of equal or lesser value FOR FREE.

Cyber Monday

  • If you missed the BOGO sale Tantus, Inc.had, no need to worry, you can save 40% for a limited time on you ENTIRE purchase! Use code ‘MOANDAY’ from 11am – 3pm pst and save. Get the deals here –> http://bit.ly/1hR1Ekk
  • Don’t forget, you also get U.S. free shipping with orders over $100+, international is free with orders $200+.

Not sure what to buy?

I’ve included some of my fave items below.

There are obviously other things they make that I love, so if you have any questions feel free to ask.

When looking at prices remember it’s a “Buy 1 Get 1 Free” sale!

Tantus Uncut #2

Uncut #2 ($99)

Tantus Adam O2

Adam O2 ($108)

Duchess ($87)

Tantus Flurry O2

Flurry O2 ($72)

Tantus Charmer

Charmer ($52)

Slow Drive

Slow Drive ($44)

Curve

Curve ($68.22)

Plug Kit ($68)

T-Rex ($110)

Anaconda ($63)

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Fleshlight Black Friday Sales

If there was ever a product range that gave me “penis envy”, it would be made by Fleshlight. Don’t know what a Fleshlight is or why you NEED one? Check the video above, I made it and it explains everything (if you can’t view it here, you should be able to watch on YouTube here).

As for deals, they always have something going on… and Black Friday at Fleshlight is no exception! I’ve listed the sales by percentage below, that way you’ll be able to easily snag the best ones without having to hunt around the site.

HINT: you’re going to need renew powder to keep your Fleshlight like new, but rather than spending so much on such a small bottle, you’d be better off getting a larger bulk package of corn starch on Amazon. It’s basically the same thing at a fraction of the cost.

DOUBLE HINT: If you want to save a bit more on the Fleshlight Launchpad and don’t mind shopping elsewhere, Babeland has it for only $18.

*Note: I’m showing the U.S. prices, for Canadians it’ll be slightly higher. Also, each sale image takes you to the general sale page.

Fleshlight Deals







Fleshlight Girl Deals

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SheVibe Black Friday Sale BannerI’ll be honest, I’ve loved SheVibe since the very first day I saw their website 6+ years ago; the graphics are amazing, the prices are some of the lowest you’ll find, the site itself is ridiculously easy to navigate, they focus on carrying body safe options, and the customer service is fabulous. If there was any place I’d want all my readers to shop, it’s here!

Like last year SheVibe is doing a straight forward tiered sale deal…

  • Get 10% off when you spend $75+, plus free shipping (use code ‘STUFFING10’)
  • Get 15% off when you spend $100+, plus free shipping (use code ‘STUFFING15’)
  • Get 20% off when you spend $125+, plus free shipping, plus a free gift (use code ‘STUFFING20’)

Not sure what to snag?

I’ve got a few ideas that’ll save you even more loot…

Right now my favorite g-spot vibe is the L’amorouse Rosa; the vibrations are deep and rumbly, the body safe silicone is smooth, supple, and so lovely to touch, there’s 9 different vibration settings to go through, it’s rechargeable, waterproof, whisper quiet, and the curve is like nothing I’ve ever experienced. Although it’s not the cheapest toy around, coming in at $144 (with “STUFFING20” discount), SheVibe has it for the lowest price I’ve seen anywhere so far.

– The Perfect G-Spot Kit

Njoy Pure Wand

Liberator Decor Throe

Decor Throe

Sliquid H2O Water Based Lube

Sliquid H20


You could pair the definitive g-spot ‘dildo’, Njoy Pure Wand for $99 (Njoy has it listed for $110) + Liberator Decor Throe for $89 (reg $120), or any of the Liberator Throes for that matter, + 4oz bottle of Sliquid H2O for $8, then use code ‘STUFFING20’ at checkout and save an additional 20%, plus free shipping! Honestly, if I could pick any combo of toys to give someone, this one would be it. If you’re a squirter you’ll thank me for this later. Promise.(*with the discount code you’re looking at saving $80 vs buying items separately at regular price!)

– Amazing Toys & Prices You Wont Find Anywhere Else –

Doxy Wand

Die Cast Doxy

Gold G-Spoon #2

Nob Seduction

Marble Shilo

Mustang Royale


The new Doxy Wand is only $104, and the ultra powerful Die Cast Doxy Wand is $152. If you love glass toys and art, you’ll definitely want to take a look at Fucking Sculptures – right now I’m lusting after the absolutely stunning G-Spot Gold #2 Medium Dildo for $104. When it comes to wood toys, NobEssence is where it’s at – I can haz Seduction for only $117?. For those of you that love the feel of silicone and want something unique, I think the lovelies made by New York Toy Collective might be right up your alley (I’d be more than happy with the blue and pink marbled Shilo!). Last but not least, I can’t speak highly enough about Vixen Creations – everything they make is just perfection. (*use code ‘STUFFING20’ to save 20% on everything pictured above).


Babeland Black Friday Sales

I don’t rep Babeland as much as I used to, it’s nothing personal, I just realized that in most cases you can get similar prices shopping companies other I love more *cough*SheVibe *cough*. Since it’s Black Friday I figured I’d check them out – you know, just in case – and actually I wasn’t disappointed.

Save 25% On Fun Factory

stronic Eins

Stronic Eins

Fun Factory Amor

Amor

Fun Factory Magnum

Magnum

Fun Factory Boss lady

Boss Lady

Tiger Vibe

Tiger Vibe


Now through 12/2 you can save 25% on all the amazing things Fun Factory makes. Very rarely will you find their stuff on sale, so this is a big deal. Personally I’d suggest anything in the Stronic line – instead of vibrating they thrust. Yes, you read that right. There’s also the Amor and Magnum dildos, I love them both equally. Actually that’s a lie, my vagina belongs to the Amor. Vibe wise the Boss Lady is pretty badass. So is the Tiger Vibe.

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PinkCherry

PinkCherry is often the first place I check when it comes to sex toy sales. This Black Friday however, they aren’t as flush as years prior. That doesn’t mean you can’t snag something kickass… it’s just a matter of knowing where to look. My fave deals are listed below.

* Use code ‘CYBER’ when you checkout to save.

Bathmate Penis Pump

BathMate Pump

WeVibe Tango

Original Hitachi

24k Gold Form 2

Liberator Wedge


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